Kodi mudadzizindikira nokha? Kapena mmodzi wa abwenzi anu? Ndipo, mwinamwake, mumakhala ndi mantha otere? Kenaka pangani mphindi zingapo ndikuwerenga nkhaniyo mpaka kumapeto - Ndikuuzani mmene mungagwirire ndi matenda a amayi ambiri komanso momwe mungachitire ndi mutu wanu!
Kotero, ngati mmodzi wa inu adzizindikira nokha kapena pafupi ndi ichi - ichi ndi sitepe yoyamba kuti mupeze. Koma ichi ndi sitepe yoyamba. Kotero-chinthu chachikulu chiri patsogolo. Kumayambira pati? Choyamba, muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti simukufunika kuthamangira abwenzi anu mwamsanga ndikumangothamangira ku ofesi ya dokotala.
Chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kuchita ndicho kumvetsa, kukhulupirira kuti matenda anu ali bwenzi kapena chibwenzi omwe akungokuchenjezani inu za vuto lamkati la maganizo. Mwachitsanzo, mudakangana ndi munthu kapena chinachake chomwe sichinagwire nawo ntchito, ndipo kawirikawiri - pali zinthu zambiri pamoyo, ndipo munthu uyu ali ngati "pakhosi pako", makamaka zikhoza kuwonetsedwa ngati chakumtima. Ndikofunika kuthetsa vutolo ndi wozunza ndipo matenda adzidutsa okha. Mwachibadwa, sindimayerekezera kuti ndine wamtheradi, ndipo mumatha kuzizira, koma ndikukhulupirirani -zimenezi zikhoza kuchitika mochuluka kuposa momwe mukuganizira. Kotero, simungathe kunyalanyaza matendawa, mwinamwake zingathe kukhala ndi zotsatira pa thupi. Koma simungathe kupondereza thupi lanu mwanjira ina iliyonse, kaya-idzafooketsa chitetezo cha mthupi ndipo chidzaphwanyidwa ndi matenda omwe amatha, ngakhale zovuta kwambiri.
Choncho, muyenera kumvetsetsa zomwe mnzanu akutumizirani - sizili zovuta, kutseka maso anu ndi kulingalira kuti mbali imodzi ya thupi ndilo likulu la ululu wanu. Tumizani chidwi chanu apo, ndipo mukumvetsa zonse. Akatswiri amalimbikitsa kusinkhasinkha, chifukwa izi zidzakupatsani lingaliro la kukula ndi mtundu wa ululu wanu. Ndikofunika kuwonetsa ululu wanu powonekera. Ndiko kusinkhasinkha kuti kumakhala kosavuta kumvetsetsa zomwe mukufunikira kusintha kuti ululu ufike.
Ngakhale mutakhala mmodzi wa amayi omwe amadziwa kuti chithandizocho chiyenera kuyamba ndi kumvetsa chifukwa chomwe chimayambitsa matendawa, koma ndikuopa kukhulupirira kuti chidzabala chipatso, kuwerenga matenda akuluakulu achikazi komanso momwe angachitire mothandizidwa ndi mutu. Mungathe kukhulupirira nokha ndikuchiritsa thupi lanu lomwe aliyense ayenera kuyesetsa kuti adzilemekeze yekha.
Zovuta.
Monga mukudziwira, zizindikiro za thupi lanu zimakhudza chitetezo cha mthupi lanu ku zinthu zakunja kapena zinthu zomwe sizikuwopsa. Zili ngati munthu amene amamvetsa zonse - mawu osayenerera kapena zochitika zomwe zimamuchezera masana. Samalani - zowopsa zimachitika chifukwa cha mantha, zosasangalatsa moyo, phobias, mantha, nkhawa, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo zitatha zonsezi - zizindikiro zambiri zokhudzana ndi zovuta, zikasokonezedwa, zimagona kapena zimakhala ndi phwando ndi wodwala. Mukhozanso kusinthanso ku zakudya zabwino.
Kodi mungatani?
