"Ndine wosungulumwa!" Mtsikana wina wokongola, wokongola kwambiri, amatha kupeza chilichonse kapena wina aliyense. Kuwoneka kumamuchititsa mantha, ndipo pamene akumwetulira, zikuwoneka kuti dzuwa limamuyankha ndi kumwetulira, akuyang'ana kumbuyo kwa mtambo, mawu ake ngati kulira kwa mabelu. Iye ali ndi mwamuna, ndipo palibe mmodzi, ali ndi chibwenzi, ndipo palibe mmodzi, ali ndi wina woti aziyankhulana naye, koma iye ali yekha. Ndipo funso likubweranso: Msungwana wotero angakhale bwanji wosungulumwa? Mawu awiri akuwonetsa ndikuyankhula za munthu monga momwe ziwonekera. Amawonetsera moyo wonse wa munthu, ndizofunika kuti mumvetse tanthauzo la mawu awa. Anthu onse amatha kukhala okha, kapena mwina chifukwa chakuti kusungulumwa kwadutsa kuchokera kwa munthu wina , monga chimfine kapena kachilomboka? Zikatero, kodi pali mankhwala oti musungulumwenso? Kapena kodi kusungulumwa kuli kovuta?
Kusungulumwa ndizochitika zamaganizo ndi zochitika m'maganizo mwa anthu omwe palibe mmodzi wa ife amene ali ndi chitetezo, ichi ndi mkhalidwe wamumtima wa munthu. Kusungulumwa kungakhale kosangalatsa komanso kosasangalatsa. Kusungulumwa ndi kusungulumwa, kumene munthu amamva kuti ndi bwino kumasuka yekha ndi maganizo ake okha. Aristotle woganiza wamkulu ndi wanzeru anati "iye amene amasangalala kukhala yekha, kaya chilombo kapena Mulungu." Ndimasangalala ndi kukhala ndekha, koma sindidziona ndekha ngati chilombo, ndipo makamaka Mulungu. Aliyense angapeze chithumwa payekha, chomwe chingakhale chopumula pa zokambirana za anthu, ndi kukhalabe ndi malingaliro ake okha, kuti amvetsetse yekha ndi zikhumbo zake zowonjezera. Kusungulumwa ndiwonetseratu kusungulumwa, komwe munthu alibe anthu pafupi naye ndi maganizo abwino.
Kusungulumwa kumafala m'mizinda ikuluikulu, kumene anthu amalankhulana mopanda pake, monga "hello, muli bwanji?" Ndipo chirichonse, kuyankhulana kumasiya, ndi funso "Kodi mukuchita bwanji?" Akufunsidwa kuti pakhale chinachake choti chiyankhule pamsonkhano, osati osati khalani chete. Mu filimuyo "M'bale 2", pamene Bodrov akufika ku America ndikukumana ndi hule wachirasha kumeneko, akuti ku America aliyense amafunsa "Kodi iwe" bwanji, koma kwenikweni palibe amene amakuganizirani komanso kuntchito zanu. Ndikhoza kunena kuti ku Russia chinthu chomwecho, aliyense amafunsa funso "Kodi mukuchita bwanji?", Ngakhale kuti sasamala za yankho ndipo sasamala.
Ndipo kotero, kuti tikhale ndi chikhulupiliro ndi ubwenzi, sitidzakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira, timangogwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "Moni, muli bwanji?". Kufulumizitsa anthu, timapereka mawu awa kwa munthu amene timakumana nawo, ndikudutsa nthawi yomweyo kuti munthuyo asakhale ndi nthawi yotifunsa funso lomwelo, osati kuti ayankhe funso ili.
