Amayi ambiri amakhala osungulumwa, ngakhale kuti akufuna kuti akhale ndi ubale wapamtima ndikupanga banja. Ngakhale pali ena omwe amanena mosapita m'mbali kuti sakusowa ukwati. Mulimonsemo, pamene mulibe mnzako, zikutanthauza - simukufuna kuti ziwonekere, mosamala kapena mosadziwa. Ganizirani zifukwa khumi ndi ziwiri zomwe zimapangitsa akazi kuti asiye okha.
1. Ntchito ndi Ntchito
Kodi ndi mkazi wotani amene angafune kuti akhale naye nthawi zonse pafupi ndi munthuyo? Mmodzi yekha amene sakudziwabe kuti zingatheke bwanji. Komabe, mzimayi yemwe ali pamsonkhanowu waphunzira kale kuti akhoza kudzipezera yekha, komanso kukwatira uhule wa mwamuna kapena mkazi wake sikofunikira ndipo amasankha kupereka nthawi yake yonse kugwira ntchito.
Zonse ziri zophweka komanso zomveka bwino mu ntchito: ogwira ntchito mwezi umodzi, amapereka malipiro osati ang'onoang'ono, amaperekanso phindu, ndizo zonse - mkazi amapatsidwa zonse zofunika kuchokera ku katundu kupita ku zipangizo zosiyanasiyana. Ngati mulibe chilichonse kuntchito, mungathe kunena "chifukwa ndine mkazi," ndipo simudzatsutsidwa ngati munthu wofanana. Kugwa mu bizinesi sikuli koopsa ngati kuwonongeka kwa aliyense, chifukwa ndi kosavuta kuthawa kugwira ntchito.
2. Amuna onse ali zidakwa ndi zidole
Azimayi ena amanena kuti lero palibe zachizolowezi muzhchin: iwo kapena zidakwa, kapena mbuzi, kapena kale ali ndi mabanja awo ndipo palibe cholinga chimodzi chofunafuna munthu wabwino. Momwemo adanena agogo ndi amayi, pulogalamuyi imalowetsedwa mu ubongo ndikugwira ntchito m'moyo. Malingana ngati inu mukuganiza choncho, dziko lozungulira inu lidzakhala amuna otero, ndipo simudzakhala ndi kukayikira za ufulu wanu. Kuti mupitirize kukhala wosungulumwa, ndi bwino kuyang'ana zoperewera zambiri mwa munthu aliyense amene mumakumana naye, ndipo mukambirane, ndiye kuti kusungulumwa kumakhala moyo wanu wonse. Inu mumafuna izi?
3. Malo apadera
Mu ubale wa banja palibe chosowa, ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito malo anu tsiku ndi tsiku komanso malo anu enieni. Pambuyo pa zonse, kuti tipeze malo ofanana ndi munthu, ndibwino kuti tisinthe, tikhoza kukambirana, kuphunzira kuphunzira zokhumba zathu, komanso kusamalira, zikhumbo zake. Komabe, izi ndizovuta kwambiri, chifukwa chiyani khama lalikulu, ngati mukudziwa zomwe zinachitikira abwenzi okwatirana kuti zonsezi sizidzamveka bwino. Amuna ndi olakwika, amaponya masokosi ndipo samadziyeretsa okha, ndi kovuta kuti awathandize kukonzanso matepi kapena rosette, etc. Ayi, ndi bwino kusunga chitetezo komanso kusayambanso.
4. Kukhutira zokhumba
Mayi akuyembekeza kuti atangomaliza theka lachiwiri, adzakhala ndi chimwemwe chochuluka m'moyo wake, popeza mwamuna wake ndi wofunika kukwaniritsa zikhumbo zosiyana. Koma pazifukwa zina, zimakhala zozizwitsa nthawi zonse, pamene zikuyembekezerani inu ndi mwamuna (nayenso akufuna kuti azikondedwa). Pachifukwachi, ndi zochitika ziwiri zokha zomwe zingatheke. Yoyamba ndi pamene maluwa okongola a maswiti amatha kuti nonse ndinu a egoist omwe amafuna chisangalalo kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo (shi), osafuna kupereka kalikonse. Chachiwiri ndi pamene mkazi amadziwiratu kuti ayenera kupereka mgwirizano wake komanso amadziwa kuti sakukonzekera. Amakonda kusungulumwa ndikukhala moyo yekha, osasamala makutu ake.
