Amayi a zaka za XXI - ndi chiyani?
Inde, udindo wa amayi ndi umodzi mwa zofunika kwambiri pamoyo wa mkazi. Pokhapokha timasewera mosiyana. Yang'anirani mitundu yamakono "ojambula" ndi akatswiri a maganizo, ndipo ngakhale kudzizindikira nokha mu "zithunzi" zina, musataye mtima. Kudziyanjanitsa palokha zosiyana zosiyana za amayi sizingachedwe konse!
Mayi-hen
Amayi odzaza kwambiri ali okonzeka kudzipereka kwathunthu ku banja, kuchita zinthu mophweka komanso "zopanda pake". Chifukwa chake ichi ndicho chinthu chachikulu! "Atakhala pansi nkhuku," amalowa muvuto labwino-kudyetsa, kuyenda, kupulumuka ku chimfine ... "Ng'ombe zamakono" zakhala zowonjezera chithandizo chachikhalidwe: zimapatula nthawi yambiri kuti mwanayo akule bwino. Kuvina, aikido, Chingerezi, kuwerenga mabuku abwino, maphunziro a kukoma kwabwino - tsiku la mwanayo amajambula pang'onopang'ono. Zotsatira zake, mwanayo amakula ndikudalira komanso amadalira: mwana wamwamuna amalanda dziko la mwanayo, osamulola kuti asonyeze yekha. Ogwirizanitsa maganizowa amawatcha kuti symbiosis (fusion), ndipo ali ovulaza kwa aliyense: kwa mwana yemwe amatetezedwa ku moyo wamba, komanso kwa mayi yemwe adadzisiya yekha chifukwa cha mwanayo. Patapita nthaŵi, "njira" zoteteza mayiyo zimayamba kukwiyitsa mwanayo. Kapena kudalira (poyamba - kuchoka kwa amayi anga, ndiye-kuchokera ku malingaliro a ena) kumakhala chikhalidwe chake chachiwiri.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Siyani mwanayo! Pang'onopang'ono, pamene iye akukula, atenge udindo pa zochitika zake zaumwini, kusunthira ulamuliro ku moyo wake kwa iyemwini. Poyamba izi ndi zofunika ndi zinthu zing'onozing'ono: lolani mwanayo kuvala yekha, kudya, kuphimba chophimba, pindani zisudzo ... Ndipo potsirizira pake, pangani zisankho - mwachitsanzo, pitani ku paki kapena puzzles? Kupita kwa mwanayo udindo wina ndi mzake, mumasamalira tsogolo lake: luso lake lonse ndi chitsimikiziro cha kudzidalira!
Mayi Amalonda
Simungamuone amayi anu nthawi zambiri - mnyamata nthawi zonse ali ndi nanny kapena agogo. Ndipo amayi ali kuti? Zoona, kuntchito: kumeneko ndi munthu wofunika, wopanda - popanda njira! Inde, mayi anga akuganiza kuti mwanayo alibe kutentha kwakukulu ndikumvetsetsa - ndipo amapindulitsa izi, kudzaza mwana wake ndi mphatso "popanda chifukwa" ndikukonzekera zosangalatsa "osayima" pamapeto a sabata.
Mabwana amalonda alibe amai monga chofunikira. Pali zifukwa zambiri zokhudzana ndi khalidweli: kufunika kolimbikira ntchito, zolinga zapamwamba, ntchito ya amayi, kapena kudzikonda. Lero takhala tikuzoloŵera izi ndipo timapindulapo zambiri: ngati aliyense amachita zinthu zomwe zimayenda bwino (amayi anga amamanga ntchito, ndipo mwana wamwamuna wapamwamba amapereka mwana) - nchiyani cholakwika ndi zimenezo?
M'tsogolomu, mwanayo salipo, amalemekeza kholo lake lolimbikira, ndipo amuthandiza kupeza ntchito pamoyo wake. Koma ... Amayi amafunika lero! Kugwedezeka pa chinyama, kusangalala ndi mawu atsopano, kuchiritsa mavupa oyambirira ... Popanda thandizo ili, mwana sangakhoze kuchita. Nthawi yosatetezeka kwambiri kwa mwana ndi miyezi 6-12 (kulankhulana ndi amayi ake kwenikweni "kumadyetsa" mwanayo!). Koma patatha chaka, mwanayo amafunikira kuyankhulana mwamsanga ":" Malingana ndi asayansi, zovuta kwambiri zamoyo, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kwa amayi.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Ganizirani za kubwezeretsanso m'banja ndi udindo wonse ndikupatsani nthawi "yeniyeni" yeniyeni - zaka zoyambirira za moyo wake (panthawiyi maziko a chikhulupiliro chachikulu cha mwanayo adayikidwa). Ndipo ngati zinthu zasintha mosiyana, musadzidandaule nokha, koma musalole kuti chirichonse chiziyenda palokha! M'malo mogwedeza zinyenyeswazi ndi zinthu zakuthupi, bwino mumupatse nthawi yochuluka - madzulo, pamapeto a sabata, pa tchuthi. Sikofunika kokha kuchuluka kwake, komanso khalidwe - kuyankhulana kuyenera kukhala "kuphatikizapo", yogwira ntchito, chinsinsi. Lowani m'mavuto a mwanayo, kukumbatirani, kumpsompsona, musaiwale kunena momwe mumamukondera.
