Si chinsinsi kwa wina aliyense kuti mkazi ndi wokonda kwambiri. Kawirikawiri amaganiza moganiza, maganizo ake amathira pamphepete. Ndipo kenako amatha kuganizira zomwe adachita ndi zomwe adanena. Koma zikhoza kukhala kuzindikira komaliza kwa fait accompli. Momwe mungakhalire ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi khalidwe lachidziwitso.
Chikoka ndi khalidwe la khalidwe. Kuchita chidwi monga khalidwe labwino kumakhala chifukwa chakuti mkazi amadziwa nthawi zonse yankho la funso lililonse (ngakhale siliri lolondola). Pokhapokha panjira pali mavuto, mkaziyo amatembenukira kumbuyo ndikuyamba ntchito "kumenyana". Ngakhale ali ndi maganizo abwino amadziwa kuti izi sizingatheke ndipo ndizofunikira kugwiritsa ntchito njira zowonjezereka, koma palibe chomwe chingatheke.
Ndipo ndizomveka bwanji kuganizira mofulumira, osaganiza za zotsatira za izi. Zoona, pamene maganizo amatha ndipo maganizo amatha. Mkaziyo amamvetsa tsankho lake. Koma ndizovuta kwambiri kubwerera nthawi ndi kukonza zolakwikazo. Momwe mungaphunzire momwe mungachitire zinthu moyenera, musasinthe chirichonse mwakamodzi ndi mutu wotentha.
Mkazi wosafunafuna zinthu m'njira zambiri amafanana ndi mwana wamng'ono, wopanda nzeru. Iye ali ngati mwana wosafuna kudzidzimvera, amangotsatira maganizo ake okha ndi zofuna zochepa kuti achitepo kanthu. Koposa zonse, sadzizindikira yekha zomwe wachita, kapena zomwe akunena, kapena kuchita chilichonse.
Koma komabe, mukutengeka palinso zinthu zabwino:
mkwiyo sutanthauza kutsimikizira ndi kutsimikizira;
Mavuto oipa amatha kanthawi pang'ono;
chisankho chapangidwa mkati mwaphindi;
mafunso onse amayankhidwa nthawizonse;
Ndipotu, imatenga udindo wonse;
nthawi zonse yogwira;
mavuto onse amene akukumana nawo, dinani ngati "mtedza".
Makhalidwe amenewa alipo kwa ochepa. Koma, mwatsoka, njira zotere za galimoto yothamanga kwambiri sizimabweretsedwa kwa abwino. Zimapereka mavuto ambiri kwa ena osati momwemo. Zotsatira za zochita ndi mawu sizimangopatsidwa chilango nthawi zonse, chifukwa nthawi zambiri zimakhala zokhumudwitsa komanso zotsutsana ndi malamulo ambiri.
Kuti asokoneze mtendere mu chilengedwe. Muyenera kuphunzira kuchepetsa makona. Pambuyo pake. Kuposa chinachake choti mutchule kapena kutenga lingaliro lofunikira, nkofunikira kuwerengera 10 ndi kumbuyo ndipo kokha kuti mutsegule pakamwa panu kokongola, chifukwa cha chiganizo chotsatira.
Ngati mkazi sangathe kukhala, adzalandira thandizo la ena. Ndikofunika kuvomereza ndi banja ndi abwenzi. Kuwawathandiza kulamulira maganizo awo ndi zizindikiro zina. Chimene adzatumikire panthawiyo. Mayi akamayamba "kudula pamapewa" kachiwiri. Zingakhale zizindikiro zosiyana kuchokera ku mawu akuti "imani" kuti muwombere manja anu. Kuyimitsa, mkaziyo adzatha kuyamikira mawu ake ndi zochita zake.
Kudziletsa nokha ndikumverera zovuta kwambiri. Sizingatheke kuthetsa vutoli. Tsekani akazi ndi ena mwinamwake akudziŵa za khalidweli ndikuyesera kumuchitira mokhulupirika ku zomwe zanenedwa ndi kuchita. Koma anthu osadziwika akhoza kuchita mantha ndi khalidwe loperewera, ndipo izi zingawatsogolere. Munthu wopupuluma ayenera kufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane makhalidwe ake kwa anthu oyandikana nawo ndi osadziwika kuti asadzivulaze yekha. Ndipo phunzirani kupepesa pa zomwe zinachitika pa "malungo".
Ndipo chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kukumbukira kuti mukhoza kukonza zomwe zachitika. Mukungofuna kupeza mawu olondola. Mwachitsanzo, munapanga chisankho chotsatira, tsiku lotsatira kapena pakapita kanthawi, mukhoza kutchula kufulumira kwa chisankho ndikutengeranso zowonjezera ndikuyesera phindu lililonse.
Ntchito yokhazikika nthawi zonse idzabweretsa zotsatira zabwino.