Tiyeni tiyesetse kuganizira zochitika zina za chikhalidwe cha akazi, zomwe zingathandize mkazi kupeza munthu wosirira. Ndipotu, kupambana munthu amene mumamukonda sikovuta, chinthu chachikulu ndicho kudziwa zingwe zomwe mukuyenera kukoka, kuti nthumwi ya hafu yaumunthu ikhale ndi chikhumbo chanu. Choyamba, ziyenera kumvetsetsedwa bwino: mwamuna amakhala wovuta kwambiri kwa zomwe zimachitika kwa mkazi, kotero kuti chikhale chokhumba mwamuna, muyenera kuchita mosamala kwambiri. Ngati mtsikana ayamba kugawana nawo zofuna zake kapena kuyesetsa kukwaniritsa zofuna zake mofulumira, munthu amayamba kudziyesa yekha mphatso ya Chowonongeko, yomwe mkazi amafunika kuyambitsa nkhondo yovuta, popanda mwayi wapadera, mwayi wodabwitsa wopambana.
Mwinamwake ndi bwino kusintha vutoli? Mwachitsanzo, mkazi amakhala mphoto yamtengo wapatali kwa mwamuna. Kuti mumulangize ufulu wakugonjetsa ndi kukwaniritsa, ndiye zingakhale zophweka, ngati n'kotheka, kukwiyitsa chilakolako cha munthu ?! Tiyeni tiyambe ndi mawonekedwe. Choyenera kuvala - sayansi yonse. Mayi ayenera kuyang'ana bwino, ngakhale atapita kukagula mkate. Kukongola kwa kunja kumapangitsa kukhala ndi chidaliro. Zovala ziyenera kugogomezera mwachidule chiwerengerocho ndipo payenera kukhala chinthu china chokhumudwitsa mmenemo.
Ambiri mwa amuna amayamba chidwi ndi mawere ndi miyendo yabwino. Mawere a mawonekedwe owongoledwa amamangidwa bwino kwambiri ndi miyendo yochepa, ndipo miyendo yopyapyala bwino amayang'ana ndi siketi yachifupi. Kusankhidwa bwino bwino kumapangitsa chidwi chonse kuti chikhumbo cha munthu chimayambitsa. Ngati mkazi sangathe kumuopseza munthu (pepala la nkhondo la Iroquois kapena maonekedwe a lilac otumbululuka), adakopeka ... pafupifupi 30 peresenti. Tsopano mukuyenera kulingalira za 70 otsala. Ubwenzi uliwonse pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, floppy bwino kapena mwatsatanetsatane, yomwe imatsogolera kapena ayi, imatha kukhala m'banja losangalala, nthawi zonse kuyamba ndi kukonda.
Iyi ndi nthawi yomwe palibe zovuta kulingalira ubale uliwonse pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Kawirikawiri izi zimachitika mosadziwa ndi zotsatira zosadziŵika bwino, zenizeni, mkhalidwe uno umatsogolera, onse atsikana ndi anyamata, chifukwa mtundu wosatsimikizika ndi wosangalatsa kwambiri. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi chizindikiro cha manja, kusuntha, mawonekedwe a nkhope - zonse zomwe timatcha thupi. Ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito chilankhulochi molondola, mukhoza kupeza zotsatira, zomwe zimakhala zabwino kuchokera ku zokambirana zosavuta. Ochita kafukufuku akukonzekera kuti aganizire kukonda ena ngati njira yeniyeni yolankhulirana, yomwe imayamba nthawi yomweyo atakopa chidwi.
Taganizirani mfundo zingapo zogonana .
1. Ndasankha. Mayi ayenera kumvetsetsa zomwe zimamukoka poyamba: maonekedwe kapena chithumwa. Potero, iye adziwonetsera yekha, pa zomwe amuna ayenera kuziganizira. Ichi ndi mfundo yofunikira kwambiri yomwe mkazi aliyense ayenera kumvetsetsa yekha. Kutenga ndi mphatso yamakono ndi mphatso yabwino ya mkazi. Osatiponyera chisokonezo ndi kuyambitsa chikhumbo cha aliyense mzere.
2. Musamavulaze . Vulgar ndi mawonekedwe osasokonezeka, kuledzera ndi kunyenga kwa munthu kumangowopa. Ndipo kukhalapo kwa chibwenzi chokongola - osasokoneza chidwi chake. Sizongopanda kanthu zomwe akunena kuti msungwana aliyense wokongola ayenera kukhala ndi bwenzi limodzi loyipa, yemwe amapita ku misonkhano yofunika.
Kapena kumupangitsa kuti asinthe maganizo ake kuti adziwane ndi mkazi mmodzi chifukwa choopa kukanidwa pamaso pa mkazi wina.
3. Zizindikiro za chidwi ndi kuyankhulana. Kugonana kungatheke bwino ndi mtima wokhala ndi chiyembekezo. Mzimayi ayenera kumwetulira mwachibadwa komanso mwachibadwa, kusonyeza kusangalala. Choncho, amamuwonetsa munthuyo kuti mum'dziwitse ndikumulola kuti akhale womasuka. Mukhoza kupempha ntchito yachinyengo - kukhala ndi makhalidwe kuti khalidweli likhale lofanana ndi kukondana komanso kukondana. Kugonana kwa amayi kumaliza ntchitoyi. Musachite mantha ndi oyamba kuyamba kukambirana.
Ziwerengero zimati 95 peresenti ya amuna ngati iyo pamene kukambirana koyamba kumayamba ndi mkazi. Ntchito yofunika kwambiri imasewera ndi kukhudzana ndi maso, ngati mukufuna kutulutsa chilakolako cha munthu. Kuyang'anitsitsa kwa diso kumapereka chidwi chenicheni. Kuchita mwachidwi kwa amuna ndi kumverera kovuta. Kukhudza kuwala, kumpsompsonana pamasaya - chida chonse champhamvu cha zida zazimayi chakhala chikuzungulira zaka zambiri. Koma chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kudziletsa kudzidalira. Mayi amene akufuna kutulutsa chilakolako cha munthu ayenera kukhala munthu wokoma mtima ndi wokondwa amene ali ovuta komanso osangalatsa kuti azikhala ndi nthawi.