Mu NLP pali njira zingapo zomwe zimalola kamodzi kuti athe kuchiza. Chofunika kwambiri chazofala - dziwani kuti chitetezo chanu cha m'thupi chimanyalanyaza allergen yomwe thupi lanu limamvetsera. Izi zimafuna kutsatidwa ndi zikhalidwe zina: Mukudziwa zofooka zawo, chiwerengero chawo sichiposa zisanu, muli ndi chifukwa chachikulu chochotseratu osati ndikukumbukira bwino pamene choyamba chikuwonekera. Ngati zina mwazimenezi sizitha kukumana - osati zoopsa, koma chithandizochi chikhoza kuchedwa kwa nthawi yaitali. Chinthu chofunikira kukumbukira ndi chakuti mukhoza komanso muyenera kudalira umunthu wanu wamkati, ngakhale kuti akukhudzidwa ndi vuto lowoneka ngati lachidwi. Khulupirirani malingaliro anu.
Kusagona.
Kawirikawiri, izi ndi zotsatira za nkhondo zina za mkati mwanu. Kuthetsa mkangano kumatanthauza kuthetsa kugona. Kapena mumangotopera ndipo thupi limakutumizirani chizindikiro chomwe chikufunikira kupuma. Mofananamo, kawirikawiri, koma ndizotheka kuti izi ndizo zenizeni - mumangozindikira chidziwitso chokha, komanso chopanda chidziwitso - mumakana, ndipo chidziwitso ndi usiku basi. Mwina mosadziwa, mukuwopa imfa.
Kodi mungatani?
Simungathe kuthandiza mapiritsi ogona, muyenera kumvetsa izi. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kupeza chomwe chimayambitsa matendawa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukuvutika ndi mantha a imfa - tengani mbali yachisomo ya kukhalapo pafupi ndi mtima wanu - ndipo mupange ubwenzi ndi iye. Ngati mukuzunzidwa ndi mkangano uliwonse wamaganizo, ndikwanira kukambirana ndi munthu wapafupi kapena katswiri wamaganizo. Zonsezi zingakuthandizeni kufotokoza chifukwa cha kugona kwanu momveka bwino. Koma chomaliza chidzakhala chovuta kwambiri - izi zidzakuthandizira kusinkhasinkha.
Herpes.
Chodabwitsa n'chakuti pafupifupi onse ali ndi zonyamula kachilomboka, ndipo ena samadwala konse, pamene matenda onsewo amakhala osowa. Izi zokha zimasonyeza kuti kachilombo siyomwe imayambitsa matenda, ndi zotsatira zake basi. Herpes amawonekera chifukwa cha kufooka kwa chitetezo cha mthupi, ndipo izi zimachitika panthawi yachisokonezo. Samalani pamene akudziwonetsera - ngati akuwonetseredwa mu matenda ena a khungu, ndiye kuti mwina muli ndi mantha oyankhulana, anthu ndipo mukufuna kusiya okha ngati kachidzidzi kamadziwonetsera nokha pa zokambirana zina zosokoneza inu - mwinamwake kamodzi mutagwidwa ndi nkhanza zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndipo chiwonongeko chikuwonekera pazokhudzana ndi kugonana.
Kodi mungatani?
Pano chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndikumvetsetsa pazimene zimakhalapo komanso pamene ziwalozo zimapezeka. Poyamba inu mumamvetsa izi - mofulumira zidzatsimikizika kuti ziri mwa inu zomwe zimayambitsa chisokonezo ndi zosakondweretsa. Inu, mumkhalidwe umenewu, muyenera kukhala ogwirizana ndi malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu ndi zikhumbo zanu. Ndipo dzipatseni nokha kukhutira ndi zikhumbo zanu zonse zogonana! Palibe choyipa mu izi.
Mutu.
Monga lamulo, chirichonse chiri chophweka kuno - mutu kumakhala chizindikiro chakuti nthawi zonse mumayesa kudzipatula nokha ku malingaliro osafunikira. Kuonjezerapo, ichi ndi chizindikiro cha kuchuluka kwa maganizo pamtima. Choncho, chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kuchita ndikutulutsa. Lolani nokha kuthetsa mavuto.
