Pakuti, kupatula kubereka, munthu akhoza kukhala wothandiza

Kulota kwa kalonga wake yekha, mkazi aliyense samasiya ngakhale pambuyo pokhumudwa. Mukamayankhula ndi abwenzi, mkazi aliyense amaika munthu bwino, mtsikanayo ndi wokongola komanso wosakondweretsa, kapena amanena kuti palibe amuna oterewa, palibe chabwino komanso kalonga. Pakati pa mlangizi mmodzi yekha amene amanong'oneza pa mpata woyenera ndi chimodzimodzi, chifukwa chake akusowa inu mosasamala, si zanu ndi zina zotero. Malangizo amenewa, mwinamwake, ndi ofunikira kokha mmasiku athu ano, pamene mkazi akhoza kukhala wodziimira kwathunthu ndipo alibe wina woti azidalira. Koma ngati mubwerera zaka zana zapitazo, mungaganizire teleportation yoteroyo? Poyamba inu, lingaliro limeneli silimene, sizingatheke kuvomereza pamutu mwanu. Momwemonso, mutu wamwamuna wa banja, mwiniwake, wothandizira, ndi munthu amene amathetsa nkhani zonse m'banja ndipo amasankha momwe zingakhalire bwino kwa banja lomwelo. Mayi amene alibe mwamuna wake, ndipo makamaka mwamuna wake amawoneka kuti wagwa, sanalemekezedwe ndi anthu, aliyense anali ndi mantha pa iwo, chifukwa ngati alibe banja, chinachake sichili bwino.

Choncho, kuyambira ali mwana, amayi adalota zokwatira, kupeza anthu awo. Ndipotu, ubale ndi mwamuna sikuti unangokhala ndi chidaliro m'tsogolo, komabe kuzindikiranso anthu, kukhala ndi udindo winawake. Azimayi anali pamtunda wazing'ono ndipo ankafuna mwamuna. Nthawi zatha. Gwiritsani zolinga, malamulo ndi miyambo. Kupititsa patsogolo kumasulidwa, komanso kusintha kwa maganizo omwe amayi ali nawo, kwasonyeza kuti amayi akhoza kukhala amphamvu. Tsopano akazi amalowerera mosavuta maudindo a amuna, osatenga zosankha zosavuta, kulenga mbiriyakale. Iwo akhoza kuthetsa mwamtheradi popanda anthu. Funso likubwera: bwanji, kupatula kubalana, munthu angakhale othandiza?

Tsopano akazi amachita zinthu zambiri okha, amakhala odziimira okha, amapeza ndalama ndipo samaganizira maganizo a anthu. Zimakhala kuti ngati mkazi angathe kudzipereka yekha, safuna mwamuna yemwe amusamalira ndi kumusunga, kukhala ndi mphatso zosiyanasiyana. Izi zimachititsa kuti munthu agwire ntchito yake yokha. Mwamuna amatha kupitirizabe banja lake, mzera wake, kapena kuti apange osowa osapulumuka omwewo. Inde, ngati sachita izi, kapena zosowa za thupi zimaloledwa ndi ntchito yambiri, zosangalatsa zatsopano ndi zosangalatsa zina, ndiye tonsefe timangotayika, timamwalira ngati mammoths. Ndiye ndizofunikira kupeza chifukwa chake, kupatula kubereka, munthu akhoza kukhala wothandiza.

Mwamuna amangofuna kugonana, izi ndi zomwe mkazi aliyense anganene. Mkazi wokhutira sasowa katundu wambiri, chifukwa akhoza kudzipereka yekha ku zofuna zake. Koma ndi zoona, chifukwa cha zofuna zake ndi zochitika zomwe amaiwala zokhudza zosowa za banal. Chabwino, chokani pa nkhani zogonana, koma tingalankhule motani, mwachitsanzo? Anzake apamtima, koma nanga bwanji maganizo a munthuyo? Anzako amzanga amatha kulangiza, kunyoza wina, kukambirana, kapena kumuthandiza. Koma ndi zosiyana ndi mwamuna. Mkhalidwe wosiyana wa zokambirana, ndipo mutuwo ndi wosiyana kwambiri. Kodi munganene chiyani mukakhala pansi pamodzi ndi mwamuna wamwamuna, kukambirana nambala ya nyenyezi zakumwamba, kapangidwe kake kamene kali m'manja, kapena mukulimbikitsana. Ndipo zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri mukakhala chete, panthawi ya kugwedeza mawu, mumangoyamba kuphatikiza mukupuma kwanu. Ndipo pakhale pali mkazi mmodzi yemwe sakonda izi ndipo amene sakulakalaka zoterezo. Ndiyeno funso: chiyani, kupatula kuswana, munthu akhoza kubwera mogwira mtima, amatha yekha, monga, chifukwa cha chikondi ndi chikondi. Kuti mkazi wamphamvu akhale wofooka m'manja mwa munthu wamphamvu ndi wolimba mtima.

