Mbuye wake Wopanda kuzindikira ...
Mu imodzi mwa ntchito zake Mark Twain adanena mfundo yosangalatsa yokhudzana ndi chiyambi cha chilengedwe, makamaka ndakatulo. Monga, kuyambitsidwa kwa zida zowonjezera mwatsatanetsatane za anthu achikulire kunayendetsedwa ndi njala. "O, nyama, o, nyama yofiira!" Anakondwera piite yoyamba atavala zikopa, akulowa pakati pa bwalo la anthu amtundu wake. Ndipo adalandira kuwomba kwachisoni ndi ndalama zabwino-chida chokwanira. Kulengedwa kwa Twain kunakhala chithunzithunzi cha mabuku a dziko lapansi. Zoona, mu sayansi, palinso machitidwe ena omwe amachitika pa chikhalidwe cha chilengedwe. Anakhazikitsidwa ndi woyambitsa matenda a psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud. Choncho, akatswiri ankanena kuti: maziko a chiwonetsero chilichonse chachilengedwe ndikumenyana ndi kugonana. "Chabwino, ndiroleni ine ndikuwotche moto!" - akuimbidwa mu nyimbo yovuta yokhudza mwamuna yemwe alibe chibwenzi pakali pano. Komabe, sikuti kungokhala kopanda kugonana kungachititse anthu kugwira ntchito. Malinga ndi zomwe Freud ananena, mizu ya chilengedwe imayambira mwakuya kwathu.
Zimaphatikiza mikangano (zoletsedwa, ziphuphu zamaganizo) zomwe zinapangidwira mu ubwana wathunthu. Izi zikhoza kukhala kuphunzitsa, maphunziro a Puritan - ngati mwana sakuloledwa, mwachitsanzo, kuti azicheza ndi anzake atatha asanu ndi anayi madzulo kapena kuvala zovala zolimba. Nkhondoyi imakhalanso ndi chikhalidwe: kukangana pakati pa abwenzi, kusokonezeka kuntchito (kusamvana ndi anzako, ndi akuluakulu). Mphepo zingakhalenso banja - kusowa kwa chilankhulo chofala pakati pa makolo ndi ana. Zonsezi zokhudzana ndi maganizo ndi zowonetsera kusokoneza mphamvu zogonana-mphamvu zogonana ndi chilengedwe (mwachitsanzo, zosakhutira ndi ntchito-yofuna kukhala wotanthauzira ndikugwira ntchito monga mlembi) ku chilengedwe. Koma njerwa yaikulu ya kugonjetsedwa (mwa njira, mawuwa mu psychoanalysis adayambitsidwanso ndi Sigmund Freud) chirichonse, ndipo panalipo ndipo amakhalabe kugonana. Ndipo mawu akuti "mkangano" sayenera kumveka ngati amodzi. Chimwemwe chimalimbikitsa moyo, chimachotsa mtendere wamtendere. Choncho, anthu omwe ali okondwa m'chikondi amakhalanso osangalatsa kwambiri.
Kugonana monga injini ya ntchito
Ndani ali ndi magawo ang'onoang'ono? Zili choncho kuti chirichonse chikuphatikizidwa mu kumasulira mphamvu zogonana kukhala chilengedwe! Chinthu chophweka chimene chimapereka chidziwitso ndi loto. Kodi munalota zoyendayenda m'madera otentha, pakati pa mitengo ikuluikulu yokhala ndi liana komanso kusangalala ndi maluwa aakulu? Kapena kodi mumalota kusambira m'nyanja yamchere? Kotero, iwo sankafuna kutero, iwo ankadzichepetsa okha - iwo anali opanga nzeru. Ndipo zotsatira za chilengedwe ichi chinali maloto okongola. "Phase lapamwamba" la ntchito yopanda chidziwitso ndi chilengedwe chozindikira. Izi ndi zomwe zimatchedwa kulenga - zolemba ndakatulo ndi nkhani, kulembera zithunzi, zojambula zojambulajambula pamakoma a mzindawo, nyimbo zoimba nyimbo, kuvina, kusewera masewero, ndi kupanga zochitika zamkati. Kumbukirani masiku a sukulu: Ndi ndani yemwe amacheza-atsikana, omwe adakondana ndi wophunzira wamkulu, sanakane kanthu kena mu bukhu la zolembera pogwiritsa ntchito nyali za usiku!