Kodi mungatani?
Pali njira imodzi yogwira mtima - kuwonetsa mutu wa mutu umene umapweteka komanso kuyesera kupuma. Ndipo kupuma 10 kupyola mu malo awa ndi kuthamanga 10 kupyolera mu mphuno, kenako kutuluka 10 kupyolera mu utoto ndi 10 kupuma kudzera m'mphuno. Zosangalatsa, koma kwambiri ntchitoyi imathandiza kuthetsa ululu.
Chizungulire.
Ichi ndi chizindikiro cha matenda oopsa kwambiri. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mumataya nthawi ndi malo omwe mukukhala nawo. Ndipo mulibe mphamvu ndi kuzindikira kuti mungathetse bwanji vutoli kapena vutoli komanso kuti musunthirepo pazothetsa vutoli. Dziko lapansi limachoka pansi pa mapazi anu, ndipo mumataya zizindikiro zolimba.
Kodi mungatani?
Machiritso awa, amawoneka odwala kwambiri, nthawi zina ndi zophweka - khulupirirani nokha! Musalole kuti zinthu zisinthe maganizo anu ndi maganizo anu. Simukufuna kudzuka pa mapazi anu ndipo palibe alangizi ndi madokotala omwe angakuthandizeni. Kumbukirani - palibe vuto lomwe silingathetse.
Kusokonezeka maganizo.
Ndizoloŵera kwa ambiri komanso matenda ambiri. Pamtima mwa izo muli wosakhutira ndi moyo wanu, dongosolo la zinthu zokhazikitsidwa, zochitika zomwe zikukuzungulirani. Kupsinjika maganizo kumangowonjezera izi - simuli abwenzi ndi chiyembekezo ndipo pang'onopang'ono timayamba kuopa chilichonse. Nthawi zambiri, zonsezi zimayambitsidwa chifukwa chosowa kudalira nokha, mumasunthira udindo uliwonse ku moyo wa kunja, motero, ngati kuti simunatsutse zomwe zinachitika.
Kodi mungatani?
Kupeza chikhulupiriro mwa inu nokha ndi njira yokhayo. Kodi mungachite bwanji zimenezi? Tangoganizani zomwe munkafuna kuchokera kumoyo, ndipo kenako funsani - nchiyani chimandiletsa kuti ndipeze zomwe ndikufuna? Kumbukirani kuti kukhala ndi malingaliro akuti simungapeze zomwe mukufuna ndi njira yopweteka kwambiri komanso yoopsya yomwe ingatuluke kwambiri m'moyo wanu. Njira yotsatirayi ndi yachilendo kwa opaleshoni ya maganizo - kuona pang'onopang'ono zochitika zonse za moyo zomwe zachitika kwa inu mmoyo wanu wonse ndipo mwinamwake zinavulazani. Ndipo ganizirani momwe mungachitire zinthu izi, koma tsopano, muli ndi khama komanso kulimba mtima. Izi zimatanthawuza kusintha mbiri yakale.
Kutsekedwa.
Ali mwana, munthu aliyense amalimbikitsa makhalidwe ake, makhalidwe ake, omwe amatha kupyola mu moyo wake wonse. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi kofunikira ndi ana ali aang'ono kuti asamalire bwino. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwanayo amazoloŵera ukhondo kudzera mwachinyengo, kumukakamiza kuti asambe, ndiye kuti akhoza kupanga mtundu wina wa makhalidwe, omwe ali ndi zizindikiro zotsatirazi: zowonongeka, nkhanza, kulondola, kunyalanyaza kwakukulu komanso kulingalira mozama kwambiri. Dzilamulireni nokha ndi ena, omwe nthawi zina amapita mbali zonse. Ndi chikhalidwe ichi chomwe chingayambitse nthawi zonse kudzimbidwa mwa munthu.
Kodi mungatani?
