Si chinsinsi kuti amuna athu amphamvu amaopa amayi amphamvu omwe amalerera ana awo okha, akugwira ntchito yabwino, ndipo amanyadira kuti ali okha. Zikuwoneka kuti nthawi yathu ino, amayi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti mwamuna ndi wolemetsa kwa iwo. Makamaka pamene munthu amamwa kapena samagwira ntchito, ndiye kuti zimakhala zosavuta kuti mkazi akhale yekha kusiyana ndi munthu woteroyo, ndipo mosaganizira kuti mkaziyo akuyamba kukhulupirira kuti kukhala imodzi ndi yosavuta komanso yosavuta. Ndipo ndi malingaliro otero amayamba kuzindikira zokhumba zawo zonse. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono amasiya kuthandizidwa ndi wina, chifukwa amayiwa amayamba kutsatira mfundo yakuti "palibe amene angachite bwino kusiyana ndi ine", ndi kosavuta kuti achite chinachake kuposa kukhulupirira wina, chifukwa, atachita ntchitoyo, ali otsimikiza , kuti ntchitoyo yachitika ndi bang. Akazi oterewa sagwiritsidwa ntchito kuvomereza thandizo kuchokera kwa amuna, ndipo amuna sali ofunitsitsa kuthandiza mkazi woterowo.
Ndikulankhulana ndi chibwenzi chake, tinakhudza mitu yonse yomwe imadandaula ndi theka labwino labwino la dziko lapansi, zomwe tiyenera kuvala, kumene tingapite bwino, komanso, amuna. Tinati mayiyo ndi wofooka ndipo nthawi zonse amafunikira thandizo, kaya zakuthupi kapena zauzimu. Tinayankhula pa nkhaniyi molondola chifukwa iye yekha ndiye amubweretsa mwanayo, ndipo thandizo lake silikanatha.
Iye mwachibadwa ndi munthu wodzichepetsa komanso wosadzikonda yemwe sadziwa kupempha thandizo kuchokera kwa amuna, ndipo samasonyeza kuti akusowa thandizo. Ankafunikira kuti munthuyo mwiniyo azindikire zomwe anafunikira ndikuzipatsa yekha popanda chopempha. Komabe, kuyembekezera "nyengo yachisanu" si nthawi kapena mphamvu, muyenera kukhala ndi moyo. Ndipo kwazing'ono, amakhulupirira kuti kupempha thandizo kwa amuna kulibe ulemu. Komabe, anthu ena amatha kupeza chithandizo ngakhale pamene sakusowa. Sikofunika konse. Thandizo, mphatso, kuyenda, malo odyera - onse angathe kuzipeza popanda kufunsa. Ndipo iwo amavomereza izo zonse, powalingalira kuti iwo amawononga zochuluka kuposa izo. Kodi izi zimachitika bwanji? Nchifukwa chiyani wina akufunsa ndipo salandira, ndipo ndani sapempha, koma amalandira?
Posachedwa, bwenzi lake linamuitanira kunja kuti apume, ndipo anandiuza za mantha. Iye anangosanduka mkazi wopanda thandizo amene sangakwanitse kupita kunja. Anati sakanatha kulipira komanso kuti sangadzitamande chifukwa cha ulendo wotsatira, pamene amamupangitsa kuti asamufikire. Kenaka adalandira pempho kuti apumule ndi ndalama zake. Iye sanadziyerekeze kuti anali mkazi wosathandiza, ndipo anakhala wopatukana yekha, akunena kuti sangathe. Nchifukwa chiyani amai amakhala amphamvu, motero amalepheretsa amuna ndi chisamaliro chawo ndi kuthandizira, ngati kuli kosavuta kuti mukhale nokha, khalani mkazi wofooka, mukhale yemwe inu muli, ndiyeno pamphindi chabe pempho liri m'thumba lanu? Kodi sizophweka kukhala wofooka? Inde, ndithudi mkazi amatha kukhala wolimba, koma zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kukhala yemwe sali. Mphamvu mufooka. Ndikofunikira kuti mukhale wofooka ndipo amuna adzigwera m'matumba kuti athandize ofooka. Ndiwo mphamvu. Koma ngati simukudziona nokha wofooka, osadzipangitsa kukhala wofooka, kupeza chithandizo ndi chidwi kuchokera kwa anthu, kukhala wochenjera, osanyada. Pambuyo pake, mkazi ayenera kukhala wochenjera, wopanda mphamvu. Ndipo mkazi ayenera kudziwa kuti mphamvu ili mufooka.
Mwamuna aliyense amaopa mkazi wabwino kwambiri. Ngati mkazi amayendetsa Lexus, ndipo ndiye Ford, ndiye mwachibadwa, adzakhala ndi zochepa zovuta. Ndipo pazifukwa zina mudziko lathu palibe zotero (mwina zilipo, koma pang'ono ndi ine sindinazionepo zotere), kuti pambuyo pa munthu wotereyu ayesere kukhala wabwino kuposa mkazi, pazifukwa zina amayamba kumuchitira nsanje ndi kumuda. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi, si amuna okha, koma amuna amphamvu amaopa akazi amphamvu .
M'dziko lathu, mawu okhudza mkazi ndi otchuka, "ndipo m'nyumba yotentha imalowa ndipo akavalo adzaima pa mpikisano." Kodi si ntchito ya munthu kuti alowe m'nyumba yotentha ndikupulumutsira kumoto mkazi yemwe akufuulira thandizo ku nyumbayi ndi osakaniza? Kodi si udindo wa mwamuna kuimitsa kavalo mu mpikisano kuti apulumutse mkazi wokhala pahatchiyo? Kodi amuna athu amphamvu ataya mphamvu? Ayi, iwo ankangokhalira kumasuka, chifukwa mkazi akhoza kuchita zonse zomwe iye mwini, chifukwa ali wamphamvu. Amagwiritsa ntchito msomali, amaphika ndikukonzekera, amaika mwanayo kugona, ndipo amabweretsa ndalama zomwezo mnyumbamo. Ndipo kodi munthu amachita chiyani panthawi ino? Ndipo theka lathu lamphamvu likugwedeza bedi ndi kugwiririra TV. Ife ofooka takhala tikuzoloŵera olimba kukhala osadziletsa, kudziyesa kukhala olimba. Sindingadabwe ngati mawu onena za amai atha kukhala odziwika "mkazi weniweni ayenera kuchita zinthu zitatu m'moyo wake: chomera mtengo, kumanga nyumba, ndi kubereka mwana wamkazi" ... ndipo chifukwa chiyani tiyenera kukhala ndi mwana wamwamuna? Ngati mwanayo akhoza kuchita chimodzimodzi?
Ndipo pokambirana za ulendo wake wamtsogolo, adati, ambiri angakhale amuna otere omwe angakonde kulipira ulendo wanu kunja ... kapena amuna enieni. Ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti mwa mwamuna aliyense mwamuna weniweni akugona, yemwe sali wokonzeka kulipira ulendo kunja, koma moyo wathu wonse, umene uli ndi salons zokongola komanso mabitolo okwera mtengo. Mzimayi yekha ayenera kukhala mkazi weniweni, ndiko kuti, mkazi wofooka, koma choyamba kukankhira mwamuna, yemwe angakhale mwamuna weniweni atadzuka. Ndiyeno mu miyoyo yathu sipadzakhala amuna omwe ali okonzeka kulipira, koma padzakhala amuna enieni amene adzakhala okonzeka kutinyamula m'manja.