Mwamunayo, wokhudzidwa ndi kukongola kwa akazi, ali ngati chilombo chovulazidwa. Iye sapeza malo ndipo sangathetsere mpaka atagonjetsa mtima wa kukongola kosankhidwa. Inde, ndiphweka kwa amuna, pankhaniyi. Ndipotu, aliyense wa ife amamveketsa ngati munthu wokhuza kugonana amphamvu amatipatsa ife chidwi komanso amayesa kumvetsa chifundo chake mwa njira iliyonse. Ndipo ngakhale ziribe kanthu konse ngati tingathe kumuyankha pomvera chisoni kapena ayi. Njira yaikulu yomwe ndiwe mfumukazi, ndipo nthawi zonse akuwombera pozungulira "mtumiki" akuyesera kutenga chofunika kwambiri pamtima. Ndikoyenera kukumbukira kuti munthu nthawi zonse amakhala wopitiliza ndipo kumbuyo kwake kumakhala kovuta kwa iye. Kulakalaka mkazi, nthawi zonse amadzigwira yekha kuganiza kuti ndiwe chokoma chokoma, chimene chiyenera kukhala cha iye pano ndi tsopano, kuyambira mutu kupita ku zidendene. Kutayika, pa nkhani za chikondi, amuna amadzikhululukira okha molimba. Kotero, mu arsenal yake, njira zonse ndi zabwino. Ndipo kotero, kodi munthu amachita chiyani kuti akope chidwi cha mkazi wokongola? Ziribe kanthu momwe zingamverere banal, koma pafupifupi chirichonse. Kuti akwaniritse zake, amagwiritsira ntchito, ngakhale kuoneka, mmaganizo athu, zochita zaubwana. Kotero, kuti muzindikire kuti cholinga chake ndi inu, sizingakhale zovuta konse.
Poyamba, munthu amadziveka yekha chigoba cha maso odzikuza komanso opanda mantha - wogonjetsa amayi onse ndipo potero amayamba kuchita zonsezi m'manja mwake. Ichi ndicho chitetezo chake pa zovuta zake zonse komanso zosadziwika. Ndipo tsopano, iye ali mu njira yachinyengo. Mmodzi mwa masewero oyenera kwambiri a munthu pa nkhaniyi ndiwokhoza kukuthandizani ndi zokambirana zake. Apa iye akuyesera kudziwonetsera yekha mu ulemerero wake wonse, kudziyika yekha ngati munthu wokondweretsa, wokondweretsa ndi woyambirira. Mwa njirayi, amuna amakonda kwambiri kunena za iwo okha, chifukwa cholinga chawo chachikulu ndicho kusonyeza mtsikanayo kupambana kwake komanso kukhala ndi chikhalidwe chachikulu. Pa zokambiranazi, nthawi zonse amayesa, kuseka kuti ayang'ane mwamsanga. Nthawi zina zimakhala kuti mwamuna amasintha mawu ake, kuti, ndinganene kuti, ndinamvetserani makutu anu ndipo mumakhala nthawi yaitali mumaganizo anu. "Akazi amakonda ndi makutu awo," - ndipo aliyense yemwe angaphunzireko akukumbukira zimenezo. Mwa njira, kumwetulira kwake kudzawonekera, kokha kwa inu, kukondedwa madzulo onse, ndipo kuyamikirika pa gawo lake kudzakhala, mwambo weniweni. Adzangokutsutsani m'mawu okoma mtima, osati momveka bwino, kenanso kubwereza momwe muliri okongola komanso okongola. Zotamanda zake zimasonyeza chifundo komanso kukonda ena. Mundikhulupirire ine, kukopa kwa mwamuna, palibe choipa kuposa cha mkazi.
