Kunyada kungatengedwe ngati kudzipangira mwaufulu ufulu waumwini. Zili ngati ndende, pamene akaidi amaletsedwa ufulu wolankhula, ufulu wolankhulana, ndi zina zotero. Anthu ambiri, mwa njira ina, amamva kuti amaletsedwa. Ndi chipangizo chodziwika bwino chomwe chimakutetezerani kuti muone ngati zotsatira zake zingatheke. Kawirikawiri manyazi mwa ana amakhala ndi kudzichepetsa. Ngakhale kuti ana amanyazi amatha kuzindikira makhalidwe kapena luso lawo, amadzidzimva okha. Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zodzichepetsera ndizofunikira kwambiri payekha. Nthawi zonse zimakhala zochepa pamunsi mwazomwe iwo amafuna.
Maubwenzi abwino a makolo ndi ana ayenera kukhala odzikonda pa ana a msinkhu wa msinkhu, kudzidalira kwambiri. Ngati chikondi sichiperekedwa mopanda malire, ngati chikuperekedwa pofuna kusinthana ndi chinachake, mwachitsanzo, "kukonza" khalidwe, ndiye kuti mwanayo adzadziletsa yekha ndi kudzidalira ndi zochita zake zonse. Uthenga wa ubale wotere ndi mwanayo ndi woonekeratu: ndiwe wabwino kwambiri monga momwe machitidwe anu aliri ofunikira, ndipo simungadumphire pamwamba pa mutu wanu. Ndi momwe chikondi, kuvomerezedwa ndi kuvomerezedwa kumapangidwa ndi katundu wogula zomwe zingathe kupindulidwa kuti asinthe "malingaliro abwino." Ndipo chinthu chowopsya kwambiri ndi chakuti ndi khalidwe losafunika kwenikweni lomwe mungathe kuligonjetsa. Ndipo munthu wosadziwika, wamanyazi amadziwa dongosolo ili la zinthu mwachibadwa: akuganiza kuti sakuyenerera bwino. Ngakhale munthu amene wapatsidwa chikondi chopanda malire, ngakhale pambuyo pa zolephera zingapo, sataya chikhulupiriro pa mtengo wake wapatali.
Zomwe zimakhala zamanyazi kumayambiriro a ana
Akatswiri ena a maganizo amaganiza kuti manyazi amadziwika bwino. Kale m'masabata oyambirira a moyo, ana amakhala osiyana kwambiri ndi wina ndi mzake: ena akulira kwambiri, amatha kusintha kusintha. Kuwonjezera pa zonsezi, ana poyamba amakhala osiyana mu chikhalidwe komanso kufunikira kokhala nawo. Pambuyo pake, izi zikhoza kumera ndikukhala makhalidwe abwino. Ana omwe ali ndi dongosolo la mitsempha yodabwitsa kwambiri amamvetsetsa. Potero, njira yochenjera kwambiri yowonjezera zonse ikupangitsidwa ndipo nthawi zonse imafuna kubwerera.
Kupeza zokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu amachititsa kuti zitheke kupanga mitundu yambiri ya makhalidwe abwino. Ana omwe amakonda kukamwetulira, nthawi zambiri kumwetulira. Nthawi zambiri amavala m'manja mwawo kuposa momwe amachitira ndi ana otupa kapena odekha. Pali zifukwa zambiri zoyambirira zowonjezera manyazi, chifukwa cha malingaliro a ana, komanso mmene izi zimakhudzira munthu wina. Ngati makolo sakudziwa mmene angaphunzitsire ana kuti azicheza nawo, akhoza kukhala amanyazi.