Pofuna kuthana ndi kudzimbidwa, muyenera kutembenukira ku zomwe zimatchedwa kuwonetsera zamakono. Komabe zopusa ndi banal zikhoza kumveka, muyenera kulingalira njira ya defecation, momwe mimba yanu imatsuka, momwe kuchotsera kumayendera. Ndikofunika kubwereza mau ena nthawi zonse zomwe zingakuthandizeni kusintha matumbo: "Mimba yanga ndi excretory zimagwira ntchito bwino. Palibe chimene chimandivutitsa ine. Ndikukonda ndondomeko iyi. Nthawi zambiri ndimapita kuchimbudzi. " Chifukwa cha kudziphunzitsa nokha, posachedwapa mudzatha kuiwala za mavuto awa, ponena kuti panthawi yomwe yakupangitsani mavuto ndi mavuto.
Kulemera kwakukulu.
Kodi munganene chiyani za vuto la kulemera kwakukulu? Nthawi zambiri, mavuto ndi kulemera kwakukulu amabwera kuchokera kuoneka kwa kusakhutira kwa kugonana kwa munthu. Ngati munthu alibe kugonana kokwanira, ngati ali ndi kugonana kochepa komwe sikubweretsa chisangalalo ndi kukhutira, ndiye kuti, izi zikhoza kuchititsa kuti munthu akhale ndi mavuto olemera kwambiri. Chowonadi ndi chakuti pothandizidwa ndi chakudya munthu amayamba kubweza chifukwa cha kusowa kwachisangalalo cha kugonana kuchokera kwa kugonana, chomwe iye angakhoze kuchipeza. Chifukwa china cha mavuto ndi kuchepa kunenepa chingakhale chotsatira. Ndi chithandizo cha chakudya, mapaundi owonjezera, munthu amayesera kubisala kunja kwadziko, kubisa mkati mwake. Komanso, kupezeka kwa mazahist kumayambitsa kunenepa kwambiri. Pamene munthu atenga udindo wapadera pazochita za ena, pa miyoyo yawo, chifukwa cha mavuto awo. Kwa ichi ayenera kukhala ndi mphamvu kumbuyo ndikuyimira molimba pamapazi ake.
Kodi mungatani?
Zilibe kanthu kuti ndi chifukwa chiti chomwe chinakhala chinthu chachikulu mwakuti munali ndi mapaundi owonjezera, osati osati zosafunikira, koma zochuluka zowonjezera. Tsoka, palibe zakudya, kugwiritsira ntchito dongosolo la magetsi pano sikungathandize, komabe mapaundi owonjezera adzabwerera ndipo posachedwa, ngati maganizo a munthu, maganizo ake ndi maganizo ake sangasinthe. Chofunika kwambiri pa nkhaniyi chidzachita zotsatirazi: yesetsani kufufuza ndikudzifunsanso nokha kuti mukukumana ndi chiani, komanso kuti mukhale otani. Ndithudi, pali dongosolo, ngati iwe ukasankha ilo, ndiye iwe sungakhoze kutaya mapaundi owonjezera.
Coryza.
Coryza kawirikawiri amapezeka mwa anthu omwe moyo wawo umakhala wovuta nthawi zonse. Nthawi zonse amakhala mofulumira, koma nthawi zonse amakhala mochedwa, nthawi zonse amakhala otanganidwa ndi chinachake, otanganidwa, nthawi zonse mofulumira, kukangana. Mphuno yothamanga ndi chizindikiro cha kusokonezeka kwa thupi, ubongo, mutu. Pamene ntchentche ikuyenda nthawi zonse mumphuno, mphukira imatulutsidwa, izi, ndithudi, sizosangalatsa. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mphuno ndi chizindikiro cha kukhudzana kwanu ndi dziko lakunja. Kukhalapo kwa chimfine chimadziwonetsera mwachindunji kukhalapo kwa mavuto mwa munthu kunja. Zikumveka ngati izi: "Sindingaime mpweya wanu", womwe umatsimikiziridwa ndi mphuno yosatha.
Kodi mungatani?