5. Kudzichepetsa kwambiri ndiko chifukwa cha kusungulumwa
Chifukwa china chokhalira nokha ndikudziganizira kuti ndinu woipa, wosasamala, ndi zina zotero. Izi ndizovuta, chifukwa nthawizonse zimatha kupeza wochimwa (amayi, abambo, majini, ma radiation), zomwe zikutanthauza kuti sizidalira mkaziyo. Zimakhalanso zosavuta kukhala osasangalala, chifukwa nthawi zonse padzakhala munthu wokoma mtima amene adzanong'oneza bondo, kutenthetsa ndi kutentha komanso mwinamwake kukondana. Ndikoyenera kuzindikira kuti iwo omwe ali ndi chisoni, sakonda, amakhala okonzeka kuiwalika, chifukwa amabweretsa mavuto ena. Choncho, "musasinthe" chinachake ndikukhala okongola, chidwi, chifukwa kuti mukhalebe wosakwatira, kokwanira kukhala wodzichepetsa, osakhala wosangalala.
6. Kalonga woyela
Kawirikawiri mkazi amayembekeza kuti adzakumana ndi kalonga yemweyo wa nthano - zoyenera ndi malire a maloto ake onse. Ndipotu, kale anali ndi mndandanda wamndandanda wa makhalidwe ake abwino ndi deta zakunja. Koma sizimawonekeratu. Ndipo chowonadi ndi chakuti mumadziona kuti ndinu abwino komanso wamunthu ndi inu nokha. Kodi mungalole bwanji munthu kuti alowe m'moyo mwanu, yemwe akudziwa zolakwa zanu, yemwe amadziwa kuti angawauze bwanji pa nthawi yolakwika? Vomerezani, simukufuna kutaya korona wanu, mutero? Choncho dikirani kalonga wabwino, amene maminiti khumi ndi awiri amawoneka ngati akukondana ndi galasilo, ndipo korona wake ndi wofanana ndi iwe.
7. Kutaya kwa nthawi
Tsekani maukwati akudya nthawi yochuluka, muli ndi nthawi yochuluka ya chinthu chosangalatsa ndi chatsopano. Pamene pali chigawo chowala cha ubale, ndiye kuti pakadalibe ntchito zambiri ndi zofooka za mnzanu yemwe adapeza. Ndipo tifunika kuyamba ntchito yatsopano popanda kuona pang'ono zosangalatsa. Panthawiyi, ndipo milandu ya mwamunayo ikuyamba kuti iwononge moyo wanu wonse. Ndi bwino kuthawa zonsezi ndi kusungulumwa, kumene kuli nthawi nthawi zonse.
9. Kugonana
Ambiri amadziwa kuchuluka kwa kugonana kwa amuna, komanso momwe mkazi amafunira chikondi ndi chikondi. Amayi okha omwe akufuna, ali okonzekera mwana, komanso omwe ali ndi nkhawa zogonana sangakhale okha. Ngati mumayesetsa kupewa chilichonse chokhudzana ndi kugonana, amuna amachimva ndikuyesera kuti azigwirizana ndi inu. Kupewa kugonana ndi mwayi wokhala wosungulumwa!
8. "Malangizo ogwiritsidwa ntchito"
Azimayi ena (monga amuna ena) samadziwa "malangizo ogwiritsira ntchito", ali ndi chidaliro kuti amadziwa zonse zokhudza wokondedwa wawo. Zotsatira zake, zimapatsa munthuyo zomwe adzipanga okha, osati zonse zomwe amafunikira, kenako amadabwa: "Chifukwa chiyani samayamikira zomwe ndimamuchitira?" Koma akamvetsa kuti ntchitoyi ndi yaikulu bwanji, kuti aziphunzira bwino chilankhulo chimene amuna amalankhulidwa, amakonda kukhala okha.
10. Kufunika koyenera
Nthawi zonse ubale umakhala ngati kuvina: kuti mutenge pamodzi, muyenera kuvomereza pa nyimbo, pansi pa nyimbo, chifukwa kuchokera pa zochitika zanu, kuganiza, zochita kumadalira momwe mwamuna wanu amachitira komanso mosiyana - mumadalira ndi iye. Ndipo mkhalidwe uwu wa mavuto ena mu ubale wanu. Ndipo chifukwa chakuti wina ali wokonzeka kwambiri, chifukwa simukuyenera kufotokoza zochita zanu ndi mwamuna, musati mufotokoze, komanso mukambirane.
11. Achibale ake
Ngati mukulitsa ubale wa nthawi yaitali, nthawi zonse, mofulumira kapena mochedwa, muyenera kukhala ndi ocheza ndi achibale ake. Koma inu munatha kusamalira ndi banja lanu, ndipo apa pali zolemetsa zina. Ayi, ndi bwino kukhalabe wosakwatira, kusiyana ndi kukhala ndi bwenzi lanu, omwe amayi (kapena abambo) amapeza zolakwa nthawizonse, yesetsani kulowa mu ubale wanu.
Tsopano mukuyamba kuzindikira kuti maubwenzi si chikondi kokha, chikondi chowonetsedwa m'mafilimu, komanso ntchito yaikulu? Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ndi zophweka kukhala amodzi - musamawononge ubale wanu tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndipo ndinu otsimikiza kuti chitonthozo cha kusungulumwa - ichi ndicho chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chomwe chiyenera kukhala ndi moyo?