Kwenikweni, izi si zinsinsi zoterezi. Amuna nthawi zambiri amalengeza zilakolako zawo, pokhapokha pofotokozera nkhanizo, nthawi zina zimasiyanasiyana ndi akazi, nthawi zina zimakhala zosiyana kwambiri ndi amayi, zomwe zimachititsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri. Kwa amayi, zizoloŵezi za munthu sizovuta. Chinthu china ndikuti nthawi zina zimakhala bwino kwambiri kukhalabe wosadziwa. Ndiyeno mphamvu zonse za chikhalidwe cha munthu zimagwera pa masamba a intaneti. Poyang'ana pa iwo, tikhoza kupeza zifukwa.
Malo oyang'anira
Monga momwe tawonetsedwera ndi kufufuza kumene, amuna ambiri "amayamba" zovala zam'kati mwa latex, striptease, kupopera kwapang'onopang'ono komanso ahi-sighs akazi pa nthawi yogonana. Zangokhala zachibadwa kwa munthu wamba, palibe chachilendo-chachilendo, chopambana-choposa kapena chopambanitsa. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, zomwe amakonda zimagwirizana ndi zilakolako za akazi, mwina, kupatulapo maseŵera am'mawa.
Izi "zokondweretsa" zili mu zovala za mkazi aliyense. Ndipo palibe chodandaula nacho. Zomwe zimakhala zofiira zoyera, zimatuluka, komanso "zimapita" bwino, zimapereka malo angapo mpaka kuwala kwa latex.
Pogwiritsa ntchito zofukulazo, palibe zofunikanso, zimakhala zofunikanso m'mabungwe ambirimbiri omwe amachokera kudziko lathu lalikulu. Ndipo popeza anthu amakonda kuyang'ana momwe timalekerera, bwanji osapatsa mwayi umenewu? Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kuphunzira kuchita bwino.
Atsutseni amuna ndi nthano yodziwika ya kudzikonda ndi kunyalanyaza amuna. Monga, kwa iwo chinthu chachikulu ndicho kudzikhutiritsa okha, ndipo, mwamsanga mwamsanga. Palibe cha mtunduwo! Amuna, zimatuluka, amafunanso kudziyesa okha ndi chidziwitso choyenera kuti azikonda ndipo ali okonzeka kumupatsa theka la ola limodzi kapena kuposa. Nthawi yonseyi iwo amakonda kupondereza mnzawo mu kupsompsona ndi kumamenyetsa, pang'onopang'ono kumubweretsa chisangalalo.
Amuna a kugonana mwamsanga, monga anatulukira, osati kwambiri - 7% okha. Sichikudziwika bwino chifukwa chake pali madandaulo ambiri a amayi, akudandaula pamodzi ndi chitsimikizo cha amuna mu "chisamaliro" chawo.
Chizindikiro chachikulu cha chiwerewere cha amuna chimaonedwa kuti ndi "kulira kwa chilakolako". Mphamvu ya decibel, mmaganizo awo, imasonyeza kuti mwamuna ali ndi mphamvu. Koma "kuthekera kwauchigawenga" panthawi yogonana sikulandiridwa. Kuti munthu azidzikuza, ndibwino kuti amvetsere mitundu yonse ya chisokonezo, kusiyana ndi kusamala chete kwa wokondedwayo. Akatswiri ena amaganiza kuti mkazi aliyense amasonyeza kukweza kwake mwa njira yake, palibe awiri "osangalala".
Chiyanjano chapakati
Mu gawo la "taksyak" uko kunali kumpsyopsyona, mafilimu owonetsera zolaula, amawoneka, pamene mkazi ali pamwamba kapena mbali ndi - - Kugonana pamimba. Mfundo yakuti abambo samapatsa mpsompsone, amaife timadziwa. Amuna samamvetsetsa chikondi chathu chachisangalalo chotere. Ndipotu, kwa amayi ambiri, kumpsompsona ndikofunika kwambiri kuposa kugonana, ndipo izi, malinga ndi malingaliro a anthu, "sichitengera njira iliyonse." Pofuna kulemekeza chikondi chathu, izo zimakhala zosiyana, sizitha kusokoneza okondedwa omwe ali ndi kuthekera kwa kupsompsona, koma akufunsidwa kuti asapatule kugonana.
