Ndipo ndi chiyani kwenikweni chomwe chingachitike chonga ichi? Mwamuna watsopanoyo anayesera kwambiri kuthandiza mkazi wake ndi kusamba mbale, osasunthika, ndipo, nthawi zina, zimawoneka ngakhale atasambitsa masokosi ake omwe. Ndipo mkaziyo anakondweretsa mwamuna wake ndi chinachake chokoma, kuyeretsa chirichonse kuti chiwale, kutulutsa zovala zake. Kodi changu chawo chinapita kuti? Mwinamwake iwo adzizoloweretsana wina ndi mzake ndipo sawonanso kufunikira kochitira zinthu zabwino wina ndi mzake, kuti azikondana wina ndi mzake? Nchifukwa chiyani chimatsimikizira chirichonse? Aliyense ali ndi mavuto awo, kotero kuti kamodzi atathandizana wina ndi mzake.
Pamene munthu ayamba kudziganizira yekha, ndiye kuti mumaganizira zomwe munthuyo akuchita. Ndichocho chinthucho, mu banja palibe yemwe amafunikira kanthu kwa wina aliyense. Pa dziko lapansili, palibe amene amabadwa kuti akanthe pansi, sitsulo malaya ndipo samachoka ku chitofu kwa masiku. Ndipo pamene muzindikira kuti ndiyamikiridwa ndi kulemekezedwa, pokhapokha palinso chikhumbo cha zochitazi. Ambiri samvetsa chifukwa chake munthu amafunika kutamanda ndi kuyamikira zomwe amachita. Koma, ngati mumaganizira za funsoli, zimakhala zomveka kuti ndibwino kuti munthu aliyense achite chilichonse ngati wina atamutamanda ndikumulimbikitsa.
Zimakwiyitsa kwambiri akamagwira ntchito yoyenera komanso nthawi imene okwatirana amapatsana. Ndipotu, mumangokhala mawu okoma, ndipo nthawi zambiri simukugwirizana ndi zimenezo, koma mosiyana ndi zimenezi, mumanyozedwa pazinthu zomwe simunachite. Aliyense amadziwa kuti mumazoloŵera zinthu zabwino mofulumira. Ndiye ntchito yanu yonse ndi zoyesayesa zanyalanyazidwa, komanso, chiyanjanocho chachepetsedwa kukhala osakhutitsidwa, kunyozedwa ndi zonyansa. Kodi ndizovuta kwambiri kwa mwamuna, asananyoze mkazi wake pazinthu zomwe sizinachite, sakudziwa chifukwa chake? Mwinamwake akusowa thandizo? Mwinamwake iye anali atatopa ndi zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku, zomwe ziribe mathero ndi mapeto. Iye ali wamoyo, alibe betri yomwe ingasinthidwe kuyambira kalekale kupita kwatsopano.
Sitikuyankhula kuti ntchito ya amayi iyenera kuchotsedwa pa mapewa ake ndikukuitanani kuti muwonetse bwino ntchito za mwamuna wake ndi kusinthana wina ndi mzake. Ndikufuna kunena kuti akazi amafunikira kumvetsetsa ndi kulemekezedwa ndi anthu.
Chidwi chachikazi mu malo apakhomo chimatayika makamaka chifukwa mwamunayo sakutha kumuthokoza chifukwa cha ntchito kapena zochita zomwe akuchitira. Kaya ndi chakudya chophika kapena kukwaniritsa pempho, tengerani madzi. Amuna amatenga zinthu zonse mopepuka, ndipo amayamba kufunafuna kugona ndi zidzudzu ndi zolakwika. Nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta. Ndiye mwamuna ayamba kulemba za "Chifukwa chiyani ndinakwatira", kapena "Simunali mayi"? Zimangotonza, chifukwa zikutanthauza kuti mwamuna wanu adatenga lingaliro la "mkazi" ndi "woyang'anira nyumba." Koma ndi zophweka kuti mufunse mafunso, ndipo kenako nenani kuti "zikomo." Ndipo mkazi woyandikana nawe adzakupalasa ngati butterfly.
