Ndipotu, ambirife timakula moyamba m'banja lomwe makolo adalenga, kenako amalenga okha, ndipo posakhalitsa lingakhale gawo la mabanja a ana awo. Zambiri zalembedwa momwe mungakhalire bwino maubwenzi a banja ndikukhazikitsa chikhalidwe. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti kafukufukuyu wa akatswiri a zamaganizo omwe amadziŵa bwino kawirikawiri sagwiritsidwa ntchito, nthawi zambiri amapezeka. Inde, akatswiri odziwa zamaganizo omwe angakuthandizeni kukhazikitsa moyo ndi kukhazikitsa chikhalidwe cha kumvetsetsa, koma m'kalasi ndi maphunziro awo, atatha kukudziwani, komanso kumvetsa zomwe mukufunikira poyamba. Koma, mwatsoka, anthu athu sagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi maganizo, ndipo nthawi zambiri pempherani thandizo kwa katswiri wofanana ndi matenda a maganizo. Mwinamwake, ndiye chifukwa chake akatswiri a maganizo amatchedwa "maganizo".
Koma nthawi zina zimakhala zosavuta kuyika malingaliro, ndikuwatsitsira njira yosayenera, chifukwa vuto la banja ndilozama kwambiri kuposa momwe likuwonekera poyamba. Nthawi zambiri mavuto amabwera pamene okwatirana ayamba kufalitsa maudindo, komanso kukhazikitsa malo a mwamuna ndi malo a mkazi m'banja.
Zosintha.
Moyo wathu wonse ndi chinthu chimodzi chokha, chomwe timagwiritsa ntchito popanga zisankho pazochita ndi zolakwika, ndipo kawirikawiri kusokoneza maganizo ndi khalidwe la anthu ambiri padziko lapansi. Chabwino, izo zinachitika kwa zaka mazana ambiri kuti ife tingofunikira kudalira pa malingaliro a ena, kuganizira zofuna zawo ndi mwayi. Ndipo palibe chimene mungachite pazimenezo, kuti tikukhala m'gulu limathandiza kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, pali anthu omwe samangosamala za malingaliro a anthu, amapanga malamulo ndi malamulo awo ndikukhala nawo. Koma kawirikawiri amadziwika ndi anthu ngati otayika. Inu simungakhoze kukhala pa nthawi yomweyo ndi gululo ndi motsutsa khamu. Amakakamizika kusankha.
Kuwonetseratu kwa kulingalira kumayikidwa makamaka mu ubale wa banja, kapena mmalo mwake kumanga kwawo. Ndondomeko yoyendetsera moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, kutsimikizira ufulu ndi ntchito za okwatirana, malo a mkazi m'banja amasinthasintha kwambiri, omwe nthawi zina sangathe koma amamva chisoni.
Makamaka zimakhudzana ndi kugawa maudindo pakati pa okwatirana. Kotero, nthawi zambiri mukhoza kuona zotsatirazi: mkazi - moyo, munthu - moyo wamoyo uno. Ngakhale mutayesa ntchito yopanga homuweki zokhazokha ndikusowa kulankhulana ndipo nthawi zina sizing'onozing'ono, ndiye kuti zogawanika ndi zosiyana ndipo mukufuna kuziyitanira mosiyana. Pa nthawi imodzimodzi, ngati malo a abambo m'banja ali ochepa okha, udindo wa mwamuna si wokwanira, mkazi wamakono amavomereza njira imeneyi.
Kawirikawiri amayi amatha kudziyika okha m'malo mwa antchito m'nyumba. Ndipotu, amayi ake, agogo ake aamuna, mwina am'banja lawo. Mu ubwana ife tinazindikira izi ngati mawonekedwe oyenera a chisamaliro ndi chikondi kuchokera kwa amayi anga, koma pokhala ndi zaka tinadziwa kuti zikhoza kukhala zosiyana kwambiri.
Mkaziyo ndi wojambula.
