Ndipo angasonyeze bwanji izi, ngati osati mothandizidwa ndi chiyamiko. Sizowoneka kuti palibe chimene chimanena kuti mkazi amakonda makutu.
Mayi aliyense amafunitsitsa kumumvera chisoni munthu amene amamutamanda chifukwa cha chinachake, mothandizidwa ndi chiyamikiro amatha kupeza malo ake. Koma sikuti anthu onse amadziwa kuyamikila bwino mkazi.
Momwe mungaganizire zomwe mkazi akufuna kuzimva? Ndipo iwe umadziyika wekha mmalo mwake-kodi iwe ukufuna kuti umve chiyani? Ngakhale, ndithudi, kupambana-kupambana chisankho ndikutamanda ponena za maonekedwe, chifukwa mkazi aliyense amafuna kuoneka bwino, choncho muwuzeni za izo!
Musamayamikire pamene mukufuna chinachake. Mayi nthawi yomweyo amazindikira chidwi chanu. Ndizoopsa kumva: "Iwe ukuwoneka wodabwitsa lero, iwe sukanati undiuze ine?" Chifukwa chake, tchulani zoyamikira chifukwa cha mkazi yekha komanso nthawi zonse.
Mwatsoka, m'mayiko otentha okha omwe amatha kuyamikila munthu amadziwika ndi mkaka wa amayi. Kuchita chinachake kwa nthawi yoyamba nthawizonse kumakhala koopsya, timagwirizana kwambiri kuchitika wamba ndikuyang'ana mozama. Kuopa kuyamika kumachokera ku kusatsimikizika. Anthu ambiri amafuna kumva osati kuyankha "zikomo", koma mndandanda wa zoyenera zawo. Koma simukuyenera kuganizira kwambiri za mwambo umenewu. Ngati mulibe chidziwitso chokwanira, onetsani kuthokoza koyamba ngati moni wosavuta kapena kuyamba kuyamikira tet-a-tet, opanda mboni zopanda pake. Mkaziyo sadzakhala wovuta kwambiri ndipo adzakukhululukirani pang'ono. Eya, ngati mumadzidalira nokha ndi mbuye wodzitamandira, ndiye kuti pamaso pa anthu ena kuyamikira kwanu kumapangitsa chidwi.
Pezani nthawi yothokoza kungakhale: chifukwa mwa munthu aliyense pali chinthu chabwino. Sangalala, maso, manja, thumba, tsitsi, inde, chirichonse. Awuzeni mkazi za izi! Koma musaganizire pa phunzirolo; simukusowa kunena kuti: "Ndi thumba labwino bwanji lomwe muli nalo." Zidzakhala bwino ngati mukugogomezera kuti: "Kodi mumapanga bwanji thumba ili?" Ndipotu, zikwama zambiri, ndipo ali ndi ngongole-imodzi!
Sizovuta kufotokozera zokometserazo, ndiye zimamveka moona mtima, payekha. Pambuyo pa mawu onsewa, onjezerani "chifukwa". "Masiku ano mumawoneka osangalatsa, chifukwa ..." Ndipo mkaziyo amadziwa mwamsanga kuti tsitsi lake lalitali (chipewa, thumba, etc.) sichinazindikiridwe. Chiyamiko chilichonse chingalimbikidwe mwa kuwonjezera chiganizo "chomwe." "Ndi thumba labwino bwanji lomwe muli nalo" Zotsatira zomwezo zingapezeke mwa kuwonjezera mawu akuti "kwambiri" ndi "ambiri".
Musanayamikire, onetsetsani kuti mumamvetsera. Pankhaniyi, onetsetsani kuti mukuyang'ana m'maso. Mayi ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti kuyamikiridwa kwake ndi kwa iye yekha. Phindu lalikulu likhoza kusewera ndi mayina. Yankho la dzinali limapezeka pamtundu woyenera komanso mwayi wowonjezeka.
