Kodi mkazi wokongola ayenera kukhala wotani?

Mwinamwake, aliyense wa ife kamodzi mu moyo wanga adadzifunsa ndekha funso ili: "Ndimadabwa kuti ndi chiyani chomwe chiyenera kukhala mkazi wabwino?" Nkhaniyi imatikhumba ife, ndipo tinaganiza zochita kafukufuku wochepa pakati pa amuna. Popeza anthu, nthawi zambiri, amadziona kuti ndi olingalira kwambiri kusiyana ndi omwe ali ofooka, choncho n'zosadabwitsa kuti ambiri mwa omwe anafunsidwa ndi grin adanena kuti palibe. Palibe amayi abwino mu chirengedwe, choncho palibe chinthu ngakhale ngakhale cholota. Koma ndizo zomwe tatha kupeza kuchokera kwa amuna okonda kwambiri komanso okonda kwambiri. Monga momwe kafukufukuwo akusonyezera, iwo amawatcha kuti abwino mkazi wanzeru yemwe amadziŵa zomwe amuna amafuna kuti aziwona ndikuchita moyenera. Ndipo ndicho chimodzimodzi momwe tidzakuuzani tsopano.

Choncho, mkazi wabwino ndi mkazi yemwe:
1. Musayese konse kuwonetsa mwachindunji ndi mwachindunji zomwe zili pamwamba pa munthuyo ndipo mukufuna kukhazikitsa ulamuliro pa iye.
2. Ziyenera kukhala nthawi ndi nthawi kukhala capricious (ndithudi mopanda malire!).
3. Amatha kusintha ndikugwirizana ndi zosowa zosintha za amuna.
4. Wodalirika kwambiri komanso womasuka.
5. Kodi amatha kukondana ndi kumanga maso?
6. Nthawi zonse amalimbikitsa luso popusitsa ndi kusunga amuna.

Kuchuluka kwa kachitidwe kafukufuku wamakhalidwe a anthu kunapezenso kuti mfundo yowona ya amuna okwatirana ndi osakwatira pa nkhaniyi ndi yosiyana. Chinthuchi ndi chakuti ali ndi zofunikira zosiyana pa atsikana ndi amayi. Ndi chiyani chomwe chiyenera kukhala amai abwino, malinga ndi amuna okwatira? Choyamba, zachuma, zogwira mtima komanso zogwirizana ndi iwo komanso mavuto awo. Ndi makhalidwe awa omwe amawona kuti ndi abwino kwambiri a mkazi weniweni, ndipo amakumbukira za kukongola nthawi zambiri. Osakwatiwa mosiyana ndi okwatira, makamaka mwa mkazi amayamikira kukongola kwake, kudzikonda, chikazi, komanso kukhudzidwa ndi kukhoza kukondweretsa munthu.

Awa ndiwo malingaliro athu omwe amatiteteza, koma amayi amalingalira chiyani izi? Ndi chiyani chomwe chiyenera kukhala mkazi woyenera mmaganizo awo? Zojambula zasonyeza kuti kwa amayi poyamba, makhalidwe monga kukongola, umunthu wooneka bwino, kugonana ndi kalembedwe ndi zofunika.

Ndipo lingaliro lotchuka limati chiyani za udindo wa amayi pakuleredwa kwa ana? Apa, lingaliro la abambo ndi amai ambiri limasintha. Akazi ndi ocheperapo komanso ophatikizana kuposa amuna, choncho motsogoleredwa pakuleredwa kwawo ndizo kwa iwo.

Inde, kuchokera ku filosofi, mkazi woyenera ayenera choyamba kukhazikitsidwa bwino ndikudzipangitsa yekha kudzikonzekeretsa mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo. Komabe, monga munthu.