Ukwati sichiphatikiza mgwirizano wa "amuna" ndi "amayi", koma mgwirizano wa mwamuna ndi mkazi, omwe ali okondana wina ndi mnzake ndipo amasangalala ndi moyo wa banja. Mwachibadwa, sangathe kuthaŵa mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku, koma funso ndilo momwe angathetsere. Anthu ena amatha kuvomereza kuti ndi ndani yemwe ali ndi udindo pa zomwe. Mungathe kupanga lamulo lina la banja, pansi pa mutu wakuti: "Mwamuna ndi mkazi: zithandizana wina ndi mnzake."
Ngati munthu ali wokonda kapena wokonda, ndiye kuti, kuchokera kumaganizo ndi zozizwitsa zimene zimamupweteka, poyamba amachita zambiri kwa wokondedwa kuposa momwe angathere nthawi zonse. Ngati munthuyo ndi wodalirika, nthawi yomweyo amaika madontho onse pa "ndi", ndipo amakufotokozerani kuti inu, ndiye kuti mudzachita ndiye, ndiye kuti inu. Komabe, Altruists, amatha kutsitsa pafupifupi chirichonse pa mapewa awo, chifukwa amaganiza kuti ayenera kapena ayenera kuchita zonsezi. Ndipo kawirikawiri, izo sizolemetsa kwa iwo. Koma munthu wa khalidwe lachidziwitso adzalamulira ndi kuyendetsa njira zonse. Maganizo ake saganizidwe, monga adanena (-a), kotero, sikudzakhalanso njira ina iliyonse. The introvert adzayamba kudziunjikira wokha kukhala wosakhutitsidwa, kuti chirichonse sichinafanane ndi maloto. Ndipo extroverts adzasokoneza maganizo awo akunja, kusonyeza kusakondwera kwawo chifukwa cha mikangano.
Ndikofunika kuti banja lisalole mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku kuti adye nthawi zonse zabwino ndi zabwino zomwe zinali pachiyambi cha chiyanjano. Mmodzi ayenera kusunga chidwi chofunikira, chiyembekezo, zina zothamanga, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo palibe chofunikira kuti muzitha kuthamanga mopitirira malire. Ndipotu, ngati mmodzi mwa okwatirana nthawi zonse amasonyeza kuti sakufuna, ndiye winayo alibe chochita koma kugwiritsa ntchito. Muzinthu zonse muyenera kudziwa chiyeso ndi kulemekezana.
M'banjamo nkofunika kuyesa kusunga chisangalalo ndi chikondi mu ubale. Ndipotu, pamene mkazi nthawi zonse amadandaula, amakhumudwa ndipo amawona mwamuna wake komanso popanda iye, amakhala ngati mwala pamutu pake. Mofanana ndi mwamuna yemwe amadandaula za zochitika zake zokha, amasamala ndipo samamuzindikira iye ndi mkazi wake ndi zomwe akuchita pa moyo wawo palimodzi. Mwamwayi, sitinaphunzitsidwe kusukulu kapena ku yununivesite momwe tingakhalire bwino maubwenzi a banja, kuthetsa mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku kapena momwe tingakhalire moyo wabwino m'maganizo kunyumba. Ndipo, pamene ife sitinaphunzitsidwe izi, aliyense amayesera kuchita chomwe chagwira, osaganiza za zotsatira zake.
Ndi zofunikira ziti zomwe zimayenera kuthandizidwa kuthetsa mikangano yomwe ikupezeka m'banja lanu? Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati simukukhutira ndi kugawira ntchito panyumba? Tiyeni tiwone zitsanzo za maubwenzi apakhomo m'banja ndipo yesetsani kupeza yankho la funso limene limakufunirani.
Dona wopambana komanso osati munthu wopambana kwambiri
Ngati m'banja mwanu inu ndi mwamuna wanu munasintha malo monga wopezera banja, ndiye kuti mumayenera kukhala ndi mtima wofunika kwambiri pakugawa ntchito zapakhomo. Mumasowa ntchito nthawi zonse, ndiye kuti mumayesetsa kubwezeretsa bajeti yanu, koma mulibe nthawi yokwanira yochita ntchito zapakhomo. Ndipo tsiku la ntchito ya mwamuna wake ndi locheperapo ndipo ndalama zimakhala zochepa. Koma samayesetsa kwambiri kuyeretsa, ndipo akhoza kuphika ndichisangalalo.
