Kodi ukudziwa kuti maganizo osamvetsetseka omwe amakumana nawo komanso osakhutitsidwa mukapeza kuti wina ali ndi mwayi kapena wina wachita bwino kusiyana ndi inu? Ayi? Ndiye tikuthokozani inu, simunafunikire kumva nsanje! Ngakhale mu moyo weniweni, pafupifupi munthu aliyense amamuchitira nsanje munthu wina, ngakhale kuti tonsefe, ndithudi, timakonda kwambiri.
Kodi mungatani kuti muchotse kaduka, ngati mukuyenera kumverera mobwerezabwereza? Chowonadi ndi chakuti kaduka sizowonongeka chabe, komanso ndizoopsa kwa thanzi lanu labwino komanso la thanzi lanu. Kukhala ndi nsanje nthawi zonse kungakuchititseni kudwala matenda a ubongo kapena kuvutika maganizo, ndipo thanzi silikuwoneka bwino. Ndipo bioenergetics amatsutsa kuti ngati munthu nthawi zonse amadana ndi munthu aliyense, aura yake imayamba kuoneka mdima, kumangokhalira kukhumudwa, ndipo pamapeto pake kumabweretsa kulephera osati mu moyo wake wokha, komanso pa ntchito ndi ndalama. Monga mukuonera, ichi sikumverera kosasangalatsa, ndipo mwamsanga mudzatha kuchotsa, bwino.
Zifukwa za kaduka
Tiyeni tione zifukwa zazikulu zowonekera kwa kaduka. Monga lamulo, iwo ndi:
Zachabechabe
Ngati mumadziona kuti ndinu wabwino kwambiri kuposa anthu onse, ndiye kuti mumatsimikiza kuti muyenera kukhala ndi zinthu zabwino kwambiri. Pa mbali imodzi, sizoipa, chifukwa tonse timadziwa kuti tifunika kuyamikira, kukondedwa ndi kulemekezedwa. Koma pamene kumverera kwachikondi kumakula kukhala mtundu wa paranoia, umayamba kufika panjira. Pachifukwa ichi, mukhoza kuyamba kuchita mofulumira kwambiri kuti ena ali ndi chinthu chabwino, chifukwa mumalingaliro anu sali oyenerera ndipo ndiwe wofunikira kwambiri komanso wodzisankhira yekha.
Kumva kusakhutira ndiwekha
Apa chirichonse chiri chosavuta: ngati nthawi zonse simukukondwera ndi inu nokha ndikuganiza kuti wina akupeza zonse mwangwiro, koma osati ndi inu, ndiye kuti muli kale sitepe imodzi kuchoka ku kaduka. Mwamsanga mukuyamba kusintha ndikuyamba kudzikuza nokha ndi zomwe mukuchita.
Mukudziyerekezera nokha ndi ena
Komanso nthawi zambiri amachititsa nsanje. Poyerekeza nthawi zonse ndi moyo wawo komanso wa ena, munthu amatha kudziona mosavuta. Pambuyo pa zonse, chirichonse chimene anganene, padzakhala munthu mmodzi yemwe ali wochuluka, wolemera kapena wosangalala kuposa ifeyo. Pamapeto pake, nthawi zonse ndikuganiza ngati "Pano Svetka ali ndi galimoto zaka 20, koma ine sindikutero", mumakhala achisoni ndipo mumayamba kuganiza za tsogolo lanu lomwe "mulibe".
Chisoni cha Ena
Nthawi zonse amanyoza kapena achifundo achibale ndi achibale, mwachitsanzo, kuti simunakwatirane kapena mwapeza ntchito yabwino, pang'onopang'ono mungayambe kuchitira nsanje atsikana okwatirana komanso odalirika. Pambuyo pa zonse, ena amakuuzani kuti izi ndi "zolondola" ndipo izi ndizo "chizoloŵezi", ndipo ngati mulibe, ndiye kuti pali chinachake cholakwika ndi inu. Ndipotu, izi ndizo tsankho basi.
