Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti sizovuta kukhala chidakwa, chifukwa mumayenera kumwa mowa, kuponyera moyo ndi zina zambiri. Zimakhulupirira kuti uchidakwa ndi matenda a chikhalidwe cha anthu ndipo ukhoza kuchitika chifukwa cha kusagwedezeka kwaumwini, kupanikizika nthawi zonse kapena kusowa ntchito. Koma izi siziri choncho. Nanga n'chifukwa chiyani matendawa amatchedwa "chikhalidwe"? Ndipo onse chifukwa cha mphamvu, nthawi zambiri amacheza ndi abwenzi omwe akhala akuchita izi nthawi yaitali.
Ndipo apa tikukumbukiranso mawu akuti "chidakhwa". Zimakhala bwanji? Ngati wina wodutsa akufunsa kuti: "Kodi mukuganiza bwanji kuti ndi chidakwa? "Ndiye, popanda kuganiza kawiri, tidzauzidwa kuti munthu uyu si munthu wokonzekera bwino, ndi manja akunjenjemera, ndi zotentha kuchokera pakamwa, zovala zobvala, ndi zina zotero.
"Nanga bwanji? "- iwe ukuganiza, ndipo pambuyo pake, ndipo moyenerera kuchita, chifukwa iwe umaimira izo ndendende. Koma dikirani, bwanji uyu ndi mwamuna? Ndipotu mawu akuti "chidakwa" amanena osati za mwamuna koma za mkazi. Inde, inde. Simukulakwitsa. Ndi za mkazi. M'nthaŵi yathu ino, lingaliro loti "Woledzera" ndilofala. Ndipo, izo zikuwoneka, apa apa? Koma si zophweka. Ndipo tiyeni tsopano tiwononge zinthu pang'ono, bwanji munthu woledzera sakuwopa ngati mkazi woledzeretsa.
Poyamba, mwamuna ndi kugonana kolimba, ayenera kupirira zonse ndi kulikonse, koma tisamaname, mowa iwo alibe chidwi. Ngati anthu ali ndi chizoloŵezi chotere kwa iye, ndiye tinganene chiyani za mkazi, chifukwa mkazi ndi wofooka. Adzayamba ndi mowa, chabwino, ndiye ... mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso zinthu zina zomwe zimayambitsa kuledzera. Ndipo izi ziyenera kumenyedwa.
Azimayi amatha kumwa mowa kwambiri kuposa amuna. Azimayi amadziwika ndi kuchepa kwa nzeru, kupeza chikhalidwe cha umunthu, ndi zina zambiri, zomwe zimabweretsa mwamsanga ntchito. Pambuyo pake, amasinthana ndi ntchito zapamwamba ndipo pamapeto pake, asiye ntchito zawo zonse.
"Kodi mungasiye bwanji kumwa mowa? "- Funso limeneli limadandaula amuna ambiri omwe samamwa mowa komanso amawonera akazi awo ataledzera. Kuleka kumwa kwa mkazi kumachitika mosavuta, ndipo n'kovuta. Ndipo zimadalira, choyamba pa chikhalidwe cha mkazi, pa mphamvu yake. Izi ndi zifukwa zikuluzikulu ziwiri, komabe pali chiwerengero chachikulu. Tiye tiwone tsopano, ndiyani mkazi amene ali kosavuta kusiya kumwa.
Ngati mkazi ali ndi mwana ndi mwamuna, ndiye izi zimalimbikitsanso kusiya kumwa mowa. Dokotala wodalirika akhoza, mu gawo limodzi, amamukonda kumwa mowa. Kuti muchite izi, ndi zokwanira kulankhula naye mwakachetechete, kufotokozera zomwe zimamudula kwambiri. Ngakhale kwa mkazi aliyense zimagwira ntchito m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Mmodzi amadziwa mwamsanga zonse, ndipo winayo sagwirizana nawe. Choncho, poyamba, ndibwino kumufunsa chomwe chili chofunika kwambiri kwa iye? Padzakhala ntchito ya chibadwa cha amayi, chomwe chidzamuwonetse iye njira yoyenera. Nthawi zambiri, njira iyi imagwira ntchito. Koma ziwerengero zimasonyeza kuti amayi akumwa si ambiri, omwe amatsimikiziranso kuti chibadwa cha amayi chimadzimva. Ngakhale mtsikanayo atakhala ndi pathupi panthawi yaledzera, ndipo tsopano amadalira, m'mabuku 90%, chifukwa cha mwanayo, amasiya kumwa. Choncho, kusiya kumwa mwanjira imeneyi sikuli kovuta, basi mkazi ayenera kukwatira ndi kukhala ndi mwana.
