Ndemanga iliyonse ya mwamuna, kusintha kwa kugonana mu chiyanjano (pambuyo pake, mwana atabadwa, kugonana kumasintha m'njira zambiri), usiku wopanda kugona, atakhala pambali, kutopa nthawi zonse ndi kulemera kwa udindo kwa mwana, komanso kusakhutira ndi iwo eni, mawonekedwe awo - zonsezi amatha kuvulaza ngakhale mkazi wokonda maganizo kumalo ovutika maganizo. Ndipo malingaliro monga "Sindimakonda mwamuna wanga", "amandiona kuti sindikukondweretsa," "Kwa omwe ndimawafuna" molimba mtima ndikukhala mu ubongo wa mayi wamng'ono. Ndipo popanda kutsutsidwa bwino, zotsatira za zowopsya zoterezi zingakhale zomvetsa chisoni kwambiri. Kuvutika maganizo kumabweretsa matenda ena, osati matenda okhaokha. Ndipo mawu odziwika kwambiri akuti "matenda onse ochokera m'mitsempha" si nthano nkomwe. Kotero, choti muchite ngati mukumva zizindikiro za vuto la postpartum, kuti mudakayikira kale zomwe mumakonda, kapena mwazindikira kuti munamva zopweteka kwambiri ponena za inu?
Choyamba, musanyalanyaze vutoli, musatseke maso anu kusintha zomwe zikuchitika mwa inu. Zomwe mukukumana nazo ndi mantha anu zidzangobwereka mwa inu, sizidzatha popanda tsatanetsatane. Zoonadi, simukuyenera kuponyera kumanzere kwanu ndikukwanira za mavuto anu, koma funsani anzanu apamtima, pitani ku zokambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo - zonsezi zingakhale malo anu. Anthu ambiri, kuti amvetse zifukwa komanso njira yothetsera vutoli, ayenera kumvetsera. Musamayembekezere zina zothetsa mavuto anu, zonsezi ziyenera kuganizidwa ndi inu. Komanso musamaope kuyankhula ndi mnzanuyo za zomwe zikukuchitikirani, ndipo zomwe zili zovuta kwa inu. Kumvetsetsa ndi kuthandizana kuchokera kwa munthu wapafupi kudzakuthandizani kulimbana ndi chisokonezo ndikukhazikitsa mavuto aakulu.
Khwerero yofunikira ndikudzilandira nokha. Kusintha kwa pathupi pa thupi lachikazi sikuwonjezera kufooka kwachinyamata komanso kufanana kwachinyamata ku fano lanu, ndipo amayi ambiri miyezi 9 yapitayi anali atsikana ochepa thupi, ndi zovuta kupirira njira yatsopano ya amayi okalamba. Komabe, unyamata sudzapitirira kwanthawizonse, anthu onse amakalamba ndikusintha, koma zakudya zoyenera komanso zochitika zolimbitsa thupi zidzakuthandizani kuti muyambe kukondweretsanso. Sikovuta kwa mayi wamng'ono kuti apeze nthawi yopumula, kubwezeretsa mphamvu. Yesetsani kudzipeza nokha wothandizira, mwinamwake adzakhala agogo kapena a nanny omwe angadzisamalire yekha ndi mwanayo. Musaiwale, osati mwana wanu yekha, koma mumasowa nokha. Tengani mpumulo, yendani mlengalenga, yesetsani kuti musadandaule kwambiri, mtolo wosalephereka umangowonjezera mkhalidwe wanu. Komanso osalimbikitsidwa ndi kuyesetsa kwambiri, zomwe zimayambitsa kupanikizika m'thupi. Funsani akatswiri ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, nthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi angangowonjezera mavuto.
Amayi ambiri amavutika ndi kugonana.
Kubeleka ndi chiyeso chovuta mthupi, ngakhale kubereka kupyolera mu gawo la Kaisareya. Kuchokera kuchipatala, nthawi yabwino yomwe imayenera kubwezeretsa mkazi atabadwa ndi mwezi ndi theka. Ndipo musachite mantha, ngati mulibe chilakolako choyamba ndi chikhumbo, kuchepa uku ndikulondola pazomwe thupi lirili. Choyamba, mthupi lanu limasinthira ndipo mayi atatha kubereka amamvetsera kwambiri mwana wake, zomwe ndi zachilengedwe. Ndipo amasamala za ana akukankhidwa kumbuyo ndi chikoka cha kugonana, chomwe nthawi zina chimakhala chifukwa cha chisokonezo kwa amuna. Nthawi zina amatha kuwonetsera nsanje momveka bwino kwa mwana wamba, poganiza kuti asiya kugwira ntchito pamoyo wanu. Monga nthawi zambiri, ndibwino kuti mukambirane ndi kukhulupirira kwathunthu mnzanuyo. Musaope kulankhula za momwe mumamvera, musawope moona mtima.
Kuwonekera kwa munthu watsopano m'banja n'kofunikira osati kwa inu nokha, komanso kwa mnzako, komanso kukambirana momasuka komanso kumvetsetsa kumathandiza kupanga chilengedwe chofunikira kuti chitukuko cha mwana chikhale chogwirizana. Dzitetezeni ku zokambirana zosasangalatsa kapena zikondwerero za phokoso, umayi ndi nthawi yapadera, yofuna mtendere ndi bata. Musaganizire pa mavuto omwe amakuvutitsani komanso osadzikayikira za kusadzikonda kwanu. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, musatseke mavuto anu ndipo musazengereze kuyankhula za iwo ndi abwenzi ndi abwenzi. Tikukhulupirira kuti mawu akuti: "Mwamuna atatha kubadwa ananena kuti sindikusangalatsa", simungakhudzidwe.