Mkazi aliyense, ngakhale ngati alibe, koma kamodzi pamlungu ayenera kukweza mapazi ake osati mwamuna wake yekha, koma nyumba yonse. Mwinamwake, mphekesera yotchuka ya lamulo ndi mkazi iyenera kukwanitsa zinthu zitatu: mtsuko, maso ndi amatsenga. Koma kodi pali chidziwitso cha luso limeneli lachikazi? Pambuyo pake, mutha kutseka zitini ndi kusamalira, ndi amuna. Maso otambasula, akhoza komanso mwanayo, kusewera ndi makolo ake. Koma kuti tipeze chisangalalo ndiye kuti ndife oyenerera, azimayi. Yemwe, ngati sikuti mkazi angakhoze "kuthetsa kwathunthu malingaliro a munthuyo." Ndipo pambali pake, yendani nazo zonse ndi kukuwa ndikuponya zonse pansi pansi.
Kodi amatsenga ndi chiyani?
Mtsikana aliyense ayenera kukopa chidwi m'njira iliyonse. Choncho, maonekedwe, ndi luso loyenera "kudzigonjera" okha, nthawi zonse kuyankhula za chilakolako cha amai kuti akope chidwi chenicheni kwa munthu wawo. Kodi amatsenga amodzi mwa njira izi?
Kotero, chiyeso ndi khalidwe lapadera la munthu, mwa njira yomwe, amayesera kukopa mwapadera umunthu wake. Koma hysteria, mwachidziwitso cha tsiku ndi tsiku, ndi malo apadera a khalidwe ndipo sizomwe zimapangidwira kuphunzira m'maganizo kuti athetse malingaliro monga psychosis, maganizo osokoneza maganizo ndi mantha amantha. Chidziwitso chomwechi chingadziwonetsere m'maganizo awiri: kufooketsa kwa ubongo wa chiberekero chifukwa chakuti palibe njira yoyenera yothetsera khalidwe la munthuyo, ndipo vuto lachiwiri ndi kulera kolakwika kwa mwanayo. Kawirikawiri, ana omwe anali ziweto m'banja amamva zowawa.
Amanyazi akhoza kukhala a mitundu iwiri - mokweza ndi chete. Ndi amatsenga okweza, munthu amatha kulira, kufuula, kumwa mbale ndi kuchita zinthu zina zachiwawa. Pokhala ndi chidziwitso chokhazikika, mwachibadwa kuti munthu asonyeze zochita zawo mosamvetsetseka ndipo motero akwaniritse zotsatira zomwezo monga mfuu zamkuntho. Kawirikawiri, mkazi wokhala chete mwamtendere amakhala chete, ndipo amamuyang'ana mwamanyazi, amathyola chikumbumtima chake, kapena amangotsekedwa mwa iwo eni, kudzibisa yekha kudziko lakunja.
Cholinga chachikulu cha khalidweli ndi chikhumbo chokhala pakati pa chidwi. Kawirikawiri boma lirilonse limakhalapo mpaka onse amene akuzungulira munthu wonyenga amamuzindikira ndikuyamba kumukhazika mtima pansi ndikupereka "thandizo" lake kapena kupempha kuti amukhululukire.
Nthaŵi ya hysteria .
Nthawi zina, kuchokera kunja, zimawoneka kuti anthu omwe amatsutsana ndi amatsenga amavomereza bwino zomwe zimachitika. Mwachitsanzo, munthu wamba sangathe kukhala wodetsa nkhaŵa ponena kuti sangakwanitse kugula katemera wokondedwa.
Ndipotu, kuti phokoso likhale lopweteketsa, cholinga chake sichifunikira. Ichi ndi chifukwa chokha chimene mungagwiritse ntchito ndikupereka chifukwa chachikulu chomwe chimakhalira. M'mawu ena, anthu amangochita zamatsenga, musamamvetsetse nthawiyi. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuwakumbutsa za iwoeni. Choncho, amatsenga amatha kusonyeza malingaliro awo omwe sali.
