Palibe chifukwa choyembekeza kuti amuna odzitamandira sagwirizana ndi amayi apabanja. Nthawi zina zimakhala zosiyana, izi ndi zomwe zimakopa anthu. Iwo amakhulupirira kuti mayi yemwe ali ndi mphete yaukwati ayang'ananso kale ndi munthu wina ndipo chifukwa chake, mungathe "kuwukweza" chinachake ndi iye. Komanso, ngati mwamuna ali wopikisana ndi chikwati, zikutanthauza kuti mkazi wokwatira sadzagonjetsa ufulu wake. Choncho, mphete yagolidi pamakona sangakupulumutseni ku chibwenzi chokhwima cha munthu wosakhudzidwa.
Pankhaniyi, ndi zopusa kwambiri kuyembekezera kuti chibwenzicho chidzamvetsetsa mfundozo ndipo chidzatsogoleredwa ku zikhumbo zakunja, zidzatha. Pano iwe uyenera kuchita mozama ndi momveka bwino ndipo pokhapokha iwe ukhoza kuthetsa mosavuta ndi kumuchotsa mwamsanga munthu wobisala. Tsopano inu mukhoza kulingalira njira zingapo, momwe mungachotsere mwamsanga:
Lankhulani za mwamuna wanu popanda kuima. Amuna sangafune kuti mutchulepo za zina. Ndiuzeni, ndikudabwitsa bwanji, ndiwe wanzeru, wodalirika komanso wosasunthika. Ndikhulupirire, izi zimagwira ntchito bwino. Ndipo mukhoza kuyamba kumufunsa za banja, malinga ngati iye ali wokwatira. Izi zimachititsanso anthu kukhala opanda vuto kuposa chidebe cha madzi ozizira pamutu. Kukumbukira kwa mkazi ndi ana, kumalola chibwenzicho kuti chidziwitse, monga lamulo. Kumbukirani mawu omwe munthu sangaganizire ndi mitu iwiri nthawi yomweyo? Choncho, kuti muthe kuchotsa abambo omwe ali osayenerera, mungathe kuyankhula naye pa nkhani zovuta, ku filosofi. Chabwino, ngati pali mutu womwe umamukondweretsa kwenikweni, ndiye akhoza kulumikizana ndi zokambiranazo ndipo ubongo wake udzabwerera kumalo ake. Kenaka, chofunika kwambiri, pitirizani kukambirana mpaka mwamunayo akuvutitseni kulankhula nanu, ndiye mutha kutero, chifukwa mwachiwonekere, munthu amayiwala zomwe akufuna. Ndipo pali njira zotero mwamsanga komanso popanda kukambirana kosafunikira kuopseza munthu wosafunika:
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Musayang'ane mwamuna. Inu mukhoza kuyang'ana paliponse, koma osati pa iye. Pamene mukuyankhula, tayang'anirani kutali, yesetsani kulankhula popanda kumuyang'ana. Izo zimawopseza. Ndipo mofulumira.
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Kapena, mmalo mwake, yang'anani pa iye monga choncho, kwenikweni "adye" izo ndi maso ake. Osangotentha chidwi, muyenera kuyang'ana mosadabwitsa. Mwamuna ayenera kukhala wamanyazi, ngakhale, mwina, kuwopseza.
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M'sitilanti kapena cafe mumasowa zambiri. Amuna nthawi zambiri amawopa, amayi omwe amadya kwambiri. Choyamba, amafunika kulipiridwa, ndipo kachiwiri, mkazi akhoza kuchira, kuti amakhalanso osakonda kwambiri.
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Muyenera kuyesetsa kukhala achangu, chifukwa amayi awa amawopa anthu. Ngakhale, iwo amalemekezedwa moona mtima. Koma, ngati munthuyo mwiniwakeyo ndi wochepa chabe, sangagwirizane ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi makhalidwe abwino kuposa iye. Izi ndi zoona.
Koma, pali amuna omwe njira zonsezi sizigwira ntchito, nthawi zambiri amuna oterewa amatha kupeza zofuna zawo ndi zest mwa mkazi aliyense. Kodi ndingatani? Ganizirani, kodi mukufunadi kuchotsa munthu wonyalanyaza? Ngati mulibe mwamuna, ndipo amene amabwera kwa inu sali pabanja? Lolani pamene simukumukonda, koma mwinamwake, mutamudziwa munthu, malingaliro ake amayamba kuyandikira kwambiri? Mwinamwake ichi chimakanikizika ndipo ndi tsogolo lanu? Yang'anani mwatcheru.
Ngati, panyumba, mwamuna wanu ndi ana akukuyembekezerani, ngati simusintha mwamuna wanu wokondedwa, ndiye kuti mutha kugwiritsa ntchito mosamala zomwe zafotokozedwa pamwambapa ndipo mutsimikizidwe kuti njira izi zimagwira ntchito moyenera.