"Iwe tsopano umakonda ufulu - pokhala wachinyamata," anzanga a kusukulu a Lena anandiuza ine, akuwongolera kuti akwatiwe ndi Vladik yemwe timaphunzira nawo naye m'kalasi. - ndi zaka zina zisanu ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi - ndipo ndizo! Kwa inu anyamata sangagwirizane, zidzakhala zopanda pake kupita ku discos ... Palibe amene adzakwatirenso. Kodi simukuopa kusungulumwa?
"Choncho," ndinatsiriza, "ndili ndi zaka 5-6 zokondwa. Ndipo tsopano inu mukudziyika nokha kutseka ndi key.
Zaka khumi zapita kuchokera apo. Zokongola ngati zikuwoneka, Ndine wamng'ono. Koma anyamata sanathenso kugwiritsira ntchito: iwo adalowetsa amuna olimba (mwatsoka, nthawi zonse samagwira ntchito). Pa disco ndipo kwenikweni simukupita (kupatula ku malo odyera malo), koma zaka 10 mu dzikolo anawonekera ndipo akuchuluka kwambiri usiku ndi mahoteli ophweka, kumene wamkulu, mkazi wodziimira akhoza kupita ... Lenka sindinayambe dongosolo lonse lazaka zisanu: ali ndi ziwiri ana, ndipo ndili ndi abwenzi atsopano, ntchito ndi zinthu zambiri. Vadik ndimakumana nthawi zonse m'modzi wa usiku. Iye amabwera kumeneko ndi mnzake (monga momwe ndikudziwira, Lena sakudziwa). Ndipo sindiribe nkhawa ndi funsoli: kodi kusungulumwa ndi tsoka kapena chimwemwe cha mkazi wamakono? Koma ...
Kodi ndikuopa kusungulumwa? Monga chiwonetsero - makamaka ndikuwopa, koma sindikhulupirira kwenikweni. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ine ndikhoza kuganizira momwe zinthu zinalili: chitseko chinagwedezeka, foni yathyoledwa, ndipo pansi pa mawindo, ngati mwayi ukanakhala nawo, palibe amene amapita - ngakhale kulankhula kapena kuthandizira ... ndikadawerenga mabuku masiku atatu kapena kugona, Ndikuyembekeza kuti wina wochokera kwa achibale, abwenzi kapena antchito angakumbukire kuti sindinaitanidwe nthawi yaitali (sindinalowe nawo pazokambirana, sindinatengepo nthawiyo). Ndipo iwo akanandipeza ine. Kawirikawiri, kusungulumwa mumzinda wamakono sikungatheke. Ndipo ngakhale mu tawuni yaying'ono sizingatheke, ngakhale m'mudzi. Chifukwa masiku ano ntchito iliyonse ndikulumikizana. Ndipo phunzirani - kuyankhulana, ndi njira yothetsera mavuto aliwonse a tsiku ndi tsiku - komanso kuyankhulana (ngakhale sikuli kosangalatsa). Ndipo tsopano ganizirani momwemo - mu nyumba yotsekedwa - mkazi wokwatira. Mwamuna, tiyeni tinene, anapita naye ku bizinesi ndi mnzake ... Kapena, chabwino, lolani, atseke m'nyumbayo. Tiyeneranso kunena kuti masiku atatu achibale anali ndi nkhawa ... Ngakhale kuti sizingatheke, chifukwa amayi okwatirana samalankhulana ndi achibale nthawi zambiri, ndipo kusakhala kwanu masiku atatu sikudzakhala chizindikiro cha alamu. Mu sabata anzanu ayamba kuda nkhawa. Iwo adzatcha foni yanu yosasunthika tsiku lonse, ndipo adzasankha: "Ngati chinachake choopsa chikuchitika, mwamuna wake akanadaitana!", Adzapereka gawo lanu kwa wina, ndipo adzakuchotsani ku malipiro awo - ndipo adzakhalanso chete. Anzanu ayamba kutsiriza (ngati akadali pomwepo), koma mosamala kuti inu nonse simudzatayika, adzabwerera ku bizinesi yawo. Ndipo kudzakhala kusungulumwa kosatha, kosasinthika. Ngakhale mutakhala m'nyumba muli odwala ndi mwamuna wanu.
Zifukwa 7 za nsanje.
Atsikana apakhomo, omwe amalembedwa ndi miyambo ya kumanga nyumba, amatchedwa osakwatira okha. Iwo amakhulupirira moona mtima kuti kusungulumwa kuyenera kuvutika, ndipo yesetsani kukwatira wina. Khayyamov wotchuka "ndibwino kuti ndikhale ndi njala kuposa chakudya chirichonse, ndipo ndi bwino kukhala ndekha kuposa wina aliyense" - izi siziri kwa ife. Ayi! Sinditchula kuti ndipewe kusunga maukwati. Ngati anthu sangathe kukhala opanda wina ndi mzake, ndiye kuti ayenera kukhala pamodzi. Koma chikwati pa mfundo yakuti "kukhala" ... Bwinobwino kudziyankha nokha funso: Kodi mkazi wokwatiwa ali ndi chiyani, iwe sungakhale ndi chiyani?
Yankho limadziwonetsera yekha: mwamuna. Ndipo makamaka makamaka?
