Zifukwa zomwe simungakane
1. Opani kuti munthu wakhumudwa kapena wokwiya
Nthawi zambiri, sitidziwa kukana anthu chifukwa cha mantha awa. Zomwe sizikudziwika bwino zomwe munthu ayenera kukhumudwitsidwa: ndi ntchito yanu kapena chilakolako chokhazikika, ndi zina zotero? Mundikhulupirire, mutha kumvetsetsa ngati mukufotokoza momveka bwino chifukwa cha kukana.
2. Opani kuti simudzakhalanso okondedwa, olemekezeka kapena ochiritsidwa bwino
Zoona, izi zikhoza kuchitika, koma pokhapokha mutayesa kuchita. Kotero, kuti akwaniritse chokhumba cha wina, kuti ayambe kukwiya. Kodi mukufunikiradi izi? Ndi bwino kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yodzisankhira nokha: kuchotsani maofesi ndi maganizo osatetezeka.
3. Axiom adakali mwana: kukana thandizo - mochuluka komanso mochenjera
Ndi chinthu chimodzi pamene woyandikana naye wakale akupempha kuti athamangire ku sitolo kuti akagule zakudya, chifukwa zimamuvuta kuti ayende, ndi zina - pamene mnzanu akugwira ntchito akuyesera kusintha gawo lake la ntchito kwa iwe. Zikuonekeratu kuti pachiyambi choyamba ndi nkhani ya chikumbumtima, ndipo m'chigawo chachiŵiri ndi chitsanzo chodziwikiratu cha kugwiritsidwa ntchito. M'mawu ena, muyenera kumvetsetsa bwino kuti nthawi zina thandizo lanu likufunikadi.
4. Kuopa kunena "ayi" nthawi zina kumaperekedwa ndi anthu okhaokha
Dzifunseni nokha mafunso awiri ophweka: kodi mumapempha kangati ntchito ya ena ndikufunsapo konse? Kodi pali anthu omwe mukukhalamo omwe akuchita chirichonse ngati utumiki wautumiki? Mukawayankha, ganizirani ngati mukuyenera mantha kwambiri kukana. Mwinamwake inu mumadzidalira nokha pazochitika zonse, koma anthu omwe amathandiza kokha pobwezera chinachake, chifukwa chake amafunikira konse. Musagonjetsedwe ndi anthu, musachite mantha: padzakhala anthu okonzeka kuthandiza popanda chifukwa.
5. Udindo wa munthu wodzichepetsa ndi uwu: zosowa ndi zofuna za ena ndi zofunika kwambiri kuposa zanga
Pachifukwa ichi, funsani funso ili: "Chifukwa chiyani sindingakane anthu? Kodi bizinesi yanga ndi yopanda phindu?" Mwachidziwikiratu, muyenera kungodzivomereza nokha monga momwe muliri ndikumvetsetsa kuti ndinu ofunikira kwa anthu omwe mukuzungulirani.
Zotsatira
Koma zilizonse zomwe zimayambitsa-khalidwe lotetezeka ndi anthu ena, kumbukirani: palibe chabwino chomwe chidzabwere. Choyamba, mumadzikakamiza kuchita zomwe simukuzifuna kwenikweni. Ndipo monga mukudziwira, ngati mukugwira ntchito yamtundu uliwonse, simungapezeko mphamvu yowonjezera komanso luso lothandiza. Pambuyo pake, mudzapeza kutopa kwakukulu komanso kumverera kwawonongeka kwathunthu.
Chachiwiri, kumangokhalira kukhutitsa zilakolako za anthu ena, mumakhala oopsya. Izi zikutanthauza kuti pasanapite nthawi, malo anu adzakhala akugwiritsidwa ntchito kuti akwaniritse ntchito zawo, zofuna zawo, malingaliro awo, zowonjezera ndi zopempha ndi zokondweretsa. Mwa mawu, iye amayesera kuti azigwiritsa ntchito. Ndipo zotsatira zidzatenga mopepuka. Koma ndi theka la vutoli, choipa kwambiri, ngati munthu mwadzidzidzi amavutitsidwa. Malingaliro ake nthawi zambiri amathamangira ku lingaliro lolunjika lomwe limagwirizana ndi chiganizo chimodzi: aliyense akhale wosangalala, asandiyamikire tsopano, iwo amvetsetsa atatayika. Izi ndizo kunyada komwe kumakweza munthu pamwamba pa ena onse.
