Pali zifukwa zambiri za izi. Choyamba ndi chidziwitso chomwe chimadziwonetsera m'chikhumbo "chophimba" amayi ambiri momwe zingathere. Banja limakhululukiranso iwo chifukwa cha kugonana koteroko, koma osati kwa mkazi. Tsopano ndizopangidwira kutsogolera njira ya moyo monga mayi-vampu, wokongola komanso wokongola, koma moyenera, pamene mwamuna ayamba kutenga choyamba, komanso kuti mkaziyo avomereze kapena ayi. Choncho, amuna amafunika kugonana kuti agwiritse ntchito zachilengedwe.
Chifukwa chachiwiri ndi mphamvu yowonjezera yomwe sangathe kugwiritsira ntchito pakhomo pomwe akuyang'anira ana, ndi zina zotero. Amayamba kudya zambiri, kumwa, kusewera masewera, omwe amathandiza kudzaza thupi lanu ndi mphamvu. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake amuna amafunika kugonana mobwerezabwereza nthawi zambiri, popanda kuyanjana, chinthu chachikulu apa ndikutulutsidwa. Kuonjezera apo, amuna ayenera kusunga minofu yawo, makamaka zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito panthawi yogonana. Ngati izi sizichitika, posachedwa adzafooka ndikusiya kugwira ntchito. Zimatsimikiziridwa kuti amuna amafunika kugonana kangapo pamwezi, mwinamwake zingayambitse kusokonezeka, zomwe amawopa.
Palinso chifukwa chachitatu, koma ndi chachilendo kwa amuna. Iwo amaganiza kuti akaziwa amawapangitsa iwo kuda nkhawa kwambiri. Ndipo muzinthu zawo zonse, ngakhale "kumanzere" amatsutsa akazi, amati, amatiponyera muzinthu za akazi ena. Kodi amuna amafunikira kugonana kwambiri kotero kuti salinso kuzindikira zinthu zoyambirira ndipo akuyang'ana omwe ali olakwa kumene sali? Amuna ndizilengedwa zosadziŵika, koma tonsefe timagwiritsidwa ntchito kuthetsa nkhani zathu mwanjira ina.
Pazifukwa izi, amuna amakhala okonzeka kugonana kusiyana ndi akazi. Koma nthawi zina pali akazi okonda kugonana komanso oimira zachiwerewere ogonana kwambiri, omwe amatha kusiyanitsa miyezo yomwe amavomereza. Wachiwiriyu adapereka udindo waukwati ndi khama lalikulu. Zikudziwika kuti kumwa mowa kwambiri kumabweretsa kuchepa kwa mphamvu mwa amuna. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa chachikulu cha izi ndi mphamvu. Zakumwa zoledzeretsa ndizofunikira zomwe zimafuna mphamvu zazikulu kuti zigawidwe. Kwa zigawo zing'onozing'ono za mowa, thupi limapeza zinthu mosavuta, koma zazikulu zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Mukufunsa bwanji? Kutenga mowa pang'ono kumawonjezera ntchito, komanso kugonana. Ndipo izi, ndithudi, zimakondweretsa iwo, chifukwa anthu amafuna kugonana ngati mpweya.
Kuti muzisangalala ndi moyo ndikugonana, nkofunika kuti mukhale ndi maonekedwe abwino komanso kuti muzimangirira mkazi wanu. Ndipo moyenera komanso nthawi zambiri kuti mupumule.
Muzochitika izi, amai amafunika kukhala okhulupirika kwambiri pa kugonana kwa amuna, zomwe zimakhazikitsidwa ndi maonekedwe awo ndi kuikidwa pa kubadwa mwachibadwa. Otsatira nthawi zina amasonyeza kuti ali amphamvu kuposa chisankho. Izi siziyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Izi sizitsogolera ku zotsatira zabwino. Patsanani wina ndi mzake, ndipo amai ndi abambo onse amafunika kugonana nthawi zambiri. Chivomerezo cha onse awiriwa chidzabweretsa nthawi yosangalatsa komanso yokondweretsa pabedi. Ndipo izi, monga akunenera, ndizofunikira kwambiri pa ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Muzogonana, muyenera kudalira mnzanuyo ndikumulemekeza, ngati akufuna kuti apitirizebe kukondana.