Palinso pakati pa akazi ndi amuna pakati pa anthu omwe alibe malingaliro ndi malingaliro kwa dziko. Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi ali ndi zofunikanso, ndiye kuti izi zingakhale chiyambi cha ubwenzi. Lingaliro lakuti ubwenzi wopanda munthu wosadziwika n'kosatheka, ukhoza kulumikizana ndi choonadi nthawi zakale, pamene udindo wa akazi umakhala wogwirizana mosagwirizana ndi lingaliro la "chifukwa chapamwamba". Ndipo tsopano m'mayiko ambiri akummawa, sipangakhale kukamba za ubale uliwonse ndi munthu, makamaka mlendo. M'mayiko ena, mwachitsanzo ku Finland, mkazi akhoza kupita ku cafe kapena barolo yekha.
Madzulo, iwo ali ndi ufulu wosankha wokondedwa kuti azivina mofanana ndi amuna. Nthawi zina malesitanti amakonza madzulo, pomwe ufulu woitanira kuvina ndi wa akazi okha. M'mayiko otukuka, amayi ambiri amasiku ano amayamba kale ndi amuna omwe amagwira nawo ntchito pazochitika zapagulu, bizinesi, ali ndi zigawo zambiri zapakati pa ntchito komanso nthawi yawo yopuma. Chifukwa chake, akazi amakono ali ndi malingaliro osiyana kwambiri ndi dziko kuposa awo omwe analipo kale. Azimayi ambiri ndi omasuka kuti athetse maubwenzi kunja kwaukwati, iwo ali okhutira ndi operekedwa, ndipo motero, ndi amuna mofanana.
Ubwenzi wopanda maudindo ukhoza kukhala ndi munthu wosadziwika, choncho ndi achikulire omwe mumadziwana nawo kale, ngakhale kuti amayi amakhala okhumudwa komanso amachitira zinthu mosiyana mosiyana ndi amuna, izi siziwalepheretsa kulankhula ndi kupanga mabwenzi kwa zaka zambiri. Zofuna za amai zimakhudzana ndi zonse zomwe zili pafupi, izi ndizithunzithunzi, masewera, ndi ndale. Si amayi onse omwe ali amayi omwe ali ndi polojekiti ya khitchini yomwe ingaganizire za ukhondo ndi kuphika chakudya. Ngakhale akunena kuti amai sakudziwa kukhala mabwenzi, si choncho, makamaka ngati palibe chogawanitsa. Choncho, maubwenzi m'banja akhoza kuwonongeka chifukwa cha zolakwika, kusowa ndalama, chidwi ndi zina. Ndipo ubale, kuphatikizapo ubwenzi ndi munthu wosadziwika, ndi weniweni, chifukwa palibe mavuto a pakhomo pakati pawo. Nthano ina yomwe amai amangoziwona okha ngati udindo wa mbuye, choncho mzawo onse akuyesera kuthetsa ukwati. Kwenikweni, mwinamwake choncho, koma pali gulu la amai omwe maubwenzi ndi mwamuna ndiwo malo omwe amamulola kuti azichita monga momwe amaonera.
Kusamvana kwa amayi kumawonetsedwa mu ubale pakati pa amai ndi abambo nthawi ndi nthawi. Pali amayi amene amapita ku masewera a masewera kuti asankhe "okhaokha" pa nthawi inayake, koma kambiranani, kambiranani masewero omwe amakonda, auzani zomwe akukumva ndi omwe akukumvetsetsani. Munthu wosadziwika ndi wabwino kwambiri moti kulankhulana naye sikum'pangitsa kuti apitirizebe kugwirizana.
Ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi umalepheretsedwa ndi zochitika zakale, monga "abambo azimayi" onse ndipo sangathe kuzindikira mkazi kupatula ngati chinthu chogonana.
Mkaziyo ndi katswiri wamaganizo wochenjera ndipo amatha kusokoneza maonekedwe osiyanasiyana, ngakhale, mwachitsanzo, ngati mwamuna ati kwa bwenzi lachikazi - "Amayi onse ndi opusa", bwenzi labwino laling'ono, ngakhale kuti adzazindikira vumbulutso loterelo kusiyana ndi mnzako angadziwe - mwamuna, akutsatiranso mu izi. Ubwenzi wopanda kudzipereka pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi sizingakhale popanda kulemekezana mbali imodzi ndi ina. Ubale pakati pa zolengedwa zogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri sizowonongeka chabe, koma munthu ndi wosiyana ndi zinyama, kuti ndi cholengedwa cholingalira, ndipo amaganiza za munthu yemwe si mwamuna kapena mkazi yekha osati chinthu chokwatira komanso kupitiliza banja, choncho ubwenzi wopanda ntchito pakati pa munthu wosadziwika mkazi akhoza kuchitika.