Malangizo
Atabwerera kunyumba, mwampeza kuti mwamuna wanu adaphika chakudya chamadzulo, adayesa ndikufuna kuti mumve bwino. Choncho mum'tamande mochokera pansi pa mtima, muloleni amvetse kuti mumayamikira kwambiri ntchito yake ndikukusamalirani. Muuzeni kuti ali mmodzi mwa milioni ndipo muli ndi mwayi kwambiri. Musadandaule za "amayi", chifukwa ndizowawa kwambiri. Icho chimakhala mwakuya kwambiri mu moyo wake chomwe sichidzatsogolera ku chirichonse chabwino mu ubale wanu ndi iye.
Komanso, ndizofunika kwambiri, tsiku lanu kuti mupite, kuphika mbale yanu yomwe mumaikonda kwa wokondedwa wanu. Kum'tsatira. Muloleni iye amvebe ngati mwamuna mu nthawi yake yachizolowezi. Inde, adzasangalala kwambiri kumvetsa kuti mumamuyamikira chifukwa cha zomwe amakuchitirani nthawi zonse, chikondi ndi chisamaliro. Sichikupweteka kuganizira zomwe inu nokha mungachite pakhomo patsiku. Mulole kuti izi zikhale zoyenera kutsuka kapena kuika mwanayo pabedi, zomwe zimathandizanso kuntchito zanu zonse. Zoonadi, kudalira kwa mkazi pa mwamuna wake sikumapereka kanthu kabwino, komatu kuonetsetsa kuti chinthu chomwe chimapangitsa kuti asakhale ndi ubale wa banja, kunyalanyaza ntchito yake monga mkazi ndi amayi, sikungakhale ngati chifukwa chanu.
Mkazi wamasiye ndi wogwira ntchito
Kodi mumagwira ntchito yanu tsiku ndi tsiku kunyumba popanda kuletsedwa, ndipo mphamvu yanu ili kale? Choncho, ndi nthawi yolankhulana ndi mwamuna wanu wokondedwa za kugawa ntchito zapakhomo. Mwachibadwa, m'pofunika kuganizira kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akugwira ntchito mwakhama kunja kwa nyumba. Ndipo izi zikutanthawuza, izo zidzakhala zopanda nzeru komanso zosatheka kugawana ntchito zapakhomo chimodzimodzi.
Malangizo
Amuna ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ndi okhawo omwe atopa, ndipo akazi azimayi alibe.
Pambuyo pake, iwo anali kuntchito, anachita ntchito zosiyanasiyana ndi utsogoleri wotsimikizira, ndipo akazi anali pakhomo. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti atabwera kuchokera kuntchito, munthu amakhala ndi chakudya chokwanira ndipo amakhala patsogolo pa TV.
Pempho lanu lopempha thandizo mwa njira yogawira ntchito zapakhomo liyenera kunenedwa pamapepala, ndi zifukwa zomveka komanso ndondomeko. Izi zidzakhala theka la kupambana pazokambirana zanu ndi mwamuna wanu. Chofunika kwambiri, musachiyike patsogolo pa chowonadi kapena kuyika kukanikiza. Pano muyenera kuganizira mau a mawu anu, ndi maganizo anu. Onetsani uthenga uwu mwabwino, kuunika, kosagwirizana. Onetsani mwamuna wanu kuti mwakonzeka kusokoneza, ndipo musayambe kunkhondo. Yesetsani kuuza munthu wanu kuti mukufuna kuti akuchitireni chinachake. Ngati izi sizili zovuta kwa iye, adzabwera kudzakumana nanu ndikuyankhapo pempho lanu. Koma simukufunikira kuika mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ntchito. Tiyenera kuyamikira khama lake ndikuyamikira zomwe adachita. Pokhala mkazi, nkofunika kuti muyese kudzipangira nokha pazomwe mumachita kwa wina ndi mzake. Musagwiritse ntchito.