Samalani kuyankhula ndi nkhope. Kusekerera n'kofunika, koma moyenera. Kutsegula kwambiri kudzawoneka ngati kusayankhula. Osamangapo mawu amtali, yesetsani kusunga mawu angapo. Ngati mukufuna kuyamika, ndiye kuti simungamvetsetse, pambali pake sikuthokoza. Zomwe zimayenera kuchitika ziyenera kukhalapo nthawizonse. Musakhale oprusive. Palibe choipa kwambiri pamene mwamuna amawombera mkaziyo mobwerezabwereza kapena pali yankho lake. Simukusowa kukakamiza mkazi kumbali ndi khoma ndipo mndandanda mndandanda mndandanda wake wabwino: izi zidzangowonjezera zoipa.
Samalani kuti chiyamiko sichikhala chosangalatsa , mwinamwake icho chidzakhala kale chinthu. Ndipo amayi mwamsanga amalandira mzerewu, chifukwa chakuti kulingalira kwawo kwayomwe kuli bwino kwambiri. Ndiyeno mukhoza kuonedwa ngati munthu wolimba, ndi sycophant ndikukhulupirira kuti simudzakhalanso. Ngati mkazi ali ndi vuto linalake, simukusowa kunena kanthu za vutoli, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti musadziwe.
Samalani ndi mawu-zizindikiro, monga "ee", "chabwino". Zikuwoneka ngati simukudziwa choti munganene, kapena mukuwopa kuti izo siziwonjezera ku chifundo chanu.
Nthawi zonse mverani mawu, muyankhule mokoma. Koma palibe chifukwa chokhalira ndi chiyanjano, ndipo kuposeratu kosafunika kulimbikitsa, izi zimaloledwa pakati pa abwenzi, zomwe zimachokera ku malo osiyana.
Musakhale ochepa , zomwe mtsikanayo wamvapo nthawi zambiri, sangathe kumukonda. Ganizirani za kuyamikiridwa koyambirira. Mwinamwake inu munazindikira chinachake chomwe ngakhale iye sakudziwa panobe, zina mwa zoyenera zake. Pamapeto pake, tamandani mphamvu yake yokubvala, chifukwa chovala chake, adadza ndi yekha. Kupita kwinakwake, mtsikana aliyense amavala kupanga kuti atsimikizire zina mwa zest. Ndipo iwe umangoyenera kuti uzindikire izi, kungomvetsera pang'ono. Mwachitsanzo, kupambana-kupambana ndikutanthauza kuti mtundu wa thumba ili ndi nsapato kapena zolemba pamoto ndi varnish pa misomali. Ndiyeno msungwanayo samangomvetsera zokometsera zanu, koma, mosiyana, adzanena kuti muli ndi kukoma.
Ndizosatheka kupereka chiyamiko mwa mawonekedwe, kunena kuti mtsikanayo ali ndi mphamvu zamatsenga ndikukoka amuna kwa iye. Ndikofunika kuti musapitirire kutero, chifukwa ngati atenga zonyansa, zonse zoyamikiridwa za mtsikanayo zikhoza kuchepa. Koma ngati mwamuna awona chibwenzi chake mulungu wamkazi, ndiye kuti satemberera moyo ndipo adzakhutira.
Koma, tcheru, ngati pazifukwa zina muli ndi chiyanjano choipa ndi mkazi, ndiye kuti zoyamikira zili zoyenera pazochitika zina, mawonetsero, ndi zina zotero. Zikatero, khalani olemekezeka ndipo muwone momwe zidzakwaniritsire zokha.
Choncho, mwamuna aliyense ayenera kudziwa momwe angayamikirire amayi. Koma musaiwale kuti amayi onse ndi osiyana ndi osiyana, ndiye chifukwa chake matamando ayenera kukhala oyambirira kwa mkazi aliyense ndi malo. Chitani chiyamiko kuchokera pamtima, musachiyike ngati cholinga, musati muwerenge phindu. Sitikudziwa momwe tingakhalire moyo wathu mwakuya, mwinamwake mkazi yemwe mumamuyamikira m'mawa, chinachake chingakuthandizeni m'tsogolomu. Khulupirirani kuti posachedwa kapena mtsogolo, koma kubwerera kwabwino.