Mtundu wothandiza kwambiri wogwirizanitsa mu magawo onse a ntchito zaumunthu ndi kugawa ntchito (maudindo), zomwezo zimagwirizananso ndi banja. Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi wake amadziwa bwino ndikugwira bwino maudindo awo, ndiye kuti banja lidzapambana. Mavuto ayamba kuwuka pamene mwamuna kapena mkazi, kapena onse sakufuna kuchita ntchito zawo, amayesa kupondereza ena, kapena kulowerera mu udindo wa wina. Mkazi wosakayikira amapanga ntchito m'banja. Udindo wake ndi wazimayi okha, ndiko kuthandiza mwamuna wake, kuthandizira pakugwira ntchito yake, koma kuti asamagwire ntchito yake kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wake.
Kuchita bwino ndi kudzipatulira pa ntchito zawo nthawi zonse kumaphatikizidwa ndi kupambana kwakukulu m'banja, bizinesi ndi moyo wamtundu. Ndipo ndi zosiyana kwambiri, pamene wina wa mamembala amayesa kusewera maudindo ena, amakana kuchita ntchito zawo, kapena amadzidera nkhawa kwambiri ndi momwe ena amagwira ntchito zawo, kusewera udindo wa woyang'anira mwakhama.
Kupambana pa ntchito zanu kumadalira mmene mumagwirira ntchito yanu yazimayi mumoyo komanso m'banja. Izi ziyenera kukukhudzani inu nokha. N'zotheka kuti muli ndi mwayi wotsogolera othandizira kukonza moyo wa kunyumba, kapena kukupemphani kuti muthandize ana mu izi. Koma mulimonsemo, udindo wotsogolera muderali uli ndi inu nokha.
Pokhala ndi luso luso la amai ndi luso, mukhoza kukwaniritsa bwino kwambiri m "banja. Kuti muchite izi, mukhoza kuphunzira kuphika, kusunga nyumba, kukonza moyo wanu kuti mukhale osangalala. Mverani kuwonongeka kwa amayi ndi kulera ana. Dzipereke nokha kwathunthu kwa banja ndipo yesetsani kuyesetsa kuti mukhale ogwirizana ndi kukhala pakhomo.
Mfundo yakuti muthandiza mwamuna wanu kuti apambane pa ntchito yake idzakhalanso kupambana kwanu popanga banja lolemera. Kudziwa zosowa za amuna atatu kukuthandizani izi:
- Mwamuna ayenera kugwira ntchito yake monga mutu wa banja, wopereka chakudya komanso womuteteza.
- Mwamuna ayenera kumverera zosowa izi m'banja lake.
- Ndikofunika kuti mwamuna akhale wapamwamba kuposa mkazi mderali.
Masiku ano, chizoloŵezi ndi chakuti mfundo zoyambirirazo zimaphwanyidwa nthawi zonse. Panali kuwukira kwa mkazi pa gawo la mwamuna. Chotsatira chake, tili ndi mbadwo wa amayi omwe amagwira ntchito, kukangana ndi abambo kuti apite kukwera kwa ntchito, malinga ndi ndalama.
Kunyumba, komanso, sizinthu zonse. Mkazi amagwiritsidwa ntchito pokhala mtsogoleri kuntchito, ndipo amayesera kuchita chimodzimodzi kunyumba, kuchita zinthu mwa njira yake. Mkaziyo anayamba kugwira ntchito zambiri, mwamuna mwa tanthawuzo, mwaulere. Kutaya kwakukulu kwa onse awiri ndikuti mkaziyo adadziimira yekha, ndipo izi zimapangitsa kuti asamveke kuti akufunikira kuteteza munthuyo ndi kupereka kwake.
Chifukwa mwamuna samva kufunikira kwa ntchito zake zamwamuna, samva kuti akufunikira yekha, choncho samva kufunikira kukhala mwamuna weniweni. Pofuna kufanana kwambiri ndi ntchito yochitidwa, mkazi amapeza makhalidwe achikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe. Izi zikutanthawuza kutayika kwa chikazi, chikhalidwe cha chikazi chachikazi ndi chikondi chachikazi. Mzimayi akulimbikitsidwa, pali mantha nthawi zonse pamene ayesa kutenga udindo umene munthu ayenera kutenga. Izi zimapangitsa kutayika kwa bata ndi zofunika kwambiri zomwe zimafunika kuti pakhale banja losangalala. Ngati mkazi amathera nthawi yochuluka ndi mphamvu kuti agwire ntchito yokhala ndi amuna, amadzipatulira yekha ntchito zofunika zomwe zimakhala zosiyana ndi mkaziyo. Chifukwa chake, banja lonse limataya.
Kwa banja linali lopambana ndi losangalala, mkazi ayenera kukumbukira mwamphamvu kuti mwamunayo ndiye mutu wa banja, wobwezeretsa chakudya ndi womutetezera. Chimwemwe cha mwamuna mwachindunji chimadalira momwe amachitira udindo wake wamwamuna m'banja, ndipo ngati mumamva thandizo lanu, zosowa zanu za banja. Muchoke mwamunayo mwayi woti atsogolere banja lanu, chitani amuna kuntchito, kupereka zonse zomwe mukuzisowa ndi banja lanu. Chosowa chokhacho chingakulole kuti mupitirire malire a ntchito zanu ndi kuchita ntchito yamuna.