Mkazi ndi woyeretsa, mwamuna wake ndi khate laulesi
Muchita zonse kuzungulira nyumba, yesani banja. Ndipo mwamuna wanu ali pabedi kutsogolo kwa TV, kapena akhala pa kompyuta, ziribe kanthu. Koma mwachionekere akukukwiyitsani, akudziyesa kuti simukuwoneka kuti mukuchita kalikonse, muli ndi nyumba yoyera komanso nsalu yodziyeretsera inachokera kwinakwake.
Malangizo
Mwinamwake, anthu onse amakhulupirira kuti ntchito yeniyeni ya mkazi ndi kuphika. Koma, monga tikudziwira, palibe amene amafunikira kanthu kwa wina aliyense. Choncho, mukhoza kuitana mwamuna wanu kuti aziphika yekha kapena ndi inu. Ngakhale pambuyo pake padzakhala kofunika kutsegula khitchini yonse.
Oimira abambo amadana ndi nkhanza ndikuyesera kuwapewa mwanjira iliyonse. Ngati mukutsutsana chifukwa cha ntchito zapadera zapakhomo, yang'anani chomwe chiri chosagwirizana. Mwinamwake, zidzakhala zofunikira kupanga mgwirizanowo kapena kusinthanitsa magawo wina ndi mzake, ngati mwamuna sakufuna kutsuka pansi kapena kupukuta fumbi, ndiye amupatse ntchito yomwe ili yovuta kwambiri ndi yonyansa kwa iye.
Nkhani yomwe apatsidwa kwa mwamuna ayenera kukhala pansi pa udindo wake. Ngakhale mutamuuza kuti atulutse chingwechi, khalani oleza mtima, musachimve ndikuchipirira nokha. Ingom'kumbutsani momveka bwino za pempho lanu ndikumulola kuti azichita nokha.
Pamene mwamuna wanu amaliza ntchito yomwe wapatsidwa ndipo mukufuna kuti izi zichitike kachiwiri, muyenera kuchita zachiwawa kwa zotsatira, mwa njira yapadera kapena chinachake. Alalikitseni ndi matamando ambiri, mupsompseni, ponyani pamutu panu, kudyetsa ndi mbale yanu yomwe mumaikonda. Ndipo iye adzakondwera kukuthandizani nthawi zambiri mtsogolomu.
"Dagawenga losasamala" ndi "nyerere yobadwa m'nyumba"
Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti akazi samayesetsa kuchita ntchito zapakhomo nthawi zonse. Nthawi zonse amalumikizana pafoni ndi anzanu, amathera maola ambiri ku salon, masitolo, ndi zina zotero. Mwamuna amayesera kuti awonetsere kuti muyenera kusamalira osati wokondedwa wanu okha, koma za banja.
Malangizo
Muyenera kukambirana momveka bwino ndi mkazi wanu. Lembani maudindo apadera a nyumba yomwe adzakwaniritse, izi zidzasonyeza kufunika kwa zolinga zanu. Kenaka mukulankhulana kwakukulu, awapatseni kwa iye kuti aganizire. Kenaka, muyenera kukhala woleza mtima ndi kumuthandiza pang'onopang'ono kuti azitha kuchita nawo maudindo atsopano. Kupereka ntchito zanu zapakhomo, zitsogoleredwa ndi zomwe mumadziwa kuchita bwino, ndi zomwe mkazi wanu akuchita bwino. Kapena amakonda kuchita zambiri. Samalani kuti maudindo a mkazi wanu asakhalenso anu, musayesedwe kuti muchite zomwe wokondedwa wanu ayenera kuchita. Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti sangathe kuchita chinachake, ndiye kuti mum'phunzitse, ngati simungamvepo zifukwa zake mobwerezabwereza.
Monga mkazi wa mwamuna, momwemonso mwamuna ndi mkazi ayenera kutamanda ndi kulimbikitsa ntchitoyo, amupatse zizindikiro zosamala. Khalani ndi chizoloŵezi chochita zinthu zonse nokha, kumudalira iye ndi ntchito zovuta kwambiri kuposa zomwe iye akuzoloŵera. Onetsetsani kuti mukumvetsetsa zomwe akuchita komanso zomwe wapindula kuti apindule ndi banja. Zochita izi zidzakhala ngati kukakamizika, kukakamiza kuchita ntchito zina.
