Maganizo amatsitsimutsa - izi ndizo katundu wawo. Chilankhulo cha chilengedwe chonse chimalola munthu kumvetsetsa wina ndi mzake anthu a mitundu yosiyana, zaka, kugonana. Pambuyo pa zonse, ndife mwachibadwa timatha kukhala ndi maganizo ofanana ndi kuwafotokozera mofanana. N'zosadabwitsa kuti tikhoza "kutenga kachilombo" mosavuta. Makolo athu adadziwa zapadera. Kale nthawi zakale, iwo anasonkhana pa miyala yamaseŵera kuti athe kumvetsetsa ndi ankhondo a masoka, pamodzi ndi owonerera ena, kuti apeze catharsis (vuto lalikulu la maganizo). Zamakono zamakono zimatipangitsa kumverera kwathunthu padziko lapansi: ma satellites, maina achimake ndi intaneti - chifukwa cha iwo chisoni chinachokera ku malo apamtima, kuchokera ku gawo la moyo wapadera ndipo chinakhazikitsidwa pa moyo waumphawi.
Momwe mungawazindikire
Nanga nanga timamva bwanji? Palibe kugwirizana kwathunthu ngakhale pakati pa akatswiri. Izi, mwinamwake, ndizo lingaliro lokha lomwe osatanthauzira maganizo sakudziwitsidwa, koma amagwiritsidwa ntchito mobwerezabwereza kuposa ena. Kuyambira nthawi ya Charles Darwin, ochita kafukufuku amavomereza chinthu chimodzi: pali zochitika zambiri zomwe anthu onse padziko lapansi amakumana nazo ndikufotokoza mofananamo. Chimwemwe, kupsa mtima, chisoni, Ara, kudabwa, kunyansidwa-kuwadzimva, sichiyenera kuphunzitsidwa, amapatsidwa kwa ife kuyambira pachiyambi. Pa nthawi ya kubadwa, matelo ophweka a neural omwe apangidwa mu ubongo wa mwana, omwe amawalola kuti awone, akuwonetsetsa ndikuzindikira izi. Akatswiri ena amalingaliro amalingaliro amalingalira kuti maziko okhawo amayamba kumverera, ena amawonjezera manyazi, chiyembekezo, kunyada. Kuti apatsidwe mutu wakuti "zofunikira", kutengeka kumayenera kukhala kwamba, kuzindikiridwa poyang'ana koyamba ndikuwonetseredwa mofananako pa chikhalidwe cha thupi. Iyenso iyenera kuwonedwa mwa achibale athu apamtima - tizilombo toyambitsa matenda. Kuwonjezera apo, mawonetseredwe a kumverera nthawi zonse amakhala ochepa komanso osakhalitsa. Mwachitsanzo, kumverera ngati chikondi sikuyankha mayina onsewa. Choncho funso lachikhalire: "Kodi mumandikonda?"
"Ndilipo, chifukwa ndikumva ... Ndikumva, ndipo, kotero, ndizoona." Kupatsirana kwa mtima wathu kumveka bwino, amafalikira mofulumira kuposa mliri wa chimfine. Kumverera koyambana ndi zochitika zina za anthu ena mosadziwa kumabweretsa ife kubwerera ku ubwana wathu: zowawa za anthu ena zimakhudza mwanayo nthawi yomweyo, kumumenya iye. Kuyambira zaka zathu zoyambirira, timamwetulira, ndikumwetulira amayi, kulira, ngati ena akulira pafupi. Timayambanso kudzizindikiritsa tokha ndi anthu omwe aseka kapena kuvutika, m'maganizo mwathu timadziika tokha. Timagwira ntchito mwachindunji ndi mphamvu ya zomwe takumana nazo. Koma pochita "aliyense anathamanga, ndipo ndinathamanga" palibe munthu aliyense. Kuti mumvetse zomwe mumafunikira, muyenera kulingalira za izi mu mtendere, kukhala nokha, nokha. Ndipo iyi ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yopewa msampha wa zowawa za anthu ena.
Wokonda kapena wonyenga?
