Mukakumbukira ndemanga zonse, kudandaula ndi kuitanitsa zomwe zimamveka ku adiresi ya mwanayo tsiku limodzi, ndiye kuti mudzazindikira mosadabwitsa kuti gawo la mkango ligwa molondola pa nkhani ya ukhondo ndi kuyeretsa. Ndipo onse "ngati khoma la nandolo,", ana athu safuna kumvetsa kufunikira kwa njirayi. Ichi ndi chiani? Ulesi, pofigizm, chidaliro chakuti wina angawachitire? Kapena kodi ife, akuluakulu, tikuchita chinachake cholakwika pano?
Ndipotu, kufunikira kuyang'ana kuzungulira chipinda choyera, choyeretsedwa chimapezeka mwa ana m'malo mochedwa. Kwenikweni, panthawi ino iwo sali ana komanso osakhala achichepere. Chikhumbo chobwezeretsa dongosolo mwa njira yachilengedwe kawirikawiri chimapangidwa pambuyo paunyamata, ndipo nthawi zambiri pokhapokha ngati munthu ayamba banja lake ndi kumanga nyumba yake. Pamene mwanayo amakhala m'madera a akulu ndipo, kaya timakonda kapena ayi - amatenga malo apansi, samadziyankhira yekha. Ndipo izi ndi zachilendo. Inde, aliyense wa ife angakumbukire zitsanzo zingapo za moyo wa abwenzi ndi mabwenzi, omwe mabanja awo amakhala ana abwino, kunyada kwa makolo komanso nsanje za ena. Koma izi ndizosiyana ndi malamulo. Ana awa kuyambira ali aang'ono amakonda kuika chirichonse pamalo awo ndi kubwezeretsanso dongosolo osati maphunziro abwino, koma chifukwa cha khalidwe lomwelo. Izi, monga lamulo, zing'onozing'ono zapamwamba ndi kutchulidwa phlegmatic chikhalidwe.
Gawo lomalizira la ndalama ndi mantha a kuphwanya kulikonse kwa zochitika, kupotoka kwa malamulo ndi kusowa kwa nthawi yomweyo mu khalidwe, kusowa chochita ndi kusakwanitsa kusewera ndi masewera. Ana omwe ali achangu ndi okondwerera kusewera sangathe, atachoka pamasewerowa, akubwerera ku zosautsa tsiku ndi tsiku, kotero zidole zimatsalira kumene anatsala.
Kotero, makolo okondedwa, kumbukirani: kusakhutira kubwezeretsa dongosolo ndi zaka zambiri, pamene kupezeka kwa luso limeneli ndibwino kwambiri musanayambe "kuthamangira" ana anu chifukwa chosadziwika komanso kufuna kutembenuza chirichonse kukhala chisokonezo. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti maloto oti aphunzitse mwana wanu kulamula ayenera kuiwala mpaka nthawi yabwino. Cholinga chanu choleredwera kumbali iyi chidzamveka mosiyana: kodi makolo angasankhe okha moyo wawo, ndipo ngati ndi choncho, motani? Ndithudi, iwo akhoza. Ndipo m'pofunika kuyamba, makamaka, oyambirira - kale ndi zaka 2-3. Pokhapokha pazifukwazi nkofunikira kukumbukira, choyamba, zomwe zanenedwa pamwambapa, ndipo kachiwiri, kuti tizitsatira malamulo angapo, omwe tikambirana nawo pansipa.