Ulesi
Kodi mukudziwa yemwe ali ndi nsanje koposa zonse? Ogwira ntchito, okhudzika ndi chinachake cha anthu. Iwo amangokhala opanda nthawi yoti aganizire kwa maora pafupi ndi mtundu wanji wa bwenzi omwe adagula malaya abwino a ubweya kapena ngati msuweni wokhala bwino mu Igupto. Amakonda zolinga zawo, akukula, akusuntha ndipo ali ndi chikhulupiriro kuti iwo posachedwapa adzapeza zambiri kuposa ena. Koma anthu aulesi omwe alibe chochita, ngati palibe zinthu zina, "atsuka mafupa awo" ndi anzawo omwe amadziwana nawo, ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo amasirira kupambana kwa ena.
Malinga ndi zifukwa za kaduka, mukhoza kumvetsa kuti pofuna kuchotsa malingaliro akuda awa, muyenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama nokha ndi kuganiza kwanu. Inu simukufuna kuti mukhale munthu wansanje ndi wosasangalatsa?
Mmene mungachotsere kaduka: zidule zothandiza
Pezani nokha ndi moyo wanu chinachake chimene ena angachite
Izi ndi njira yothandiza kwambiri, kuthandizira osati kuchotsa kaduka, komanso kuwonjezera ulemu wanu, kuyamba kudzikuza nokha. Mulole mnzanuyo azigwiritsa ntchito ndalama zambiri, koma mwamuna wanu wokondedwa ndi wachikondi, wofatsa komanso wokonzeka kukutetezani. Chabwino, musalole kuti mukhale pa mphasa, monga bwenzi lanu ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi, koma mukhoza kuliimba bwino kapena kumanga. Ganizirani ndi kupeza nokha zomwe ena angachite. Ndi bwino kulemba zonsezi pa pepala ndikuziwerenga nthawi ndi nthawi.
Kumvetsa kupanda pake kwa kaduka
Chowonadi chiri, kuchokera ku nsanje yayikulu ya inu, ngati ngati mwa matsenga, palibe chomwe inu mumasirira. Ndi bwino kulola mphamvu zonse ndi nthawi kuti zikwaniritse zolinga izi kusiyana ndi kukhala ndi kuganiza mozama.
Pezani chikumbumtima pa nkhani ya kaduka
Chinthu chinanso chachikulu. Ganizirani, mwinamwake sizinanso zambiri zomwe mumakonda. Mwachitsanzo, chibwenzi chanu chimakhala cholimba. Koma tsopano ganizirani momwe iye samawonera ana ake kapena mwamuna wake nthawi zambiri chifukwa cha ntchito yake. Koma pa inu, musalole ndalama zambiri, komanso nthawi yochuluka kwambiri ya banja.
Pezani chinthu chomwecho chomwe mumasirira
Kumverera kwa kaduka ndi njira yabwino yodziwira zomwe mukusowa ndikuponyera mphamvu zonse pakuzizindikira. Kodi mumasirira abwenzi abwino galimoto? Ndiye muyenera kuyamba kuyesetsa kugula chimodzimodzi kapena bwino. Ndikhulupirire, ngati munthu mmodzi atha kukwaniritsa chinachake, ndiye wina adzafika.
Thandizani munthu wina
Kuwathandiza anthu ena kukupatsani inu mwayi wodziona kuti ndinu wofunikira komanso munthu wothandiza ndikuzindikira kuti mwinamwake simunapindule ndi zomwe ena ali, komabe inu mumakhalabe moyo pachabe ndipo moyo wanu umakhalanso wodalirika.
Komabe, ngati kuchotsa kaduka kumakhalabe kovuta, pitirizani kuyenda pang'onopang'ono: yesetsani kukhala chisonkhezero champhamvu cha chitukuko chowonjezereka ndi kupita patsogolo kupita patsogolo. Ganizirani kuti mungathe kuchita bwino kwambiri ndikupindula kwambiri kuposa munthu yemwe mumamuchitira nsanje, ndikuyamba kupita patsogolo pa cholinga chanu.