Mu kuchuluka kwa malo ogonana, aliyense, ndithudi, ali ndi zofuna zake. Ndipo chiyero cha puritical cha "amishonale akale" chimachokera kutali. Amuna ngati phokoso ali kumbuyo (30%). Phokoso la "wokwerapo" siliri kumbuyo kwenikweni. Ndipo osati zoipa kwa anthu, ngati zonsezi "zonyansa" zidzawunikiridwa ndi kuwala kofewa kwa makandulo kapena zowala. Kugonana mu mdima wandiweyani, monga mu kuwala kwathunthu, sikuli kulandiridwa.
67% poyerekezera ndi 33% amakonda kuchita chizolowezi chogonana ndi chizoloŵezi chogonjetsa kugonana kwa m'kamwa, ndi chikhalidwe chosiyana chomwe chikutanthauza kukhalapo kofunikira kwa mankhwala otukwana.
Kunja
Tsekani mndandanda wa mafilimu okhudzana ndi zolaula, kukambirana panthawi yogonana, kugonana tsiku ndi tsiku komanso mnzanu wamanyazi.
Mfundo yakuti amuna ambiri samalekerera nkhani zowonongeka ndi zokoma, chifukwa bizinesi yayikulu si chinsinsi. Iwo samabisala kuti caramel imalankhula nkhani zabodza ndi mlingo wawung'ono wa "sitiroberi" amayenera kuti "ntchito" yazimayi. Kwa amuna, pali malonda osiyanasiyana owonetsa zolaula. Komabe, mtundu uwu uli ndi mafani ambiri komanso pakati pa amayi.
Kukwanitsa kwa mzimayi kusokoneza "buzz" ndi kukambirana kosakayika mu kukambirana mwachikondi kumapangitsa amuna kukhala ovuta. Ndipotu, ndi mkazi yekha amene angathe kumuuza mwadzidzidzi kuti amayi ake (omwe ali naye limodzi) amamuyendera mawa, kapena amagula nsapato zatsopano kuti apulumutse ndalama. Mwamunthu, amuna samangirira kumva nkhani zathu ndi kulingalira, koma atangogonana.
Okhulupirira za kugonana amakhulupirira kuti nthawi yabwino ya "moyo wa kugonana" ndi maola 3-4 pa tsiku. Komabe, kuti "kulimbikitsa kugonana" panthawi ino ndi kovuta osati kwa akazi okha, koma, monga momwe zikuchitikira, kwa amuna. Malo apamwamba, ndi lalikulu lalikulu - 60%, amasunga madzulo, mmawa - 30%, alenje madzulo amapanga chikondi pang'ono. Komanso, anthu ambiri masiku ano ali kuntchito, zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti athe kugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana.
Amuna saganizira zofuna zokhumba za amai, koma zimayenera kupangidwa kuti zimvetse zomwe tikufuna. Poona kudzichepetsa kwa amayi, amavomereza kukhala okhutira ndi mfundo, ndipo, osati zovuta. Mukungoyenera kutenga dzanja lake ndikutumiza ku "malo abwino," ndipo adzalongosola choti achite. Chisoni cha amayi chimakhutitsidwa ndi atatu peresenti ya anthu omwe afunsidwa omwe amakhulupirira kuti amadziwa popanda njira zina zowonjezera momwe angaperekere chisangalalo cha amayi.
M'dziko la malingaliro
Sizodabwitsa kupeza zomwe abambo athu akulota, zomwe malingaliro awo ogonana ali pafupi. Inde pozungulira thirome ya kugonana (64%)! Zosankha zimasiyanasiyana pokhapokha pokhapokha pamwambidwe wa munthu wina. Ena amawona udindo umenewu kukhala bwenzi la mkazi wawo wokondedwa, ena - wovina kuchokera ku bar, ndi ena - osadziwika bwino. 26% akulota kamodzi kamodzi pamoyo wawo womangidwa (atatulutsidwa m'manja) ndikusiyidwa ku chifuniro cha akazi. Ochepa okalamba angafune kumanga chibwenzi chawo. Ndipo pafupifupi onse (85%) amafuna kumva chimodzi mwa milomo ya akazi ena zokoma pazomwe iwo akufuna kuti azigonana.