Paunyamata wathu sitigwirizana kwambiri ndi misonkhano. Timasonyeza kuphompho kwa nzeru, kuti tisagone kunyumba, timapeza mwayi wopuma pantchito ndi mnyamata pakati pa phwando lachisangalalo. Nchifukwa chiyani mwakukula kwa moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana timafunikira nyumba yopanda kanthu popanda ana ndi achibale, bedi lalikulu, ndi zina zotero?
Nkhani ya panyumba ndi moyo wapamtima ukukhala nkhani yofulumira kwambiri pa zokambirana za m'badwo watsopano.
Inde, ndibwino kukhala kutali ndi achibale. Koma osati zonsezi zikutuluka. Nanga tsopano: palibe nyumba - palibe kugonana? Ndikhulupirire, izi siziri choncho. Kuchokera kwa zondichitikira zanga ndikudziwa kuti chipinda chimodzi sichikutitsimikizira kuti banja limakhala losangalala komanso kugonana tsiku ndi tsiku. Komanso, m'kuvuta kuti maganizo enieni amachedwa. Phatikizani malingaliro, kuwonjezera chidwi chachinyamata ndi adventurism - ndipo moyo wanu wapamtima udzasewera ndi mitundu yomwe simunayambepopo.
Kugonana m'banja
Mkhalidwe: Kukhala pansi pa denga limodzi la mibadwo yambiri si zachilendo masiku ano. Zifukwa zake zonse: kusowa kwa ndalama zogula / kubwereka nyumba, kufunika kwina "kuthamangira" nthawi ya kukonzanso, ndi zina zotero. Banja lina lodziwika bwino linadandaula kuti pamene iwo anali pansi pa mapiko a makolo awo, zosangalatsa zawo zowonongeka kale zomwe zinasintha zinasanduka kanema yakale yakale: popanda mawonekedwe ndi kayendedwe kosafunika. Osati ambiri akhoza kumasuka, podziwa kuti wina ali kumbuyo kwa khoma. Zina mwazovuta ndizoopsezedwa kugwidwa pa nthawi yosafunika kwambiri komanso kufunika kuyendetsa phokoso ndi kayendetsedwe kalikonse.
Njira yothetsera vutoli komanso moyo wapamtima: Monga momwe mukudziwira, zovuta za mkhalidwewu zimayesedwa ndi malingaliro athu. Kotero, muyenera kusiya kudzichepetsa ndikuyamba kuganizira za ubwino wa banja lanu, osati zomwe ena amaganiza. Osayiwala, ndithudi, malamulo oyambirira a khalidwe.
Choyamba, khalani ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha loko, kapena kanyumba ka chitseko. Ngati mutagwiritsira ntchito zida zanzeru zomwe mukufunikira kuti musagwire maso a makolo omwe amatha kusintha, ndibwino kuti mubisale "pazithunzi zoyenera".
Anthu apakhomo safunikira kudziwa zomwe mukuchita kunyumba kwanu. Pewani bedi - yang'anani yatsopano kapena kuika matiresi pansi. Chophimba chofewa - komanso sexplatform yayikulu. Kodi mukukumbukira momwe ankhondo a bukuli "12 mipando" adayesera kulira phokoso la kupsompsona ndi chifuwa chachikulu? Musabwereze zolakwitsa zawo, kuyesera "kudzibisa" kupyolera mu TV kapena nyimbo. Anthu omwe amaphunzira fisikesi kusukulu amadziwa kuti kupanga phokoso kumakhala komwe amamvetsera. Choncho, ndizovuta kwambiri kugwirizanitsa chingwe cha TV mu chipinda cha makolo kapena katundu ku DVD. Makolo a "Podsadiv" pazinthu zina, mumapatsa maola angapo omasuka. Anzanga nthawi zambiri amachichita "kusamba" mumsamba podziwa kuti "Ndipita kumbuyo komwe ndimakonda." Kuyang'aniridwa ndi zochitika: kutuluka kwa madzi mwangwiro kumamveka phokoso.
Gwirani nthawi pamene makolo ali ku dacha, pangani iwo kukhala otchuka kwambiri. Lekani ndandanda yanu ya ntchito kuti mupite kukagwira ntchito kuposa abale ena kapena kubwerera ku "kugonana" kwagonana.
M'chilimwe, kambiranani chiyanjano chanu ndi zochitika zachilendo zachilengedwe. Kodi mukudziwa kuti chilengedwe chimatidyetsa ndi kugonana? N'zosadabwitsa kuti kugonana kunja kumatengedwa kuti ndi chikondi komanso kukumbukira kwa nthawi yaitali.
