Pamene mgwirizano pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana umakula kwambiri, nthawi yodziwa makoloyo imabwera. Kuchokera momwe inu mumayambira poyamba kumanga ubale ndi abwenzi anu a amayi ndi abambo, maubwenzi anu apamtima amadalira mwachindunji. Ndicho chifukwa chake muyenera kudziwa momwe mungamangire ubale ndi makolo a mnyamata.
Pezani malo wamba
Kuti mudziwe momwe mungamangire ubale ndi makolo a mnyamata, choyamba muyenera kupeza mtundu wa banja lomwe ali nalo. Mukufuna kukonda amayi ndi abambo a mnyamata, kotero muyenera kudziwa poyamba kuti ndi ndani komanso kuti ndi ndani. Kuti apange mgwirizano wabwino, anthu onse ayenera kukhala ndi zokonda ndi zofunikanso. Pano pazimenezi ndipo funsani mnyamata yemwe amakonda bambo ndi mayi ake, omwe ali ndi ntchito, ndizochita zotani, amachita chiyani nthawi yawo yopuma. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti zofuna zanu zikugwirizana ndi zawo, ndi zabwino. Ndiye, poyankhulana ndi makolo, onetsetsani, koma mwachibadwa, kumbukirani, mwachitsanzo, kuti, monga mayi wa mnyamata amachita kanzashi maluwa, kapena inu mutatengedwa kuchokera muli ana mwa kusaka ndipo mumakonda masewera ena, monga ndi abambo anu okondedwa.
Ngati mulibe zofanana ndi makolo a anyamata, musawonongeke ndikupanga chinachake. Kuti amange ubale, ambiri amayamba kupanga ziganizidwe zozunzikira. Ndipo izi ndi zolakwika kwenikweni. Ndipotu, pakapita nthawi muyenera kuvomereza kuti simunakondweretsedwe ndi mtanda kapena kusonkhanitsa mitundu yosawerengeka ya akangaude. Ndipo zonse zomwe zikhoza kumangidwa kale zikhoza kuwonongedwa, chifukwa makolo a wachinyamatayo adzakupeza iwe wabodza amene amayesa kukhulupirira.
Khalani mfumu, koma musapitirire.
Kulankhulana ndi makolo, yesetsani kuchita zachikhalidwe ndi zachikazi. Koma mu nkhaniyi, inunso, musanyalanyaze. Simusowa kuti mukhale ngati mwaimitsa chipilala, mukuchita bwino komanso mwamphamvu kwambiri. Mwachibadwa, poyamba aliyense amakhala ovuta ndi alendo omwe mukufuna kuwasangalatsa. Komabe, ngati muwona kuti makolo ndi anthu ophweka, ocheza nawo, mosavuta kulankhulana, mukhoza kumasulidwa ndikulankhulana mwamtendere nawo. Zoonadi, simuyenera kudzipangitsa kuti mukhale osasamala, muzikachita kuseka, kuseka kwambiri. Komabe, ayenera kuwona kuti pafupi ndi mwana wawo ndi mtsikana, osati mwana wamsewu.
Koma muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati mukuona kuti makolo a achinyamata ali otetezeka kwambiri, ndipo ndinu osiyana kwambiri? Pankhaniyi, dzifunseni nokha ngati mungathe kusewera pamaso pawo mayi weniweni. Ngati ndi choncho, yesetsani njira yabwino, momwe amafunira komanso kuyembekezera. Koma ngati mumvetsetsa kuti simungaime ngakhale kamodzi, musadzipweteke nokha ndi kusewera. Khalani monga momwe mulili, ndipo nthawiyi idzauza ngati angakuvomerezeni kapena ayi. Pankhaniyi, nthawi zonse sikoyenera kuyembekezera ubale wabwino ndi makolo. Koma mbali ina, simusowa kusewera ndi omvera ndikudzizunza nthawi zonse.
Musanene zoipa za okondedwa anu
Kuti apange ubale weniweni ndi makolo a mnyamata, sikuli kofunikira kuti akambirane mwana wawo ndi iwo ndikuwonetsa munthuyo molakwika. Ngakhale amayi ndi abambo akunena kuti mwana wawo ndi wolakwika ndipo akulakwitsa pazinthu zina, mofananamo, yesetsani kuyankha pa zochita zake ndipo mosamveka kuti musamuwonetse mnyamatayo molakwika. Kumbukirani kuti makolo onse amakonda "kuteteza", akambirane kuti ana awo amachita chinachake cholakwika, koma samafuna kumva kuchokera kwa anthu ena.
Kulankhulana ndi makolo a mnyamatayo, khalani okwanira mosungidwa ndi olondola. Kumbukirani kuti simuli anzanu, nkhani zambiri zomwe mungathe kuwauza abwenzi ndi abwenzi, makolo sayenera kumvedwa. Ngakhale iwo ali okondwa ndi anthu amakono, ndi chinthu chimodzi kuti mumve chinachake chonena za osadziwika ndi zina-za mtsikana wa mwana wake. Musaiwale kuti abambo onse ndi amayi amawona kuti ana awo akalonga omwe amayenera kukhala mafumu enieni.