Mwamuna ndi munthu wokhulupirika ndi wodalirika, yemwe mzimayi wamudziwa kwa nthawi yaitali ndikudziwa zomwe angayembekezere kuchokera kwa iye. Wokonda, nthawi zonse, amamvetsera mwachidwi komanso sagwirizana ndi kugonana. Ndani angasankhe? Kodi mungasankhe bwanji pakati pa mwamuna ndi wokonda, kuti musakhale wotayika?
Pamene chilakolako chokhudzika pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi chimafika ndipo kusefukira kwadzidzidzi kumasanduka kanyumba kopanda mtendere. Mwamuna amatha kupita mopanda kukayikira ku thalauza la masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndipo mkaziyo amayenda mozungulira pakhomo ndi tsitsi lopaka tsitsi komanso nkhaka-maski a nkhope pamaso pake. Maganizo akale adasandulika kukhala atsopano, ubalewo unakhazikika ndi wokondweretsa, ndipo zochepazo zinakhala, ngakhale zabwino, zowerengedwa nthawi yaitali. pa nthawi ino moyo umamufikitsa ndi mwamuna wina ndipo amayamba kukondana.
Kulingalira ndi kulingalira kumakana kugwira ntchito. Mtima wanga ukutha. Poyamba iye amatsimikiza kuti akufuna kukhala ndi mmodzi, ndipo tsiku lotsatira iye amakoka mosavuta. Ali mnyamata, mkazi wachikulire akhoza kumpsompsona popanda choletsera mumsewu, ndipo usiku amalira misozi yamanyazi: bwanji ngati mwamuna wake amadziwa? Kodi mungasiye chirichonse monga momwe zilili? Kapena ndi bwino kuponyera zopanda pake m'mutu mwanu ndi kusunga malo a banja? Kuthamangira mu dziwe ndi mutu wake ndi kukhala ndi wokondedwa wake? Chilichonse chomwe chisankho chikutengedwa, udindo wa chisankho chanu uyenera kutengedwa.
Choyamba, chinthu choyamba kuchita ndikumvetsa nokha, mukumverera kwanu. Ndikofunika kudziwa zomwe zikusoweka pamoyo, zomwe mukufuna kusintha. Akatswiri a zamaganizo azindikira kuti chikondi chikuzizira mkati mwa zaka ziwiri ndipo anthu ayamba kulakalaka ubale ndi malingaliro omwe anali pachiyambi pomwe. Mu moyo muli zopanda pake, ndipo mukufuna kudzaza chosowa. Mwinamwake, mtsikanayo poyamba anali ndi zofuna za mwamuna wake, motero, zikuwoneka kuti mwamunayo sanachite zomwe ankayembekezera. Chifukwa, choyamba, ndikuyang'ana nokha, pambuyo pa zonse, mwinamwake, mwamuna si woipa monga zikuwonekera.
Pambuyo poyankha mayankho a mafunso awa, nkofunika kuyankha funso lofunika - chifukwa chiyani munthu wina adawonekera m'moyo? Yankho la funso ili silingakhale losangalatsa, koma liyenera kukhala loona mtima, njira yokhayo yopangira chisankho. Mwinamwake wokonda amatha kudzutsa chiwerewere, mwinamwake ndi mtsikanayo akhoza kukhala wachirengedwe: yemwe iye ali. Mwinamwake ndi njira yowonjezera kudzidalira kapena kubwezera kwa "ubwino" wa mwamuna wake? Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa chomwe chilibe chiyanjano ndi mwamuna wake ndi zomwe zikusowa pokambirana ndi wokondedwa wake.
Ndikoyenera kuzindikira kuti sikuli koyenera kugawira vutoli ndi anzanu kapena achibale. Sizowona kuti iwo angasunge chinsinsi, mwina akhoza kunena mwangozi za maulendo a mwamuna wake. Muyenera kumvetsera pamtima wanu, kukuuzani momwe mungasankhire pakati pa mnzanuyo ndi mnzanuyo. Musamamvere chilango kuchokera kumbali, kukhala ndi moyo wabwino wa mmodzi mwa amuna, ndi zina zotero. - Moyo uyenera kusankha. Kapenanso, mungathe kuonana ndi katswiri - katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Ngati kugulitsidwa sikukupumula, ndi bwino kuvomereza mwamuna wake. Ngati angathe, ndiye kuti adzakhululukira ndipo kenako, mosakayika, nkoyenera kukhala naye, monga momwe amamukondera, osati kuyang'ana pazochitika zilizonse.
Sankhani, ndi yemwe mumamva kuti ndinu wotonthoza mtima, amene angathe kutseguka ndi kulankhula pa mutu uliwonse. Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri mu chiyanjano.
Koma ngakhale zilizonse, uphungu wonse ndi chiphunzitso, pakuchita kusankha kumapangidwa ndi mtsikana - amene ali okwera mtengo kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, mwamunayo ali wokondedwa kwambiri ndi wophunzira, ndipo wokondedwa, ngakhale munthu wokonda, wokongola, koma watsopano. Musanapange chisankho chomaliza, wina ayenera kukumbukira momwe zinalili ndi mwamuna wake pachiyambi pomwepo.
Mosakayikira, panali maluwa, mayamiko, ndi magalimoto. Ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti ndi wokondedwa, mwinamwake, ndi nthawi, maganizo amakhalanso ozizira. Mwamuna samabisa maganizo ake okhumudwitsa, amalankhula zonse momwemo, ndipo wokonda amayesera kukhala wabwino kuposa momwe alili.
Ngati chisankhocho chikagwera pa wokondedwa, ndiye kuti chisankho ichi chiyenera kuchitika. Mwina wokonda mwiniwakeyo sali wokonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi ndipo akukhutira ndi zomwe zikuchitika. Muyenera kuyeza chirichonse, kuti musamathetse chikho chosweka.