Ndipo nthawi zonsezi zimaphika ku funso limodzi lofunika: kodi amuna akudikira kuchokera ku chiwerewere chofooka, ndi khalidwe lotani ndi khalidwe lomwe amalikonda kwambiri mnzawo? Inde, yankho la izo sizingakhale lodziwika. Simungakhulupirire kuti anthu onse ali ofanana. Mwa njira zina iwo ali ofanana mofanana: ali ndi ziwalo zofanana za ziwalo, pali zosiyana za akazi kuchokera kwa mkazi, ndipo malingaliro awo ndi apadera kwambiri. Koma mu ubale, munthu aliyense ndiyekha. Ndipo kumvetsetsa zomwe mwamunayo akufuna kuwona mwa mkazi wake wapadera ndi wapadera adzathandizidwa ndi njira imodzi: samalirani zikhumbo zake zomwe zimamveka mokweza kapena zooneka bwino.
Pali, ndithudi, kuvomerezedwa kovomerezeka kumalimbikitsa chikhalidwe chochepa chomwe mkazi wa mwamuna weniweni ayenera kuchifanana. Kotero, nthumwi iliyonse yokhuza kugonana, chifukwa cha zifukwa zomveka, ikufuna kutsimikiziridwa kwaumwini kwaumwini wake. Izi ndi za amuna - chofunikira chenicheni, chomwe chingakhutire mkazi yekha. Koma njira yomwe amupatsa wokondedwayo izi zidafuna - zimadalira iye yekha. Zingakhale kusintha kosasintha kwa mawonekedwe a akazi: ndi bwino kukumbukira mawu otchuka akuti mkazi woyenera ndi bwenzi la tsikulo, mkazi wa ubwino wosavuta usiku ndi mkazi mu kampani iliyonse. Ndipo komabe palibe chomwe chimatsindika zaumunthu, monga chikazi. Malingana ndi chiwerengero, amuna amavomereza kuti amayi amavala zachikazi (muvala, zidendene, zokongoletsera zokongola) makumi asanu ndi atatu mwa 100. Ngakhale, ngakhale t-shirt ndi matayala okalamba ophatikizana ndi nsapato zakale pa mkazi akhoza kuwonekeranso achikazi . Apa chilichonse chimadalira chiwerengero chake. Nthawi zina amawotcha akazi ngakhale kuti amavala zovala kapena kupanga zovala. Amuna osaphonya akazi amenewa. Ndipo mkazi aliyense akhoza kukhala ndi makhalidwe otere mwa iyemwini.
Ndipo komabe, kodi anthu amatsanzira makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe otani?
Mosakayika, iwo ndi openga za kudzidalira kwa amayi. Zimadziwika kuti nyenyezi yokha yapamwamba yoyamba idzadzidzidzimitsa yokha ndi anthu omwe ali oyenerera. Momwemonso, mwamuna woyenera kwambiri, wodalirika komanso wokwanira kwambiri mkazi yemwe amawafuna. Koma pano mkazi amafunika kumverera mzere wochepa kwambiri pakati pa kudzidalira ndi kudzidalira kwambiri, zomwe zimachotsa mwamuna wofunidwa mofanana ndi amuna. Mayi akhoza kukhala bwenzi yemwe angakambirane chilichonse chimene chimamuvutitsa. Koma pa nthawi yomweyi ayenera kumadalira iye. Osati zakuthupi, koma m'maganizo: munthu aliyense amasungunuka pamene mkazi ayesa "kumukulunga", kuzizizira poima kapena kuthira mvula.