Kodi n'zotheka kuimitsa ndikuyimitsa munthu uyu, ndikuti "hello, muli bwanji? Tiyeni tikumane usiku uno, ndipo iwe undiuze ine chirichonse monga iwe, pamene iwe uli, tidzakambirana, tiyeni tiyankhule. " Ndipo pokomana ndi munthu uyu, mwinamwake mukanachita ntchito yabwino mwa kudzaza kusungulumwa kwake, kapena mwina angakuthandizeni kuchotsa kusungulumwa. Ndi liti pamene tinakhala ovuta kwambiri? Timathamangitsira tokha ku ngodya ndikukhala osungulumwa, kukakamiza ena kukhala ofanana. Mwinamwake tikufunikira kuyamba ndi ena, omwe angayambe kuganizira za ife?
Kusungulumwa ndi pamene mukufuna kumvetsetsedwa ndi kumva. Mukuyesera kunena chinachake ndipo, pozindikira kuti simumamvetsera, musiye kuyankhula, yambani kufunafuna wina amene amakumvetsa popanda mawu. Mukuuzidwa chinachake, koma simukumva, chifukwa muli otanganidwa ndi mavuto anu ndipo mukudandaula kuti simukumva. Munthu yemweyo ali wotanganidwa ndi yemwe mumamuuza za inu nokha. Ndipo taganizirani, dziko lonse lapansi limakhala ndi anthu olankhula, ndipo samva. Aliyense akunena, koma samamveka, chifukwa iwo eni amanena, koma samamva. Ndipo kotero, dziko lonse liri ndi nthawi imodzi, koma osati kumvetsera kwa anthu aang'ono.
Ndipotu, aliyense amadziwa kusungulumwa, ngakhale alipo wina pafupi. Lolani kukhala bwenzi kapena amayi, kapena m'bale kapena bwenzi, osati zofunikira. Ngati pali malo opanda kanthu mu moyo wanu, ndipo mpaka mutadzaza chinthu ichi ndi chinachake, mudzamva nokha. Ndipotu, masiku ano munthu wachikulire amavutika kupeza chinenero chimodzi ndi achinyamata, chifukwa zofuna zakale sizimagwirizana ndi zofuna zamakono. Kapena mwinamwake n'zovuta kuti munthu apeze chinenero chofala ndi anthu omwe amamuzungulira. Kapena munthu ali ndi kudzichepetsa, ndicho chifukwa chake ali ndi mantha oyankhulana ndi anthu. Mumoyo pangakhale chirichonse, sizingatheke. Ndipo kusungulumwa nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa mavuto.
Kusungulumwa kungakhale kosavuta komanso kosavuta. Kusungulumwa kumatchulidwa mwa kusowa kwa kulankhulana kwaumunthu, pamene munthu ali ndi chikhumbo cholankhulana ndi anthu, koma alibe mwayi. Ndipo momveka bwino, ndilofala kwambiri pamene munthu azunguliridwa ndi kulankhulana, koma nthawi yomweyo amamva yekha, chifukwa anthu awa samatanthauza kanthu ndipo akhoza kuwongolera mosavuta ndi ena. Kusungulumwa kotereku kumachitika chifukwa chakuti munthu amakhulupirira kuti palibe amene amatha kumumvetsa, komanso kuti palibe munthu amene amamvetsa zomwe amakhulupirira, ndipo amakhulupirira kuti ngati palibe mzimu wokhudzana nawo, ndiye kuti, chifukwa chake amafunikira. Motero, munthu amadzudzula yekha kukhala wosungulumwa, ndipo zimakhala zovuta kufotokozera kusungulumwa kotero, chifukwa anthu omwe amatha kusungulumwa ngati ameneĊµa amachita mwachibadwa.
Kusungulumwa ndi khalidwe la aliyense wa ife, aliyense akufuna kusonyeza kuti sali yekha, koma mu moyo, ndipotu, tonse tiri okhawo mbali. Monga mukudziwira, ndikufuna kupereka nkhaniyi kuti ndisungulumwenso! Kusungulumwa kungakhale bwenzi lathu moyo wathu wonse, sangatisiye ife ndipo sangatisiye, nthawi zonse amakhala okonzeka kutengera munthu wina wapamtima ndi wokondedwa, ali wokonzeka kutambasula dzanja lake kapena kulowetsa phazi lake, pokhapokha kuyanjana naye kumakhala kovuta kwa ife ndipo ndizoipa. Icho chimachokera kwa ife zinthu zonse zabwino zomwe ziri mwa ife, kupereka mu kubwerera kozizira kokha ndi malingaliro okhumudwitsa za zakale, zamtsogolo ndi zamtsogolo.
