Malingana ndi chiwerengero, pafupifupi kotala la amayi a zaka 30-35 akukana kukwatirana ndi ubale wa nthawi yaitali. Sikofunika kwambiri chomwe chinawatsogolera ku chigamulo chomwecho, choyipa choyambirira, mantha a ubwenzi wapamtima kapena kufufuza kwa nthawi yaitali kwa wokondedwa yemwe sialipo, koma amalengeza kuti: "Ndimasankha kukhala ndekha!" Ndikofunika kuwonjezera: pa gawo ili la moyo.
7 zifukwa zokhala ndekha
Kodi kukhala wotokha kumatanthauzanji? Tiyeni tione mwayi umene moyo umatipatsa wopanda wokondedwa. Kodi mungatani mu nthawi?
Dziwani wina ndi mnzake
Akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi otsimikizika: moyo "opanda banja" ndi wofunika kwambiri pokambirana ndi "I". Kusungulumwa ndizofunikira kwambiri kudzidziwa nokha komanso kudzikuza. Pokhala nokha ndi wina ndi mzache, zimakhala zosavuta kumva zamkati zamkati, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimamveka ndi mawu a alendo, komanso anthu apafupi. Ndife anthu awiri komanso kulankhulana ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri pa chitukuko. Koma kusungulumwa ndi mwayi wokhala ndi mwayi wodabwitsa wokambirana ndi wekha. Makamaka ngati mukudzichitira nokha ndi chikondi ndi chidwi.
Kuti tisangalale mu "osaloleza"
Nthawi zambiri akazi okwatirana samadzipangitsa kuti azikhala osangalala. Simungagule nsapato zatsopano, chifukwa bajeti ndijambulidwa, palibe nthawi yoti mugone mofulumira pabedi, chifukwa banja likuyembekezera chakudya cham'mawa. Pamodzi kukakumana ndi abwenzi muzochitika za kugonana ndi mzindawo, muyenera kupita ku sofa kwa apongozi anu. Ndipo kotero, ndi zina zotero. Nthawi zina ntchito zimakhala zokhazokha ndikuganiza kuti ndichifukwa chiyani ndimakhala ngati chonchi ngati sindiri mbuye wanga? Akazi odziimira amadziyang'anira okha ndikukonzekera zosangalatsa zawo mosakayikira.
Sangalalani ndi gawo lanu
Muzochitika zonse. Anthu omwe amakhala pachibwenzi nthawi zambiri amakhala akudandaula za kusowa kwa "malo awo", ndipo mkazi wosakwatiwa amakonda komanso amayamikira "chisa" chake ndi maziko. Mwachidziwitso, ozoloŵera ufulu, duma ndi woyanjana wabwino kwa munthu wokhwima, chifukwa amamvetsa kufunika kwa zizolowezi ndi malire omwe alipo kale omwe ali akuluakulu.
Pangani chiyanjano
Pamodzi ndi wokondedwa nthawi zonse mu moyo wa mkazi amabwera mabwenzi ake, achibale, ndipo nthawi zina ana. Ndipo yekha, ali ndi mwayi wabwino kwambiri wosankha, ndi ndani komanso mtunda wotani kulankhulana, kuchuluka kwa mphamvu zotani kuti agwirizanitse ubwenzi ndi zomwe angayembekezere kuyankha. Ndipo, panjira, pangakhale nthawi yokwanira yolankhulirana, chifukwa kumanga mgwirizano wapakati kumatenga mphamvu ndi mphamvu.
Yambani ubale watsopano
Moyo weniweni wa mkazi yemwe anasankha mosamala njira ya moyo popanda wokhala naye wokhazikika akhoza kukhazikitsa m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Mwinamwake wolimba mtima wathu ali pachibwenzi, nkotheka kuti iye ali ndi chibwenzi mwa mawonekedwe a periodic ndi mmodzi kapena amuna angapo. Mulimonsemo, iye ndi wokonzeka kuyanjana ndi ufulu watsopano kuti ayambe ndi kumaliza pamene, zikuwoneka kuti, nthawi ikubwera. Zimakhala bwino ngati odziwa atsopano sanabadwe kuti agwe chifukwa cha zochitikazo, osati kuti "anali", koma kungosangalatsa.
Pangani ndondomeko
Ndipo, ndithudi, osayang'ana malingaliro a wina kuti awatsatire. Mwachitsanzo, kubwereka nyumba pafupi ndi ntchito, mwadzidzidzi mukhale tchuthi ndi mnzanu kapena kuyamba amphaka atatu - zonsezi n'zosavuta kuchita, ngati simusowa kulingalira za wina. Komabe, ndiwopenya kwambiri - kuthekera kukambirana ndi kukwaniritsa chiyanjano, komabe zofunika pa makhalidwe a moyo ndi chizoloŵezi chokhala yekha zingasanduke kukhala kusowa kwa chiyanjanitso ndi kusagwirizana ndi maganizo a wina.
Yang'anani pa Myshire
Kuli bwino ndi kukhala omasuka bwino pali ena omwe amadziwa bwino, achibale ndi abwenzi amawakonda monga choncho, osati chifukwa cha makhalidwe abwino. Ionis ndi yolondola kwambiri, chifukwa inu mukhoza kutentha ndi kusamalidwa osati kwa amuna okwatiwa okha, komanso kuchokera kwa apamtima ndi abwenzi, ndipo kugonana sikuli kofanana ndi malingaliro ndi chikondi chakuya.
Zinsinsi zitatu za moyo wathunthu
- Musayang'ane chifukwa cha kusungulumwa mwa inu nokha. "Ndine wolemera ndipo sindine wabwino." Izi ndizoletsedwa. "Ndimakonda moyo wanga" - ndiko kulondola!
- Chitani zomwe mumakonda. Azimayi, okonda ntchito, masewera, zokhazikika kapena bizinesi ina iliyonse, nthawi zambiri amasangalala, chifukwa samangodzaza miyoyo yawo koma adzalimbikitsa ena.
- Musathenso kulimbana ndi mavuto. Izi sizikutanthawuza kuti abwenzi, amayi kapena anzanu sangathe kupereka malangizo ofunikira. Ndi anthu ambiri amene amaona kuti "kukhala wosungulumwa kuli koipa." Ngati malo anu akulimbikitsana ndikukambirana nthawi zonse pokambirana, khalani opanda chifundo, nenani kuti pamene mutenga nthawi.