Mphuno yothamanga ndi mtundu wotetezera thupi la munthu kuchoka kunja. Lekani, khalani pang'onopang'ono, ganizirani zomwe zili zofunika kwa inu, zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa inu. Pewani kufulumira kwa kayendetsedwe kanu, kuyang'ana pozungulira, kuganiza, osadzikakamiza nokha kupyolera mwamphamvu? Mwinamwake ife tiyenera kumasuka ndi kulola zinthu kuyenda paokha. Yang'anani mkati mwanu ndikuyesera kupeza zosowa zanu zenizeni, ngakhale zisagwirizane ndi malingaliro anu omwe mudalenga nokha. Pano pali matenda ena achikazi komanso momwe angachitire ndi chithandizo cha mutu.
Anorexia.
Magazini amakono, mawonedwe a mafashoni, televizioni imapereka atsikana aang'ono lero chithunzi cha khungu ndi zopweteka zoonda. Msungwana aliyense wachiwiri pa dziko lapansi ali otsimikiza kuti ali wolemera ndipo amafuna kutaya kulemera kwa zofuna za mtundu wake wokondeka, zomwe amangoziwombera mphepo. Kuchulukitsa kwambiri, monga kulemera kwakukulu, ndi koopsa kwa thanzi, kutaya thupi kumayambitsa zotsatira zosasinthika m'thupi. Chowonadi n'chakuti matenda a anorexia amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi ophunzira azimayi amene ali abwino kwambiri pamoyo wawo, omwe amayesetsa kuchita bwino m'mbali zonse za moyo wawo. Kawirikawiri zifukwa za matendawa zimakhala chikhumbo choopsa chosiyana ndi makolo awo, kusonyeza aliyense ndi chirichonse chomwe inu ndinu mbuye wa thupi lanu, moyo wanu, kuti mutha kuchita chirichonse. Komanso, chifukwa cha anorexia ndi chikhumbo cha atsikana aang'ono kutsimikizira kwa aliyense kuti ali abwino, kuti apambane. Mwa njira, chiwerewere chimatha kutsogolera kuti muyenera kutaya mwezi, kusokoneza ntchito ndi zotsatira zina zambiri. Mwatsoka, matenda a anorexia ndi matenda a mkazi. Kodi mungawachitire bwanji mothandizidwa ndi mutu?
Kodi mungatani?
Anorexia ali ndi magawo ake, koma ngati mtsikanayo akufika pa siteji yachitatu, yomwe yataya kale 30%, ndiye kuti adzayenera kupita kuchipatala, chifukwa sangathe kuthana ndi vutoli. Muzochitika zotero, ndibwino kuti musagwidwe, ndithudi. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mukudwala matenda a anorexia, ndi bwino kuti musabweretse kuntchito yovuta kwambiri, mutembenuzire kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo. Zidzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa zifukwa zomwe mukukankhidwira kuti mukhale ndi matenda a anorexia, katswiri wodziŵa bwino zakudya amathandiza kukupangani dongosolo loyenera la zakudya zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuthetsa mavuto ndi kusowa kwa kulemera. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti ndondomeko ya kukonzekera ichitike mwamsanga.
Kutuluka kwafupipafupi.
Monga momwe asayansi amasonyezera, nthawi zambiri fractures zimachitika mwa anthu omwe amatha kudzilanga okha chifukwa cha khalidwe loipa lomwe silikugwirizana ndi malingaliro awo. Ngati mwadzidzidzi muli ndi kudzimva pamaso pa munthu wina, ndiye kuti mumadziyesera kuti mudzipange nokha kupyola dzanja kapena mwendo.
Kodi mungatani?
Choyamba, ndikofunika kudziwa chifukwa chimene mumadzimvera chisoni. Yesetsani kupeza chifukwa chake mumadzimvera chisoni. Nthawi zambiri chilango chimatizunza kuyambira ubwana. Yesetsani kukumbukira, mungathe kupempha thandizo kwa wogwiritsira ntchito hypnotist, yemwe adzakutsogolerani muzithunzithunzi ndipo adzatha kupeza chifukwa chodzimvera chisoni. Ndikofunika kumvetsera mau anu amkati, kuti mumvetse zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti muchotse kulakwa kwanu. Chimodzi mwa matenda achikazi. Momwe mungawachitire ndi chithandizo cha mutu.