1. Ali ndi wina woti alankhule naye pambuyo pa ntchito. Ow izo! Sizomwe zilizonse zomwe akatswiri a maganizo a alangizi amalangiza: musamapanikizidwe ndi munthu pambuyo pa ntchito, msiyeni iye apumule ... Ndipo munthu yemweyo amatha kukomoka chifukwa mkazi wake "amamangirira" pa foni. Ndipo mulibenso wina woti akhale woipa: khalani pa foni mofanana ndi momwe mumafunira - osachepera ndi chibwenzi, makamaka ndi wokonda.
2. Ali ndi wina woti asamalire. Kukayikira kokayika. Koma ngati akukuvutitsani, tengani mwana wamphongo.
3. Mwamuna amabweretsa ndalama kunyumba. Osati zoona! Amuna amakono amachoka m'nyumba zomwe mkazi wawo amabweretsa. Ndipo ndani amene amakulepheretsani kugwira ntchito ndi kulandira?
4. Kwa mwamuna sizowopsya kuyenda pamisewu ya usiku: amathira pamakiti kwa aliyense amene akukhumudwitsa mkazi wake. Choyamba, ngati mkazi ali wokwatira kwa nthawi yayitali, kawirikawiri amayenera kuyenda mumisewu ya usiku: Amayi aakazi sali pa maphwando. Ndipo kachiwiri, supermen nthawi zambiri samakwatira, ndi amuna - tsoka! - monga lamulo, osati kutsindikiza. Kotero kwa inu - okondwa ndi omasuka - mwayi wambiri woti muziyenda pa msewu wausiku pansi pa chogwirizanitsa ndi chimphona chachikulu, chokhoza kupereka pamphuno kwa aliyense.
5. Mwamuna woyenera ndi kugonana nthawi zonse. Amayi okwatiwa nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi kusakhutira ndi kugonana ndipo sangathe kuchita chilichonse: mwamuna wake amafuna zocheperapo ndi ukalamba. Mosiyana ndi iwo, simunaloledwe kufunsa usiku kwa mnzanu, pemphani mnzanu kuti azichezera kapena kugula vibrator.
6. Anyamata kuntchito samakambirana mkazi wokwatiwa ndi maso ... Chifukwa china chokhalira wokondwa kuti sadagwirizane ndi aliyense wa amunawa.
7. Sipadzakhala wina yemwe adzandipatse kapu yamadzi mu ukalamba! O kulira kwamuyaya kwa akazi a nthawi zonse! .. Pafupipafupi, mkazi ku Russia amakhala ndi zaka 14 kuposa munthu. Kotero ndi magalasi mwinamwake ndikofunikira kuthamangira kwa izo.
Kodi mungagwiritse ntchito bwanji kusungulumwa?
• Kusungulumwa sikokwanira. Anthu okuzungulirani nthawi zonse amayenera kuphunzira momwe angalankhulirane nawo ndi kusangalala nawo. Ngati mutatha ntchito ndikupeza ubale ndi anzanu mumamva kuti mukufunika kulira kwa wina aliyense (onenezani nthabwala, funsani funso kuchokera kumalo a quantum physics), mutha kukakhala mumagulu a okonda mowa (osonkhanitsa timapepala, ovomerezeka a Stalin), kapena olemba pa intaneti ndi pulofesa Yunivesite ya Eton.
• Kusungulumwa sikovuta. Izi ndizosatheka kulankhulana. Musasokoneze maubwenzi ndi achibale ndi anzanu aunyamata: Amuna amabwera ndikupita, koma amakhala.
• Kusungulumwa kumakhala kozungulira kwambiri. Ngati simukumangiriridwa ndi maudindo, ndiye kuti musasinthe maganizo anu kapena zosangalatsa zanu.
• Kukhala wosungulumwa ndi kusowa kwa kucheza. Aphunzira kulankhula, munthu anaiwala momwe angaganizire. Atangofika ndi lingaliro, akufulumira kutaya maganizo ake kwa ena ... Koma ngati panalibe ena mozungulira, lingaliro likanakhalabe pamutu panga ndikukula kukula kwa lingaliro kapena lingaliro la sayansi. Munthu amene amadziwa kuganiza, samadzipweteka yekha.
• Kusungulumwa ndi njira yolemekezeka. Chifukwa ngati mwatembenuza kale maganizo anu pamutu wanu - khalani pansi ndi kuwalemba. Azimayi ambiri - kuchokera ku Zinaida Gippius kupita ku Alexandra Marinina - adadzipangira okha dzina ndi chuma chawo pamabuku.
• Kusungulumwa ndi mwayi wopanga ntchito ndi kupeza ndalama. Chifukwa ngati mutaganizira za ntchito kuntchito, osati za kugula komweko, akuluakulu a boma adzaziwona.
Kodi mumadandaula kuti simunakwatire? Kuti abwenzi onse alipo kale, ndipo nonse muli pano? .. Koma mukudziwa kuti zonse zomwe tafotokozazi ndizoona. Ndipo kukangana pano kulibechabechabe, kulibe ntchito zopanda chisoni nthawi ndi nthawi. Ngakhale nthawizina ndimakonda. Koma ngati, podziwa izi zonse, mumangodzimva mwadzidzidzi nyama yachinyamatacho ndikufuna kulira pa mwezi kapena kuthamanga kukayitana msonkhano wa chibwenzi - ingoyang'ana kalendala. Mwinamwake mumangokhala ndi matenda oyambirira.