Izi zikhoza kupulumutsa nthawi yochuluka, chifukwa ndiye simukuyenera kupitanso mobwerezabwereza ndi iwo amene pamapeto pake sadzakhala mtundu wanu. Chifukwa cha luso limeneli, mkazi sakanatha kufotokozera mwachidule za zofunikira, komanso zolephera, komanso kupeza pamsonkhano mfundo zochititsa chidwi komanso zochititsa chidwi kwambiri - yemwe ali naye pabedi.
Mwamwayi, si onse omwe amaloledwa kukhala amatsenga, koma musataye mtima, chifukwa pali njira yomwe ingathandize kuthana ndi mavuto onse popanda kulowetsa kwa matsenga. Izi ndiziwerengero za zomwe amayi akuwona, zomwe zingathandize kutsegula munthuyo. Pambuyo pake, mungathe kuneneratu khalidwe lake mutatha kuona mwachidule, koma ndizosatheka kupeza mtundu wa wokonda. Kodi izi zilidi choncho? Ndipotu, akazi ambiri amakono samayang'ana amuna okhulupirika, koma okonda okonda. Kulongosola uku sikungasangalatse palokha, koma kulibe phokoso lochokera ku choonadi. Lero chifukwa cha kugonana kwabwino, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi ntchito komanso wokonda kwambiri, koma ngati wokonda kwambiri amakhala mwamuna wokhulupirika, amayamba kuganiza za izo kwa zaka makumi atatu. Kodi amayi amasiku ano amatsogoleredwa bwanji posankha wokondedwa kapena momwe angapezere mwamuna pa mphindi zoyambirira za chibwenzi?
Zakale za mbiriyakale
Mwa anthu pali njira zoposa 1000 zodziwira kukula kwa ulemu waumunthu: ndi makhalidwe, makhalidwe akunja, ndi zina. Anthu akhala akudodometsa chifukwa cha funso ili lovuta kwa zaka zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, Agiriki akale ankakhulupirira kuti kutalika kwa mphuno kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi kutalika kwa ulemu, ndipo Aroma akale ankakonda chinyama chachikulu ndipo amakhulupirira kuti kukula kwakukulu kwa chiwalo chogonana pakati pa amuna kuli ndi chibwano chachikulu. Iwo, mu Nyengo Yachikunja, anasintha malingaliro awo ndipo ankaganiza kuti zala zochepa zinali chizindikiro cha ukulu. Ngakhale njira zosiyana ndi malingaliro, akazi amasiku ano, omwe ali ofunitsitsa kwambiri, samayima pazodziwitsidwa, choncho pangani njira zatsopano zowerengera. Njira zodziwika kwambiri za njira zotsirizazi zikhoza kutchedwa chiŵerengero cha chiwalo chachimuna ndi makulidwe a dzanja, kapena mofananamo, mtunda pakati pa thupi ndi chala chaching'ono, komanso chiŵerengero cha mtundu wa makina omwe woimira wodzisankhira yekha. Ndipo ngati munthu ali ndi chiwalo chochepa cha kugonana, amayesa kubwezera kukula kwa makina aakulu. Mosasamala kanthu za zaka zomwe zakhala zikulimbikitsana ndi amayi, makamaka - tanthauzo la kufunika kwa ulemu ndi njira zotchulidwa pamwambazi zikhoza kutchedwa utopia.
Pambuyo pokambirana za njira za amayi, ndibwino kuti tipeze kufufuza kwa akatswiri, chifukwa akhala akuchita ndi vutoli kwa zaka zambiri. Chiŵerengero pakati pa kutalika kwa manja, kukula kwa phazi ndi kukula kwa chiwalo chogonana chinayesedwa kuti zikhazikitse ogonana pogonana padziko lonse. Koma popanda phindu. Koma iwo adapeza kuti kuti chitukuko cha feteleza chikhale chonchi chimachititsa kuti ziwalo zomwezo zikhale zofanana. Ndipo ngati inu mukukhulupirira chiphunzitso, ndiye matupi awa ayenera kukhala ofanana. Koma kafukufuku wamtsogolo samatsimikizira izi, chifukwa munthu aliyense ali ndi zinthu zambiri zosasinthika, mwachitsanzo, kuchuluka kwake kwa mafuta, mlingo wa mahomoni ogonana ndi kutalika kwa ligament, yomwe chiwalochi chimagwiritsidwa ntchito pazinthu zamkati.