Ngati nthumwi ya kugonana yamphamvu ikugonjetsedwa ndi maonekedwe anu, ndiye kuti maso ake am'patsa iye kuti asatero. Amayang'ana pa inu nthawi zonse, nthawi zina amadzilola kuti ayese kapena kuyesera kuti ayang'ane. Kotero, maso ake, ichi ndi chida chachikulu ndi champhamvu. Kulankhulana ndi kusinthanitsa malingaliro ndi kuwonjezeranso kulankhulana kosalankhula, kapena m'malo mwake manja ake. Pambuyo panu, nthawi zonse amayesera kutenga zoterezi, zomwe zidzatuluka ndikuwonetsa chidziwitso chake chonse komanso kudzidalira. Makamaka ngati chibwenzi chanu ali ndi deta yabwino kwambiri, ndiye, ndikuganiza, sadzaphonya mwayi wake wowawonetsa pamaso panu. Kuti muyanjane kwambiri, mwamuna, ngati kuti mwadzidzidzi, ayesa kugunda dzanja lanu kapena kutenga, yesani kuchotsa tsitsi lopweteka lomwe likugwa pamaso panu. Ngati zinthu zikugwirizana ndi, mwachitsanzo, kampu kapena malo odyera okhala ndi nyimbo, ndiye kuyitanira kuvina sikutenga nthawi yaitali kuyembekezera. Kuyanjana kwa mtundu umenewu ndi chizindikiro choyamba kuti ali wotsimikiza kuchita kanthu kofunika. N'zoona kuti pali zosiyana ndi malamulo, osakondana kwambiri amatha kukwera ndi manja ake kapena kumpsompsona. Koma, tiyeni tiyembekezere kuti, Mulungu sadzatitumizira ife. Ndipo ife tidzakhala tikufunidwa kokha ndi abambo anzeru ndi olimba mtima. Kwenikweni khalidwe lomaliza, koma chidziwitso chachilendo chododometsa amuna chidalipobe. Ndipo osati m'masiku omwe anthu adatha kuchita zabwino kwambiri. Sakanizani dzanja lanu, perekani zanu, zitseko zatseguka, tulukani patsogolo, kapena kungokuthandizani kuti mukhale pa mpando, izi ndizo zizindikiro zazikulu zomwe satesi yanu yamakono ikukonzekera chirichonse. Apa izo zikhoza kukhala zochepa.
Pazochitika zapadera za kunyengerera amuna, mukhoza kuzindikira ndi njira zamtengo wapatali komanso zapadera. Mwachitsanzo, ambiri omwe amaimira abambo omwe ali ofooka ndi otsimikiza kuti ndizo chuma chake chomwe chikhoza kugonjetsa mkazi. Choncho, popanda kukhumudwa, iye amangoyesayesa kukuwonetsani izi, mothandizidwa ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana, maluwa osadulidwa omwe anagulidwa, kapena ngakhale mwana wamasiye kwambiri komanso wopusa, nthawi zonse amasunthani ndalama zanu m'thumba lanu mumthumba, kuti "aziwunika" patsogolo panu.
Kuphatikiza pa njira zina zomwe munthu amachita kuti akope chidwi cha mkazi wokongola, adorer wanu akhoza kusankha imodzi mwa mafanizo ojambula yekha, kuti adziwe cholinga chake. Zingakhale maso oipa, ndipo nthawi yomweyo, wonyenga, munthu wofooka komanso wosakhwima kapena wachikondi wamuyaya yemwe angakulimbikitseni kukuuzani mavesi kapena kuumirira kuyenda pansi pa mwezi. Zina mwa zithunzizi, malingaliro ake ndipo zimupereka iye chiyambi ndi chithunzithunzi, chimene simungathe kuima ndi ora limodzi lomwe mumapereka, kudumpha mmanja mwake.
Ndipo pamapeto pake, ndi bwino kudziŵa kuti mwamuna sali woipitsitsa kuposa mkazi panthawi yomwe akwaniritse zolinga zake, makamaka ngati zimakhudza kugwirizana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kotero, ngati iye akusankha iwe kuchokera ku gululo ndipo iwe waligonjetsa ilo ndi kukongola kwako, zochita zake ndi njira zake sizidzatenga nthawi yaitali. Inu mukumvetsa izi nthawi yomweyo, ziri kwa inu nokha.