Phunziroli linasonyeza kuti dziko lomwe lili ndi manyazi komanso manyazi ambiri pakati pa ana asukulu sukulu ndi Japan, kumene 60% mwa anthu omwe amamvetsera amadziona ngati wamanyazi. Lingaliro la manyazi limagwiritsidwa ntchito pokonza khalidwe la anthu pawokha malingana ndi makhalidwe omwe amavomereza kawirikawiri. Anthu a ku Japan amakhulupirira kwambiri kuti alibe ufulu wowononga banja lawo. Ku Japan, katundu wambiri wolephera ali pamapewa a mwanayo, koma kuti apambane chifukwa cha makolo, aphunzitsi, ndi mphunzitsi. Ndondomeko yotereyi imalepheretsa munthu kupanga makampani komanso ntchito. Mu Israeli, mwachitsanzo, ana amaleredwa mwachindunji. Zomwe zilizonse zimapindula chifukwa cha luso la mwanayo, panthawi imodzimodzimodzi ndi kulephera kumayesedwa pa maphunziro osayenera, maphunziro osagwirizana, kupanda chilungamo, ndi zina zotero. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, zochita zimalimbikitsidwa ndikulimbikitsidwa, ndipo kulephera sikulangidwa kwambiri. Ana a Israeli samataye chirichonse chifukwa cha kugonjetsedwa, ndipo chifukwa cha kupambana iwo amalandira mphotho. Ndiye bwanji osayesa izo? Ana a Japan, mosiyana, sangapeze chilichonse, koma akhoza kutaya zambiri. Choncho, nthawi zonse amakayikira ndikuyesera kuti asatenge zoopsa.
Zifukwa zazikulu za manyazi
Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimayambitsa manyazi komanso manyazi, chifukwa pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zimachititsa kuti thupi likhale losauka ngati momwe zimayendera pazochitika zinazake. M'munsimu muli mndandanda wa magulu a anthu ndi zochitika zomwe zingayambitse zoterezi.
Anthu omwe amachititsa manyazi:
1. Osadziwika
2. Ovomerezeka (kudzera mu chidziwitso chawo)
3. Oimira abambo
4. Ovomerezeka (kupyolera mu malo awo)
5. Achibale ndi alendo
6. Anthu okalamba
7. Amzanga
8. Makolo
9. Abale ndi alongo (kawirikawiri)
Nthawi zambiri, manyazi a ana a msinkhu wa msinkhu amayambitsidwa ndi anthu omwe, mwa magawo ena, amasiyana nawo, ali ndi mphamvu, amayendetsa kutuluka kwa zinthu zofunika. Kapena ndi anthu omwe ali pafupi kwambiri kotero kuti akhoza kuwatsutsa.
Mavuto omwe amachititsa manyazi:
- Kukhala pakati pa chidwi cha gulu lalikulu la anthu, mwachitsanzo, kuchita pa matinee
- Mtengo wotsika kuposa ena
- Mavuto omwe amafuna kudzidalira
- Zatsopano
- Mavuto omwe amafunika kuwunika
- Kufooka, kusowa thandizo
- Khalani maso ndi maso ndi abambo
- Zokambirana
- Kupeza cholinga cha gulu laling'ono la anthu
- Kufunika kwa ntchito ndi chiŵerengero chochepa cha anthu
Amanyazi nthawi zonse amakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri akamakakamizidwa kuti achite zinthu zina zomwe sizikudziwika, pomwe pali mawu ofunika a anthu ena omwe ali ovuta komanso okhudzidwa.
Kodi mungathandize bwanji mwana wamanyazi?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena za makhalidwe atatu omwe ali "makolo" omwe amatsatira. Iwo amafotokozedwa motere:
chitsanzo cha chitsanzo cha ufulu - mwana amalandira ufulu wochuluka momwe amatha kulandira;
chitsanzo cha chitsanzo chovomerezeka - ufulu wa mwanayo ndi wochepa, ntchito yaikulu ndi kumvera;
chitsanzo cha chitsanzo chovomerezeka - pali ntchito yoyang'anira ntchito ya mwana pambali ya makolo, koma mwachidziwitso chokhazikika.