Kulingana
Nonse a inu, mwachiwiri, mumatha kugwirizana. Ndipo mumamvetsetsa kuti ntchito zapakhomo zimagawanika mochuluka. Inde, zimakhalanso kuti mukufunadi kusuntha maudindo anu kumapewa a wokondedwa wanu. Ena mwa inu mudzachita izi kamodzi, chachiwiri chidzadziwika pa nkhaniyi.
Malangizo
Mkwatibwi, mzimayi amatha kugwira ntchito ya mwamuna wake kwa nthawi yochepa, mwachitsanzo, panthawi ya matenda a mwamuna wake, amadzazidwa ndi ntchito, athandizidwa ndi ntchito za amayi, ndi zina zotero. Mofananamo, mkaziyo akhoza kuwonjezera pa ntchito za mwamuna kapena mkazi wake, mwachitsanzo, panthawi yomwe ali ndi mimba, kapena pokhala ndi mwana wamng'ono.
Koma nthawi ikutha, ndipo palibe yemwe akufulumira kubwezera maudindo omwe mwachita. Mwinamwake osati kupita. Izi zikutanthauza kuti nthawi yafika pakugwiritsa ntchito kusintha kwakukulu pakugawa kwa maudindo. Muyenera kukambirana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, pezani zifukwa zomwe mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ayenera kukhalanso eni ake a ntchito zawo zapakhomo. Ngati munthu ayesa kuchoka kwa iwo kwa kanthawi popanda chifukwa china, ndiye kuti ntchito zowonongeka ndi zosatsutsika ziyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito.
Mwachitsanzo, kukana mwamphamvu kusamba masokosi a mwamuna wake kapena kuchotsa zida zonyansa. Ndiye posachedwapa amadziwa kuti ayenera kuchita ndipo palibe amene angatenge matumba atatu a zinyalala m'malo mwake. Mukhoza kuchita chimodzimodzi ndi kuphika. Mukudziwa kuti mkazi wake abwera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito, akuyembekezerani kuti muphike chakudya chamadzulo, muuzeni zomwe mwakonzekera nthawi yino, ndipo lero ndi nthawi yake. Muyenera kuyembekezera, iye adzagwira ntchito mwakhama, koma pochita izi mumupulumutsa ku chiyembekezo chakuti winawake adzamuphikira pamene nthawi yake ifika. Mwachidziwikire, n'zotheka ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala zofunikira, nthawi zina kupanga chiyanjano wina ndi mnzake, makamaka ngati mukufunsidwa za izo. Koma ndi kofunika kuti zitsimikizo izi zisakhale masewera mumakomo ena ndipo musalowe mu boma.
Munthu sanalengedwere ntchito ya Atate
M'mabanja ambiri, ntchito zimagawidwa mwazimayi okhaokha komanso amuna okha. M'mabanja otero, zikhulupiriro za mwamuna zomwe mkazi wake amafunikira thandizo zimatenga nthawi yaitali, mphamvu ndi mphamvu. Zonse zopempha zimadziwika ndi chidani. Chifukwa chake, mwamuna kapena mkaziyo watopa kwambiri ndi katundu, ndipo gawo la ntchito likusowa kusintha.
Malangizo
Amuna ali ndi chinsinsi chimodzi chochepa. Mmodzi wa iwo ayenera kukhala wofunikira, zofunika pa izi kapena izi. Ichi ndi chinsinsi ndipo chiyenera kugwiritsa ntchito akazi, ndi maziko a banja a dongosolo limenelo. Mutsimikizireni kuti ndi bwino kuposa iye amene sangathe kuthana ndi kudula nkhuku nyama, makamaka popeza ali wamphamvu mwa inu ndipo akuthandizani mwamsanga pa nkhaniyi. Ndipo kawirikawiri, nthawi zonse inali ntchito yamwamuna kudula ndikuphika nyama. Mulole mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kuti amve ngati wankhondo.
