Sizodabwitsa, koma posankha mawu achikondi kwa wokondedwa muyenera kukhala osamalitsa kuti asamukwiyitse, musachititse kumverera kuti chifukwa cha mawu awa mukufuna kuti mumupindule chinachake mwachinsinsi. Kotero, ngakhale kunena "momwe iwe uliri wokondedwa kwa ine" kapena chinthu china cha mtundu uwu, iwe uyenera kuikapo pazikhazikitso kwambiri ndipo, chofunikira kwambiri, ikani "moyo wako wonse" mu mawu awa. Choncho, kunena mawu okondeka ndizoona.
Nchifukwa chiyani zimakhala zovuta kuti amayi ambiri azitha kunena mawu achikondi kwa amuna ?
Kukhumudwa kwakukulu ndi kukhumudwa kwa amuna okha, si amayi onse omwe angakhale opatsa ndi mawu oterowo. Ena ali otsimikiza kuti izi ndizowongolera amuna okha, amayi ena amangokhala okhumudwa ndi mawu oterowo. Ena amangochita manyazi ndi maganizo awo kapena safuna kuoneka ngati opusa pamaso pa wokondedwa wawo, koma pali amayi omwe amatsitsidwa ndi kunyada kwawo kachiwiri akunena chinthu chokoma kwa wokondedwa wawo. Koma, ndipo ngati simudziwa kunena mawu okondana ndi mayamiko, koma yesetsani kuchita izo, chibwenzi chanu sichikhoza kuziwona m'mawu anu omangirira ndi osamvetsetseka omwe atumizidwa kwa iye. Mwa njirayi, sizingatheke kuti chimodzi mwazosavuta kuyesa kuvomereza kwa wokondedwa kuti ndiza mtengo wotani kuti mutha kukhumudwitsa mkazi kuti asayambe kunena chinthu choterocho.
Inde, mawu okondeka, mau ndi mayamiko ndi ovuta kunena nthawi yoyamba kapena poyamba. Pambuyo pake, panthawi yochepa simudziwa momwe wokondedwayo amachitira ndi izi komanso chomwe chidzachitike ndi munthuyo komanso maganizo ake kwa inu. Zimakhala ndi amayi ambiri, koma simuyenera kuopa zopusa ndi zopusa kuti muyang'ane pamaso pa anthu omwe ali okondwa pamtima. Kumbukirani kuti popanda kunena zomwe mukufuna kunena tsopano - ndiye mwinamwake ndichedwa kwambiri. Kotero ngati mwamunayo sakuyamba kukupatsani mawu achinyengo, yambani kuchita nokha. Pamene akunena: kuyesa sikukuzunza. Musagwirizane kwambiri ndi mawu awa, ndipo muwagwiritse ntchito, mwachizolowezi wamba komanso tsiku ndi tsiku.
Kuonjezera apo, muzochitika zazikuluzikulu mungathe kuphunzitsa pa okondedwa anu, ndizowona kuti sizidzakuvutani kunena momveka bwino za malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu mwachikondi.
Mawu achifundo kwambiri kwa wokondedwa .
Ngati mumauza mwamuna wanu momwe mumamukondera, musaganize za momwe mungalankhulire ndi zomwe mukuganiza kuchokera kwa iye pakuchita. Mawu awa ayenera kukhala ophweka ndi ochokera mumtima. Inde, mukufunikira kuganizira kwambiri zomwe mumanena. Chinthu chachikulu ndikutsutsa mantha ndi kuyika kwa mtima waukulu mu mawu omwewo, monga, "okondedwa ...".
Simukuyenera kukhala ndi manyazi ndi malingaliro anu ndi maganizo anu kwa munthu, chifukwa chamanyazi, ndi zina zotero, zomwe zimapanga upandu, palibe kanthu kuno. Lankhulani kuchokera pansi pamtima ndi zomwe mumamva ndikumva ndi wokondedwa wanu. Pomwepo chirichonse chimene mumanena sichidzamveka ngati khomo lopanda pake. Choncho musachite mantha kumupangitsa munthuyo kumusangalatsa ndikumukumbutsanso momwe mumamukondera. Ponena mawu ngati amenewa, mumangomusonyeza munthuyo kuti ndi wokondedwa bwanji, komanso momwe mumamuyamikira.
Ife tikugwira ntchito pa zolakwitsa .
Kawirikawiri, zowona, yesetsani kulankhula mawu okondeka kuti nthawi zonse mawu awo azikhala achilengedwe ndipo amalepheretsa mphekesera za wotsutsa. Mawu ndi ziganizo zoterezi zingaganizidwe mobwerezabwereza ndi kuwauza amayi awo, abambo, abale, alongo, mabwenzi, ndiyeno kwa wokondedwa wawo. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokutanthauza kwawo kosadzikonda. Zonsezi zidzakuthandizani kuti muzindikire bwino luso ili ndikuwonetsetsa osankhidwa anu kuti muyeneranso kukhala naye pamodzi.
Musasokoneze mawu awa ndi kunyengerera. Dziwani kuti izi ndi mfundo ziwiri zosiyana kwambiri. Malo ogulitsira katundu nthawizonse amatha kuthetseratu munthu aliyense.
Lankhulani mawu enieni okha, chifukwa choonadi ndi chophweka kwambiri kusiyanitsa ndi choonadi.
Kumbukirani kuti mwachidule mawu anu achikondi ndi achikondi, amawoneka bwino. Kuonjezera apo, mungathe kusokonezeka m'mawu anu ovuta komanso ochepa komanso osasangalatsa wokondedwa wanu, koma kuchokera kwa inu nokha. Choyeneranso kukumbukira ndi chakuti mawu achikondi samakhala ode lonse kapena ndakatulo, nthawi zina pamakhala mawu amodzi okwanira kuti afotokoze zakuya kwawo. Choonadi chimauzidwa mwa anthu kuti brevity ndi mlongo wa talente. Ndipo mawu awa akugwira ntchito pazochitika zonse za moyo.
Mawu ofatsa nthawi zonse amakhala okondweretsa, koma nkofunikira kukumbukira lamulo limodzi lagolide, lomwe likuti sikoyenera kulisunga. Ora lililonse kuti muyankhule ndi mwamuna za momwe mumamukondera, ndi kumutcha "zaei" kapena "amphaka" mphindi iliyonse, zingathe kumuvutitsa mwamunayo ndikumuchotsa yekha.
Kuyambira pa chirichonse pamwambapa, ine ndikufuna kunena kachiwiri, kunena mawu ofatsa ndi okondedwa ndi luso lomwe mkazi aliyense wachikondi ayenera kukhala nalo bwino. Kumbukirani kuti mwamuna wanu wokondedwa nthawi zonse amafunikira kutentha, chidwi ndi chikondi. Ndipo ngati simumamusambitsa ndi chikondi, simungathe kumaliza.
Dziwani kuti si chirichonse chomwe chingakhoze kutsimikiziridwa mwa zochita ndipo ngati chinachake chingatsimikizidwe mwa mawu, onetsetsani kuti muchite izo. Pambuyo pake, mawu akhoza kukhumudwitsa ndi kukweza pa "mapiko" achikondi, osati ofooka okha, komanso amuna athu okondedwa.
Nenani mau okondana wina ndi mzake ndipo musawagwiritse ntchito! Mbuye wabwino kwa inu!