Chizolowezi chopeza
Ndipotu, maganizo a anthu akuluakulu si osiyana kwambiri ndi mwanayo. Pamene nthawi zonse timapatsa munthu chirichonse, potsirizira pake amachizoloŵera ndipo, pofika pang'onopang'ono kapena pang'ono, amayamba kutenga zinthu zonse mopepuka. Mwa njira, izi sizikutanthauza kuti munthu ndi woipa. Aliyense wa ife amadziwa khalidwe ili moona mtima komanso mwaulemu. Mwachidziwitso chodziwika ndi umunthu ndizolembedwa, kuti wina nthawi zonse amamuchitira zonse. Poyamba akhoza kukana, nenani kuti palibe chofunika. Koma ngati awona kuti ife eni timakhala ngati chisangalalo chotere, ndiye poyamba adzaleka kukana, ndiyeno amangozizoloŵera. Patapita nthawi, iye adzasiya kuyamikira zomwe timamuchitira monga momwe zinaliri poyamba. Mwachidule, ngati muwona zimenezo, mchimwene wanu nthawi zonse alibe ndalama ndipo mumamuthandiza, ndiye poyamba angayankhule, ndikuthokoza nthawi zonse, koma potsirizira pake ayamba kuchitenga ngati ntchito, osaganiziranso, koma saibweretsa ichi ndikutaya kwanu. Ndipo, sizikutanthauza kuti munthu adzasiya kukuyamikirani kapena kuyamba kusaka, ngakhale pali zochitika zoterezi. Ayi, adzalimbikitsana chikondi, koma sadzaleka kuganiza kuti muyenera kubwezera woperekayo. Ndipo izo sizingakhoze kutsutsidwa chifukwa icho, chifukwa iwe mwiniwake wam'wononga munthuyo. Mudamuwonetsa kuti mungathe kuthandizira nthawi zonse, zomwe zimakupatsani chimwemwe ichi ndipo simukuvutika ndi zomwe mukuchita. Ngati, mutatha nthawi, mumayamba kumuuza kuti sakuganizira za inu, akukunyozani, ndi zina zotero, munthu wofunkhidwayo sangangoganizira mozama. Amagwiritsidwa ntchito poona kuti chifukwa cha thandizo lanu palibe vuto, choncho, tsopano kuti mukuyamba kupanga chinachake, mumangofuna kuti muzitha kudandaula pamalo opanda kanthu. Komanso, iye mwini sanafunse kalikonse, kotero ndi ufulu wanji umene mumanena?
Ana ambiri amachitira makolo awo mofanana, ngakhale atakula. Amatha kukonda kwambiri amayi ndi abambo, koma akafika pamitu imeneyi, amadabwa komanso amakhumudwitsidwa, chifukwa amakhala otsimikiza kuti makolo angathe kuwathandiza, chifukwa asanakhalepo nthawi zonse. Chizoloŵezi chozama kumachokera mu umunthu mu ubongo ndipo iye sangoganizira chabe zosiyana. Kuphwanya munthu, mumamuyesa mwana, ndipo inuyo mumakhala kholo limene limakhala moyo wake wonse kwa mwana wake ndikumupatsa zonse. Ngakhale munthu wamkulu komanso wodziimira akhoza mosavuta komanso mwamsanga kuti azizoloŵera. Popanda kuzindikiranso, amakuwona mayi wachikondi amene ali wokonzeka kuchita chirichonse komanso zomwe mawu okhumudwitsa amene amakulirirani ndi achilendo kwambiri. Mwa njira, ngati mukuwononga munthu wabwino kwambiri, nthawi zonse amatha kuyankha pempho lanu ndikuthandizani, ngakhale kuti zikuwoneka ngati zachilendo, chifukwa simukudziwa kuti ndinu wamkulu, ndipo ndi mwana yemwe ayenera kulandira, osati kupereka.