Kutsekula m'mimba.
Ndi vuto lodya monga kutsekula m'mimba, zotsatirazi zimachitika: chakudya sichimawongolera. Panthawi ya kudya, chakudya sichimawongolera, thupi silandira zakudya zofunikira komanso zimayang'ana zinthu. Kutsekula m'mimba ndi chizindikiro chosonyeza kuti munthu ali ndi chikhumbo chochita zinthu zina. Munthu ali ndi mantha omwe amadzipangira yekha kuti sangakwanitse kulimbana ndi chirichonse, amakhulupirira kuti sangathe kuthana ndi vutoli, kuti sangakwanitse, choncho akuyang'ana njira ina. Kukhalapo kwa kutsekula m'mimba ndi vuto lakumagazi ndi chifukwa chakuti munthu ali ndi vuto lodzidalira.
Kodi mungatani?
Pofuna kuchotsa vuto lotchedwa "kutsegula m'mimba", muyenera kudzigwira nokha. Choyamba, ndi bwino kugwiritsira ntchito vuto la kudzidalira. Yambani kuchitapo kanthu, musawope, kupambana kwanu konse, kupambana kulikonse kwa ntchito yanu kudzakuthandizani kulimbana ndi vuto la kusatetezeka. Nthawi zambiri muzinena nokha wothandizira, yonjezerani kudzidalira kwanu m'njira zambiri. Khalani otamandidwa nthawi zonse, kupeza nthawi zabwino mu khalidwe lanu. Yesetsani kulimbikitsa chidaliro m'njira iliyonse, izi zidzakuthandizani kuchotsa vuto ndi kutsekula m'mimba.
Kubwerera.
Kukhalapo kwa mavuto m'mbuyo mwa anthu kumasonyezanso kupezeka kwa mavuto ndi chisokonezo. Ndipo chisokonezo ichi chikhoza kudziwonetsera nokha m'mbali iliyonse ya moyo wanu, koma choyamba, izi zikuwonetsa kuti muli ndi kuthamanga kwa mkati kumene kuli kofunikira kuchotsa. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mungathe kudzipangira nokha nkhawa, zopanda pake zomwe zikukhudzana ndi moyo wanu. Kufuna kuchita zinthu mopitirira muyeso ndi oyandikana nawo kumabweretsa mavuto ndi msana wanu. Anthu oterewa amatsogoleredwa ndibwino, koma mtolo wovutawo umakhala wovuta kwa iwo.
Kodi mungatani?
Kuti muchotse mavuto omwe mumakumana nawo, muyenera kuchotsa malingaliro anu ozindikira kuti muyenera kukhala ndi moyo wotani, ponena za malingaliro olakwika omwe akukupatsani udindo waukulu. Kodi ndizofunika kuti mutenge mtolo wosalemetsa womwe umakugwetsani pansi, ndikubweretsa mavuto kumbuyo kwanu. Ikani okha ntchito zomwe mungathe kuzigwira, chisankho chomwe chimakupatsani chisangalalo chenicheni ndi kukhutira, ndipo sikukukozani ndi kusakhutira kwanu.
Nsomba, kusanza.
Vuto la m'mimba, lomwe limabweretsa kusokoneza kapena kusanza, likuyimira kuchotsa ubongo wanu kuchitika zochitika, izi zikuwonetseratu ndi chikhumbo cholimba kuti musagwirizane ndi kukumba mkhalidwewo. Kaŵirikaŵiri munthu amatha kuzindikira mosakanizika kusinkhasinkha kapena kusungunuka pamene akufika pazochitika zilizonse kapena amayesera kuthana ndi mavuto omwe ali nawo amwano. Kawirikawiri mavuto amenewa amabwera kwa amayi oyembekezera.
Kodi mungatani?
