Baibulo limati: "Makolo amadya mphesa zobiriwira, ndipo anawo amawomba mano." Ndipo fanizoli sikutanthauza kukokomeza! Ngati mumakonzanso mbiri ya banja lanu ndikulemba zolemba zamtundu uliwonse zochitika ndi zochitika zofunika, mungathe kuwunikira mavuto anu ambiri ndipo osati kuti mumvetse, koma kuti muwachotse!
Katswiri wa zamaganizo a ku France dzina lake Anne Anselin Schutzenberger adayamba yekha, pofufuza zochitika za m'banja lake (imfa ya mwana wamng'ono). Chotsatira chake, adatsegula njira yatsopano ya psychotherapy ndikupanga sayansi yachinyamata - psycho-genology, kuyeretsa kuti chinsinsi chosowa nkhawa ndi zolepheretsa kawirikawiri zimabisala m'mbuyomo mwa banja.Kuyankha kwa Banja
Tonsefe timabwera kuchokera ubwana. Ndipo chinthu chokongola kwambiri mwa ife, ndi kuvulala kwakukulu, kawirikawiri kuchokera kumeneko. Ana samasankha makolo awo kapena momwe amakulira. Ndipo katundu yense wa mtundu wake, "cholowa" chonse cha amayi ndi abambo, agogo ndi agogo aakazi, agogo aakazi ndi agogo aamuna agogo awo amatha kunyamula mapewa awo. Koma palibe mabanja opanda mavuto! Nkhondo zakale, maonekedwe, matemberero aumunthu, zinsinsi za aliyense - zonsezi zimatilemetsa ife, mbadwa zathu. Zambiri za mbiri ya banja zatayika m'zaka mazana ambiri, mfundo zina ndizobisala mwadala - kenako zimatulukira pamwamba ndi mantha athu ndi nkhawa zathu, zosokonezeka zathu ...
Tengani "zowerengera za mabanja" - njira yosasinthika yowerengera pakati pa achibale. Aliyense wa ife ali ndi udindo kwa banja. Kale makolo athu anatilera, adagwiritsira ntchito mphamvu zawo, amatipatsa chidaliro china: pali ngongole yomwe iyenera kubwezeretsedwa. Koma izi zikutanthauza kuti, m'banja lokwanira, ngongole zimaperekedwa kudzera mndandanda: makolo - kwa ife, ife-kwa ana athu, ndi-kwa zidzukulu zathu. Komabe, abambo ndi amayi ambiri amasunga ana awo, ndipo amachititsa kuti azidziimba mlandu. "Ndinakuperekani zambiri." Izi zimabweretsa mavuto: mwana wamkazi sakonda moyo wa banja lake chifukwa amasamalira makolo ake; Mwanayo samakwatira kuti akondweretse amayi ake ... Kupondereza! Ndondomeko yamabanja ndi yovuta kwambiri. Achibale angathe kuitanitsa kuti muthe kulipira ngongole za mibadwo yapitayi - ndipo simungatsutse. Pa nthawi yomweyo, mumamva kuti mukugwiritsidwa ntchito. Koma ngati mumvetsetsa kuti "miyendo ikukula" kuchokera, mungatenge mzere wosawoneka pakati pa zamakono ndi zapitazo.
Chitsanzo cha moyo
Varya ndi Lena ndi azibale ake achiwiri. Varya amakhala mumzinda waukulu, ndi Lena - mumzinda wawung'ono. Amatumiza mwana wake kukaphunzira ku Moscow ndikukonzekera kukhala ndi Varya. Ngakhale nyumbayo ndi yaikulu, koma sakuvutika kuti nyumbayo ndi munthu wamkulu: Ali ndi ana awiri aakazi, koma sangathe kutsutsa. Kugwira ntchito ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo kumabweretsa mfundo zofunika: Pa nthawi ya nkhondo, agogo aakazi ankakhala m'banja la mlamu wake - ndipo chifukwa cha izi, anapulumuka. Mlamu wake uyu anali agogo a Lena. Choncho, m'banja la Lenin pali chitsimikizo chokwanira kuti banja la Varina ndi "loyenera" kwa iwo.
Zifupa mu chipinda
Ali ndi banja lililonse. Zomwe amasankha kuti akhale chete: Ana apathengo ndi akaidi am'ndende, adanyozedwa ndipo adadzipha ... "Akufa sangawoneke, koma salipo," - Mawu awa a Blessed Augustine ndi oona makamaka pa nkhaniyi.
Chinsinsi cha banja chimakhudza kwambiri moyo wathu! Ikhoza kudziwa kusankha masukulu, zopangira zokondweretsa, ndikukhalabe chinsinsi kwa ife eni. Monga ngati chinachake mkati chimatipangitsa ife kusankha ntchitoyi, munthu uyu (ngakhale kuti ife tikudzifunira tokha!). Kodi izi zimachitika bwanji? Akatswiri m'munda umenewu amasonyeza kuti nkhani yoletsedwa imafalitsidwa mosazindikira kuchokera kwa mayi kupita kwa mwana. Ndipo munthuyo amakhala, ngati crypt, momwe "mzimu" uli mkati. Amamva kuti sakhala ndi moyo, koma sangathe kumvetsa chomwe chimayambitsa vuto.
