Zisonyezero za kusakhudzidwa
Manja, ngati miyendo, amauluka popanda kuima mumlengalenga, kupuma, kupweteka, kugwira, kumva. Mutu umasinthasintha madigiri 180 - mwadzidzidzi chidwi chimenecho mudzachiphonya! Koma chidwi, kukhala chenicheni, chidwi, maso, zimatha masekondi, ndipo mwanayo amasinthasintha kenaka, ndipo sakuzindikira zomwe zikuchitika.
Kufufuza sikuli m'chikhalidwe chake. Kuchokera kwa iye simumva kawirikawiri "chifukwa" ndi "chifukwa". Koma ngati mwana, monga akunena, adzalandira, mu maminiti asanu munthu wamkulu adzamva mafunso makumi awiri, ndipo palibe mmodzi amene angakhale ndi nthawi yoti ayankhe. Mwana wokhwima kwambiri amangoiwala kuti yankho liyenera kumvedwa. Ndipo palibe nthawi. Iye ali mu bizinesi, ali ndi "mavuto" omwe amafunika kuthetsa mwamsanga. Ndipo kwa mphindi iye (ndipo, ndithudi, satsirizitsa) nambala yodabwitsa kwambiri. Mwina Mayi adzatha kudyetsa mwana wake, koma amasankha kudya, akusocheretsedwa ndi chinthu chosangalatsa kuposa mbale ya msuzi. M'madera a anthu mwana wotere amakoka chidwi, chifukwa amayesetsa kukwera paliponse ndikugwira chirichonse, kunyalanyaza zomwe makolowo akunena. Zoonadi, osati mwana, koma gulu la mphamvu yowiritsa ndi yowiritsa, kusunga makolo kupsinjika nthawi zonse ndi kuwatsogolera iwo nthawizina kuthetsa kutopa kwa maganizo ndi thupi.
Komabe, musachedwe kuika mwana wanu pa mndandanda wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Dzinali, dzina lake lenileni - kusokonezeka kwa matenda osokoneza bongo komanso kusaganizira bwino, lingayikidwe ndi dokotala, katswiri wa zamagulu kapena wodwala matenda a maganizo, ndiyeno pachokha cha matenda apadera. Kusakanikirana si mwana aliyense wophika. Ana ambiri a zaka zapakati pa 1.5-2 ali kuyenda nthawi zonse kuyambira m'mawa mpaka usiku. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo amaika chidwi chawo pafupipafupi ndipo amatha kuchigwira nthawi yaitali.
Ngati akadali ndi matenda
Pokhala osayenerera, oyenda anzake atatu: chisamaliro chosamalitsa, motor disinhibition, khalidwe lopambanitsa. Ndipo wakale nthawi zonse amakhalapo. Ana okhwima kwambiri omwe ali ndi vuto lachinsinsi sangathe kuikapo nthawi yayitali pa ntchito iliyonse, chidwi chake chimakopeka, koma n'kosatheka kuchisunga - chimatumpha kuchokera phunziro limodzi kupita ku zina. Mwana amamva akamayankhula, koma satero. Iye sangathe kuchita ntchito yake yokha, ngakhale atachita izo mwachangu. Ntchito imene imafuna kupirira ndi kusamalidwa ndi yosangalatsa ndi yosaloleka kwa iye.
Mipikisano ikuwonetsedwa mwachisokonezo. Ana sangathe kukhala chete, kukhala ndi mpumulo, kusewera masewera a phokoso lamakono, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kuchita ntchito zomwe zimafuna kuikapo, - kuyankhula ndi mapazi, dinani ndi zala zawo. Ndipo, potsiriza, kukhumba, kapena chizoloŵezi chochita mofulumira kwambiri, zochita zopanda nzeru. Mwamuna ali wokonzeka kuyankha asanamufunsidwe, sangathe kuyembekezera nthawi yake; sakonda kumvera malamulo, ndipo maganizo ake amasintha monga nyengo kumapeto kwa nyengo. Ana opupuluma saganizira kawirikawiri zotsatira za khalidwe lawo, choncho nthawi zambiri amapezeka m'mavuto.
