Koma ngati mumakonda kwambiri mwamuna wanu, ndiye kuti mungagwiritse ntchito malangizo othandiza kuchokera kumbali ina: iwo adzakhala chitsimikiziro kuti asakwiyitse kumverera kwa munthu wokondedwa.
Mwamuna wanu nthawizonse amalonjeza chinachake kwa inu, koma samasunga mawu ake. Pa nthawi yomweyo, nthawi zonse, zimapeza kufotokozera kwakukulu, nthawi zina zimakhala zopanda pake. Pafunso lanu lopambana, mwachitsanzo "mwandichitira chinyengo?", Iye amachititsa nkhope yosadabwitsa ndi yokhumudwitsidwa. Mwachibadwa, mumamvetsa kuti akunama kwa inu.
Kunama kumakhala pafupifupi munthu aliyense. Nthawi zonse mungathe kubodza bodza. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti mawu oti "Sindikukhulupirirani" amakhudza kwambiri zachabechabe za munthu. Pambuyo pake, palibe umboni wa kulakwa kwake, ndipo sangathe kufanana ndi lingaliro lakuti samangokhulupirira basi.
Malangizo oyamba omwe angakhumudwitse munthu wokondedwa ndikuyamba kukayikira kukhulupirika kwake kwa inu.
Malangizo achiwiri othandizira angakhalepo chifukwa cha kusowa kwa kugonana. Zowonjezereka, kugonana kumatayika kumoyo wanu wapamtima mogwirizana ndi chikhumbo chanu. Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti kukwiyitsa mwamuna wanu wokondedwa, kumuuza kuti mwakhumudwa ndipo simungagonepo lero - zochita masewera olimbitsa thupi.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amachenjeza kuti simuyenera kunyamula zolakwa zanu kuti mugone. Koma, ngati muli otsimikiza kuti munthu wanu akuyenera kukhala ndi maganizo oipa kwambiri, ndiye kuti mukhale ozizira kukhudza kwake ndi zochitika zina zogonana. Ndipo mawu oti "musandichititse manyazi" ndi abwino kwambiri pamphamvu yochuluka yopanda pake.
Aliyense adziwa kwa nthawi yaitali kuti abwenzi ake ndi opatulika. Mukayamba kunyoza abwenzi ake, nthawi yomweyo amamasulira mawu anu onse ku akaunti yanu. Komanso, pamkhalidwe umenewu, maganizo awiri akukumana ndi mutu wake: kuteteza abwenzi ake kapena kukuthandizani. Monga lamulo, amuna amasankha njira yoyamba. Pambuyo pake, awa ndi abwenzi ake, ndipo iwo, priori, sangakhale oipa.
Malangizo achinayi omwe angakhumudwitse munthu wokondedwa ndikumufunsa kuti akhoza kuyendetsa galimoto. Ngakhale mwamuna wanu sakudziwa malamulo a pamsewu, koma adapeza ufulu wa zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zitatu - ali ndi chidaliro chakuti ali katswiri pa bizinesi yake (Schumacher, m'mawu). Choncho, kukwiyitsa munthu wokondedwayo, mudziwe kuti simumagawana maganizo ake.
Atsikana ndizilombo zonyansa koma zokongola. Kwa iwo malingaliro a ena ndi ofunika nthawi zonse, ndizofunikira makamaka momwe angachitire ndichinyamata mdera. Msungwana nthawi zonse amatsatira khalidwe la mwamuna wake wokondedwa: momwe amachitira, momwe amavalira komanso momwe amachitira. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mnyamatayo asagwe mumatope ndi nkhope yake (koma, malingaliro a mtsikana mwiniyo) ndipo sanamupangitse manyazi pamaso pa osadziŵa.
Amuna amakhumudwa akamawongolera nthawi zonse ndikuchita manyazi ndi khalidwe lawo.
Mungathe kukwiyitsa munthu wokondedwa wanu pomuuza zinthu zotsatirazi: Sindinzeru kwa inu; mumandichititsa manyazi. Koma, atsikana, kumbukirani kuti posangika maganizo anu pamutu mwanu, mungathe kunena kuti chibwenzi chanu sichitha. Sizingatheke kuti mwamuna akufuna kugwirizanitsa tsogolo lake ndi mtsikana yemwe amamuona kuti ndi wolephera.
Atsikana nthaŵi zonse sasamalidwa ndi amuna awo. Mkazi aliyense amafuna kuti amve wokondedwa, ndikufuna kutenga chibwenzi ndi mphatso. Koma, mwatsoka, anthu samabwera nthawi zonse kuti maganizo onsewa ndi ofunika kwambiri mu chiyanjano.
Amayi nthawi zambiri sadziwa bwinobwino zomwe munthu wapereka ku chiyanjano. Mfundo yakuti anakubweretsani maluwa, yophika, adasiya bizinesi yake kuti ikuthandizeni - chifukwa ndinu achilengedwe. Mwamunayo amaganiza kuti ali ndi inu. Ndipo zikuonekeratu kuti pambuyo pa ntchito iliyonse yamphamvu, iye akufuna kumva tamamando kapena mawu amodzi. Ndipo chiyani pamapeto? Simukusangalala nthawi zonse ndikumuuza kuti simusamala kwambiri.
Ngati simukufuna kukwiyitsa wokondedwa wanu, limbikitsani zochita zanu kuti mukhale osangalala. Ndiye, inu nokha simudzazindikira m'mene adzakuwonetserani chidwi kwambiri.
Chinthu chinanso cha momwe mungakwiyitse munthu wokondedwa ndikupitiriza kutsindika zolakwitsa zake ndikusowa. Amuna, mwa chikhalidwe chawo, samafuna kuvomereza zolakwitsa. Ndipo pamene iwo atengedwa mmwamba mwa munthu wapafupi kwambiri ndi wokondedwa - msungwana wokondedwa - izi sizosangalatsa muwiri.
Chinthu chinanso: nthawi zonse muzidzudzula zomwe mwagula komanso zomwe munakwaniritsa. Tangoganizani: mwamuna wanu amatha mwezi umodzi akuyendayenda akuwonetsa galimoto yake yokha yachitsulo. Ndiyeno ora limenelo linabwera - adagula galimoto kuti agwiritse ntchito. Chimwemwe ndi chimwemwe choposa mtima wake. Mfundo zanu zokhazokha zingathe kuwononga khalidwe lake. Payekha, mukuganiza kuti galimotoyi siyothandiza, kuti igulidwe yotsika mtengo.
Kuwerengera zotsatira pa mutu wathu: "Malangizo othandiza omwe angakhumudwitse munthu wokondedwayo", ndi bwino kudziwa kuti aliyense wa ife ali ndi zovuta. Amuna ndi anthu omwewo, ndi malingaliro awo ndi malingaliro awo.
Musanayambe kugwiritsa ntchito malangizo athu, ganizirani: kodi mukufuna? Kodi ndizofunika kwachabechabe, kukhumudwitsa munthu wokondedwa kwambiri ndikuwononga maubwenzi?