Chitsanzo cha moyo
Galina - kukhala ndi nkhawa kwa ana nthawi zonse. Mavuto pang'ono amachititsa presyncope. Mzimayi amadziwa kupusa kwa malingaliro otero, koma palibe chomwe chingatheke. Mwadzidzidzi amapeza kuti mayi ake anali ndi mng'ono wake yemwe anamwalira ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi ali mwana. Ndipo kwa agogo aakazi, ndi kwa amayi, zinakhala zovuta. Zimakhala zomveka bwino pamene nkhaŵa yosayembekezeka imachokera.
Anniversary Syndrome
Ngati mukuwonetsa genosociogram yanu - mtengo wamtundu uliwonse wa maina, zofunikira ndi masiku (osati kubadwa ndi kufa, komanso maukwati, kuvomereza ku maphunziro apamwamba, kubadwa kwa ana, matenda, ngozi), ndiye kuti zochitika zambiri zodabwitsa zidzapezeka. Mwachitsanzo, zikhoza kuchitika kuti zochitika zonse zomvetsa chisoni m'banja zimagwirizana nthawi zina (isanafike Pasaka, pambuyo pa Khirisimasi) kapena nambala yeniyeni, nenani, 12. Kapena zidzatsimikiziridwa kuti mwana, atate ndi agogo ake ali ndi moyo amapita molingana ndi zofanana ndi izi: banja loyamba pambuyo pa kukhazikitsidwa - kubadwa kwa mwana wamkazi - kusudzulana - ukwati wachiwiri ... Zochitika izi zimatchedwa "kukumbukira matenda". Iwo amafotokozedwa ndi chikumbukiro cha chibadwa, chikhumbo chosadziwika kuti amangirire miyoyo yawo ku mbiri ya wachibale yemwe ali ulamuliro. Chikumbumtima ndi champhamvu kwambiri moti nthawi zina anthu amangoti "amakopeka ndi mphamvu yosawoneka" lero kuti achitepo kanthu.
Matenda a chikondwererochi amatha kudziwonetsera pazochitika zosangalatsa: kubadwa kwa ana, kulandila mphoto, kutetezera chiphunzitsochi. Koma nthawi zambiri timatenga zinthu zotere: apa, ndimatenga chitsanzo kuchokera kwa abambo! Munthu akamangogwiritsa ntchito magudumu omwe amaphatikizapo kuwonjezera pa chifuniro chake, mwachibadwa amayesa momwe angayime. Ndipo kumanganso kwa banja lapitalo kumapereka mpata wopambana.
Mwanjira yomweyi, mwachiwonekere, banja ndi "temberero la kubadwa" likugwira ntchito pabanja. Zotsatira za mawu amphamvu, oyankhulidwa pamphamvu yaumunthu (mutu wa mtundu), amachititsa kubwereza zochitika zowawa chifukwa chakuti mosadziŵa amawaponyera anthu kuzinthu zina. Munthu "ayenera" kuzindikira temberero - ndipo amachitira ngakhale chifuniro chake!
Chitsanzo cha moyo
Tanya akuopa tsiku la Oktoba 7. Ali ndi zaka 15, anavulala panthawi yophunzitsidwa, chifukwa cha zomwe sakanatha kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Pa tsikuli, chisudzulo chinakonzedwa ndi mwamuna wake. October 7, Tanya anali pangozi. Pambuyo pokonza genosociogram, pa October 7, agogo aakazi a Tanya, omwe ali nawo, adamwalira. "Ngati mumakhulupirira kuti kuvala chipewa patsogolo panu kudzakuthandizani kuti mupeze lottery, zidzatero. Komanso, kuyembekezera kulephera pa "tsiku lokondweretsa" kumayambitsa, "katswiri wa zamaganizo Tanin anafotokoza ku chiopsezo pa October 7.
Kusaka kwa zinsinsi
Yesani kupanga genosociogram yanu. Pochita izi, mudzatha kudziwa zinsinsi zomwe zaperekedwa mobisa kuchokera ku mibadwomibadwo, kufotokozera zochita zanu, komanso chofunika kwambiri, kusintha moyo wanu. Pambuyo pozindikiritsa maulumikizi ndi "decoding" awo adzayang'anira iwo! Mungathe kumanga pulojekiti ya moyo wanu mwa kufuna kwanu, osati kwa achibale omwe anamwalira kale.
Kumayambira pati? Kuchokera m'nkhani za amayi ndi abambo, agogo ndi agogo. Lembani maumboni awo ndikuwunika. Inde, ndikukonzekanso zakale mpaka zisanu ndi ziwiri-zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zitatu za fuko, koma ntchito imeneyi nthawi zambiri silingatheke. Pofotokozera zochitika za moyo wa banja lake, mfundo zonse zidzakuthandizira: umboni wa abwenzi ndi oyandikana nawo, misonkhano ndi zokambirana ndi achibale akutali, zolemba zapadera, mabuku a mpingo, akupita kudziko la makolo. Malingaliro achinsinsi akhoza kubisala mu zinthu zazing'ono zilizonse: zolembera, kudzipereka, kusindikiza pansi pa chithunzi. Lembani mtengo wamtundu uliwonse ndikupanga zochitika zonse zofunika, ndikuzifanizitsa ndi zomwe zilipo, ndi mavuto omwe inu ndi ana anu muli nawo. Ndikhulupirire, yankho liri pafupi!