Ali ndi vuto lalikulu la abambo, wochita masewerowa ndi wotsimikiza: lingaliro lovomerezeka kuti ana ambiri ali okwera mtengo kwambiri, amanyengerera kwambiri:
... pakati pa awiri, atatu, ana anayi, palibe kusiyana pakati pa zomwe zili. Mwana mmodzi ndi wokwera mtengo. Zachiwiri - osati zodula, chifukwa chachiwiri ndi zinthu zakale.
Mu banja loyenera, malingana ndi wojambula, ayenera kukhala osachepera ana atatu. Kenaka ana amapita "kukwanitsa": amathandizana wina ndi mzake, akulu amasamalirira achinyamata ndipo ... "kugogoda."
Wochita masewerawa amavomereza kuti iye ndi mkazi wake amalimbikitsa "kukwatira" m'banja mwawo, chifukwa anawo amapatsa makolo mfundo zofunikira kotero kuti iwo omwe amadziwa nkhani zatsopano angapewe zotsatira zolakwika za zochita za ana omwe sanaganizidwe moyenera.
Panthawi yomweyi pakati pa abale ndi alongo pali malamulo osatsutsika omwe sanena kwa makolo awo zinsinsi za wina ndi mnzake:
Sitikukayikitsa kuti atsikana aliwonse adzatibatiza ife ndi Oksana mu moyo wa alongo, kuti tidziwe zambiri zovuta. Ndipo zopanda pake zachuma, zomwe ife, chotero, tingakhoze kuziphunzira, ndi zabwino kwambiri. Kudziletsa kwenikweni.
M'banja la Okhlobystiny zakuyanjana kwambiri - makolo amalankhulana ndi ana mofanana. Onse awiri Ivan ndi Oksana amayesera kukhala osakhwima ngakhale pazinthu zing'onozing'ono: okwatirana amaona kuti ndizosalemekeza kuwerengera ana awo, mwachitsanzo, malemba a anyamatawa pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti.
Ivan Okhlobystin nthawi zonse ankalota za banja lalikulu
Zitha kunenedwa motsimikiza kuti pokhala ndi mavuto ambiri a moyo, Ivan Okhlobystin anakwaniritsa maloto ake akulu - adalenga banja lalikulu lachikondi. Malinga ndi wochita masewerowa, izi ndizo zochitika zomwe zimaonedwa kuti ndi "zachibadwa kuposa zachibadwa":
... ngati anthu alola kuti akhale ndi ana, ndizo zabwino. Amalankhula za thanzi lawo ndi chiyembekezo chawo!
Wojambulayo akuvomereza kuti akuyesa kutsimikiza kuti wamkulu m'banja ndi mkazi wake, popeza Oksana amasunga zonse m'nyumba ya Okhlobystins. Mnyamata Ivan amauza mkazi wake kuti sangathe kumusudzula chifukwa chakuti atero ndiye kuti adzalandira antchito onse, kuchokera kwa aphunzitsi kupita kwa oyeretsa. Ndi Oksana Arbuzova, wojambulayo wakhala pamodzi zaka zoposa 20. Owonerera amadziwa kuti mkazi wa Ivan ndi woimba masewera, yemwe mu 1989 anachita nawo mbali yaikulu mu sewero "Mgwirizano - mwana wamkazi wa apolisi."