Musaganizire kuchokera kwa anthu kukhala angwiro pakuchita ntchito yake yamwamuna. Mudzapindula nokha ndi mwamuna, ngati simugwiritsa ntchito pang'onopang'ono ndikusokoneza ntchito zake. Ngati mukukumana ndi mavuto, ndipo mwamuna samagwiritsa ntchito mzimayi wake monga woteteza, musadandaule. Zidzakhala bwino ngati mutangonena kuti muli ndi vuto, mumamufotokozere momveka bwino zomwe zimavuta komanso zotsatira zake. Gawo lotsatira ndi funso: "Kodi mumaganiza chiyani pa nkhaniyi? Nchiyani chomwe chingachitike mu izi? ". Kotero, mumudziwitsa kuti iye ndiye mutu wa banja, perekani zovuta zanu kwa munthu wanu, ndipo izi zidzakhala nthawi yabwino kuti munthu amve kuti akufunikira. Kusintha kungatenge nthawi yambiri, choncho ndi bwino kuti mukhale woleza mtima mukakhala kuti mwamunayo sakuyankhira ngakhale mutamuuza zonse.
Chiyambi cha kusintha chikhoza kuyika matamando a munthu. Ntchito yamunthu si yosavuta kuchita ndipo posachedwapa mudzadziwa chifukwa chake. Mphoto yaikulu kwa munthu idzakhala matamando anu. Musadandaule ndi mawu oyamikira. Zotsatira zidzakhala zazikulu kuposa pamene munthu alandira mphotho ya ntchito. Ndipo musaiwale kuti nthawi zonse komanso mosamala mukukwaniritsa maudindo anu pokonzekera nyumba. Momwemo, mudzatha kufotokoza momveka pakati pa ntchito za mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndikuthandizani kuthetsa bwino nkhani za amuna kwa amuna.
Ngati simukufotokozera bwino udindo wa amuna ndi akazi, ndiye kuti izi zimawopsya ntchito. Ndiyeno mwamuna ayamba kuchita gawo lina la akazi, ndipo mkazi - wamphongo. Chilichonse ndi chotheka, ngati kugawidwa koteroko kuli kochepa, komabe pakakhala nthawi zonse, umphumphu wa banja ndi wovulaza.
Mu maphunziro a ana, m'pofunika kumvetsetsa kuti chitukuko cha zinthu zakuthupi chidziwikidwe ndi chidziwitso cha kugonana, ndipo pazimenezi ayenera kuziwona mwa makolo momveka bwino zithunzi za mwamuna ndi mkazi kuti azitsanzira. Pochita ntchito yake yazimayi, amayi anga amasonyeza chithunzi chake chachikazi. Akachita zochitika za amayi ake ndi chikondi ndi chikondi chomwe chingakhale chachikazi kwa akazi okha, poyenda zovala zazimayi, kusamalira ana mokwanira, kukwaniritsa ntchito zake zapakhomo, ndiye kumuyang'ana, ana amapanga fano lachikazi. Pamene iye, pochita ntchito zake, amachititsa kuti moyo wake ukhale wokhutira ndi chimwemwe, mayi amathandiza ana ake kupeza chithunzi chachikazi.
Ana akawona bambo wa mtsogoleri wamphamvu, pamene abambo amasonyeza kuti ntchito yake ndi yothandiza komanso yotetezera, pamene akugwira ntchito molimbika, pamene akusangalala ndi zomwe zikuchitika, izi zimapangitsa kuti akhale ndi makhalidwe abwino mwa ana komanso kukhala chitsanzo cha tsogolo mwamuna kwa atsikana. Atsikana adzakopeka ndi akazi, ndi anyamata - kukhala olimba mtima pokhapokha ngati banja liri ndi kusiyana koonekera pa zithunzi za amuna ndi akazi.
Ngati banja silinapangidwe mwachibadwa, ngati palibe malire oonekera pakati pa kufalitsa ntchito, ndiye kuti izi zingakhale vuto lalikulu. Malinga ndi chiwerengero cha nyumba zomwe maudindo a abambo ndi amayi samadziwika, kawirikawiri pamakhala zochitika za kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ana m'mabanja omwe ali ndi maziko omwewo sakanakhoza kupeza lingaliro lapadera la ntchito za amuna ndi akazi, ndipo iwo analibe abwino kutsanzira.
Ndondomeko ya maphunziro idzaphunzitsa ana zinthu zambiri zomwe zingawathandize kuti azitha kuyenda bwino moyo wawo kuti akhale osangalala. Komabe, chinthu chofunika kwambiri chimene ana angaphunzire m'banja ndi mnyamata kuti akhale wolimba mtima, ndipo mtsikana akhale wachikazi.