Pamene mahomoni awa m'magazi sali okwanira - amayamba kusasamala, kupweteka, kupweteka ndi kupweteka, munthu akuyang'ana mipata yowona chinthu chodzikweza, kupeza "mlingo" wina wa chimwemwe. Koma nthawi zina mumangopulumuka ku kuchuluka kwa mahomoni awa, kuchokera kuzinthu zankhondo. Nkhani yakuti "Mmene mungalekerere kukonda mwamuna: uphungu wa katswiri wa zamaganizo" zidzakuphunzitsani momwe mungachotsere kudalira kwachinyengo pa chinthu chopembedzedwa.
Ndikofunika kusiyanitsa pakati pa mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya chikondi, mawonekedwe osiyanasiyana. Kawirikawiri, chikondi chimasokonezeka ndi kukhudzidwa, kudalira, chilakolako chokhalira wosungulumwa kapena chizoloŵezi chodzipereka kumalingaliro okwezeka kwambiri, zochita zosazindikira za "wozunzidwa," kuti akhalenso ndi malingaliro ofanana ndi kukhala gawo lachikondi chachikondi, wokondana kwambiri. Panthawi zofunikira ndikumvetsetsa nokha, pezani zilakolako zoterezi ndi zonse zomwe zimayambitsa zowawa.
Nthawi zambiri zimatiwoneka kuti munthu samakonda kumva chisoni, kupweteka, ndi zina zotero. Koma akatswiri a zamaganizo atsimikizira kuti izi siziri chomwecho, ndipo ife tokha tingazindikire kuti chisoni ndi chimwemwe ndizokhalitsa ndi moyo wosatha. Izi ndizo chifukwa chakuti timakonda kukhala achisoni, timafunikira. Izi sizikutanthawuza kuti aliyense ndi wofufuza maso, koma ndizochepa ngati kukhala wokhumudwa kwa aliyense. Koma palinso anthu amene amadalira kumverera kotero, ndi chikondi chosakhala chachikondi chomwe chimapangitsa iwo kuvutika ndi kuzunzika, mofanana ndi iwo, ngakhale kuti sangathe kuvomereza. Anthu oterewa safuna kugawanika ndi cholinga cha zilakolako zawo komanso chidziwitso chawo chidzawapangitsa kuchita zinthu zomwe zimangowonjezera chikhalidwe chawo. Pachifukwa ichi, akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuti asiye kukonda munthu ndikuyankhasinkha maganizo awo pa zinthu zomwe zilipo pakalipano. Ndipotu, ndibwino kuyamba moyo wathunthu kusiyana ndi kuwonjezeka nthawi zonse, kuwonjezera "dose" yanu. Koma kunena kuti "musakonde!" Mosakayikira - koma mungasiye bwanji kukonda mwamuna? Malangizo a zamaganizo ndi ofunikira kwambiri kuti asasokonezeke ndi zilakolako zawo.
Koma pali zifukwa za chikondi chenicheni, chikondi chowawa komanso chosasangalatsa, chosagwirizana. Izi zimachitika, nthawi zina tiyenera kuiwala anthu omwe timawakonda. Ndipo izo zidzakhala zolondola kwambiri kuti musataya nthawi yanu ndi kuiwala munthu amene akubweretsani ululu kwa inu kuti mukwaniritse iyo mtsogolo.
"Iye adayamba kukhala wamanyazi, ndingamuiwala bwanji tsopano?", "Sitili ndi tsogolo, koma sindingathe kukhala popanda izo ...", "Ndimkonda, ndikuyenera kukhala naye, ndiyenera kumuthandiza, koma ... sakufuna kukhala pafupi ndi ine, "" Iye amadana nane ndipo sitinayang'ane kwa nthawi yayitali "," Sandilemekeza ine nkomwe, amandichitira ngati wopanda pake, samvetsera, ndipo ndimamukonda kwambiri ... .. "- - zonse zolemba za makalata awa - ndi mchenga wambiri mu chipululu cha ukali, zomwe zimabweretsa zofanana zomwezo kwa amayi. Njira yoyenera kutuluka ndiyo kukhazikitsa moyo watsopano, kuyang'ana zitseko zatsopano, ngakhale kuti n'zovuta kuchoka pa moyo wakale ... Kotero bwanji mungasiye kuyimikonda munthu wokondedwa? Kodi ndi uphungu wanji wa katswiri wa zamaganizo womwe utipulumutse ife?