Udindo wa amayi m'banja, uli ndi kusiyana kwakukulu, komwe amachita bwino. Zochitika zenizeni za zochitika zina za moyo zikanakwiyitsa ngakhalenso ochita masewera olimba kwambiri. Koma kawirikawiri chirichonse chimene mkazi amachita, amachita ndi moyo ndi mtima wangwiro. Popanda kuyembekezera phindu lililonse, pokhapokha ngati lingakhudze banja lake lokha.
Choncho, ngati mumalongosola mwachidule machitidwe onse a abambo, mukhoza kuwagwirizanitsa maudindo enaake. Mwachitsanzo, poyamba mkazi amachita monga mkazi, chikondi chachikondi ndi chisamaliro. Komanso kuganizira zofunikira za maudindo omwe ali nawo m'nyumbayo. Kuti mukhale ndi moyo, samalirani kuti zonse ziri mnyumbamo zinali zofunika, ganizirani zofunikira zonse ndikugawira bajeti ya banja pamene ikuchitika, ndi ya mkaziyo basi. Musaiwale zosowa za mwamuna wake mu chikondi ndi chikondi, kotero kuti usiku ayenera kukhala mbuye wanzeru.
Patapita nthawi, amayamba kugwirizanitsa udindo wa mkazi ndi udindo wa mayi. Ngakhale kusamalidwa ndi mavuto akuphatikizidwa, nthawi zambiri mavuto otero kwa mkazi ndi chisangalalo. Pomwe mwanayo adabwera komanso kuti mayiyo alowe mmalo mwa mayi, iye, kupatula kukhalabe mkazi, mbuye, ndi mbuye, amayesanso udindo wa aphunzitsi. Ndipotu, ngakhale kuti anawo akuleredwa ndi makolo onse awiri, nthawi zonse mayi amakhala pafupi ndi mwanayo, ndipo papa amakhala chinthu chomvera. Koma kubereka ana sikukwanira, amafunikanso kuphunzitsidwa, kukhazikitsa mwa iwo chilakolako cha chidziwitso. Kawirikawiri kuyambira zaka zoyambirira za moyo wathu, mwanayo amatsimikiza kuti amayi amadziwa zonse. Choncho, tingathe kunena momveka kuti mkazi nayenso amachitanso mbali ya mphunzitsi. Ndipo pomaliza kukwaniritsa maudindo onse oyambirira, mkaziyo akutembenuzidwanso kuti akhale mlangizi, katswiri wamaganizo a kunyumba, dokotala, mphunzitsi, ndipo kenako agogo.
Mukayang'ana zonse izi kunja, zimawoneka kuti kuphatikiza kotero sikutheka. Koma, pakuyang'ana mkazi wamba, timamvetsa kuti chozizwitsa chilipobe.
Mayi ayenera kudziwa malo ake.
Ngakhale kuti pali zambiri zomwe zimachitika m'moyo wa banja, nthawi zambiri akazi amakhalabe opanda phindu. Ndipo mwamuna adzadziona yekha kukhala pamwamba ndi kupitirira mkazi. Choncho, tanthawuzo lakuti mwamuna nthawi zonse ndi lolondola, kuti mkazi sayenera kusokoneza pamene abambo akunena, ndi kuti malo a mkazi kukhitchini. Ngakhale ngati mukuganiza zomwe amuna angachite popanda akazi?
Nanga mkaziyo ali kuti? Ngati mukutsatira mafanizo achipembedzo, malo a mkazi sali pambali pa mwamuna - kuti sangatenge mavuto onse payekha, osati kumbuyo kwa munthu-omwe sangachititsidwe manyazi, malo a mkazi pafupi ndi mwamuna, kuchokera pamtima - omwe nthawi zonse amamva chitetezo cha dzanja lake lamphamvu , ndi chikondi chomwe chimachokera mumtima. Ndipo ndi mawu awa n'zovuta kusagwirizana.
Chifukwa chake, akazi okondedwa amatenga malo anu abwino pafupi ndi mwamuna wanu wokondedwa, ndipo musadzipunthwitse. Pambuyo pake, ndani, ngati si inu, akuyenerera zokhazokha?