Zotsatira za kafukufuku zikusonyeza kuti chitsanzo chovomerezeka ndi chofunika komanso chogwira ntchito kwambiri. Zimalimbikitsa kulera kudzidalira kwa ana a msinkhu wa msinkhu, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndizowathandiza kwambiri kuchiritsa ana amanyazi. Ngakhale kuti malingaliro onsewa, kugwiritsa ntchito ufulu womasuka mwa kulera sikumakhala ndi chidaliro. Makolo achifundo nthawi zambiri amazindikira kuti mwanayo alibe chidwi, saona kuti ndi kofunikira kuti apange mizere yoyamba ya khalidwe lake. Iwo nthawi zambiri "amachimwa" kusagwirizana mu maphunziro, chifukwa cha izi, ana angakhale ndi malingaliro akuti makolo sakufuna kumverera ndi mavuto awo, kuti sakusowa makolo nkomwe.
Zina zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri ndi chitsanzo chovomerezeka. Makolo omwe amasankha chitsanzo ichi samapereka chidwi kwa ana pamene zimatanthauza chikondi chosasamala ndi chisamaliro. Iwo amalephera kokha ndi kukhutira ndi zosowa zonse zakuthupi. Iwo ali ndi nkhawa makamaka ndi zoleredwa monga utsogoleri ndi chilango, koma samasamala konse za thanzi labwino la ana a sukulu. Makolo ovomerezeka ndi ofunikira kuganiza kuti ana awo amapanga anthu oyandikana nawo. Kwa iwo, izi ndi zofunika kwambiri kuposa maubwenzi a intra-banja. Iwo ali otsimikiza kuti amapanga "munthu weniweni" kuchokera kwa mwanayo, osadziwa kuti akubwera mosiyana.
Chidziwikiritso cha chitsanzo chovomerezeka cha kulera ndi chakuti, pambali imodzi, pali kukhalapo kwa makolo, komano, mwanayo amakula monga munthu. Makolo oterewa ali ndi lingaliro lomveka bwino la zomwe mwanayo angakwanitse, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zokambirana zachinsinsi ndikumvetsera zomwe mwanayo ali nazo. Makolo awa saopa kusintha malamulo a masewerawo, pamene chikhalidwe chatsopano chikuwakakamiza kuchita mosiyana.
Musanayambe kufotokozera momwe mungamenyane ndi manyazi a ana asukulu sukulu ndi kuphunzitsa momasuka, mwachikondi komanso mwachifundo, osati mwana wamanyazi, ndikufuna kudziwa ndondomeko imodzi. Mwina inu, monga makolo, mudzakakamizidwa kuti musinthe nokha. Mungafunikire kusintha mlengalenga mwathunthu, kotero kuti sichikuthandizani kuti mwanayo azikhala wamanyazi.
Kuyankhulana Kwachangu
Monga momwe kugwirizanitsa pakati pa manyazi ndi kusatetezeka kuli koonekeratu, chimodzimodzi sichilephera kulephera kudalira kukhudza kwa chitetezo ndi bata. Ngakhale simunachite izi, yambani kuwononga ana anu tsopano. Atseni, kondani chikondi chanu. Awakhudze mwachikondi, kukwapula pamutu, kukumbatirana.
Kukamba mtima kwa mtima
Zinatsimikiziridwa kuti ana ayamba kulankhula molondola ndi momveka bwino, ngati amayi adayankhula nawo kuyambira pachiyambi. Ana, omwe amai awo amangokhala mosasamala, amayankhula molakwika, amakhala ndi mawu ochepa. Ngati ngakhale wamng'ono wanu ali wamng'ono kwambiri kuti asamvetse chilichonse - kulankhula naye. Kotero mumayika pulogalamu ina yolankhulana. Pamene mwana ayamba kulankhula yekha, chilakolako chake cholankhulana chidzadalira momwe mumamvetsera komanso kumayankha.
Muloleni mwanayo afotokoze momasuka malingaliro ndi malingaliro awo. Aloleni akambirane momasuka zomwe akufuna, zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe safuna. Ndiloleni ine nthawi zina nditsanulire mkwiyo wanga. Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri, chifukwa anthu amanyazi sadziwa momwe angakhalire bwino nthawi ya mkwiyo. Musalole kuti mwanayo adzipeze mtima, adziŵe kuteteza ufulu wake. Muphunzitseni kufotokoza maganizo ake mwachindunji, mwachitsanzo: "Ndine wokhumudwa" kapena "Ndimasangalala," ndi zina zotero. Limbikitsani mwanayo kuti alankhule, koma musakakamize kuti achite nawo.