Gawo lovuta kwambiri lidzakhala kupanga chisankho chakuthyola kugwirizana. Inu nokha muyenera kuzindikira kuti izi ndizo mapeto a chiyanjano ndipo sizidzakubweretserani zabwino. Wosankhidwa wanu samakuganizirani, samakondana ndi inu, mumakhala oyambitsa misonkhano yonse, mumakhalanso ndi mtima wodzikuza, mumakhala mukubwerera ku malingaliro akale, ndikuganizira za izo, mukukumana ndi mkwiyo ndi nkhawa, simungasankhe mukumverera kwanu ndipo sakudziwa choti achite, koma amachita zonse momwe angafunire, monga momwe amachitira ... Ngati mwaziganizirana nokha, ichi ndi chizindikiro chodziwikiratu kuti ndi nthawi yomaliza chiyanjano. Pezani mphamvu kuti mugawane zomwe zapitazo ndipo muzisankha kuiwala wokondedwa wanu. Kawirikawiri, zimadalira, kodi moyo wanu udzakhala wotani ...
Ngati nthawi zambiri mumasankha kuiŵala, koma nthawi izi zimakhala kuti amayamba kuchita moona mtima, kuti amvetsereni ... Musatsogolere pa izi, kotero mutha kulimbitsa ubwenzi wanu ndi iye ndikuwonetsa kufooka kwanu. Chisankho chotere - monga kuyenda mumsewu wotsekedwa, nthawi zonse mubwereranso ku vuto lanu, ndipo simungathe kuthawa. Ngati mutapanga chisankho - khalani olimba ndi olimba mu zolinga zanu, onetsetsani kuti musabwererenso, pangani maganizo anu, mudziwe chifukwa chake muyenera kuchita izi ndi ... kusankha, ziribe kanthu momwe zinalili zowawa komanso zowawa .
Nthawi zina, pamakhala zolepheretsa maganizo kumayi. Chinachake choti muphunzire, muuzeni malingaliro anu - chitani momwe mungakwaniritsire mwatsatanetsatane zomwe simukulolani kupita. Gawo la katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena wamaganizo, kufotokoza maganizo m'mabuku, kukambirana kwa nthawi yaitali ndi bwenzi lapamtima kukuthandizani "kukonzekera" malingaliro anu kuti musinthe. Kumbukirani kuti pakali pano palibe mawu oti "sindingathe", "sindikufuna" ndipo "sindidzatero".
Ngati mwaganiza kusiya kusiya mwamuna, choyamba muwononge chinthu chilichonse chomwe chimakukumbutsani za iye - nambala ya foni, zithunzi, kuwononga kapena kuwotcha ndi makalata anu (kungowotentha, kumayambitsa kusiyana kwa maganizo). Musalole kuti mukumbukiridwe, ndipo makamaka simukusowa kumuwona. Lankhulani ndi abwenzi anu kuti asatchulepo ndipo musayambe kuyankhula za izo. Pezani makhalidwe oipawo, muwone bwinobwino, muziganiza kuti mukugwiritsa ntchito tsogolo lanu losagwedezeka, polojekiti.
Pamene muli osadziwika pazinthu zonse zokhudzana ndi izo, muzidziyang'anira nokha, pewani masewera, phunzirani ndikugwira ntchito - zidzakulepheretsani kuganiza molakwika ndikukhala mankhwala abwino kwambiri. Chitani chidziwitso chanu, dziperekeni ku lingaliro latsopano - ndipo posachedwa mudzamva kuti kusowa mtendere kwadzaza, zonse zimagwera m'malo, ndipo mumayambanso kusangalala ndi moyo.
Koma musalole kuti mukhale osungulumwa, monga momwe mtima wanu umakuuzani, mudzaze moyo wanu ndi chikondi-kuyankhulana ndi anzanu, achibale anu, kudziŵitsa anthu atsopano komanso pamene mukumva kuti mwakonzeka, mutsegule kuti mukhale paubwenzi watsopano. Ndiye chilonda chanu chimachiritsidwa kwathunthu.
Ndipo kumbukirani kuti zonse zimadalira pa inu komanso pa chikhumbo chanu. Nthawi sichiritse, mumadzichitira nokha, nthawi ya chithandizo imadalira inu. Pakhomo lina litatsekedwa, ena amatseguka, ndipo nthawi zina timayenera kutseka zitsulo zakale kuti tipeze tsogolo labwino.