Mkhalidwe ukhoza kukhala woipitsitsa ngati mwatayitsa munthu wodzikonda amene wakhala akuyesetsa "kukhala pa khosi la munthu". Pachifukwa ichi, munthu woonongeka sangakuthandizeni kokha, koma ayamba kuwongolera, ngati sakupeza zomwe mukufuna. Umu ndi momwe amachitira ndi anyamata, omwe amakondana ndi amayi otchuka. Amuna oterewa, osadziwa, agule chikondi ndi chikondi. Mzimayi aliyense amene amakonda ndi kumangokhalira kumverera mwachidwi akhoza kumusokoneza munthu ndi mphutsi yopusa kuti asonyeze momwe amamukondera, komanso kuyesa kudzimangiriza yekha. Pankhaniyi, munthu wabwino amene samva kuti ndi mkazi, amangolongosola chilichonse ndikuchoka, koma egoist ndi gigolo adzakhalabe ngati mwana wamng'ono wamkuwa. Ndizoti ndikufunseni kuti sichidzakhala maswiti kapena chidole. Pamapeto pake, akazi amagula amuna awo nyumba ndi magalimoto, ndipo iwo akuyankhira, akukhumudwitsa, akuitana ndi kutulutsa zambiri. Chifukwa cha kukondedwa kwa okondedwa awo ndi mitala. Nthawi zina zimayamba kufika pachiwawa, komanso amayi okondeka, kuti ateteze okha, yesetsani kuchita zambiri kuti apambane chikondi. Kawirikawiri chilakolako chokakamiza okondedwa athu chimachitika pakati pa omwe ali ndi zovuta zambiri. Iwo samangokhulupirira kuti akhoza kukondedwa monga choncho. Apa iwo amayamba kumangirira munthu ndipo kumapeto, mmalo mwa chikondi, amalandira chipongwe ndi kusekedwa.
Insolvency
Kuphwanya munthu, pakati pazinthu zina, tikukhalanso ndikusowa kovomerezeka. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, munthu akawona kuti nthawi iliyonse tidzamupulumutsira ndi kumuthandiza, amasiya kuyesa kupeza zambiri mwa mphamvu zake. Ndiponsotu, bwanji kudzidzimangiriza nokha ngati pali "chipangizo" chomwe chimapulumutsidwa nthawi zonse. Ndi chifukwa cha ichi kuti akuluakulu amaletsedwa kwambiri. Mmalo mothandizira, iwe umasokoneza umunthu, ndikupanga nthaka yachonde ya ulesi. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu ali ndi malipiro ochepa, omwe amangofuna zosowa, amayamba kuganizira zomwe angapange kuti apeze ndalama zokwanira zosangalatsa, komanso zosowa zina. Motero, amadzikakamiza kupita ku sukulu, kusintha ntchito ndi zina zotero. Koma ngati akudziwa kuti muli pafupi, ndiye kuti kusintha kosavuta kumatha. Pa izo, popanda zomwe simungathe kuzichita popanda, iye mwiniwake adzapeza, ndi chirichonse chimene inu mumugula iye. Vitoga ikhoza kuchitika kotero kuti mudzikane nokha muzinthu zonse, kugwira ntchito kwa wokondedwa wanu, ndipo adzakhala ndi moyo wake wokondweretsa, makamaka opanda nkhawa. Samalani, izi ndi momwe amachitira kuti "abambo" ana aamuna ndi aakazi amadzichita okha. Nthawi zonse amadziwa kuti bambo amawagulira galimoto ndi nyumba, choncho amaphunzira mwanjira inayake, amagwira ntchito mofananamo ndipo samagwira ntchito kwa onse okwiya. Ndipo chifukwa chakuti nthawi yoyenera bambo ndi amayi anapereka chirichonse ndipo sanabweretse ufulu pa iwo. Ndicho chifukwa chake tsopano akufuna kuti apitirize kukhala ndi moyo kwa makolo awo, chifukwa alibe chokhumba kapena chikhumbo chofuna kukwaniritsa chinachake mwaokha.
Choncho ngati mumakonda kwambiri munthu, khalani mwana, m'bale, bwenzi, mwamuna, musadzilole kuti mukhale munthu wochuluka kwambiri. Chilichonse chimene mumamuchitira chingathe kuvulaza kwambiri. Yesetsani kudzisamala nokha kuti amve kuti akudzipangira okha, phunzirani kuyamikira zomwe mukumuchitira, ndipo mukhale ndi chidziwitso chokhazikika. Kwa munthu aliyense ndikofunika kwambiri ndi thandizo lochokera kwa achibale, koma ngati mupita kutali kwambiri ndi izo, mungathe kumuwononga munthuyo ndi khalidwe lake, komanso kutembenuzira wokondedwa wanu kukhala mwana wamng'ono yemwe amadziwa "kupatsa" kokha.