Amayi ena adzanena kuti, kupatula kuswana, kungakhale kothandiza kuntchito, iye ali m'nyumba momwe sizowoneka bwino ndipo ndizofunika kwambiri. Zomwe mungachite ngati mukufuna chandelier yatsopano kapena makatani kuti muzitha. Ngati babu mu khola ilibe moto, sitiyenera kusintha, chifukwa cha ichi, amuna adalengedwa, omwe amatha kulimbana ndi ntchitoyi mwaluso, chifukwa ali pafupi ndi inu pa magetsi. Kukonzekera, kulibe kukonza kwatsopano m'nyumbayi? Pakuti, pambali pa kubalana, munthuyo akhoza kukhala othandiza, kotero ndizofunikira kukonzanso. Aloleni apume kumeneko ndi fumbi la nyumbayi, atenge matumba a simenti, agwetse pansi ndi kujambula makoma. Ndipo tidzangowauza mtundu umene mumafuna kujambula, kapena zipangizo zatsopano zomwe muyenera kugula m'chipinda chatsopano.

Bwanji, kupatula kuswana, kodi munthu angalowe bwino? Inde, ngakhale ngati kutiteteza ku zoopsa zonse ndi phobias zathu. Zingakhale zabwino bwanji, pamene muwona kangaude wamkulu, mumadumphira pa mpando ndi kulira ndi ngati kamtsikana kamene mumamumwetsera chala chake ndikufuula "chotsani, chotsani!". Inde, muzochitika zotere popanda munthu mwa njira iliyonse. Ndiyo yekhayo, ali ndi nkhope yopanda chilema, adzagwira chilombo choipachi ndi manja ake ndikuchiponya kunja pazenera, kapena ndi kayendedwe kakang'ono kake ka dzanja lake adzathamanga kampu ya kangaude, nkhwangwa ndi zolengedwa zina zoipa. Ndipo apa iye ndi mpulumutsi wathu.

Kuwonjezera pa kugonana kuchokera kwa munthu pali lingaliro m'banja. Ndiyani winanso koma bamboyo adzauza mwana wake kuti asamalire pamene anakhumudwa, koma apatseni kusintha, kusonyeza yemwe ali woyang'anira. Ndiyani winanso koma mwamuna adzakhala ndi mwana kukatenga njanji yamoto, kusewera masewero a nkhondo, kusonkhanitsa magalimoto. Sitiyenera kuti tiwauze amayi athu momwe angakhalire ndi munthu, pamene tili ndi wina yemwe angawonetsere.

Pakuti, kupatula kubereka, munthu akhoza kukhala wothandiza, ngati munthuyu ndi bwenzi lake. Kwa nthawi yabwino, iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri, nthawi zonse amakhala ndi inu, mukamafuna kuyang'ana mwamuna ndikuwonetsetsa pamene mukugula diresi yatsopano, nthawi zonse amamvetsera zomwe mnzanuyo akugwira ntchito komanso momwe akugwedeza mchira wake patsogolo pa bwana. Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri khalidwe, munthu sangatsogolere wokondedwa wanu, chabwino, kupatula nthawi zambiri, zomwe zimakhala zosiyana, kuposa nthawi zonse.

Ndizotheka kufotokoza mfundo zambiri zomwe anthu adalenga, maudindo omwe adzakhala oyenera pamoyo wathu. Choncho, funsani chifukwa, kupatula kubereka, munthu akhoza kukhala wothandiza, wopusa. Ndi bwino kupeza nthawi zomwe amuna ndi kugonana sangathe kuchita.