Mayi-chibwenzi
Ichi ndi chochitika cha masiku ano (sizikuwoneka kuti "Amayi-abwenzi" anali ndi amayi athu!) Ndipo, poyamba, kugwirizana koyenera. Ngati mayi amanga ubwenzi ndi mwanayo ponena za "ufulu, chiyanjano ndi ubale", ndipo pamtima pa kuyankhulana ndi kukhulupirirana - ndizodabwitsa! Zosangalatsa ndi iye (monga lamulo, moyo wa chikhalidwe cha amayi oterewa amamenya ndi chifungulo): N'zosavuta kuchita zokambirana za filosofi, kugawana nawo mbali, kutsuka mafupa a abwenzi. Koma ngakhale pano pali miyala yam'madzi. Maphunziro kwa amayi oterewa, koposa zonse, ndi zosangalatsa. Koma bwanji za ntchito zina za amayi? Mayi wawo amzake amayesera kupita kwa othandizira - abambo, agogo, aakazi, aphunzitsi ... Ndipo mmalo mwa malingaliro ovomerezeka, iye amapereka "malangizo abwino" (omvera ndi omaliza "kusintha" kwa mwanayo). Koma pambuyo pa zonse, chitsogozo cha wochenjeza anzeru nthawi zina chimakhala chofunika! Nthawi zina msungwana amagawana ndi mwanayo kuti "ali wolimba kwambiri" (mwachitsanzo, akukambirana za mavuto a moyo waumphepo kapena ngakhale wapamtima) - pomwe akuyembekezera "malangizo othandiza"!
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Kukula! Ndizosangalatsa kukhala maholide a mayi, ndithudi, koma mwanayo amafunikira thandizo lanu mu "moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku". Ngati chiyambi cha khalidweli chikugwiritsidwa ntchito mwakhama ndipo sichifuna kukhala ngati amayi anu (kulamulira, ulamuliro wamphamvu), konzani chithunzi cha "bwenzi". Zowonjezera zazikuru pazinthu izi ndikuti mwanayo saopa kukuuzani zoona. Choncho, sivuta kupeza chomwe chikusowa.
Mayi Ovomerezeka
"Yesetsani kuti musamalize kudya phala!", "Kukhala panyumba pa 8!" kapena "Ndikofunika kuti ndichite!" Chifukwa chiyani? - izi ndizofotokozera za amayi oterewa. Ndipo mfundo zazikuluzikulu za chitukuko choyamba ndi kulera mwana: "Ndibwino kukangana kusiyana ndi kusasokoneza" ndi "Kupewa kuli pamwamba pa zonse!". Inde, Amayi amafuna mwana wake zonse zabwino - moyo wabwino popanda zolakwa ndi zolakwa. Zingatheke kuti izi zitheke: mnyamatayo amakula mosatetezeka mwa iyemwini ... Ndipo akulakalaka kuchotsa "kuponderezedwa" kwa amayi mwamsanga!
Mayi uyu ndi wolimba komanso wamphamvu. Amatsimikiza kuti zonse zili bwino ndipo amachitira zonse zabwino mwanayo (ngakhale zotsutsana ndi zofuna zake). "M'dziko lamakono," m'nkhalango "izi, ndicho nkhondo yamphamvu kwambiri, ndikuphunzitsanso zotere - ndiye ndikuthokozanso!" - nthano ya amayi oterewa. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amasiyanitsa mitundu iwiri ya "amayi" ovomerezeka: mtsogoleri wa bizinesi, kutumiza njira zogwirira ntchito ku chiyanjano ndi mwanayo, ndi kumbali yopanda pake, kubwezera zolephera zake ndi kupambana kwakukulu (chiyembekezo chonse kwa iye, ayenera kukhala chomwecho!).
