Kulephera kunena pa nthawi sikutenga mbiri ngati mkazi wofooka, ndipo pamene kukana kuli koopsa, ukhoza kupeza mavuto angapo. Kukana kokongola kumamuyika mtsikanayo patsogolo pake. Zimandipangitsa kudziona ndekha ngati munthu amene maganizo ake ayenera kulemekezedwa.
Tingawone bwanji mndandanda wabwino pakati pa kunyalanyaza komwe kumveka momveka mwa kukana kwa mnyamatayo, ndipo ndi pafupi kukambirana momasuka kuti wogwirizanitsa ntchitoyo atsimikizire kuti sizolondola kwenikweni. Mwa njira ya nthawi yophweka yophweka. Komabe, musagwiritse ntchito ngati mukufuna kuti musapitirize kukopa. Apo ayi, mudzaonedwa ngati chinyengo. Mnyamata akhoza kukhala wopitiliza. Zambiri zimadalira zovuta kwambiri. Mtsikana uyu samalani ndipo musadziike nokha mu malo osamvetsetseka mukamakana munthu.
Kuwuza mnyamata kukhala bwenzi kumatanthauza kusiya moyo popanda chiyembekezo chilichonse. Mutha kungouza munthu wambiri za iye, momwe iye aliri wabwino, ndi bwenzi lake lapamtima, ndipo ndi munthu wodabwitsa kwambiri m'zinthu zonse. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo ndikudandaula za zovuta zowonongeka zomwe ziri zowonongeka, zakonzedwa kotero kuti iwe sungakhoze kulamulira mtima wako. Koma kodi sikokwanira pa zochitika?
Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala wodekha ndi wolemekezeka. Ndiye chidaliro chanu chidzakhala kukangana kosatsutsika. Chinyengo pang'ono, yesetsani iwo enieni kuti mukhulupirire zomwe mukunena. Ndiyeno chifuniro chanu sichivomerezedwa.
Nchiyani chimapangitsa ife atsikana kuti ayi? Osakondana, kusowa chifundo kapena kungoganiza mwamsanga za munthu. Kunena kuti munthu wokongola samakhala wofunikira kwambiri ndipo ndi wofunika kwambiri ngati wothandizana naye, woipa kuposa bwana, bwenzi la bwenzi, ndi zina zotero.
Mmene mungachitire Izo muli mabuku achitsanzo chabwino monga "Art of Controversy" iwo amatsatanetsatane chirichonse pa maapulo ojambula monga alfabeti, adzayenera kuchita nthawi zonse. Ndipotu ndizosavuta kwambiri kusiyana ndi zomwe zimawonekera poyamba, kotero kuti mtsikana aliyense ndi wokondwa kuwerengera mabuku angapo.
Ngati ndi nthawi komanso zokongola kuti musanene ayi, posachedwa simudzauzidwa. Mwinamwake musayesedwe?
Khalani mwachibadwa, mutsimikizike ndikudzilungamitsa nokha ndipo mudzakhalabe ndi ufulu wanu. Ufulu wodzisankhira nokha, pamene osamvetsera ena. Ufulu wokhalabe nokha, ndi mapulani anu a nthawi yanu. Ndipo ndithudi simuyenera kuiwala za zochitika zamatsenga kwambiri.
Musataye konse kuseketsa, uyu ndiye wothandizira kwambiri pazovuta. Ndi kuseketsa ngati mbendera, chirichonse chikhoza kuchitika popanda chilango. Zimandivuta kukhumudwa ngati zinthu zikukukondweretsani. Yankho lodziwika ndi lachimwemwe ndi zida zosagonjetsedwa. Ngati munthu yemweyo ali wolimbikira kwambiri, ndiye kuti palibe tchimo ndi lakuthwa kuti amuike m'malo mwake. Apa, inunso, mauta anu amakuthandizani. Kusiya maubwenzi abwino kapena ochezeka sikokwanira, mtendere wamtendere umaposa kukangana kwakukulu.
Atsikana amadziŵa bwino lomwe payekha ndi omwe ndi bwino kuchita. Kwa ichi, komanso ngati anyamata, kuti mukhale okhudzidwa. Chinthu china ndi chakuti msungwana ayenera kusamalira momwe anganene kuti ayi, zingakhale zabwino bwanji, kodi munthu amene Mulungu amamuletsa sayenera kukhumudwitsa alendo? Izi ndizoona zachikazi, mofulumira