Chikondi chosayenerera
Muyenera kulingalira mozama mawu a psychologists omwe amakhulupirira kuti ngati simukukondwera ndi khalidwe la mwana, muyenera kumudziwitsa nthawi zonse kuti simukukwiya ndi mwanayo, koma ndi zochita zake. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, nkofunika kuti mwana adziŵe kuti amamukonda, ndipo chikondi ichi sichidalira chirichonse, chiri chosasintha ndi chosasintha, ndiko kuti, chosasinthika.
Kulanga ndi chikondi ndi kumvetsetsa
Kulanga mwambo kungakhudze chitukuko cha manyazi m'zaka zapachiyambi mwazifukwa zotsatirazi:
- Chilango nthawi zambiri chimachokera ku kulakwa koyambirira kwa mwanayo, ponena kuti ayenera kusintha. Izi zimapangitsa kuchepetsa kudzidalira.
- Mphamvu yochititsa mantha ya makolo ikhoza kukulirakulira, yomwe mwanayo adzachita mantha ndi munthu aliyense wovomerezeka. Chikumbumtima pa nkhaniyi si chiwonetsero cha kulemekeza, ndi chiwonetsero cha mantha a mphamvu.
- Lingaliro lalikulu la chilango ndi kulamulira. Ana olamulidwa kwambiri amakula ndi mantha kuti sangathe kulamulira kapena kuti athetse mavuto.
- Cholinga cha chilango ndi munthu, osati mkhalidwe. Ndipo kawirikawiri chifukwa cha khalidweli chiri mumlengalenga kapena khalidwe la anthu ena. Musanawalange mwana, onetsetsani kuti mufunse chifukwa chake adaphwanya malamulo anu.
Kulanga sikuyenera kukhala pagulu. Muzilemekeza ulemu wa mwana wanu. Kudzudzula ndi manyazi, zomwe mwana amakumana nazo nthawi imodzi, zingathe kuwonjezera manyazi. Yesetsani kuzindikira zolakwika za mwanayo, komanso kuti muzindikire khalidwe labwino.
Phunzitsani mwana wa kulekerera
Ndi chitsanzo chathu chokha chomwe tingaphunzitse ana kuti azisonyeza chifundo. Aloleni iwo ayang'ane chifukwa cha kulephera poyamba pazochitika, osati kwa anthu oyandikana nawo. Lankhulani chifukwa chake munthu kapena munthu ameneyu akuchita zinthu zosasamala, kapena zomwe zingakhudze kusintha kwa khalidwe lake.
Musatenge chizindikiro mwana
Mukangouza mwana chinachake chosasangalatsa, kumbukirani kugwirizana pakati pa kudzidalira kwa mwana ndi manyazi. Izi zikhoza kukuthandizani kuthetsa chilakolako. Ndikofunika kuti mwanayo adziyese bwino.
Kudalira
Phunzitsani mwana wanu kuti azikhulupirira anthu. Pachifukwa ichi, ndikofunikira kwa makolo kuti ali ndi ubale wapamtima kwambiri ndi mwanayo. Muuzeni kuti mumamukonda ndikumuyamikira monga iye aliri. Ndipo pali anthu ena amene angamumvetsere ndikumulemekeza ngati ayandikira kwa iwo. Inde, nthawi zonse padzakhala anthu amene amanyenga kapena kupereka, koma, poyamba, pali zochepazo, ndipo kachiwiri, posachedwa adzabweretsedwa pamwamba.
Samalani ana
Yesetsani kuchepetsa nthawi imene mumakhala mosiyana ndi mwanayo ndipo nthawi zonse mumuchenjeze ngati mungamumvere. Ngakhale mphindi yokambirana yokoma ndi yolemekezeka ndi mwanayo ndi yofunika kwambiri kuposa tsiku lonse, pamene mumakhala pansi, koma mumakhala ndi zochita zawo.