Makhalidwe a amayi okhudzana ndi mwana wa mwana wake wamkazi makamaka amatsogoleredwa ndi maganizo ake kwa mwanayo. Inde, inde, ngakhale mukumverera kooneka ngati kofanana, kotchedwa chikondi cha amayi, anthu ali ndi makadhi osiyana siyana.
Pano, kumbukirani khalidwe la amayi anu kwa inu nthawi zosiyanasiyana. Kodi amasonyeza bwanji mmene akumvera? Kodi anali wokonzeka kuchita chilichonse chimene akufuna mwana wake?
Inde, anthu ochepa okha anganene poyera kuti amayi ake ndi ozizira komanso osamvera, kuti adabisa moyo wake wonse pambuyo pa chigoba cha munthu wolimba komanso wovuta. Ngakhale izi zimachitika, ndipo sizodziwika, monga zingakhale zabwino. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Zifukwa zikhoza kukhala zambiri - kuyambira ndi chilekerero chachilengedwe, chimene chimachokera pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku kufika payekha, kutha ndi zina zomwe zinapangitsa mkazi kukhala wolimba komanso wovuta kwambiri. Mwinamwake ichi ndi mtundu wina wa zovulaza, chomwe chimasonyezedwa mwa njira iyi pa maganizo ake kwa ana ake. Osati mfundo. Chinthu chachikulu - ngati mukudziwa kuti amayi anu akhala akuwopa moyo wake wonse kuti amve maganizo ake - izi zingakhudze maganizo ake kwa chibwenzi chanu.
Mayi wamkulu, mayi, amadziona yekha kukhala moyo wanzeru - ndipo izi ndi zoona. Zowonjezeratu, ziri zoona kuti anali ndi milandu yambiri yomwe ingamuthandize kupeza zinthu zamtengo wapatali kwambiri. Koma ngati adagwiritsa ntchito mwayi umenewu - izi ndizokhaokha.
Tiyerekeze kuti amayi anu anali ndi mavuto ndi abambo m'nthawi yake (mwina ngakhale ndi bambo anu). Ndiye angatani kuti abwere kunyumba ndi chibwenzi? Pali njira ziwiri zofunika.
Choyamba mwa iwo: nthawi zonse podziwa chibwenzi chanu, mayi amadziwika bwino. Mwinamwake iye ankangomumwetulira pang'onopang'ono chifukwa chochita manyazi kuti ayese kukhazikitsa chisangalalo cha msonkhano. Amamupatsa kapu ya tiyi ndi pie yake yolemba. Koma osakhalanso. Maso ake, ngakhale adzatha kuŵerenga khama lomwe amayi anu akupanga kuti asayambe "kuthawa zitsulozo." Koma pamene mnyamata wanu amatseka chitseko - mumayenera kumvetsera "chithumwa" chochuluka cha wosankhidwa wanu. Ngati amayi anu akufuna kuti azitha kutero, mumamva kuti "onse amafuna atsikana okhawo" komanso "ali wokongola kwambiri kuti akhale wokhulupirika kwa inu - ndikuganiza, ndipo tsopano anapita kwa anansi ake". Pachifukwa ichi, ndi bwino kukhalabe ozizira, osapanga chinyengo. Yesetsani kutsimikizira amayi anu mwachikondi kuti chibwenzi chanu ndi munthu wabwino. Zidzakhala zabwino ngati mumupatsa chitsanzo cha zinthu zochepa zomwe zimasonyeza chibwenzi chanu ngati munthu amene amamukonda komanso amamukonda. Konzani machitidwe a amayi omwe akuyankhidwa "kuwunika ndege" sikofunika - choyamba, kuchokera kumverera kwake kwa chibwenzi chanu sichidzasintha. Ndipo, kachiwiri, ndi amayi anu, amada nkhaŵa za inu ndipo safuna kuti inu mufike msinkhu wake (ndipo zaka za makolo kwa makolo awo nthawi zonse zimakhala zofatsa) sizinatengeke m'mavuto. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti amayi anu ayenera kulandira kusamvera kwathunthu, chifukwa akhoza kumukhumudwitsa. Koma kumuponyera iye pambali pa mawu akuti iye akulakwitsa, siyenso ayi. Kwa zaka za moyo pamodzi, munayenera kupeza zingwe za moyo wa mayi, zomwe mungathe kusewera popanda kuwopa. Muwatsimikizire kwa iye kuti zochitika zake ndi zopanda pake. Onetsani kuti mumasamala za mawu ake. Yesetsani kupeŵa mikangano - ndipo, mwinamwake, mtsogolomu idzachitira bwenzi la abambo anu mokhulupirika.
