Onse achokera muubwana
Chirichonse chimene timachita, zomwe timanena, momwe timachitira ndi zotsatira za kulera kwathu. Ndi momwe makolo amachitira nafe, zimakhala chiyambi cha khalidwe lathu, malingaliro kwa anthu ndi mikhalidwe. Amene amakonda kukonda ena ndi kuika maganizo awo nthawi zonse amazunzidwa ndi makolo awo. Komanso, izi sizikutanthauza kuti makolo anali anthu oipa ndipo sankawakonda ana awo. Kawirikawiri, chithandizo choterocho ndi chifukwa cha chikondi chachikulu kwambiri. Makolo amafuna kuti ana awo azikhala abwino komanso osazindikira, amadzipangitsa okha kudzimva. Mwachitsanzo, mwana wamng'ono akamapempha chokoleti cha mkaka, mamanist akuti "Tiyeni titenge chokoleti chakuda. Mukumufuna zambiri, chifukwa ndi othandiza kwambiri. " Ndipo chilichonse chimene mwanayo akunena, Amayi akulimbikirabe. Kotero izo zimapitirira mobwerezabwereza, pamapeto pake munthuyo amatha kumvetsa chimene iye akufuna kwenikweni. Amayamba kuchita zomwe ena amadziwa bwino kuposa zomwe akufuna. Choncho, motsogoleredwa ndi chitsanzo chotero, anthu amayamba kukhulupirira kuti amadziwa bwino lomwe zomwe anthu ena akufuna. Iwo molimba mtima amapereka makhalidwe awo, ngakhale popanda kuganiza kuti chirichonse chingakhale chosiyana. Nthawi zambiri, maganizo amenewa amawonetsedwa kwa anthu apamtima kwambiri, chifukwa tikamacheza kwambiri ndi munthu, zimatiwoneka bwino kuti timamudziwa bwino kuposa momwe amachitira. Lingaliro lozikika lomwe anthu apamtima amadziwa bwino kwambiri kuposa momwe timapangidwira kuti tidziŵe anthu ammudzi, ngakhale atayamba kukaniza kukana.
Maofesi apakati
Anthu amapereka makhalidwe kwa ena ndipo nthawi zina amamva kuti wina ndi wabwino kuposa iyeyo. Makhalidwe otere amatchedwa kunyoza, kunyoza. Anthu amanena zinthu zomwe si zoona. Mwa njira, munthu angapereke makhalidwe oterewa mosadziwa komanso mosadziŵa. Zili choncho kuti malingaliro opanda chidziwitso kwambiri amafuna kulungamitsa zochita zathu, kuti amapeza zochepetsera ndi zolakwika m'machitidwe a anthu ena. Ndi pamene timamva momwe munthu wopanda maziko amayamba kunena kuti wina sanangopangidwa chifukwa chakuti ndi wochenjera komanso wopindulitsa, koma chifukwa ali ndi anthu olemera, ndipo mtsikanayo watha kukwatiwa bwino, chifukwa kaya ndi wokongola kapena wosasangalatsa, kapena ngakhale bewitch. Anthu omwe amawonetsera ena nthawi zonse, yesetsani kusokoneza chidwi kuchokera kwa iwo okha. Samafuna kuti aliyense azindikire zolemba zawo ndikuzidziwika. Powapatsa makhalidwe onse, iwo amadziletsa okha ndipo samalola ena kuwamasulira. Ngati wina ayamba kukana, ndiye monga lamulo, anthu amachitapo kanthu mwamphamvu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti nthawi zonse amadziwika kuti mayina awo ndi olondola, ndipo sangathe kuvomereza kuti maganizo awo ndi onama komanso kuti maganizo a munthu ndi olondola. Muzochitika zotero, munthu sayenera kukangana ndi iwo omwe akuyesera kufotokoza wina. Mwachibadwa, nthawi zina sizingatheke kukhala chete. Komabe ndizosayenera kuyankhulana, chifukwa malinga ngati simukutsutsana, munthuyo, mosiyana, ngati akulimbikitsa maganizo anu ndi zosayenerera zanu ndipo ngakhale kutentha kwakukulu kumayamba kupereka makhalidwe ake.