Kapena, mwachitsanzo, kubweretsa katundu kunyumba kuchokera kumsika. Mkazi wofooka ndi wofatsa amangofuna phewa la munthu. Akazi ambiri ali ndi mphamvu yokopa, ndipo mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndi wolimba kwambiri kuposa inu, chifukwa iye ndilavuliridwa. Kwa thandizo lililonse mwamuna wanu ayenera kulimbikitsidwa, kuyamika ndi kuyamika.
Zotsatira
Kawirikawiri, banja mumzinda wamzinda limatenga maola 3-5 pa tsiku. Ntchito pazochitika zapakhomo m'banja losabereka ndi pafupifupi maola 4, ndipo m'banja muli ndi mwana - maola 6. Kuphatikizana ndi izi, ndithudi, pamakhala chisamaliro cha mwanayo. Ndipo kuchoka kumeneku, nthawi zambiri kumagwa pamapewa a mayiyo.
Maphunziro osakwanira amasonyeza mfundo zochititsa chidwi zokhudzana ndi ntchito za akazi. Pamene mkazi amapita kuntchito, amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yocheperapo 40 mpaka 60% kugwira ntchito zapakhomo kusiyana ndi amayi osagwira ntchito. Izi sikuti chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa ntchito zomwe adazichita zatsika, koma chifukwa chakuti nthawi yawo yatha. Osati moyipa, ngati mkaziyo ali ndi othandizira pa nkhope ya mwamuna wake ndi ana ake. Koma bwanji ngati sichoncho?
Moyo wosasokonezeka umapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi nkhawa yaikulu, yomwe imayambitsa kutopa kwa thupi. Pali kumverera kosalekeza kwa kutopa. Nthawi zonse muyenera kupeza nthawi yopumula ndi kugona kwathunthu. Kupempha thandizo la zipangizo zam'nyumba, zipangizo zamagetsi, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kupanga ntchito mofulumira komanso mosavuta.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti banja likhale ndi udindo woyang'anira nyumba. Mwamwayi, mabanja ambiri amatsatira mfundo yakuti zonse zomwe zili mnyumbazi zimachitidwa ndi amayi, ndipo mamembala ena onse a m'banja sadziwa ngati ntchito zawo, koma ngati zing'onozing'ono zothandizira iye. Kufanana, komwe kulipo kuntchito kapena kwa anthu onse, nthawi zambiri sikupezeka m'mabanja. Kumeneko ntchitoyi imagawidwa mwa amuna okhaokha ndipo ndi akazi okhaokha. Mwamuna amachitapo kanthu ngati kutenga chotsitsa kapena kugula mkate, pamene mkazi amachita zonsezo, nthawizina kuphatikizapo kubisa msomali pamtambo.
Amuna nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti ntchito ya kusukulu si ntchito yovuta, koma ntchito yosavuta. Kafukufuku wa sayansi akutsimikizira zosiyana. Chifukwa cha iwo adadziwika kuti panthawi ya ntchito zapakhomo katundu wa thupi ndi wapamwamba kwambiri kuposa nthawi yomwe amagwira ntchito pamalonda.
Komanso, chifukwa cha kafukufuku, zinadziwika kuti ndi azimayi 24 okha okha omwe amagwira ntchito, amalandira thandizo losavomerezeka kuchokera kwa mwamuna wake pakhomo lachiwembu, ndi thandizo laling'ono la ana.
Kugawira ntchito zapakhomo ndizolakwika komanso zopanda chilungamo. Banja liyenera kukhala ndi chitsanzo chake cha khalidwe komanso kuthandizana. Ena mwa iwo omwe tawafotokozera pamwambapa. Ndikofunika kuyamba kutero kuyambira pachiyambi cha moyo pamodzi. Kumbukirani kuti kutenga nawo mbali, panthawi yopuma ndi ntchito, mosakayikira kumalimbitsa ubale wa anthu awiri achikondi. Ndizo zonse zomwe tingakonde kunena pa mutu wakuti "Mwamuna ndi Mkazi: Zolumikizana wina ndi mzake", ngakhale kuti banja liri lokha ndipo palibe zofunika kwa onse okwatirana.