Inde, inu mumadziwa kuti kubadwa kwa mwana sikumangokhala chimwemwe chokha, komanso ntchito yaikulu. Mukuwerenga kuti atabereka, amayi ambiri amakhumudwa ndi chinyengo. Ndipo, ndithudi, simunaganize kuti zingakhudze inu nokha. Koma bwanji ngati mukumva kuti zoyembekezerapo zomwe munagwirizana ndi kubadwa kwa mwana sizinali zomveka? Nanga bwanji kubwezeretsa chisangalalo cha amayi, ngakhale kukukhumudwitsidwa?
Musaganize kuti malingalirowa adzidutsa okha. Inde, nthawi imachiza. Koma nthawi zina mumayenera kudzigwira nokha. Ndipo chithandizo champhamvu kwambiri cha kukhumudwa ndicho kuona chowonadi mwa munthu, ndi kusagwiritsanso ntchito kuyembekezera zoyembekezereka zosayenera, ndi kuvomereza izo ... ndi kuyamikira.
Kubeleka sikuli tchuthi
Tsoka, nthawi yobereka nthawi zambiri imasiyana ndi malo abwino omwe munalembapo. Pakati penipeni njira yoberekera ikhoza kuyenda osati mogwirizana ndi ndondomeko, pangakhale ngakhale vuto linalake. Achibale akhoza kuchita mwanjira yosayembekezereka, ndipo mwanayo sangakhale chomwe mumaganiza kuti akhale.
Mankhwala okhumudwitsa
Kuti mupirire malingaliro olakwika mu nthawi yobereka, ndiyenera ... kunena "zikomo". Choyamba, tithokozeni - mwinamwake, inu munachita, munapatsa moyo kwa munthu wamng'ono. Inu simunasowe kukwaniritsa zoyembekeza - osati zanu, kapena banja lanu, kapena wophunzitsa maphunziro kwa amayi apakati. Inu munangochita izo_inu munabala, ndipo ichi ndi chotsimikizika chokha!
Ngati muzu wa kukhumudwa ndi mkwiyo wa adokotala, yesetsani kuyang'ana kuchokera kumbali inayo. Palibe dokotala akufuna kuvulaza amayi ndi mwana. Kotero, motsimikiza dokotala wanu anachita ndendende zomwe iye ankaganiza kuti ndi zolondola kwambiri panthawiyo. Zobadwa zofanana sizinagwirizane ndi zoyembekeza? Ndipo ndani amadziwa momwe akanadapitako ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu sali pafupi ... Ndipo chofunika kwambiri - ingotenga zinyenyeswazi zanu, muyang'ane pa iye. Apa pali-zotsatira zazikulu za kuyesayesa kwanu. Kodi iye sankadzilungamitsa yekha?
Amayi kunyumba
Ndi nthawi zingapo zomwe amayi adakumana nazo atabwerera kuchokera kuchipatala! Atafufuza kukhumudwa kwa amayi pa nthawi yoberekera, akatswiri apeza kuti amayi omwe angoyamba kubadwa samangoyamba kugwiritsidwa ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku (komanso poyamba - kusakhalapo kwake), kuti azikhala kawirikawiri - komanso kusamvetsetsa - kuyamwitsa, kutopa, koma komanso kumalo atsopano m'banja. Pambuyo pa zonse, zinali bwanji asanabadwe? Mayi wam'tsogolo anali pakati pa chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro, ndipo tsopano malo awa akugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi mwana wakhanda. Koma pambuyo pa zonse, mayi anga, omwe amayesetsa kuchita maonekedwe ake, akuyeneranso kuthandizidwa!
Kwa ambiri, kukhumudwa ndi, mosiyana, maganizo osasintha - kawirikawiri kuchokera kumbali ya wokwatirana. Zimachitika m'mabanja omwe kumvetsetsa, kulemekezana, chifundo chimasoweka. Ndipo mkaziyo molakwika amakhulupirira kuti mwanayo akadzabadwa zonse zidzakhala bwino, kuyesa "kugwira" mwamuna wake, osadziwa kuti kusintha kwakukulu -ko ndiko kupanikizika komwe sikungathe kulimbitsa banja loyambirira losalimba ... Ndipo m'mabanja olemera kwambiri maonekedwe a zinyenyeswazi, amalekanitsa mwamuna ndi mzake - pamene onse awiri akukhumudwa, ngati kuti akudandaula: "Kodi sakudziwa bwanji?".