Kudzikonda
Chilakolako chowonetsera komanso chimayambitsa banal egoism. Anthu odzikonda akufuna kukhala m'dziko limene lidzakhala labwino kwambiri komanso labwino. Ndichifukwa chake sakufuna kuwona umunthu wozungulira. Munthu wotero amayesera kupanga masewera achidole, omwe angachite zomwe akufuna. Ndicho chifukwa chake amayamba kufotokoza anthu, kuwapatsa makhalidwe omwe, poyamba, amakhala abwino kwa iye. Monga lamulo, egoists amasonkhana pafupi pawokha omwe ali ofooka kuposa omwe amawakonda ndi kuwakomera iwo. Ndi kosavuta kuti anthu oterewa apange zofuna zawo ndi kutsogolera zomwe akufuna. Omwe amachititsa anthu kuti azikhala ovuta kwambiri, amadzimvera, amadzichepetsa kwambiri kuposa iye mwini. Amayesa "kuika" ndi kupha munthu malingaliro ake, lingaliro la ulemu ndi kudzidalira. Mu khalidwe la munthu wodzikonda, mukhoza kumva mawu monga "Wochenjera", "Wopindulitsa", "Wusowa" ndi zina zotero. M'malo mwake, munthu amapatsa ena malingaliro kuti ndi opusa, osadziwa komanso sangathe kuchita chilichonse popanda icho. Monga lamulo, woterewu amagawira makhalidwe amakhala mtsogoleri ndi makina ena kwa ena motero amadza ku lingaliro lakuti popanda izo iwo alibe phindu kwa chirichonse. Pankhani imeneyi, chilakolako chodziŵitsa ena sichimangokhala chiphunzitso cholakwika. Munthu amanyalanyaza ena kuti adziteteze okha. Prichemon sizimangosonyeza khalidwe lake. Iye amachita zonse kuti atsimikizire kuti anthu omwe amamuzungulira amakhulupirira mwa iye, ndikukhala mogwirizana ndi zomwe zanenedwa. Ndizimene zimayenera kuopedwa kwambiri. Ngati munthu amachita izi mosadziŵa, nthawi zambiri amatsogoleredwa ndi chikondi ndi chisamaliro kapena samangozindikira zomwe zikuchitika. Koma pamene makhalidwe oipawa akugawidwa mwachidwi, ndikofunikira nthawi yomweyo kuchotsa munthu woteroyo ndi kuchoka pa chikoka chake. Zoona zake n'zakuti anthu oterewa ndi anthu abwino. Iwo nthawizonse amachita chirichonse, monga iwo ndipo samafuna konse kulingalira za lingaliro la wina. Ngakhale atakhala ndi malingaliro onena za wina woti azisamalira, ndiye kuti kumvetsetsa chilakolako cha munthu sikupanda kulankhula. Izi zimakhala zitsimikizirika nthawi zonse kuti iye ndi wopambana komanso wochenjera kwambiri, choncho amadziwa bwino lomwe amene akufunikira zomwe ayenera kuchita ndi anthu ake. Ngati mukumva kuti pakati pa anthu apamtima pali wina amene amakuuzani "choonadi cha moyo", zomwe mwanjira ina sizigwirizana ndi malingaliro anu ndi maganizo a ena za inu, ganizirani ngati akuyesera kukupatsani makhalidwe oipa, otsogoleredwa ndi anu zolinga zadyera.
Anthu amaimira ena nthawi zonse. Koma kutali ndi aliyense akuwona kuti khalidwe lotere siliri lolondola muzinthu zambiri. Palibe amene amatidziwa bwino kuposa momwe amachitira. Choncho, kupatsa makhalidwe, ndizofunanso kuti tiganizire ngati tikupweteka psyche ya anthu komanso ngati sitimapanga maganizo omwe angasokoneze tsogolo lawo.