Kotero, ngati mutakumana ndi munthu wokhala ndi mphuno yaikulu ndi zala zazing'ono, musafulumire kuganiza - akhoza kukukhumudwitsani kwambiri. Kuwonjezera apo, usayiwale za mawu, omwe asanduka mapiko - chinthu chachikulu si kukula, koma kukhoza kugwiritsa ntchito. Pambuyo pake, adauzidwa ndi mkazi wanzeru, koma ngati wosankhidwayo angagwiritse ntchito zomwe mayi ake wapereka kuchilengedwe ndi nkhani ina. Ndipo mwa njira, iye ali ndi yankho lomwe limakulolani kuti mumudziwe mwamunayo ndi zonse zomwe angakwanitse asanagonane. Dziwani kuti msinkhu wa wokondedwa ukhoza kukhala mwa kuyang'anitsitsa chikhalidwe, chomwe chimawonetsedwa mu maonekedwe, moyo ndi zizoloŵezi.
Chithunzi cha wokonda bwino .
Pofuna kudziŵa mu maminiti angapo momwe mwamuna amachitira pabedi, asayansi ogonana ndi abambo amalangiza kulingalira kwa mgwirizano wa deta ngatiyi: ayenera kukhala wachibwibwi chakukhala kutali, pa chifuwa cha chimphona chogonana chiyenera kuwonjezeka zomera, komanso kuti amuna amtundu wotere amadziwika pamutu ndi miyendo yaifupi.
Genetics, chifukwa cha ntchito yawo nthawi zonse m'munda uno, adapeza mgwirizano wa kukula ndi ulemu. Amatsutsa kuti ngati mwamuna ali ndifupikitsa, pamene ali ndi chifuwa chachikulu ndi mapewa, izi zimasonyeza kuti angathe kugonana. Zimatsimikiziridwa kuti amuna oterewa amakula kwambiri kuposa anzawo, ndicho chifukwa amasiyana kusiyana ndi kukhala ndi "moyo".
Mphamvu ya khalidwe
Ndiponso, mphamvu ya kugonana ya munthu ikhoza kudziŵika mwa kuyang'anitsitsa zizoloŵezi zake ndi zizoloŵezi zake. Asayansi amagawanitsa amuna mu mitundu itatu ikuluikulu: ofooka, okonzeka komanso ogwirizana.
Pakuti munthu wofooka amadziwika ndi chiopsezo, chikhalidwe chovuta, kusatetezeka, ndi zoopsa kwambiri, zaulesi. Ngati mwakumana ndi "bwenzi" ngati limeneli, ndiye kumbukirani kuti sangakupatseni maganizo otentha. Khalani wokonzeka kuchita mantha komanso mwachifundo.
Munthu wogwirizana samadziwikiranso ndi mphamvu za kugonana. Iye sangathe kumupatsa mkazi mphepo yamkuntho. Kwa iye, kugonana ndi chinthu chodabwitsa. Amuna amenewa nthawi zambiri amatha msinkhu wokhazikika, amafuna kukhala odzaza, osalingalira mosiyana komanso osangalatsa.
Munthu wokwiya ndi moto, ali wokonzeka kupita ku zinthu zosayembekezereka. Izi ndizofunikira kwa amayi ambiri. Iye, monga lamulo, amatsogolera moyo wokhutira, ali wolimbika kwambiri, ali ndi chilakolako chabwino ndi mtsogoleri mwachilengedwe. Kuphatikiza pa ubwino uwu, amuna odzitukumula ali ndi khalidwe labwino kwambiri. Kotero khalani okonzeka kulekerera makhalidwe ndi zizolowezi chifukwa cha chisangalalo, kapena kusankha kusankha nthawi yomweyo, zomwe ziri zofunika kwambiri kwa inu.
Tsopano mumadziwa ndi mitundu yonse ya amuna ndipo mukhoza kuphunzira munthu maminiti ochepa, musaiwale kuti moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana sikusangalatsa moyo wa banja. Musapereke zokondweretsa panthawi yeniyeni, mwinamwake, mutatopa kwambiri monga ogonana - mumathawa.