Poyambirira ndi kofunikira kufotokozera kapena kutsimikiziridwa ndi vuto lomwe mumalimbikitsira kwambiri, lingaliro lomwe limakupangitsani inu kunyansidwa kwakukulu. Yesetsani kuthetsa vutoli mwakutumizira vuto kwa munthu wina. Mwinamwake chifukwa chake ndi chakuti simukudzipukuta nokha, fufuzani chifukwa ndikuchotsa, ndiye kuti mudzataya mtima ndi kusanza.
Zikodzo.
Zikodzo, monga matenda ena a khungu, ndi chizindikiro chakuti muli ndi mavuto ndi kuyankhulana, mavuto ndi kuyanjana kunja ndi dziko lakunja, kufunitsitsa kuteteza kulankhulana, kubisala kumbuyo kwa khungu. Mavuto oterewa akuimira kudzipatula, chinsinsi, kukana. Kupezeka kwa mitu yakuda kumasonyeza kuti munthu ali ndi kukhudzidwa kwakukulu kwa zikhumbo zake, kukhalapo wosakhutira ndi moyo wake. Koma, chomwe chimatsutsidwa kwambiri ndi munthu akadatulukamo. Kawirikawiri, chifukwa cha ziphuphu zimakhala zovuta, kuthetsa kwake, kusafuna kuchokapo.
Mmene mungachitire.
Pofuna kuchotsa ziphuphu ndi mavuto ena a khungu, muyenera kuchita ntchito yeniyeni mkati mwanu. Yambani kuchita nthawi zonse kudziwuza nokha kuti muli ndi mphamvu yothetsera mavuto onse, kuti mumakhala nawo pamodzi komanso mutseguka, kuti simukuopa anzanu atsopano. Kawirikawiri pitani kumalo atsopano, yambani anzanu atsopano, kuyankhulana. Musawope kuchita mogwirizana ndi zikhumbo zanu, musawope kufotokoza malingaliro anu, kukhala olimba mtima. Matenda achikazi, momwe angachitire ndi chithandizo cha mutu.
Firiji.
Pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimawombera akazi. Popeza mtsikanayo ali mwana akadakalimbikitsa msungwana kuti kugonana kumakhala kosasokoneza, kosayenera komanso koipa, kumathera ndi mfundo yakuti kugonana koyamba sikunapambane, kumapweteka kapena mnzanuyo anali osamvetsetseka. Wothandizana naye, chimfine chake, mavuto amkati, kupezeka kwa zovuta za kudzikayikira, ndi zina zambiri zingayambitse chiwombankhanga.
Kodi mungatani?
Pofuna kuthetseratu kutentha, muyenera kufufuza chifukwa chake zinawoneka, kuzifufuza, kuvumbulutsa nthawi yomwe zinayambira, yesetsani kufotokoza zolinga za khalidwe lanu, ngati simungathe kudzisamalira nokha, funsani thandizo la katswiri wodziwa kugonana. Kugonjetsa mantha anu ndi kusatetezeka, ndipo mudzapeza dziko latsopano losangalatsa la kugonana.
Ulonda.
Chilonda ndi chizindikiro cha nkhanza zomwe zimadziwonekera. Ululu kaŵirikaŵiri umachitika mwa anthu omwe akufuna kudzipha okha kuchokera mwa iwo eni. Chiwawa chawo sichipeza njira yotulukira, chimapita mkati. Munthu amene ali ndi zilonda, mwinamwake, sakudziwa momwe angafotokozere mkwiyo wake.
Kodi mungatani?
Kuti muchotse chilonda, muyenera kuyang'ana mkhalidwe mosiyana. Pezani zifukwa zowonongeka ndi chifukwa chake simungathe kuzitsanulira, koma zitsogolereni mkati. Nchifukwa chiyani muli ndi phokoso la mkwiyo? Mu nthawi ziti za moyo wanu mumayesa kuwaletsa ndikuwapititsa nokha? Pezani chifukwa cha vuto lamkati, yesetsani kuthetsa mavuto mosiyana. Kusinkhasinkha kudzakuthandizani pa izi.