Monga lamulo, amuna otere - anthu omwe ali ndi udindo, "banja", "ntchito ya atate", "chikondi cha ana" - kwa iwo awa si mawu opanda pake. Kodi chinachitika bwanji kuti iwo anatsala okha ndi ana awo? Mkazi kapena wamwalira, kapena atangotsala, kapena anali m'malo osungidwa ali omasuka - zifukwa zofala kwambiri. Ndipo panthawi yovuta iyi kwa iwo pamapewa a amuna amphamvu ndi nkhani za kulera ana ndi abambo-osakwatira.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalimbikitsa amuna awa malamulo omwe angathandize kuti asamalire mosavuta komanso kuti akhale pafupi ndi mwana wawo kotero kuti asapeze mavuto olerera ana ndi abambo-amodzi komanso kuti achoke pavutoli.
Ndikofunika kusintha malingaliro a zomwe zachitika kale, zomwe sizingathetsedwe. Tiyenera kuvomereza izi ngati zosapeŵeka ndikuyesera kumasuka, ngakhale ziri zovuta. Kuchokera pakuti munthu ali wovuta, chirichonse chidzangowonjezereka, ndipo iye akhoza "kuwotcha" kapena kutaya, ndipo izo sizikhala bwino kwa wina aliyense.
Mwanayo ndi munthu wapafupi kwambiri ndi anthu oterowo. Ngati n'kotheka, tifunika kukhala ndi nthawi yochuluka ndi iye, kumutenga m'manja mwake, namwino, kumvetsera nkhani zake zomwe zachitika patsikuli, muwone kuti akuphunzira mwatsopano ndi kukula. Tiyenera kuyesa kuti tisamvetse zomwe zinachitika ngati ntchito yolemetsa, kulera ana ndi atate okha, tsopano kudzakhala gawo la moyo wawo.
Mwana amafunikira kupatsidwa mphamvu ndi chidwi, koma izi sizikufuna mphamvu zapadera - monga momwe munthu angaperekere. Musayese kukhala munthu "wapamwamba". Ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti "wabwino ndi mdani wa abwino", monga momwe zimasinthira - kotero ndi zabwino.
Mfundo yakuti akazi ndi abambo abwino, aphunzitsi ndi amayi ndi osiyana siyana. Iwo, nawonso, amakhalanso ndi moyo, osakhoza kuchita chirichonse, koma pang'onopang'ono amakhala ndi zochitika pamoyo. Kotero munthu ali ndi mwayi uliwonse kuti akhale kholo labwino kwambiri, ngati ali ndi udindo waukulu, ndipo saopa kwambiri vuto la kulera ana payekha. Kumene amayi omwe ali ndi mwanayo ali ofewa kwambiri, mwamunayo amakhala wolimba kwambiri - musamangogwedeza ndodo, chifukwa cha mwanayo komanso nkhawa zambiri zomwe anatsala popanda mayi ake, moyo wake sungakhale wokwanira.
Zomwe anganene, mwanayo potsiriza amakhala ndi funso: "Ali kuti amayi athu?" Kodi ndinganene chiyani izi? Ngati mavuto olerera ana angathetsedwe, ndiye mungayankhe bwanji funsoli? Choyamba: mkwiyo wonse wa mkazi wotsala uyenera kusungidwa mkati. Mwana samasowa zovuta zina zamaganizo. "Palibe amayi" - choncho ndibwino kuti musalankhule. Ndi bwino kunena kuti "Amayi atsala" kapena "Amayi adamwalira" (ngati mwanayo ali wamng'ono). Ndi mwana wamkulu kwambiri, mukhoza kuona chithunzi albamu chomwe iye ali - kotero zidzakhala bwino, pomaliza, kwa aliyense. Mu sukulu ya kindergarten, mofanana, ana ena amafunsa funso ili, ndibwino kuti mwanayo alandire zambiri kuchokera kwa bambo kusiyana ndi ana ena.
Mwanayo akhoza kuchita mantha - "Ngati amayi achoka, ndiye bambo angachoke?" Tiyenera kulumbirira ndi malumbiro omwe mudzakhale nawo nthawi zonse ndi mwanayo kuti akhale chete.
Mbali yofunikira kwa mwamuna aliyense wosakwatira: "Kukwatira kapena ayi?". Ndi kwa iwo kuti aganizire. Koma pakati pa osankhidwa awo ndi mwamunayo ayenera kukhazikitsa ubale weniweni. Apo ayi, mwanayo sadzasiya ntchito. Ngati mwamuna sagwirizana bwino ndi moyo, ndi bwino kubwereka mwini nyumba kapena mwana wamwamuna, koma kuti aziyandikira ndi udindo wonse. Pambuyo pake, adzakhala munthu amene adzakhale ndi nthawi yambiri ndi mwana, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ayenera kumulimbikitsa.
Ngati bambo abweretsa mwana wake wamkazi, izi zimachitika, akuwopa kuti adzakula bwino. Koma umo ndi momwe zinaliri - ana omwe anakulira m'banja limodzi ndi kholo limodzi ndi osiyana ndi ana omwe anakulira m'banja lonse. Mtsikanayo adzakhala kovuta kwambiri kumanga moyo wake chifukwa amadziwa mozama mwamuna ngati bambo ake, koma amuna oterowo ndi ofooka. Koma nthawi zonse amatha kumanga msomali kapena kusintha babu, ndipo izi ndizophatikizapo. Kapena adzakhala wodziwa bwino magalimoto.
Ngakhalenso agogo kapena wachibale wina sakuthandiza kulera, msungwanayo akadakali ndi amai mu moyo wake omwe angakhale chitsanzo kwa iye. Akamakula, ndi bwino kumupatsa mabuku apadera pa nkhani zogonana, kuvomerezedwa ndi aphunzitsi ndi akatswiri a maganizo.
N'zomvetsa chisoni kuti abambo omwe sali pabanja amakhala osavuta kuposa amayi omwe alibe. Popeza kuti "abambo omwe sali pabanja" asanakhale ozolowereka, oyandikana nawo kapena anthu ogonera, komanso oyandikana nawo pakhomo pawokha omwe angakhale okondwa kukhala ndi mwanayo, posachedwa adzapulumutsidwa, kotero kuti kudzatha kuthetsa nthawi yina mavuto a kulera ana pawokha.
Ngati mwamuna ali ndi ufulu wopindula ndi boma, wina sayenera kukana. Malipiro oonjezera kapena kuchoka amatha kusunga nthawi, yomwe inkafunika kuti iwononge ndalama zawo.
Tiyenera kuyesa kuphunzira kuphatikiza miyoyo yathu ndi moyo wa mwanayo. Sikoyenera kupereka nthawi yake yonse yaulere kwa iye, ndibwino kuyesa kumutengera iye ku zochitika zina. Chifukwa moyo ndi umodzi, muyenera kukhala nawo kwa ana komanso nokha. Tsopano mukudziŵa mavuto olerera ana ndi abambo amodzi ndipo mukhoza kuthandiza mnzanu, amene angakumane ndi vuto lomwelo.