Kodi n'chiyani chimayambitsa kusakhudzidwa? Nthaŵi zambiri, mimba yosavomerezeka - mpweya wa nthenda ya mwana wosabadwa, kuopseza padera; kusuta, nkhawa; ntchito yowonongeka, yofulumira kapena yanthaŵi yaitali, matenda opweteka kwambiri, oopsa, kutentha kwa malungo, matenda a tizilombo ndi opatsirana m'zaka zingapo zoyambirira za moyo, ndi zifukwa zina.
Izi ndizanthawi
Chithandizo chamankhwala, ngati chiri chofunikira, chimaperekedwa ndi dokotala. Pambuyo pake, kutaya mtima sikunenepa, osati kufooka, koma matenda aakulu. Pokhala ndi ana osasamala bwino, munthu ayenera kuyankhula modekha ndi mwamtendere: ali omasuka kwambiri ndipo amamvera maganizo a okondedwa, "amatsutsidwa" mosavuta ndi maganizo abwino. Kuphunzitsa ana akhama kwambiri sikophweka.
Tamandani mwana wanu pazinthu zazing'ono: ana osasamala amanyalanyaza mawu, koma ali ovuta kwambiri kutamanda. Yesetsani kupereka mayeso abwino kwa mwanayo, komanso osasamala - zochita zake. "Iwe ndiwe mwana wabwino, koma tsopano iwe ukuchita chinthu cholakwika, ndibwino kuti uchite izo mosiyana."
Ikani ntchito yoyenera pa luso la mwanayo. Chotsani chiyeso cholembera mwanayo nthawi yomweyo. Izi zidzangowonjezera kutopa komanso zosangalatsa zambiri. Musanalankhule ndi zolakwa za mwana, muwerenge khumi ndipo yesetsani kuziziritsa. Mantha anu adzakwiyitsa kumverera komweko kwa mwanayo.
Khalani osasinthasintha pazolango, ndi mu mphoto. Chilango, ngati simungathe kuchita popanda izo, muyenera kutsatira ndondomeko yomweyo. Ganizirani za tsiku la mwanayo ndikuchichita mwamphamvu. Mwanayo ayenera kudziwa pamene akuyenera kudzuka, kudya, kupita kumayenda. Yesetsani kugwirizanitsa karapuza ndi masewera othamanga, omwe padzakhala kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zowonjezera mphamvu. Ndibwino kuti atenge masewera a ana, omwe amapezeka ku msinkhu wake komanso chikhalidwe chake. Ndipo kuti mukhale ndi mwana wodetsa nkhawa mwakhama kupirira, nkofunika kumuphunzitsa kusewera masewera achitetezo, mwachitsanzo, mosaizi, lotto, dominoes. Thandizo ndi mabuku - amatha kutenga mwanayo kwa nthawi yaitali.
Yesani kuonetsetsa kuti pempho la mwanayo liribe malangizo angapo kamodzi, mwinamwake mwanayo samakumvera kapena kuchita theka la zomwe adafunsidwa. Ana oterewa amatsutsidwa kuti alibe nzeru, koma izi siziri choncho. Mwachidule mwanayo sangathe kulandira zopempha zingapo panthawi yomweyo. Nthawi zina zimawoneka kuti sizingatheke kumulera - mwana wogwira ntchito kwambiri poyang'ana sakhala wosasintha. Koma pamene zimakhala zovuta kwambiri, kumbukirani kuti kuunyamata, ndi ana ena asanakhalepo, kutaya mtima kumadutsa. Ndipotu, makolo okondedwa, ngati mumathandiza mwana wodwalayo kuti asamangoganizira za matendawa.