Chachitatu, kudziimba mlandu nthawi zonse. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika, mumapereka lonjezo, zomwe simungakwanitse. Chifukwa chake, umayenera kunama, kubisa, kubisala. Zonsezi zimapangitsa wina - kudzidzimva kuti ndi wolakwa, pamaso pa iwe ndi ena, osanena za ubale umene ulipo ndi munthu.
Chachinayi, nthawi zambiri timadandaula, nthawi zambiri osati munthu wosalakwa amene amadziwika kuti ndi wosakhulupirika ndipo amataya chikhulupiriro cha anzake. Ndipo zonse chifukwa sangathe komanso sakudziwa kukana mwachindunji ndi momveka bwino. Mmalo mwake, akulonjeza kuti adzakwaniritsa pempholi, kenako adzabisala, kubweretsa khalidwe la munthuyo.
Momwe mungaphunzirire kukana
Ndikotheka kuphunzira momwe mungakane pempho lopempha. Poyambirira, ziyenera kumveka kuti mukungogwiritsa ntchito, zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pazinthu zawo. Pokumbukira izi, mukhoza kuyankha moyenera "ayi" mopanda kukhumudwitsa munthu, ndipo musasangalale ndi kudziimba mlandu. Musaiwale kuti muli ndi ufulu wokana. Monga munthu wina simungaletse kupempha thandizo kapena thandizo. Koma ziri kwa inu kusankha chomwe munganene: "inde" kapena "ayi." Ndipo kumbukirani, munthu woyandikana naye kwambiri, mofatsa ndiye kukana. Choncho, muyenera kukana. Ndiye mumayamba kuti?
1. Mofuula, mofuula komanso momveka bwino, nenani mawu akuti "ayi" kangapo. Chitani izi mpaka zidziwike kwa inu.
2. Tsatirani ndi kupukuta m'malingaliro anu omwe mukuvutika kuti muyankhe "ayi." Koma ndi kusiyana komwe simukuopa kukana wopemphayo ndipo musapangire zifukwa. Ndipo ingomulankhulani ndi interlocutor kuti simungathe kumuthandiza.
Z. Cholinga cha maphunziro, ayambe ndi zochepa. Samalani ndi zinthu zosavuta komanso zosafunika zomwe munganene kuti "ayi" mofatsa koma ndithudi. M'tsogolomu izi zidzakuthandizani kupanga chisankho choyenera muzovuta kwambiri.
Kodi mungakane bwanji?
1. Choyamba, onetsani zokambirana zanu zomwe mukuchita. Kungakhale malingaliro osiyanasiyana, kuchokera ku mkwiyo ndi chisoni. Simungakane, koma muwonetseni malingaliro anu kwa mnzanuyo ndipo fotokozani zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi inu. Uku ndiko kukonzekera bwino kwa munthu kukana popanda kunyalanyaza kudzidalira kwake.
2. Nenani ayi. Fotokozani momveka bwino chifukwa cha kukana.
3. Cholinga chachikulu cha kukanidwa ndi mwayi kwa inu panthawiyi kuti muchite zabwino kwa inu. Ganizirani izi ndikupatseni njira yothetsera vutoli. Izi zidzakuthandizani kupewa zovuta zosafunika, ndipo anthu adzawona kuti simukugwirizana ndi mavuto ake.
4. Onetsetsani kuti mumamvetsera mnzanuyo, musamamulepheretse.
5. Ngati, mutatha kutsutsana, simunasinthe chisankho chanu chokana, bwerezani maganizo anu atsopano, kungoganizira mawu a interlocutor. Apanso, tchulani zifukwa zonse zomwe pempholi silidzachitire, mosasinthasintha komanso molimbika.
Kuphunzira kukana anthu ndikofunikira. Kotero kuti mumapeza nthawi ndi mphamvu, zomwe mungathe kuzigwiritsa ntchito, mutha kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi anthu oyandikana nawo, kuti mulandire ulemu.