Koma nthawi zina zimakhala bwino kuchoka ku moyo, abwenzi, achibale, ndi kutsekedwa m'nyumba yake, ndikufuna kuti ndilowemo - ndiri ndekha. Nthawi zina kusungulumwa kumapereka mwayi, komanso mumatha kumvetsa ulusi wa moyo wanu, kulingalira za malingaliro, kapena kumangokhalira kukondwera ndi kampani yake, mukugona ndi chithovu, kapena kuwerenga buku. Kusungulumwa kudzakupangitsani kukhala kampani yabwino kwambiri. Ndimakonda kusungulumwa, ndimakondwera nayo, ngakhale kuti nthawi zina chete zimayamba kukwiyitsa osachepera. Ngakhale mutayimba nyimbo yonse, kapena TV, mudzamvabe kusungulumwa, chifukwa ndi inu, liwu lake - izi ndizo malingaliro anu akuyendayenda m'mutu mwanu ndipo musayimire kunena kuti "Ndine ndekha" ndipo palibe chitukuko zipangizo zomwe simungathe kuzichotsa. Monga bwenzi lililonse kapena chibwenzi, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zotopetsa ndipo zimam'tumiza kwinakwake kutali ndikuthamangira mmanja mwa abwenzi enieni, osati kudziko lauzimu.
Popeza ndakhudza mutu wa kusungulumwa, ndinaganizira, ndi momwe akatswiri amatsenga amasonyezera kusungulumwa? Ngati olemba ndakatulo ndi olemba angathe kufotokoza maganizo awo ndi mawu omwe alembedwa mu ziganizo, ndiye ojambula amachita bwanji? Kenaka ndinakumbukira "malo akuluakulu" otchuka a Kazimir Malevich, mwinamwake anajambula ndekha? Ndipotu, kusungulumwa sikukujambulidwa ndi mitundu yowala. Kusungulumwa ndi chinthu chokhumudwitsa, kuyamwa pazomwe pansi ndi kujambula moyo mu mitundu yakuda. Mwina, Kazimir Malevich anayesera kufotokoza "malo ake akuda" kupenta kwake, kusungulumwa kwake?
Kuthetsa vuto la kusungulumwa sikuli lophweka, choyamba muyenera kudziwa yemwe sali okwanira kuti tilankhulane, kapena yemwe atisowa ife, ndipo pamene, atasankha zonsezi ndipo tatsimikiza, tikuyenera kufufuza, koma nthawi zina sizovuta kudziwa , ndi zomwe ife tikusowa. Munthu ndi wolengedwa kotero kuti nthawi zina sakudziwa zomwe akufuna kuti akhale osangalala. Ndipo kupeza zovuta kwambiri.
Phunzirani pa chirichonse kuti musangalale, phunzirani kutembenuza chirichonse kumbali yanu, kukhala mwabwino kwa inu. Kusungulumwa si chinthu choipitsitsa chimene chingachitike. Kusungulumwa kulipo, ndipo ndikofunikira kwa ife. Kusungulumwa kuli ife, ndi gawo la ife, ndikuyesera kuchotsa izo, kuli ngati kuchotsa gawo lanu. Kwa wina gawo ili likukula, ndipo mwa munthu wamng'ono kwambiri. Kusungulumwa ndi chinthu chosatha, sitidzatha kuchotsa, koma tikuyenera kukonza nthawi zonse, kuti tisakhale ndi ife.
Kusagwirizanitsa - kulimbana ndi kusungulumwa, kusiya ntchito - sikuzindikira, chabwino, kumakhala bwino - amasangalala.