Kulamulira ndi mfundo yaikulu yophunzitsa amayi: ndizofunikira kudziwa zonse zokhudza mwanayo, nthawi zonse za zochita, malingaliro, abwenzi, ndondomeko ... Zonsezi, pokhapokha pokhapokha munthu angathe kukopa, kuchitapo kanthu, kupewa, kupewa! Mwanayo amavutika - ntchito yowonongeka yowonongeka ndi zowonjezera, zofuna zowonongeka ndi kusowa kwa ufulu wolakwika zimapangitsa kudzichepetsa. Kuwonjezera apo, iye akuyambirira kumaphunzira kunama (kupeŵa mkwiyo wa amayi), ndi kuthawa kuchoka kuchitetezo, zingakhale zovuta kwambiri. Kuti apambane pa moyo wake, zimakhala zovuta kwa iye (kuyambira ali mwana adakanikizidwa ku malamulo ndi kulamulira, iye sali wodalira), komanso kupambana mu moyo wake (kuyambira "anyamata" ovutika "Amayi aamayi" nthawi zambiri amakula, atsikana omwe "akuvutika maganizo" "amuna opusa).
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Kuzindikira zomwe zimakhalapo ndi wolamulira, khalani wolimba kuvomereza. Musawope kutaya ulamuliro wa mwanayo, kuwuwonetsa ngati "wokonda" ndi "wolakwika"! Chiyeso chosiya chirichonse monga momwe chiriri choopsa kwambiri: mwanayo akhoza kupeza nkhanza ndi matenda a ubongo, amatha kukhala wovuta kwa udindo wodalirika wa wina aliyense (atagonjetsedwa ndi chikoka choipa). Kumbukirani kuti zabwino kwambiri kwa mwana siziyenera kukhala zabwino, koma kukhala nokha: kuzindikira zofuna zanu!
Amayi Oda nkhawa
Amayi a Alyosha akuwona kuti zingakhale zoopsa pa chilichonse: "Tulukani, kodi mukufuna kugwa?", "Ayi, palibe matinee: padzakhala anthu ambiri, ndipo tsopano mzinda uli ndi chimfine!". Amayesetsa kuteteza mwana ku zoopsa zosiyanasiyana, koma amakulabe, osati kutaya matenda. Ndipo ndikudandaula ... "Chifukwa chiyani?" - Inna akulira. Komanso sazindikira, chifukwa chake - palokha.
Azimayi okhumudwitsa amapezedwa ndi amayi omwe ali ndi udindo waukulu, odzimana kudzimana ndi kukhala angwiro. Ndipo alipo ambiri lerolino! Choyamba, kukhala "wophunzira wabwino kwambiri" ndi wokongola. Kuonjezera apo, mphamvu yofotokozera bwino imathandiza makolo kuti adziwe zotsutsana (ndi zotsutsana) zokhudzana ndi chitukuko choyamba ndi kulera mwanayo, thanzi la mwanayo (likutanthauza "chisoni cha m'maganizo" - momwe mumadziwira, ngozi zambiri zimawonekera). Ngakhale "atatopa mitsempha yonse", mayi wotero sangakhoze kuima. Amayesetsa "kufalitsa maluwa" patsogolo pake, kulikonse kumene kungatheke: amatsatira momveka bwino ndondomeko ya chakudya, nthawi zonse amachezera madokotala onse, omwe nthawi zambiri amawakambirana ndi akatswiri a maganizo. Zifukwa za nkhawa, komabe sizikhala zochepa - pambuyo pake, ambiri mwa iwo ali mkati mwake. Ndipo izi zonse "mumatsanulira" pa mwana, ndipo nkhawa imayambitsa - ndipo amakhala woopsa komanso wosasamala. Kuchokera kuno kupita ku matenda enieni - sitepe imodzi: matenda a ubongo, kukhwima, enuresis, matenda opatsirana pogonana ... Kukula kwa mwanayo kumakhalanso "malire": popanda chikondi choyenera, amadziwa kuti "dziko lapansi ndi lopsa mtima komanso loopsa." Mkhalidwe wotsatira wachisoni uli wokonzeka!
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Yambani ndi nokha - yesetsani mantha anu (makamaka pamodzi ndi katswiri wa maganizo), osadandaula pang'ono kapena yesetsani kusonyeza mwanayo. Koma mu robot yosafunikira sizothandiza! Nkhawa ya amayi ndi yachibadwa ngati ili yochepa.
Nanga bwanji mayi wangwiro? Kodi ilipo? Kodi zizindikiro zake ndi ziti? Akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi otsimikiza kuti ali wodekha, woganizira, wokoma mtima, amadziwa ufulu wa maganizo ake a mwanayo, kumulandira monga momwe alili. Kulingalira za kulera kwa mwana ndiko chidwi ndi kulenga, iye yekha ndiye amalenga chimwemwe ndi chikondi kwa ana ake. Mwachidziwikire, pali chinachake chimene muyenera kuyesetsa! Ndipo ungwiro, monga mukudziwa, palibe malire ...