Ndizovala kuvala chovala choyera ndikufika pagalimoto yosungidwa ndi kunena motsimikiza kuti: "Ndine mkazi wabwinobwino, wamba! Sindimagonana pa tsiku loyamba, sindimakhala pachibwenzi popanda chikondi, sindimasintha mwamuna wanga! "Ndipo pansi, ndipo nthawi zina amalengeza poyera kuti anthu omwe ali" zonyansa "enieni sali m'kalasi yoyamba. Kugonana kopanda udindo ndi nkhani yabwino. Pafupifupi monga mutu wa zamasamba, chipembedzo kapena ufulu wa akazi kuchotsa mimba, ubwenzi wapamtima wopanda chikondi sungasiye aliyense wosasamala. Kudzakhaladi omwe ali "chifukwa" ndi omwe "akutsutsana".
Zizindikiro ndi zachiroma
Inde, n'zomveka chifukwa chake munthu sayenera kukhala ndi chidwi ndi "kugonana". Aliyense amafuna kumverera wokondedwa, wofunikira, yekhayo komanso osagwiritsira ntchito mphamvu za kugonana ndi zauzimu pa osowa. Izi sizimangodetsa nkhawa zazimayi, komanso amuna, ngakhale kuti akuwona kuti akukonzekera nthawi zonse.
Koma pali ena omwe ali "ophweka" sawona chirichonse chowopsya kwa psyche. Sakusowa katundu pamtima kapena ubongo kuti amasangalale ndi kugonana. Mofananamo, sikoyenera kukondana ndi munthu kuti azitenga nawo masewera, kukonzekera chakudya kapena kuvina tango. Komabe, ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ngati wina angasangalale ndi kugonana, kaya adzikonda kapena ayi, ali ndi mavuto aakulu. Mwinamwake ayenera kupita kwa wogonana? Kumeneko adzachiritsidwa ndi chidwi cha chiwerewere pa zosangalatsa za kugonana! Pambuyo pa zonse, kukhala woona mtima, ndibwino kugonana ndi anthu wamba chifukwa cha chikondi, ndipo onse omwe angathe kuchita zinazake amatchedwa capacious mawu achi Russia.
Masewera omwewo
Komabe, moyo umatsimikizira: mu kampu yofuna kugonana popanda ntchito, amalembera mosayembekezereka.
Ambiri mwa iwo omwe adayesa kugonana popanda ntchito, choncho amathera nthawi yochepa kapena atachoka ntchito - pamene mphamvu zaumtima zilibe zokwanira kuti munthu akhale wokondwa, koma okha. Kugonana kosapindulitsa kumafunidwa ndi anthu odziimira okha omwe sanaone chikondi chenicheni, kapena mfundo sakufuna kugawa miyoyo yawo ndi wina. Kugonana popanda zolemetsa monga momwe zingatheke ndi njira: kuyitana kulikonse, nsanje ndi mafunso osaneneka.
Palibe munthu
Kupewa kugonana kwa amayi sikuvulaza. Kusagonana ndi koipa pa thanzi - kutsutsana sikulakwa. Koma zimadziwika kuti kugonana kwa munthu kumapangitsa kuti thupi lake lisamangokhala bwino, komanso lingaliro lake. Chomveka ndi chophweka: ndikofunika kwambiri kugonana kusiyana ndi kunyalanyaza izo. Koma mawu awa, pa nkhani ya kugonana popanda zofunikira, ndizoona muzochitika zina.
Choyamba, chitetezo ndi chopambana. Matenda opatsirana sali oyenerera kwa wina aliyense kapena mimba yosafunika kuchokera kwa mnzanu, zomwe siziyenera kuyanjana.
Chachiwiri, atsikana omwe ali ndi chiwerewere chosalemetsa, awoneni kuti chiwopsezo chachikulu pamayendedwe a mnzanu. Kuti asayambe kukondana, amalangiza kuti asiye mutu, ozizira; Osagona usiku umodzi pabedi; Musalole nokha kuganizira za munthu kachiwiri; Potsiriza, simuyenera kuzipereka pamaso panu kufunika ndi kudzipangitsa nokha kuti kukhala ndi chibwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali sikugwirizana. Musapsompsone - njira yodalirika, kotero kuti pambali pa kusinthanitsa kwa zakumwa zakumwa zosazindikira sizikutenga zowonjezera zina.
Chachitatu, pitirizani kutalika pa kugonana popanda kudzipereka n'kofunika nthawi zonse. Ngati mkazi ali kwa mwamuna ngati wokwatirana naye, ayenera kumveka bwino. Kuwona mtima ndi kulankhulana momveka bwino "palibe chodabwitsa pakati pathu" sichidzasokoneza. Inde, amuna samakhala ndi nthawi zonse kumva zachibadwa ngati zimenezi.
Maluwa ndi mphatso zazing'ono monga ziwonetsero zowonetsetsa - kuwononga mtunda. Zakudya, kupita ku mafilimu, khofi pabedi m'mawa - maonekedwe a "kugonana okha" sagwiritsidwa ntchito. Iwo ali olimbika kwambiri mu malingaliro mwa mawonekedwe a chisamaliro, chomwe chimangowonjezera chikondi. Choncho, ngakhale zinthu zopanda pake ziyenera kusungidwa.
Potsiriza pa mndandanda, koma chinthu chachikulu cha kugonana popanda kugonana ndi udindo woganiza za zotsatira popanda zochitika za izi. Osati kokha pokhudzana ndi wokondedwa, komanso kwa iye mwini.
Udindo wa malingaliro anu ndizo zovuta kwambiri, kotero ngati palibe kutsimikiza kuti kugonana popanda chikondi ndi kosangalatsa, munthu sayenera ngakhale kuyesa.
Kawirikawiri pali anthu omwe alibe chochita ndi kugonana kosaloledwa - njira ya moyo. Nthawi zambiri, maubwenzi otero ndi chinthu chokhalitsa chomwe chimadzaza moyo ndi malingaliro, kuyembekezera chinachake chachikulu ndi choyera. Ziphuphu zosaoneka bwino zathyoledwa ngati intaneti, posachedwa zitangowonekera. Kuzama, kukhudzidwa pa moyo wa moyo kumabweretsa chisangalalo chochuluka kuposa kusangika kwanthawi yaying'ono kotengera zozizwitsa zinyama.