Tikukwera m'mitambo ndikumalota, ndipo tsiku logwira ntchito limathamanga mosadziwika, ndipo ngakhale kusakondwera kwa mfumu sikungathe kusokoneza maganizo athu. Ndipotu tikuyembekezera tsiku lachikondi!
Koma nthawi ikuyenda mosavuta, anthu akuyandikira, kutseguka kwa wina ndi mzake ndikudziwana bwino, ndipo posakhalitsa ubale uliwonse waukulu umayandikira mfundo yake yovuta. Zikuwoneka kuti chikondi sichinatheke, koma chilakolako chatha, chikondi chaonekera, ndipo mwa wokondedwayo nthawi zina zosasangalatsa zinayamba kuonekera. Timayamba kuzindikira zofooka zake, zizolowezi zowopsya, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo panopa, kusunga chikondi ndi nkhani yovuta, koma nkofunikira ngati mukufuna kuti ubale wanu ukhale wowala nthawizonse, wosangalatsa, osati wosangalatsa komanso wopusa, womwe umatsogolerera. Kawirikawiri, monga asayansi amati, kusintha kotere kumabwera patatha zaka zitatu chiyambi cha bukuli. Kwa zaka zitatu, chikondi chilichonse chidzatha, ndipo chidzaloledwa ndi chikondi, kapena njira za okonda kale zidzasokonezeka mosiyana.
Nanga bwanji ngati palibe kumvetsetsa kumodzi ndi wokondedwa? Akatswiri ambiri a zamaganizo ndi akatswiri osiyanasiyana muukwati amakhulupirira kuti munthu akhoza kutsitsimutsa maubwenzi ndi mawu okoma okhudza wokondedwa. Ndikofunika kutamanda wosankhidwa wanu nthawi zambiri (kuti asankhidwe), kutamandidwa chifukwa cha zonse zomwe apambana, ndi kunena mawu awa moona mtima, kunyalanyaza pazinthu zowonongeka sikunayenera konse! Wokondedwa wanu adaganiza kuti ndikudabwe ndi kuphika chakudya chamadzulo? Ngakhale mbaleyo ikuwotchedwa ndipo nthawi zambiri yophikidwa molakwika, ziribe kanthu, chifukwa adakuyeserani! Choncho musamaphunzire mawu okoma, zikomo, muwonetseni kufunika kwa inu! Mudzapangitsa munthu kukhala wokondweretsa, ndipo zochitika zotero zimabweretsa okondedwa pamodzi, zimadzutsa malingaliro mwa iwo. Ndipo ngati inu muli ndi mwayi mwa njira inayake funsani wokondedwa wanu, zimuthandizeni kuti azichita ntchito zina zapakhomo, musaphonye mwayi, ndi kusonyeza momwe mumamukondera ndi kumusamalira. Ndipo musaiwale kuti mumayamikila wokondedwa wanu, tsatirani za ukazi wa wosankhidwa wanu ndi makhalidwe a mwamuna wanu. Zomveka monga choncho, popanda chifukwa, komabe musaiwale za kukhulupirika pochita ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Komanso, kuti muteteze kumvetsetsa, ndikofunikira kufotokoza chinthu chatsopano ndi chodziwikiratu mu chiyanjano, osati kuti mulowerere ku chikhalidwe choyera. Makamaka zimakhudza amai omwe amakhala pamodzi komanso atatha kugwira ntchito yovuta tsiku ndi tsiku, amafufuzidwa ngati mandimu. Monga lamulo, palibe mphamvu yomwe imachoka madzulo, ndipo pa sabata ikugwira ntchito anthu amatopa kwambiri moti mapeto a sabata onse sagona pabedi ndi ma TV omwe ali m'manja mwawo. Pachifukwa ichi, zingakhale zabwino kukasonkhanitsa mphamvu ndikusintha. Pempherani bwenzi lanu ku kanema kapena malo odyera, kukonzekera madzulo kwa iye, musakhale waulesi ndikupangira chinthu chapadera kwa iye! Mukhoza kupita kumalo osakumbukika kwa inu nonse, zomwe zingabweretse kukumbukira bwino zakale. Kawirikawiri malo abwino kwambiri kumene mumakumana nawo kapena kumpsompsona. Ndikhulupirire, mutangotenga nokha ndikupita kwinakwake ndi wokondedwa wanu, kutopa kudzatulutsa dzanja lanu! Kwa inu mudzabwereranso kukhumudwa kochepa kwa chikondi chachinyamata.
Anthu ambiri, atadutsa "nyengo ya masika", samayiwala kuti mphatso siziperekedwa kwa Chaka Chatsopano ndi Tsiku lobadwa. Mphatso zing'onozing'ono ndi zabwino zimakhala zoyenera nthawi zonse! Makamaka osankhidwa ndi moyo, ndi mtima, ndi chidwi chenicheni chodabwitsa wokondedwa, kumusangalatsa. Pangani hafu yanu yabwino, mupatseni chinthu chabwino chaching'ono, ndipo muwona kuti ngakhale pang'ono, ndiyomwe, njira yosavuta ikhoza kuyambitsanso ubwenzi ndi wokondedwayo.
Kawirikawiri, okondedwa amene akhala pachibwenzi ndi kumakhala limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali akhala akugwirana ntchito kwambiri moti alibe kale chikhumbo chofuna kukhudza wokondedwa wawo nthawi zonse. Zowonjezereka, chikhumbo ichi chiri, koma sichiri chomwecho. Koma aliyense amakonda kukhudzidwa kwa wokondedwa wake! Ndipo makamaka kukondweretsa ndiko kusisita bwino kosalala, komwe kumapatsa thupi kukhala mpumulo wodikira kwa nthawi yaitali pambuyo pa tsiku lotanganidwa. Ndipo zikanakhala zabwino ngati okondawo samapatula nthawi kuti ampsompsone ndikudzikumbatira, chifukwa kugwirizana kwa thupi, monga zatsimikiziridwa ndi sayansi, kumalimbikitsa kugwirizanitsa ndi kumvetsetsa. Choncho, mukhoza kugwirizanitsa malonda ndi zosangalatsa.
Kuti mumvetsetse bwino ndi wokondedwa, mwachidwi, ndikofunikira kuti okondedwa asaiwale za iwo okha, za kudzikuza kwawo ndi chitukuko chawo. Nthawi zambiri timadziperekera ku chikondi, kupereka nthawi yathu yonse yaulere ku chinthu chopembedzera kwathu, kudziiwala tokha ndikudandaula, samatikonda, samatimvetsa. Koma kuti mukhale osangalatsa, muyenera kudzikonda nokha ndi kudzipangira nokha. Ngati muli ndi zokondweretsa, musawaponyedwe, kuzichita, kulimbitsa luso lanu, musaphonye mwayi wopititsa patsogolo ntchito. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi zokondweretsa zomwe mnzanuyo sagwirizana nazo, komanso zomwe mungachite nokha kapena ndi anzanu oganiza ngati omwewo.
Ndipotu, ngati nthawi zonse muli ndi ngodya ina, mlengalenga wapadera, mumakhala wokongola kwa mnzanuyo! Koma izi ndi zophweka, kukhalabe mwatsopano komanso pang'ono. Chitani zimene mumakonda mwachimwemwe, mokondwera! Kumbukirani kuti kupita kunja kwa ubale ndi kofunikira, choyamba kuti muteteze kuyang'ana kwa ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu, komanso kuti muzisamala bwino okondedwa anu ndipo, ndithudi, muphonye theka lanu lokonda.