Tiyeni tipitirire pansi pa unyolo. Tengani mkazi yemwe ali ndi mwamuna yekha. Zonse zimadalira, makamaka, kwa mwamuna wake, chifukwa ayenera kutsogolera mkazi wake njira yeniyeni. Mwamuna wanga ali ndi maulendo angapo, koma si onse omwe amamukonda. Koma musanalankhule za iwo, muyenera kukambirana funso lofunika limene mkazi wokondedwa angafunse: "Kodi ndikufunikira zonsezi? ". Ngati ndinu munthu, ndiye kuti mukuganiza kuti simungadzifunse funso ngatilo m'moyo mwanu, ndipo, ndithudi, lidzakuthandizani wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse. Koma izi ndi zolakwika chabe. Mwamuna nthawi yomweyo adzatayika, pambuyo pa zonse zomwe iye sakudziwa, momwe iye angachitire. Mutu wake adzakhala ndi mayankho awiri pafunso ili: kumuponya, kumuthandiza. Pa yankho loyambirira, palibe kanthu koti lingaganize, iye angangozisiya. Adzapempha kuti athetse banja. Ndi njirayi, chirichonse chikuwonekera, ngati chachiwiri, ndiye pali zambiri zoti muzinene.
Poyamba, mwamuna amayesera kubisa zakumwa zonse zakumwa zoledzeretsa kuchokera kwa mkazi wake, kumusunga m'nyumba popanda ndalama. Koma akazi si anthu opusa. Adzakhalanso komwe angapeze mowa. Tsiku lina munthu akhoza kubwerera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito ndikupeza momwe mkazi wake akumalizira. Pambuyo pake, ndithudi, munthuyo sadzakhala ndi moyo, ndipo ... kachiwiri ife tibwerera ku chiyambi. Adzakhala ndi mafunso awiri. Yoyamba idakali yofanana, koma yachiwiri ndikumutengera kuchipatala, komwe angathandizidwe. Ndipo izi zidzakhala njira yabwino koposa, popeza chipatala chimagwiritsa ntchito madokotala odziwa bwino ntchito yawo. Koma zimadalirabe kusankha kliniki. Sankhani kliniki yabwino, yamtengo wapatali, komwe amachiza odwala bwino, kapena ngati mkazi angatuluke ndi matenda a maganizo, kudana ndi dziko komanso "zotsatira zina".
Chabwino, tiyeni tipitirire pansi pa masitepe. Pano tikutembenukira kwa atsikana aang'ono omwe amamwa nthawi zambiri. Chotsatira chake, kusiya kumwa mkazi uyu kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Anthu okha omwe amakhala pafupi ndi iye angamuthandize, ndipo pansi pa mawu akuti "pafupi" pali achibale okhazikika mmalingaliro, chifukwa, nthawi zambiri, munthu woteroyo akadakali mnyamata wosadziŵa kwenikweni kanthu kalikonse pamoyo, nthawi yomweyo amaponya chidakwa chimene sichifunikira kwa iye.
Kawirikawiri pali atsikana amene anamwalira ali mwana, amayamba kumwa mowa, kuyenda, kumangirira ... Azimayiwa amasiya kumwa mowa kwambiri. Mwiniwake, mtsikana woteroyo, sapita ku chipatala, mwina alibe chibwenzi / mwamuna, choncho palibe pafupifupi aliyense womuthandiza. Pali chiyembekezo chimodzi chokha chotsalira - abwenzi omwe nthawi zonse amakhala osangalala.
Tinakambirana mfundo zazikulu za momwe mungalekerere amayi akumwa. Simunapeze njira zazikuluzikulu pano, koma tsopano mumamvetsetsa mtundu wa amayi ndi momwe zimakhalire zovuta kuti musamamwe kuchokera ku zakumwa. Koma ndibwino kuti atsikana asamamwe. Pambuyo pake, ngati mkazi ali ndi mwana, adzachita manyazi ndi amayi ake, ndipo m'tsogolomu kuthekera kwake kuti amubwereza "zovuta" ndi zabwino.