Si chinsinsi kuti mkazi aliyense amafuna ubale wake ndi mnyamata, ngakhale pang'ono, kutsogolera ku chinachake chovuta. Koma si anthu onse omwe amagawana malingaliro awa. Nanga bwanji ngati ubale wanu ndi munthu sukula? Ndipotu, palibe yankho limodzi la funsoli, chifukwa chiyanjano pakati pa anthu chimasiyana. Choncho, kuti mudziwe momwe mungachitire bwino, ngati maubwenzi anu ndi abambo sakukula, choyamba, mudziwe chomwe chimayambitsa zofanana.
Kugonana mmalo mwa chikondi
Njira yoyamba - Ubwenzi sukumangidwa osati pa chikondi, koma pa kugonana. Pachifukwa ichi, ubalewu sungakhalepo, chifukwa mnyamatayo sakuwona munthu yemwe akufuna kumanga chinachake, koma chokhacho chokhumba. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti ndi bedi lokha limene limakumangirani mwamuna, ndiye kuti simukuyembekeza chitukuko cha chiyanjano choterocho. Ziribe kanthu momwe dzikoli linalili lamakono komanso lomasulidwa, ngati munthu poyamba ankaganiza zofuna kugonana ndipo nthawi yomweyo analandira zomwe ankafuna, koma sanamve chisoni ndi chikondi, m'magulu makumi asanu ndi anayi mphambu asanu ndi anayi pa zana, mkazi angakhale chinthu chogonana ndi mnyamata, omwe ali ndi nthawi yabwino komanso imene angayiwale, atangomudziwa munthu amene amamukonda kwambiri.
Chikondi chimawononga moyo
Njira yachiwiri - ubale ndi munthu sukula, chifukwa malingaliro ake atangotentha. Pankhaniyi, mkaziyo ayenera kuchitidwa kuti mnyamatayo agwiritsenso chidwi ndi iwe. Mwina chifukwa chake ndikuti mnyamatayo anayamba kukuzirani - nthawi zonse ndi moyo. Zidzakhala zachilendo kwa nthawi pamene chikondi chimatuluka chifukwa chakuti msungwanayo amatsitsimutsa, sasiya kudziyang'anira yekha, alibe chidwi ndi moyo wa wachinyamatayo, samayesa kusintha moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Pankhaniyi, ngati munthuyo adakali ndi maganizo, muyenera kusintha mwamsanga khalidwe lanu. Kumbukirani kuti mnyamatayo mwa inu adakonda kwambiri, atengepo kanthu, amulandire chidwi chodabwitsa kuchokera kwa inu. Ngati mutachita zonse bwino, pali mwayi waukulu kuti chiyanjano chidzatha kuchokera kumapeto.
Kuopa za mphamvu
Njira yachitatu ndi mantha. Izi zimachitika kuti ubale pakati pa anthu sukula chifukwa chakuti munthu amangoyamba kuopa mantha awo. Izi zimachitika pamene mnyamata akulakalaka mtima wa mayiyo ndipo potsiriza amapeza. Kapena akayamba kuzindikira kuti akukwiya chifukwa cha chikondi chake kwa mkazi. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kulankhula ndi mnyamata wanu, chifukwa zimadziwika kuti mavuto onse angathe kuthetsedwa kokha ngati tikambirana za iwo. Choncho, lolani mnyamata wanu avomereze kuti ali ndi nkhawa, ndipo mumayesa kumufotokozera kuti malingaliro ake sangamudandaule ndipo mudzayesera kuchita zonse kuti asakayikire chikondi chanu.
Zofunikira zazikulu
Njira yachinayi ndi yakuti chibwenzi sichikukula chifukwa wachinyamata akukhumudwa. Izi zimachitika pazochitika ngati mnyamata amachita zambiri chifukwa cha msungwana, kusintha, kuthetsa zizoloŵezi zoipa, kukana mfundo zina, koma pakapita nthawi, zikuwoneka kuti mkaziyo sakuyamikira izi, komanso amafunanso zambiri. Choncho, ngati mumakonda munthu ndikudziwa zomwe akukuyeserani, musamamufunse chilichonse ndi sazu. Ngakhale mutatsimikiza kuti mukuchita izi zokha. Musaiwale kuti mukakhala kuti wina amasintha yekha kwa wina, osadziŵa kwenikweni chilakolako cha kusintha, pamapeto pake, mwina amachichotsa, kapena chimatha. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mnyamatayo sakanatha kupirira, ndiye kuti amasiya ubwenzi wake, yesetsani kumusonyeza momwe mumayamikirira zochita zake zonse. Koma chofunika kwambiri, onetsetsani kuti mumamukonda mosasamala kanthu za zovuta zomwe mukuwona ndipo ubwino wake ndi wofunika kwambiri. Ngati munthu wachikondi akuwona kuti amavomerezedwa ndikumvetsetsa, adzalimbikitsanso ubwenziwo ndikuyesera kukhala bwino.