Komabe, palibe ndime imodzi kapena kusewera piyano ndiwonetseratu za chilengedwe. Kusungunula kungakhale kosangalatsa - mwachitsanzo, kusonkhanitsa matampu, beji, zinthu zina. Njere zachilengedwe ndi chikondi, patronage. Kodi mumakonda kupeza ndi kuthandizira matalente, kutumiza mbali ya malipiro anu, kutumiza ana a zisudzo kapena zovala kumasiye wamasiye? Kotero ndiwe Mlengi, mukuchita bwino. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, kugonjetsedwa kwazing'ono ndizo zonse zomwe zimayankhulidwa pachilengedwe. Ngakhale mu khitchini yamba, mukhoza kukhala Mlengi wosadalirika. Mwachitsanzo, Lachisanu madzulo, pamene banja lonse likudikirira chakudya chamadzulo, iwo amakonza saladi ya shrimp ndikuiyika pamapanga ngati mawonekedwe a mtima, zokongoletsa ndi tomato yamatchire? Zikomo, mudasintha kaganizidwe kake - mphamvu za kugonana ndi zogwiritsa ntchito. Mu mbali iyi yophikira, izo, mwa njira, zidzalimbikitsa banja.
Kusungulumwa kumathandizira kukula kwa ntchito. Mwachitsanzo, kugwidwa mwachikondi, mukhoza kukonzanso ndikusintha Khrushchev molimba mu oasis yaing'ono: ndi mipando ya mpesa kuchokera ku mpesa, ndi zitsulo, zoperekera zamapiri monga mawonekedwe achilendo. Kenaka dziwani ndi okonza mapulojekiti ndipo onetsetsani kuti pali anthu amene amapanga nyumba yabwinoko. Pa chivomezi "chivomezi" chinayambitsa nkhondo yina - chikhalidwe. Mzimu wa mpikisano umadzutsa. Gawo lotsatira ndi kulemba kuti maphunziro apangidwe ndi kuzindikira ntchito yatsopano.
Libido mu malaya oyera
Kuchokera pamalingaliro a psychoanalysis, kugonjetsedwa kwazing'ono kumakhala kulenga. Ndicho, mukhoza kukula mwauzimu ndikuchiritsidwa. Ndicho maziko a art therapy (malangizo mu psychology, pamene munthu amachotsa zochitika zake zamaganizo mwa chidziwitso: kuumba kuchokera pulasitiki, kupanga mapulasitiki, zithunzi). Pano, ndi kukumbukira nthawi zamakono (omwe ali mwana sanafune kukoka!), Ndipo kumasulidwa kwa zoletsedwa. Pakati pa zojambula zamakono, zolepheretsa zachikhalidwe zimachotsedwa. Munthu amalowa m'kudziwa kwake, amatsitsimutsa ndi kuthetsa mavuto ake. Kupanga ndi kuchiza chithandizo ndi mchenga - mtundu wa zojambulajambula. Akatswiri a zamaganizo kawirikawiri amawona chodabwitsa chotere: munthu wamkulu amangolowetsa dzanja lake mu chidebe ndi mchenga ndipo patapita kanthawi amayamba kukopera chinachake ndi zala zake, kupanga zojambula. Zomwe zinamuchitikira iye adakali mwana, pamene adasewera mchenga wa mchenga, akugwira ntchito! Mwa njira, kuchiritsa luso, inu mukhoza mwadzidzidzi kukhala woyanjana nawo wa ntchito yolemba.
Chikondi kapena zojambulajambula?
Funso lodziwika: ndi chiyani kuti anthu ambiri azigonana, ngati pali kugonjetsedwa? Ndipo mupeze ma bonasi ambiri: ndi ulemerero, ndi kuwonjezeka mu thumba la ndalama, ndi kukula kwa akatswiri. Pali lingaliro lina. Nchifukwa chiyani amasintha malingaliro - kugonana ndi mphamvu zogonana kuti azikhala pachibwenzi? Kugonana - ichi ndi chitonthozo chabwino chokhazikitsidwa ndi chirengedwe, chimapereka chinthu chosangalatsa. Inde, sikuli koyenera kuzisiya izi mu dzina la kubadwa kwa chojambula chatsopano kapena chodabwitsa cha symphony. Koma simungathe kukonza pa nthawi imodzi. Chilengedwe chimadza ndi mphamvu ya uzimu, kumathandiza kupeza tanthauzo latsopano la kukhala. Ndicho chifukwa chake opanga nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chilakolako chokongoletsa m'maso mwao, ndipo amakhala ndi mphamvu yochuluka ngakhale m'zaka zolemekezeka kwambiri. N'zosadabwitsa kuti amati: "Mzimayi amene amangofuna mwamuna wake sakonda aliyense." Chifukwa chake ndi bwino pamene kugonana ndi kugonjetsedwa kumathandizana. Ndiye moyo wonse udzasanduka gawo kuchokera ku chimwemwe mpaka chimwemwe.