Koma kodi mungakhulupirire bwanji? Kumbukirani kuti ojambula amatha kuwimiritsa, osati kuyesa kwenikweni. Ndipo m'mayesero ambiri, akatswiri a zamaganizo amachititsa mosavuta chisangalalo, chisoni kapena kupsa mtima, mothandizidwa ndi mafilimu okondweretsa kapena nyimbo zomvetsa chisoni kuchokera kwa odzipereka. Maganizo enieni sakhala ovuta kwa ife kuti tizindikire. Pamene mwana wazaka 32, Julia, adayamba kuphunzira mahatchi, ankayesa kavalo katatu,
Zozizwitsa ndi zodabwitsa
Zodabwitsa ndizomwe zimakhala zochepa kwambiri. Kuti mutenge m'malo mwake mubwere mwatsopano - chimwemwe, chimwemwe, chidwi. Ali mwana, kamphindi kakang'ono kodabwitsa kamasintha moyo wonse wa mwanayo. Sindingaganizepo kuti mavuto omwe ndimakhala nawo nthawi zonse, amabisa mphamvu ya mkwiyo wanga. Maganizo amatiuza mfundo zofunika kwambiri zokhudza ife eni, choncho timakhulupirira kuti ndizofunika. Koma pamene chinachake chimakhudza ife makamaka, nkofunika kumvetsetsa zomwe akunena izi - za ife kapena za mkhalidwe. Ndikofunika kusiyanitsa: zomwe zimandidetsa nkhawa tsopano zokhudzana ndi zochitika zanga zakale, zochitika zina za moyo wakale, kapena zochitika zomwezo. Khulupirirani mukumverera kwanu kungathe kudzutsidwa, kuphunzitsidwa, kuphunzira kuti "mudziike nokha mubokosi." Ndipo kuti muchite kudzidziwa nokha, khalani olimba mtima kuti muyang'ane mu kuya kwa moyo wanu, phunzirani kudzichitira nokha bwino, kukhala ndi luso loganiza ndi kusinkhasinkha. Chisoni chimatiperekeza pafupi nthawi ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndi chosinthika komanso chosadziwika, monga nyengo ya nyengo. Zimatilimbikitsanso ndi kutitsogolera kuchitapo kanthu, kuzibweretsa pafupi ndi anthu ena ndikuzibweretsa pafupi ndi ife eni. Mwachidziwitso, amatilamulira. Pambuyo pake, n'kosatheka kukonzekera ora la chisangalalo masana kapena kudziletsa kuti usakwiyire madzulo. Kukhudzidwa mtima kumakhala kovuta kulamulira, ndipo otsatsa ndi amalonda amamvetsa bwino izi: amagwiritsa ntchito mozama mtima wathu kuwonjezera malonda.
Popanda iwo palibe moyo
Otopa chifukwa cha chisangalalo, nthawi zina timalota za kuchotsa maganizo kamodzi kokha ... Koma kodi moyo wathu udzakhala wotani popanda iwo? Ndipo kodi moyo ukhoza kukhala wopanda maganizo? Malingana ndi Charles Darwin, zinali zochitika zaumunthu zomwe zinapulumutsa anthu ku chiwonongeko. Mantha, chizindikiro cha kuopseza ngozi, adathandiza makolo athu kuti adziteteze ku zinyama, kukhumudwitsa - kupeŵa zakudya zomwe zingakhale zoopsa, ndi kupsa mtima kaŵirikaŵiri kumenyana ndi mdani ... Ndipo lerolino ife timadziwa mopanda nzeru omwe ali ndi nkhope yosonyeza kuti akukongola: kuyankhulana ndi iwo, ndi kosavuta kumvetsa zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera, momwe mungakhalire. Ofufuzawa anapeza kuti pamene ubongo wa munthu uwonongeka chifukwa cha matenda kapena ngozi, moyo wake wamumtima umatha, koma kuganiza kumakhudzanso. Popanda chilakolako, tikhoza kukhala mabotolo, opanda chidwi komanso chidziwitso. Choncho ndizofunika kwambiri, akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza kuti akulitsa nzeru zawo, kumvetsetsa komanso kufotokoza maganizo awo.
Kupitirira kapena kusowa
Ndi nzeru zamaganizo zomwe zimatithandiza kuti tizindikire mozama momwe mawonekedwe amachitira. Chifukwa cha iye, timamva tikhoza kusangalala ndi anzathu (ngati, ngati timagonjetsa timu yomwe tikudwala), ndipo ngati tifunika kusunga mtendere ndi mtendere (pamsonkhano wogwira ntchito). Koma nthawi zina maganizo amayamba kusokonekera. Nanga bwanji ngati maganizowa amatha kapena amawombera? Choyamba, kambiranani za iwo - nkhani yeniyeni ili ndi zotsatira zochiritsira. Ndikofunika kuti mukhale ndi moyo zomwe timamva. Zingatheke kuti zikhale zotheka kugwirizana ndi mantha athu, chisoni ndi chimwemwe. " Kuonjezera apo, pamene tikulongosola malingaliro athu, timawoneka okongola - munthu yemwe amakhulupirira ena, amagawana maganizo ake, nthawi zonse amadziyesa yekha. Koma kuti tipewe maganizo ("Patukani pamutu!" "Tonthola pansi!") N'zosatheka komanso zovuta. Ngakhale ngati kumverera kwatayika mu chidziwitso chathu, icho chimakhalabe chopanda chidziwitso ndipo chikhoza ngakhale kukwiyitsa matenda. Mwa ichi palibe chinthu chachilendo: kuponderezedwa kwa maganizo kumatulutsa dongosolo la manjenje ndikuwononga chitetezo chathu. Lolani iwo omwe sadziwa kudziwa ndi kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo. Ena aife timasokonezedwa ndi zikhalidwe za anthu: "Amuna samalira" kapena "Ndizolakwika kuti munthu wamkulu azisangalala kapena kudabwa ali mwana". Ndiye, chodabwitsa, kuti tiphunzire momwe tingadzichepetsere bwino, tifunika kumvetsetsa malingaliro athu, malingaliro, ndi zosamveka.