Ganizirani, ndipo pali mwayi wambiri wokhala ndekha ndi wokondedwa wanu. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala ndi ubwenzi wochezeka ndi wokoma mtima mnyumbamo, ndiyeno zoletsedwa mlengalenga siziwoneka zopweteka kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, monga momwe mawuwo amanenera, mopepuka, inde, palibe cholakwira.
Mu "odnushke" ndi mwanayo
Mkhalidwe: vuto la nyumba ndi moyo wapamtima: pakuti banja lachichepere ndi chipinda chimodzi cha chipinda chimakhala chowoneka bwino, kungoti achoke kwa makolo. Nanga bwanji ngati pali kubwezeretsedwa m'banja? Amayi ndi abambo ambiri amakhudzidwa ndi funsoli: Ngati mwana wagona m'chipinda chomwecho pamodzi ndi makolo, kodi zinyenyeswazi "zabwino" zimapanga zaka zingati? Ndi chiyani choti tichite pamene mwanayo akukula ndipo chipinda chimakhala "chokwanira" kwa atatuwa?
Mbadwo wonse wa ana a Soviet anakulira m'nyumba zogwirira ntchito m'mavuto aakulu kwambiri. Ndipo palibe, aliyense, wothokoza Mulungu, ali amoyo ndi wathanzi. Chinthu china ndi chakuti "maluwa a moyo" amakono amadziwa zambiri za moyo wapamtima ndipo sizingatheke kuti mwana wanu wazaka zisanu ndi chimodzi amakhulupirira kuti makolo akuchita masewera.
Anzanga amakhala mu hotelo ndi ana awiri okalamba. Nkhani ya nyumba ndi moyo wapamtima zakhala zitathetsedwa pothandizidwa ndi magawano. Ngati bwalolo sililola kulowetsamo, kusintha "dislocation". Ndipotu, kuwonjezera pa chipinda, nyumba yanu ili ndi bafa ndi khitchini. Gwirizanani, nthawi zonse kugonana pabedi la banja ndi kosangalatsa!
Mukhoza "kubwezera" ana pa maholide kapena mapeto a sabata kwa agogo ndi agogo. Njira imodzi ndiyo kuika khitchini chophimba kapena kukonza ogona pa khonde (njira yowonjezera nthawi ya chilimwe). Ndikutsimikiza kuti mwana wanuyo adzasunthira kumeneko usiku kuti akakhale yekha, awerenge buku lochititsa chidwi.
Kuti kugonana kusakhale kovuta, ndikofunika kusankha malo abwino. Zovuta za mmishonare ndi wokwera pazinthu izi siziyenera. Bodza maso ndi maso. Mulole munthu yekhayo asunthe, zokopa ziyenera kukhala pang'onopang'ono. Kapena mutengeni supuni yaikazi: khalani pambali panu, mayiyo akutembenukira kumbuyo kwa bamboyo ndikukweza kumbuyo kwake.
Zambiri zomwe mungathe kumvetsetsa zingapewe ngati mwanayo akukonzekera pasadakhale. Inu ndi mwamuna wanu musamachite manyazi kuti muwonetsane chikondi chenicheni kwa wina ndi mzake pamaso pa mwana. Kwa ana a zaka zisanu m'mabitolo ogulitsa mabuku amagulitsidwa mazinthu apadera okhudza kugonana omwe amalembedwa ndi ana a maganizo okhudza maganizo a ana (makamaka mabuku a olemba kunyumba). Nthawi zonse ganizirani bukuli palimodzi, phunzirani momwe mungalankhulire mosapita m'mbali mitu yeniyeni. Ndipo ngati munthu wamkulu akukula mosakayika amakhala mboni kwa moyo wapamtima wa amayi ndi abambo, sikudzakhala koyenera kufotokoza kulungamitsa kwa zifukwa.
Kawirikawiri chifukwa cha mavuto athu pamutu, osati chifukwa cha kusowa kwa moyo. Ngati kukhalapo kwa mwana kapena makolo (ngakhale kumbuyo kwa khoma) kumapha kwathunthu chilakolako cha kugonana, banja lanu likufuna kuthandizidwa ndi munthu kuchokera: wa katswiri wamaganizo kapena wamagulu.
Achinyamata amayembekezera kuti makolo adzamvera chisoni moyo wawo. Chifukwa chiyani poyankhira sakuwonetsa ulemu komanso osayesa, kuti panthawi yogonana kuchuluka kwa ma decibel sichikule?