Mkazi aliyense alota kukwatira. Mkazi samalota za ukwati wokha, komanso za kavalidwe ka mkwatibwi woyera. Amuna, mmalo mwake, ngakhale alipo oyenerera udindo wa mkazi, musafulumire kupita ku ofesi yolembera. Koma bwanji munthu akuwopa kwambiri ofesi ya registry? Amuna ambiri sangathe kuvomereza kuti amawopa kulembetsa maubwenzi. Kawirikawiri, amuna amawopseza mantha awo ndi chikhalidwe chawo chomwe sichikuyenda bwino kapena chidziwitso cha chikondi, zikhulupiriro zosagwirizana, ndipo amatsutsa kuti ukwati waumwini ndiwo wabwino kwambiri m'banja.
Pankhani imeneyi, funso limabwera: Mwamuna ali ndi mkazi yemwe amamukonzekeretsa, amachotsa, amachotsa, zovala, amachita naye kugonana, mmalo mosafuna kanthu kalikonse, chifukwa chiyani ayenera kutenga zofuna zake payekha, ngati zili choncho? Simukusowa kusamala, kuyendetsa ku malo odyera, komanso, kusunga mkazi sikukakamizidwa, choncho zimakhala zochepa. Mkazi yemwe ali ndi ufulu wa mbalame, asanatsegule pakamwa pake kwa wokondedwa, adzakumbukiranso, ndipo mkaziyo ali ndi ufulu wina, zomwe zimamupatsa chidaliro ndipo akhoza kufuula mwamuna wake, kumupangitsa iye kuchita chinachake. Zoona, malo abwino? Mwachibadwa. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi pa moyo wa munthu mtsikana wokondweretsa kwambiri adzasintha ndipo ngati iye sali pabanja, ali ndi mwayi wopindula ndi vutoli ndikudziwana naye. Ichi ndi chifukwa china chomwe amuna safuna kukhala ndi sitima ya ZAGS mu pasipoti yawo.
Akazi aakazi, monga lamulo, amakakamizidwa kuuza aliyense kuti ali osangalala m'banja lachimuna ndipo amakhutitsidwa ndi machitidwe awo. Koma kawirikawiri izi siziri chomwecho, chifukwa mkazi aliyense amalota za ubale ndi wokondedwa wake povomerezedwa.
Amuna amaopa kutaya ufulu wawo ndipo ichi ndi chifukwa chachikulu chosafuna kulowa mu chiyanjano chovomerezeka. Amuna ambiri ndi otsimikiza kuti atatha kulembetsa, mkaziyo adzaphwanya ufulu wake nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse amasonyeza ntchito zake. Kukopa munthu mu ofesi ya registry n'kovuta kwambiri ngati kale anali ndi vuto losakwatirana naye. Koma ngakhale ngati mwamuna sanakwatiwe, kuyamba banja limodzi naye sikungakhale kosavuta. Mu bwalo la abwenzi a mwamuna aliyense payekha ali ndi abwenzi okwatirana amene amakonda kudandaula za moyo wa banja, kuphatikizapo kuchitira nsanje momasuka udindo wa bwenzi.
Mwamuna amene amaopa kutaya ufulu wake nthawi zambiri amadzinenera kuti sanapite. Choncho, kukwatirana kwake kumatanthauza kukonda mkazi mmodzi. Pakati pa mwamuna pali mayesero ambiri, choncho zimakhala zovuta kuti aganizire pazitsulo zoterozo ndikudzidzimutsa kuti adzichepetse chimwemwe cha moyo wamoyo. Kufunitsitsa kukwatiwa ndi mwamuna kudzawonekera pokhapokha atayenda.
Bungwe lotchedwa bachelor ndilovuta kwambiri kukopa mu ofesi yolembera, monga momwe amagwiritsira ntchito kukhala yekha, kotero safuna mkazi kukhala naye pafupi. Ngakhale atatsimikiza kuti bachelor akugwera mu chikondi, sadzafulumizitsa chiyanjano ndi mtsikanayo, chifukwa amadziwa kuti ukwati udzasintha moyo wake, ndipo sadakonzekere kusintha moyo wake wokhazikika.
Amuna ena amaopa udindo wawo, choncho safulumira kukwatira. Mwamunayo amagwiritsidwa ntchito poyang'anira moyo mwakuzindikira kwake kuti sadakonzekere kusintha. Ndipo iwo adzakhala atatha pambuyo paukwati - iwo adzasintha zizolowezi zawo ndi kusiya zonse zomwe akhala akuzolowera ndi zomwe iwo angakhoze kuchita asanakwatirane, kusintha kwa kayendedwe kakang'ono katsopano ka moyo. Mwamunayo amamvetsetsa kuti kulankhulana mokondwera ndi abwenzi kudzakhala chinthu chakale. M'mbuyomu, padzakhala anthu atsopano okondweretsa, makamaka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ngati munthu amakonda moyo wake wochuluka, ndiye kuti ali ndi mantha oganiza kuti akusintha.
Amuna ena samangokhalira kukhala ndi banja, popeza alibe nthawi yokwanira ya banja lawo chifukwa cha ntchito yawo kuntchito. Ngati mwamuna ali ndi mutu wake apita kuntchito, sangathe kukumbukira kuti ayenera kumutcha wokondedwa wake, kuti madzulo adakonzekera kupita limodzi kapena kukawonera mafilimu.
Amuna ambiri amaopa akazi omwe amalengeza poyera chikhumbo chawo chokwatirana. Amuna amachitanso mantha ndi amayi omwe amaonetsa kuti akufuna kukwatira.
Ngati mkazi akufuna kuti wosankhidwa wake asiye kubwezeretsa ukwati kwa kanthaŵi, ndiye amafunikira kuleza mtima ndipo samanena nthawi zonse kuti mwalengedwera wina ndi mzake.