Dziwani kusangalala .
Inde, kulira konse ndi misonzi sayenera kutengedwa monga amatsenga. Ndipotu, aliyense wa ife amakwiya komanso amadzimvera chisoni, choncho amakhumudwa, kapena amakhala ndi zifukwa zina zomwe zimasonyeza "zizindikiro" zofanana ndi za amanyazi. Pachifukwa ichi, ndi kofunika kuti tikwanitse kufufuza mkhalidwe ndi munthu mwiniwake amene ali patsogolo pathu. Ndi chifukwa cha izi tikhoza kuzindikira "kunja kwa gulu" la chilengedwe chathu ndi mtundu wa munthu wonyansa.
Amatsenga enieni ali ndi maonekedwe ambirimbiri. Zoonadi, izi zikhoza kukhala ndi chiyanjano ndi anthu wamba, koma pokhapokha ngati amatsenga amayamba kugwa m'masomphenya ndikudula.
Otsutsa, monga lamulo, ayenera nthawizonse kuchita zinthu mwachiwonetsero ndikuyesera, mwadongosolo, ndiye kuti sichikhala, kukhala pakati pa chidwi. Ndipo kuonetsetsa kuti dzina lake limamvekedwa ndi anthu oyandikana naye. Mwa njira, anthu oterowo amawonekera moonekera mosavuta. Monga olamulira, amavala zachilendo komanso zokongola. Komanso, iwo amakonda kuvala kuchuluka kwa zokongola ndi zooneka bwino. Koma kuseka kwawo ndi mawu amvekedwe nthawi zonse, ndipo manja amadzala ndi masewera.
Anthu omwe amayamba kupsa mtima sakhala okhwima. Amakhala ndi malingaliro onyenga ndipo amasewera gawo lawo lapadera m'mudzi (bwenzi, wokondedwa, bizinesi). Ndipotu, iwo safunikira konse. Ndipotu, ali ndi zolinga zosiyana kwambiri m'moyo. Amangolirira chifukwa chilichonse, kuyesera kusonyeza momwe amachitira chidwi ndi chirichonse ndi chirichonse chomwe chiri pafupi.
Amatsenga onse amagawidwa mu mitundu iwiri. Mtundu woyamba wa anthu oterowo umatha kudandaula ndi kukhumudwa nthawi zonse, ndipo mtundu wachiwiri umadzitama ndi kudzikuza nthawi zonse komanso PR.
Kuphatikiza pa amatsenga onse amakhala omasuka kwambiri ndipo amamvera maganizo a anthu ena. Amalowetsa moyo wa munthu wina mozama komanso mosavuta. Mu miyoyo yawo, amayi oterewa amafuna kuti awone amuna achifundo ndi osayanjanitsa pafupi nawo, kuti awononge chilango chawo nthawi zonse.
Kodi ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ndi anthu omwe ali oopsa?
Ngati munthu ali wochenjera, amayesa kudziletsa yekha ndi kutsogolera mphamvu zake kumsewu wosiyana (masewera, ntchito, banja). Kukwaniritsa nsonga m'madera amenewa, munthu akhoza kukwaniritsa mosavuta ndi ena.
Ngati mukukumana ndi munthu wonyengerera, yesetsani kuti musamulimbikitse osati "kuvina ku nyimbo yake." Ngakhalenso ngati pali chakudya chimodzi chosweka, ndipo misonzi imangoyambira m'maso mwa munthu uyu. Kwa kanthawi, tangoganizirani kuti muli mu zisudzo. Ndi pamene, amatsenga akudutsa, yesetsani kulankhula ndi munthu uyu ndikumuwonetsa kuti mutha kukwaniritsa zomwe mukufuna.
Ndipo pomalizira pake, mayi ayenera kufunsa kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo ngati akuzindikira kupsinjika kwachisokonezo ndi kusokonezeka maganizo. Katswiri ayenera kuthandiza kuthana ndi matendawa. Bwino ndi osasangalatsa kwambiri m'moyo!