Muzilamulira chimodzi
Monga momwe mwamvera kale, mwanayo alibe kusiyana pakati pa malo oyera komanso osadziwika. Choncho, pogwiritsa ntchito mawu monga "Onani momwe mulili wonyansa m'chipinda! Sitiyenera kukhala! "Ndi zopanda phindu. Mwana ali ndi zaka 2-4 ngati amavomereza kuchita chinthu "chachikulu", ndiye "kugula" pokhapokha kuti "akugule" payekha kuti akutsanzireni ndi kufunikira kovomerezeka kwanu, kufuna kukhala wamkulu. Izi ndi zomwe muyenera kudalira pa chikhumbo chanu cholera molondola za mwanayo. Ziyenera kukhala masewera, kutsanzira zochita zanu zazikulu, ndi zochita zomwe munagawana nazo. Sambani pansi amayi anga - ngakhale mwanayo atanyamula chikwama pansi, asambe mbale za agogo ake - amupatse kanthu kena, ngakhale akufuna kwambiri. Zitetezo za abambo - lolani mwanayo agwire chophimba choyeretsa pambali pa manja akulu a abambo. Kapena aloleni asiye batani kuti atseke chotsuka chotsuka - izi ndizo zokondweretsa kwambiri m'badwo uwu. Muike mwanayo pafupi ndi iye ndikuwonetseni zomwe mungachite (njira yaikulu yophunzitsira m'badwo uwu ikutsanzira). Chitsanzo chaumwini ndi chogwira mtima kwambiri kuposa nkhani zambiri zowonjezera za "zabwino ndi zoipa". Koma pali imodzi yaing'ono "koma". Kuzoloŵera maluso aliwonse amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi mamembala ena a m'banja. Ngati nyumbayo ikuyendetsedweratu, mwanayo mwachibadwa adzakopeka ndi msinkhu umenewu. Komabe, ngati "matenda" ogwira ntchito m'nyumba mwanu ndi nkhani yamba, ndipo pansi pake amasambitsidwa nthawi zina, ndiye kuti sizonyenga kuitana mwana kuti alamulire: iye amangochita zokhazokha zomwe "akuwona".
Lamulo lachiwiri
Ngati n'kotheka, ndi bwino kuchepetsa gawo limene mwanayo amaloledwa kusewera: osati kakhitchini, bafa, chipinda cha makolo, zipinda zawo za ntchito. Wina aliyense m'banja ayenera kukhala ndi gawo lake, ndipo mwanayo - kuphatikizapo. Kuwonjezera apo, dera limene muyenera kukhala nalo kuti mupeze zisudzo, lidzachepa.
Lamulo Lachitatu
Kuyeretsa sikuyenera kusokoneza maseŵero a mwanayo kapena kuwaletsa kuti apitirize. Kwa ife ndimasewera chabe, komanso kwa mwana - ntchito yofunika kwambiri pamoyo, yambani izi ndi ulemu. Ngati atasiya nyumba yosadulidwa ya cubes pansi, sikulakwa kuchotsa - izi zikutanthauza kusokoneza njira yolenga, yomwe simungayambirenso. Sikoyenera kuyamba ntchito kuzungulira nyumba, ngati mwanayo ali ndi alendo, kapena akuchotsapo ntchito ina yosangalatsa. Pachifukwa ichi, kuyeretsa kudzakhala ndi maganizo oipa, omwe sangathe kukuthandizani komanso mwanayo.
Ngati mwasamba m'nyumba yosungirako ana, ndibwino kuti musachite zimenezi popanda mwana kapena ayi. Zili zoonekeratu kuti zopereka zake zidzakhalabe zazing'ono ndipo zidzafanana ndi kuyesayesa zonse. Lembani izi: Ntchito yovomerezeka pano ndi yofunika kwambiri, mwana sayenera kukhala ndi maganizo akuti wina adzakwaniritsa ntchito zake. Ndipo musamukakamize iye, amayesera momwe angathere. Ayi, mobwerezabwereza - nthawi zonse momwe zingathere, tamandani mthandizi wamng'ono pa zinthu zilizonse zazing'ono poyeretsa. Ngakhale atangotenga thumba la toyese, malinga ngati muwaika pamenepo kapena kupeza chinachake chimene chikugudubuza pansi pa kama, chomwe chimakhala chovuta kwa munthu wamkulu kuti apeze. Ndipo onetsetsani kuti mumamuuza mwanayo kuti popanda iye simunamvere.
Zingakhale bwino kukonza milandu imodzi kapena zingapo kwa mwanayo, zomwe amachita yekha m'banja. Lolani kukhala mtundu umodzi wa duwa umene uyenera kuthiriridwa nthawi zonse, kapena salifu m'chipinda chimene mwana wamng'ono yekha wapatsidwa kuti apukutse fumbi. Ichi ndi sitepe yofunikira kwambiri. Mwanayo amayamba kumverera kuti ndi "wamkulu" pa nkhani yovuta ya kukhalabe aukhondo, amayamba kuganiza kuti pali zinthu zomwe zimafunikira kuchita nthawi zonse.
Ndipo, potsiriza, nsonga yotsiriza: musati mulindikire zotsatira mwamsanga, musadalire zotsatira zofulumira pophunzitsa kulondola kwa mwana wamng'onoyo. Chidziwitso cha nkhani yofunika ndi yovuta ndi mwina, zimveka ngati "Dikirani yankho". Ndipo ngati zonse zikuchitidwa molondola, ndiye kuti mutha kupeza "yankho".