Munthu aliyense amadzipangira yekha makhalidwe ndi khalidwe lake, zomwe amafunitsitsa kuzikondwerera mwa wokondedwa wake. Koma kwa woimira aliyense wogonana mwamphamvu ndilololedwa kuti mkazi amvetsere. Amuna ndi odzikonda kwambiri kuposa osankhidwa awo. Kotero, iwo amakonda kukamba za iwoeni mochuluka kwambiri. Ndipo koposa zonse amamvetsetsa mwa mkazi angathe kutenga mphindi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu kuti amvere nkhani yake popanda kusokoneza. Kawirikawiri, chilakolako cha mkazi kuti aswe mwamuna pakatikati ndi chiganizo ndi funso lopanda mawu kapena mawu, polemba kwambiri mutuwo, waumunthu amakhumudwitsa kwambiri. Ndipo mfundo apa sikuti iye sanakhale nayo nthawi yoti anene chinachake chofunikira kwambiri pa iye mwini, wokondedwa wake, ndi nkhawa zake sizikumumudetsa nkomwe. Oimira abambo amphamvu kwa miyoyo yawo yonse amakhalabe ndi khalidwe lawo ali aang'ono. Ndipo kusokonezeka kotereku kumapweteka munthu: monga mwana yemwe makolo safuna kumumvera, amakumana ndi zowawa, osadzilungamitsa, malingaliro ake, zolakwa. Choncho, chizoloŵezi ichi cha amayi cha munthu chimasokonezeka ndi chifukwa cholakwira milandu 40 pa zana. Kumeneko munthu yemwe ali pamwamba adzalandira pempho loona mtima la womvera wake kuti atsegule nkhaniyo, chifukwa ali wolemala ku pulayimale ndi wopusa wake komanso akufuna kumuuza za mavuto ake lero.
Mwamuna amakonda pamene mkazi amamutamanda.
Ndipo osati makamaka wokhulupirika kwa iye kuyesa kupempha kuti amuthandize. Mwamuna weniweni sadziwa momwe angayamikirire yekha: amafunikira kunyamula ndemanga yachikondi yokhudza maonekedwe ake, makhalidwe ake kapena luso lophika. Kupatulapo ndi mafanizidwe a chiyanjano cha chiwerewere, chomwe kwa zaka zambiri zogwirizana ndi ubale wa usiku amatha kale kupanga mndandanda wa mawu okonzedwa bwino okondweretsa mkazi aliyense. Mwamuna wokhulupirika sakonda kunama kwa mkazi wake: sangamuuze kuti wataya thupi, ngati sichoncho, koma ndithudi adzazindikira kuti kwa iye ndi mtundu wakewo ndi zabwino.
Kawirikawiri, mafunso omwe amaika nthawi zonse okhudza kuwonekera kapena kutha kwa zofooka maonekedwe awo samakhudza amuna. Mwachibadwidwe, mkazi amene wasankha ndi yemwe amamufunira, ndi wokongola komanso wolemekezeka kwambiri. Ndipo iye amakonda khalidwe ili lopangidwa la osankhidwa ake. Ndipo ngati mumamvetsera zolephera zomwe mwapeza, ndiye kuti ayamba kuzindikira zinthu zina zomwe zimapangitsa kuti azikhala angwiro. Ndipo tsiku limenelo, akazindikira kuti sakuganiza kuti mkaziyo ndi wabwino, wachilendo, wapadera, chilakolako chake chidzachoka. Ndipo ndi kutha kwa nthawi yofunika iyi yolumikizana, kugonjetsedwa kwathunthu kwa maganizo kumatheka.
Mkazi ndi chithunzi cha mwamuna.
Mwamuna amakonda kwambiri pamene makhalidwe ndi khalidwe la chilakolako chake amatsitsa makhalidwe ake poyera. Ayenera kumverera kuti ndi wofunika kwa mnzake osati kunyumba, kumene ali yekha, komanso ku kampani kumene angataya udindo wake ndi wokondedwa wake yekhayo. Mphindi uwu ndi wofunika kwambiri kwa munthu aliyense wogonana kwambiri. Ndipo chifukwa chakuti mkazi adzalimbana ndi chiwonetsero cha tsatanetsatane wa zofunidwazi, zambiri zidzadalira maubwenzi awo. Chinthucho ndi chakuti amuna ndi ovuta kwambiri kuposa akazi. Ndipo sakudziwa kuti angadzikhulupirire okha. Kapena amatha, koma amapatsidwa kwa iwo phindu la zoyesayesa zodabwitsa. Koma mkazi weniweni ndi kuyang'ana mofatsa kungapangitse wokondedwa wake kukhala ndi mtima wotere - mmodzi ndipo amamukonda kwambiri. Ndipo kumverera kotere kwa amuna sikungokhala kosangalatsa - iwo ali okonzeka kusuntha mapiri kwa masekondi angapo a kukhalabe mwachidwi.