Mankhwala okhumudwitsa. Ndizodabwitsa kuti ambiri ndi ovuta kunena kuti: "Ndithandizeni, ndatopa", "Ndikuwopa kuti ndakhala woipa - ndiuzeni, kodi mumandikonda?", Yesetsani kulankhula chinenero chomwecho ndi achibale anu. Ndipo nkoyenera kupereka msonkho kwazochitikazi - izi ndi phunziro lofunika kwambiri, kupereka mwayi potsiriza kulankhula kuphunzira momasuka za malingaliro awo, zochitika, zosowa zawo. Ndipo konzekerani kuti nthawi zonse iwo sadzapeza yankho. Mwanayu amafunikira zosowa zonse kuti akwaniritsidwe. Ndipo ife, akulu, tiyenera kupirira ndi kulephera ... Koma ndibwino kuyesa!
Mwana ali m'manja
Mwina chokhumudwitsidwa kwambiri ndi zoyembekezeratu zomwe zimayembekezera mwana wakhanda. Kulimbana nawo ndi kovuta, ngati chifukwa chakuti si amayi onse akuganiza kuti adzivomereze yekha kuti samangomva mwachifundo kwa mwanayo basi ... Koma mphamvu zathu zothetsa zokhumudwitsa zimapereka mwayi kwa chikondi cha mwanayo! Kodi n'chiyani chimayambitsa vuto la amayi anga? Choyamba, maonekedwe ndi khalidwe la mwana wakhanda. Iye ndi wamng'ono kwambiri, thupi lake ndi losayerekezeka ndipo limafanana ndi kangaude kakang'ono, khungu lake limachoka ... Ndipo samafuna kupereka makolo ake akusangalala ndi kumwetulira ndi zokoma, koma kumafuna - kusamala, kusamala, mkaka, kukhalapo kwanu ... , nyenyeswa zimakhala zovuta kumvetsa - apa iye analira, ndi chiyani choti achite? Sinthani ma diapers, muimbire nyimbo, muzidyetsa kapena mukhale osangalala? Kumbali zonse, adani, otsutsana wina ndi mnzake, akuzunguliridwa. Koma mumamvetsetsa bwanji ngati mutenge mwanayo m'manja mwanu kapena ayi, kaya muwaphunzitse khungu linalake, muzidyetsa molingana ndi boma kapena mukufunidwa? Kachitatu, mayi akhoza kumizidwa muchisoni pa nthawi yoberekera, pomwe mwanayo amadalira kwathunthu. Nthawi zonse amafuna kunama pa mikono kapena pa chifuwa, amadzuka, amangomuika pamsewu. Ndi momwe mungasamalire banja lanu ndi inu nokha?
Mankhwala okhumudwitsa. Chabwino, ino ndi nthawi yoti muyamike ... kwa Nature yokha. Ndipotu, adakonza mwadala zinthu zonse kuti iwe, sichifunikiradi "malangizo" kwa mwanayo. Chifukwa mumadziwa kale zomwe mwana amafunikira ndi momwe angakhalire. Mzimayi aliyense, pali machitidwe achibadwa a amayi, chikumbukiro cha majini, mapeto, pamapeto pake! Ndipo mosasamala kanthu kuti ndi mabuku angati a nzeru omwe mumawerenga, chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsera nokha.
Nchifukwa chiyani zimakhala zovuta kuti ife tipirire mwana akulira? Inde, chifukwa mchitidwe wamanjenje wa mayi umasokonezeka kwambiri ndipo imayimira thupi lonse: "Bwerani mwamsanga kwa mwanayo, mutengeni pazitsulo, mudyetseni!". Ndipo maphunziro achinyengo - kukana zinyenyeswazi pamagwirizano, mu maloto ophatikizana, polumikizana ndi amayi - zimangowonjezera kukhumudwa kwake, ngati kuti tinayesetsa mwachangu kufuna kuthetsa njala kapena ludzu.
Ndipo mukhoza kuyamikira kwachilengedwe chifukwa chakuti adatipatsa ife, amayi, luso lapadera - osati kubereka, komanso kukonda zinyenyeswazi. Ndipo pamene tikulingalira kwambiri za mwanayo, yang'anani nkhope yake yayikulu, kudyetsa mkaka wake, kufanikizira yekha, kumvetsera kumtima pang'ono - chikondi chimatidzaza.