Chinthu chinanso chokhazikitsa chiyanjano chanu choyamba ndi amayi anu ndikukumana ndi chitukuko chowawa komanso chosasangalatsa cha zochitika. Si chinsinsi kuti pakati pa abambo ndi amai apo pali otchedwa olamulira ankhanza amene amakonda kwambiri kukhazikitsa malamulo awo ndipo saopa kusokoneza maganizo a banja lonse. Anthu oterewa ndi osasamala, samadziwa momwe angachitire okha ndipo amakonda kufotokoza chilichonse pamaso awo omwe amaganiza. Ndipo ngati nthawi zina ndi zabwino, ndiye musanayambe kupita kwa amayi a mnyamata, muyenera kuganizira mosamala.
Kodi iye akugwirizana pang'ono ndi malingaliro ake a munthu wabwino? Ngati ndi choncho, simukuyenera kukonzekera dothi kwa nthawi yaitali. Mwinamwake mukawona mwamuna wofewa mu jekete ali ndi maluwa a chic omwe amatha kusewera ndi makiyi a galimoto, amayi anu adzasungunuka ndipo sadzanena chilichonse chotsutsana naye. Koma izi zimachitika kawirikawiri - palibe amene amayesa kukondweretsa zokonda za amayi pamene zimakhala zomveka. Choncho, musanayambe kucheza ndi mnzanu, yambani kukonzekera kuti mukonzekere mayi ndi mnyamata pamsonkhano wovuta kwambiri.
Amayi ayenera kunena za osankhidwa ake omwe angavomereze. Pambuyo pake, iye si chibwenzi chake. Ndipo kudziwa makhalidwe amodzi a khalidwe la mnyamata sikuti ndi kofunikira. Iye angapeze zomwe iye anali atapachikidwa kunja. Koma mnyamatayo ayenera kukonzekera kuti pakhomo la nyumba yanu akhoza kuyembekezera kumverera, osati kosangalatsa. Mulangizeni khalidwe linalake la khalidwe, zomwe zingatheke kupeŵa mikangano. Koma chitani mozama kwambiri: simusowa kuti muyambe kutsutsana. Choncho, liwuzani luso lomwe mayi anu angakhale ali, simukusowa kutero - mwadzidzidzi mumakhala ndi mantha ndikusintha maganizo anu? Pamapeto pake, ngati zovutazo ndizovuta, mukhoza kuchepetsa kulankhulana kwawo, kapena kuzichepetsera ku zero mwa kuchotsa mfundo zonse zapakati.
Koma palinso atsikana oterewa omwe anganene kuti ali ndi mwayi ndi amayi awo. Ayi, sindikutanthauza kuti amayi awo omwe ali ndi khalidwe lovuta ndi osasamala. Koma kuchokera kwa malo a mnyamata, ndi zabwino kwambiri kumeneko, kumene inu mumalemekezedwa mwamsanga, ndipo simukuyang'ana chifukwa cha pods.
Ngati mwakhala ndi chikhulupiliro ndi ubwenzi ndi amayi anu kuyambira ubwana - ndi zabwino! Ngati mwakhala mukugawana nawo zomwe akumana nazo za anyamata kusukulu ndikupeza chithandizo ndi thandizo lokha kuchokera kwa iye - mukhoza kuganiza kuti mulibe nkhawa. Kawirikawiri amayi omwe alibe anyamata amapeza ana mwa mwana wawo wamkazi. Ndiyeno m "meneyo" sagwedezeka "kuchokera ku chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro cha amayi anu. Zikatero, amakhala ndi ubale weniweni, nthawi zina amachititsa nsanje mwa inu! Koma izi ziyenera kukukondetsani!
Koma ngati zochitika zomwe zafotokozedwa pamwambazi zikugwirizana kwambiri ndi malire a pakati pa mayi ndi mwana wamkazi wamkazi, palinso maganizo osalowerera ndale, omwe amalandiridwa ndi amuna nthawi zambiri. Mayi anu sangathe kufotokozera malingaliro ake za osankhidwa anu, adzalandira maonekedwe ake ngati enieni ndipo adzamuchitira chimodzimodzi, monga bwenzi. N'zotheka kuti simukuzikonda - koma ndibwino kwambiri kusiyana ndi nthawi yomwe mumakhala panyumba mukutsutsana ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Ndipo kawirikawiri, tinganene kuti m'njira zambiri khalidwe la amayi ndi malingaliro ake kwa munthu zimadalira inu. Mofananamo, kuchokera momwe mumaperekera zambiri zokhudza iye, ndi chithunzi chiti chomwe chidzapangitse patsogolo pake. Koma mumadziwa mayi anu, mumadziwa zomwe iye amafuna nthawi zonse - kotero ngati mutachita zonse molondola komanso mwaluso, ndiye kuti chibwenzi pakati pa amayi ndi mnyamata chidzakula bwino. Mwina opanda chikondi chapadera, koma popanda udani - koma chidani pakati pa anthu awiri ofunika ndi otalikira sichimatsogolere zabwino. Simukufuna kutaya zonse ziwiri, sichoncho?